STAND ALONE NARATIVE
A MARRIAGE GONE SOUR:
Dear Stella,I am a regular BV,Let me go straight to the point.
Stella I got married to my husband in 2011,I was in my final year then,he was supposed to marry a girl he dated for 12 years according to them,(I have never seen the lady).but his father said he wont marry her Becos she is from Onitsha.
Finally he saw me and we got married without dating but from day 1 of the marriage he was cheating codedly and Becos he is this church going kinda man and gentle looking people don't believe he cheats.
I kept reporting to both families (my family and his)they kept advising me to hold on and keep praying,I kept fasting and praying for him to change still no show.
He keeps to himself,he doesn't care to my needs,he doesn't touch me(no love making except i meet him or force him).he tells his numerous girlfriends that he is divorced.
I reported to my parents,they came and talked to him, asking him what is his problem,all he could say is that I talk back when he talks,after advising him,he promised to change yet no change,I reported to our church priest he was invited and talked to yet no show,I involved his friend and my prayer partner yet no show,I have talked to him still no show.
Stella my problem is that his parents support him,they even threaten to throw me out saying that I keep spreading their son's name from one church to another bla bla bla.
He sends money to his gfs but whenever I ask for money he won't give me.
To crown it all I went to our house in the village to take something Becos it's close to our base,I found his clothes and a lady's cloth on the bed.
The worst part is if you confront him he won't talk nor apologize.
His phone is filled with p*rn and pictures of his girlfriend.
He is 47 I will be 30 in October 26.
I already have 3 kids (2 boys and 1girl)
Stella in 5 months time it will be 9 years of marriage but can u believe we only had sex for 25x, sometimes we will stay for 3 years no show, sometimes 2 years no sex,and we stay in the same house.
We don't talk except for greetings,he sleeps in the parlor Becos he doesn't want to share a bed with me.
I am tired,I want to leave,but people keep telling me to endure and that it's not right for a lady to be the person that makes the move by moving out except i am being thrown out(which he won't do Becos of his church attitude) I am at a dilemma, sometimes I feel so horny, especially during my ovulation,but I promised myself not to masturbate or cheat,but I don't know if I can bear it again.
My prayer partner only told me to focus on my kids and let him be and I should ask God to kill my flesh(by not having feelings again) but Stella I don't know what to do.
I didn't do anything to this man,I am working so I don't depend on him,he takes care of his kids o,but not me.No care,no love,no communication no sex.
Please bvs advice me Stella plz I need your red pen.
*You force him to sleep with you?You force out his stuff and put it inside you?WOW....that's abuse oh unless you didn't explain it well.
Why do you report him to everyone?That is a big piss off for me and I would definitely stay away from anyone who does that...
You are not living with a husband but a tenant...why don't you discuss separating for a while with him to see if it will help?You are bringing up your kids in a toxic environment and you will not like the results later....
You married a total stranger and this is how it is....
As for his parents,are they supposed to support you?Are you parents supporting him?After he told them that you talk back at him and they advised him,you didn't tell us that they advised you too...
Please if the Marriage has broken down totally,there is nothing to advice,you both should go your separate ways for the sake of the kids.....Don't poison their Innocent minds with your negative attitude towards each other.....
This is pure bondage....please takes walk out.
ReplyDelete30years, kill your flesh, 25x in 9years, no communication, no companionship; AT JUST 30?
DeleteNne sorry o. This is 2019. Not 1920. Wake up and smell the coffee.
How did you marry without dating?
DeleteHow do you force your partner to have sex?
How do you get pregnant 3ce for someone that doesn't love you?
How do you feel reporting him to everyone? You no dey tire?
Mistake has been done! Saying "I Do" to someone you know nothing bout. What were you hoping for?
Fact is, NOONE can change a person, only God can so never enter something hoping the person will change. No matter how many people you report to, it changes nothing.
That man simply doesn't love you.
On today's episode of 'when broke women marry'.
DeletePastor all I can say is I am tired on your behalf........
DeletePoster this your prayer partner, na man or woman because there is a Yoruba adage that says “the ants that eats the vegetable is in the vegetable” because me I don’t why he or she would ask u to pray such prayer of killing your flesh. And please stop reporting him to everyone, you can separate for a while or see a counselor. It is welll with you
DeleteImagine yeye advice from your prayer partner. Kill your flesh? While your hidden and is rocking his. Madam get someone outside to be satisfying you since he won't do it...It's not ur fault
DeleteThis is the longest comment I have seen from Stella's red pen, lol.
ReplyDeleteMadam, you are married to yourself. He only married you because he could not have the one he really wanted. You are like Prince Charles and Diana part 2. You need to leave before you are completely destroyed but before you do so, plan very well and save a lot of money for your future.
ReplyDeleteWhich money, money from where?
DeleteYou people sha
Poster i feel like crying for you. Please divorce this man. He doesn't love you. All these men self
DeleteErm Don believe it or not women do earn and have the ability to save! Reading comprehension was never your strength.
Deletewow! I am lost for words!
ReplyDeleteHe never wanted to marry you and just did it to please his parents but those ones do not even have your back either. Just pack your load, he may never chase you away until he becomes 60 and now realizes he needs you to take care of him in old age. I cannot waste my youth with any useless man.
DeleteBuild yourself for the main time, strategize and bounce out of this marriage. Rubbish and ingredients, how can you tie someone's daughter down in sadness in the name of marriage?
So I typed a comment and it was wiped wtf. Poster use your sense, prayer with no action is nothing. He doesn’t love you, move on!
ReplyDeleteThe problem is not with you, he DOESN’T love you and there’s nothing you can do about It.
ReplyDeleteHe only married you to please his parents.
How do you marry someone you barely know without dating? Were you desperate or forced to marry him?
Forcing a man to have sex with you is unbelievable. That bad?
He has no respect for you, the more you try to force him, the more resentment you get.
You are just a statue wife to him, nothing can change that.
You better leave him for your sanity sake. You can never be happy with him.
Trust me, i am sure he’s still dating that his ex.
Reporting him to everyone that cares to listen is not going to help, it will only make him hate you.
Your happiness should be paramount. Get separated but if you don’t want that, remain there and act like a house mate. Such a wicked man!!
At 21, what was she rushing for.
DeleteProlly pepper her friends and neighbours.
@15:41
DeleteI tell you, really pepper them. She no even feel for the lady he had to leave . Na God dey answer her now
You're praying for man to stop cheating? How are you doing that, why are you wasting away, thinking God will hear such nonsense?
ReplyDeleteYou didn't tell us why you agreed that marry him without dating him at all, probably he has money and you think you have made it in life. .😂😂😂
Better move now before they move you. You're in a marriage with yourself. This is what you get when money is your watchword.
Help me tell her that you cannot fast and pray for a cheating ass husband that his parents couldn't train him properly.
DeleteThank you @don 👍🏿
DeleteDon over sense is worrying you these days.
DeleteInukwam 21 year old girl rushing off to marry, in year 2000/2001.
You should ve told us that your horseband is "rich" in your eyes then.
Because you didnt even mention any effort he made in wooing you.
Guy did not change. He was like this from the beginning.
You thought you could manage since he had "money".
You re crying now because he is not dropping money.
Una dey try oo. Better run from that marriage because very soon, the man go carry sickness and you will be the one taking care of him.
ReplyDeleteNa marriage be this?
Tell her
Deletemarriage las las na big scam.
ReplyDeleteStop saying that before your own becomes a scam
DeleteNo its not a scam. If you marry right. Remember you dont manage. What you hate you hate. It only get worse in marriage. I mean the bad attitude. You have to zero your mind that you can live with it. Once you start complaining you are done. And not by dating for ages. Marriage is very very sweet chike.
DeleteTake a walk. Nothing, absolutely nothing can change him. He obviously never stopped loving his Ex .
ReplyDeleteDear Stella, I dont understand you... this woman is in a mess... she is in bondage.... I DONT BLAME HER ONE BIT....
ReplyDeleteI think she should pray, be stronger and ACT. go to thr Church, like you said.... probably Catholic Priest and complain.... They can nullify the marriage if it deems fit.
start a career....
Live your life before you die young....
i feel you pain for the urges, .... but you have yo be strong....
Please dear, ....focus on your kids, and start a career.... you would be surprised he would come to his senses someday... but till then.... FORGET IT, AND LIVE ONE... LIKE YOUR HUSBAND IS ABROAD.... PERIOD.
Dear others.... take time to date your spouse before marriage.... i in person would divorce any woman who cheats on me... cos Its a No.. No.
Which nullify
DeleteWhich kind nonsense idea is this? She should hang there and be waiting for the man to come around and back to his senses, which year will that happened?
DeleteShe should keep praying, what's going to be her prayer points? Na wah for una o.
Suffer no dey time una.
She is a woman. If she continues in that enviroment she will get frustrated. she need to be anywhere but there
DeleteThe catholic church does not nullify marriages, they can only annul based on conditions like fraud, deceit, non-disclosure of venereal disease before the marriage and many other conditions (etc) of which I am sure she must qualify for one. Poster do your research and meet with a priest who is well versed in canon law.
DeleteYou will see hypocrite ladies with there advice now
ReplyDeleteThe red flag from his family was when they rejected someone because of their ethnic background. You thought you were special. Ladies should be vigilant when a man leaves a long term relationship to settle with you.
ReplyDeleteSpeak to a lawyer, gather money, get at least one ally from your camp, his camp and a few good friends. Then make your move.
They do say love isn't enough to keep a marriage not to talk of a loveless home like yours. Please stay away from that man and be happy in life. You got married to him at 21?you started carrying a burden that early?
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that his heart is with his girlfriend whom he dated for good 12years
ReplyDeletePoster the choice is yours to stay or walk away. If you continue listening to world people you will die and leave your children motherless. Continue praying for someone who his parents can train properly. You don't have a choice when you are in a fight, why can't men pray to keep their marriage, wife. All the time is women praying to keep their marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster do what makes you happy
You married @ 22,very young. It's a pity that you married a man who doesn't love you.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't notice it because both of you never dated, you didn't know his true feelings for you before marriage. How did both of you meet?
I honestly wish he could change and treat you right. He was already a grown man when he met you, he's way older than you. Why such wickedness?
Beg him to forgive you if he thinks you offended him in anyway, tell him what this union mean to you and your wishes for your marriage.
There's still hope!
Why begging him? Why are you guys thinks like this? Beg him because she want to remain in a miserable union? OMG!
DeletePoster don't listen to Lilian please. Beg who? For what exactly? If you don't walk a way before you realise you'll be forty (40) and counting.. nothing will change trust me. Go now you are young, you can't continue living in pains please.
DeleteLilian you are among the women that give men right to cheat, maltreate women and still have their way. What kind of advice is she should beg a man that married her to keep her in his house. Smh
DeleteNever ever beg him!!! I repeat never ever beg him!! He will turn u into a door mat!!!!. And turn things up to be ur fault all the time. Don't beg.
DeleteIf I were to be in the poster shoe, trust me I will beg, I will beg him for my foolishness, I will beg him for not taking my time to see the red flags, the fact that we both wasted our time I will still beg him for that and then take a long walk with my kids, divorce, forgive myself for punishing myself for that long and than move on with my life.... No man is worth dying for my sister.
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ReplyDeleteHe really loved that his ex . I guess you saw it as being highly favoured to be married to him without dating after he had to end the relationship with his ex .It's obvious he did not love you.He married you to please his parents .His heart is with the woman he dated for 12years without getting married to. May God see you through.
ReplyDeleteYou must have felt like gold when he was made to dump his GF of 12 years for you. See your life. The same parents who made him dump His GF are supporting his bad behavior. Pele.
ReplyDeleteYou don't have a marriage sha. You can divorce him and start your life all over.
wtf! I'm angry because you have sacrificed your happiness for this stranger that you married years back. I'm sure you were the envy of your friends when you married this total stranger in your final year in school. I'm angry because your family have failed you, I'm angry because I'm angry because those religious people have told you to endure suffering, I'm angry because you lack the will power to seek for your own happiness and destiny. How can you keep having kids with a man that treats you like trash? why oh why! I'm sure you have been looking down on unmarried women and advising then to marry! I don't feel sorry for you, I'm just angry
ReplyDeleteNo courtship marriage keeps coming our way folks.
ReplyDeleteThis lady writing jumped into it. How did you go and
marry a man that you barely knew. In fact, a man
that you did not know at all? How about the lady that
he dated for 12 years -put yourself in the shoes of that lady
and know who suffered more?
YOu have 3 kids you can call your own, what has that lady?
I will not address the dude because he did not write us.
But this is a case of a marriage that was not joined by God
it was joined by his parents (without his consent for two do not walk together except they agree)
and is no marriage from the outset. 🤢🤢🤢🤢
Anonymous 15:58 who told you she married him without his consent? Did you even read the chronicle well.mtcheeeew
DeleteYour happiness isn't tied to this man. Take a walk! Church people with their pray and fast advice
ReplyDeleteLmao.
DeleteThank God you said "church people" not "Jesus people".
DeleteI did not see a marriage joined by God here. This was joined
by his parents in collusion with their church pastors.
Jesus said his people should fast and pray and if you do not do so
you don't belong to him
A grown man at that age leaving his girlfriend of 12 years to marry you. His parents are not good people...he isn't a good person either
ReplyDeleteShikena! Best comment.
DeleteIt's not your fault he doesn't love you, it's the fault of his parents that couldn't allow him marry whom he wanted to and can't call him to order towards his ill treatment to you.
ReplyDeleteIt's okay to have sexual feelings and urge, it's okay to move on from him, go to any welfare and report the case, so he can contribute towards the kids welfare and then you face your life. Your too young to go on forever without sex especially if you like and want it and you shouldn't be begging or forcing yourself into having sex with your husband, it's your right and if he isn't giving it to you nor taking care of you and his kids then your better if without him.
I pray the holy spirit guides you in taking the best decision.
Don't feel bad about anyone saying you thought you had won, I don't know in what situation you both got married but it's time for you to stand up for yourself and stop the reporting spree.
Thanks dear
DeleteYou made your bed, now lie on it. If you were the woman he dumped after 12 years, would you wish his marriage well? Don't you know the laws of the universe? You must've felt so special to be the chosen one. If you cannot take the heat, get the hell out of the kitchen!!
ReplyDeleteDid the poster met him with the said lady still dating? Or you did not read where she said she dont know the lady in question, or would she have rejected the proposal bcx he broke up with his ex? One thing i knew is that wether u dated a man for long or not, what will be will be. Haven't we read it hear where couples dated for over 10yrs then after marriage the love story changed?
DeleteFrom what i know marriage is by luck bcx i have seen people in a long time r/shp but they couldnt hold their marriage for long and vice versa.
Poster my advice for you is to pack out of that house, he does'nt love you, go far away and take care of your children. Pls never think of getting married for now, thank God you have kids already, marriage should be the last thing in ur mind for now.
Yo must have failed comprehension in school
DeleteYou are the one that does not know what comprehension is .Her errors have nothing to do with comprehension.
Delete@Olive K and Dollargoddess thank you for pointing out a fact most BVs missed.
DeletePoster did not know the ex her husband was forced by his parents to dump.
At 21, she was also young and inexperienced.
Most of these young ladies were cajoled by parents and families to marry men they didn't date or know through match-making.
Poster you were naive and thought having children through forced intimacy with your husband would change him. Three children in a loveless marriage are way too much.
Talking about him to everyone is not the solution. Leave already.
This is no marriage.
Forget society and church people. They would always force their ideals on you which they don't live up to.
This man you call a husband would have been cheating even if he married his ex because he is cheating on you with different girlfriends.
Please, get yourself together and get going.
You cannot change a man who refused to change.
Odun odunayo,u no dey read something ni.. she said she foedoed know her,it's not as if Na she cause the dumping.haba if I no get wetin to type,keep quiet
DeleteThe earlier you move on, the better! The man doesn't love and its quite obvious. Do yourself a favour and move on.
ReplyDeleteSomething i noticed, once female kids get to 19. They start exaggerating marriage. 20 to 21 they start getting advances for marriage. That age they dont think well but just in a hurry to grow up. Most girls that got married then are really not happy or fulfilled. I advise for we to tell our kids marriage by 25 to 30 is not a death sentence. Poster leave asap. You will be called selfish but leave. You are too young to be this bitter but you can still find love again. How can you live your life with a man that cant love you. My dear you will get so bitter you would harm him. 30 is still a perfect age.
ReplyDeleteFYI. My niece did and was out in 2years, my daughters wanted to do that rubbish and i reseted her brain. Lol now she kept thanking me that she knew she wont be happy un it. But had this urge to marry then. Well i was glad the urge got a brain reset
DeleteIf I advice you, my words might hurt you. So I will refrain from that and simply ask you why you think it is okay for him to be happy with his babes, while you live yours in bitterness, unhappiness and dissatisfaction?
ReplyDeleteWhy did you allow yourself to be a chattel, that was assigned to somebody?
Did this man even show you any love and affection before you chose to undergo a marriage ceremony with him (this is definitely not marriage)?
Did he ask you to marry him or his family just asked you to be their son's child bearer?
You obviously love yourself so little.
You can remain in this sham of a union and keep praying that a man that feels nothing for you develops love for you and stops his cheating.
So If God preserves you till a 100years, you will spend the next 70 in a loveless, sexless, unfulfilling union with a man that neither loves nor respects you.
Your condition is critical, he doesn't even utilise you for sex, at least that would be better than not getting love. You are just there existing.
May God bless women with wisdom and strength; you seem to lack both. It is a tragedy indeed.
@Anony 16:19 you have commented wisely.
DeleteThese are my exact thoughts.
Match-making for child-bearing. Not that the man even cared for that but his parents did.
Now poster has given them grandchildren, mission accomplished.
I think poster comes from my part of the country where marriage by match-making and for procreation is common.
Poster, take a walk. Get your groove back.
And let me tell you that man is a grand pa. You are still a youth. some men get complex issue when age is involve. That is a man that wants to tame you cos he is older with almost 2 decades. He married at 38 and you didn't know he is no good story. Imagine at that age his mum still refuse him to marry his choice. I don't want to get angry please. The rain has frustrated me enough.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe the reason he is cheating is because he loves his ex,if that is the case he would be cheating with just her..I don't even know why I don't believe the story of breaking up after 12 yrs because she is from onitsha,few years in a relationship will reveal where it's leading to.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure your man is cheating with just females?
Prolly he is hitting on asses out there.
Maybe the ex moved on, some people move on once their relationships pack up they move on.
DeleteThis is not a marriage. I have strong christian values and I will boldly tell you this is not a marriage and you need to get out. I am sorry for everything you are going through because I can see from your story that you have tried everything to make this marriage work. How can a husband and wife not have sex for 2 years? 3 years? It's unbelievable! Your conjugal rights are being denied, he's not taking care of you, no emotional support, then on top of that infidelity. Tell me, is this God's will for your life? Divorce is permissible on the grounds of adultery so don't feel guilty if you decide to leave. But if you're catholic, you know the church won't grant you a divorce but a separation is allowed. You will be required to remain single for life afterwards.
ReplyDeleteMe I know I can't be in such marriage when the other person has stubbornly and continuously refused to fulfill his own part of the covenant. A marriage is between two people who should be striving daily to better themselves, the other person and the union itself. I don't see this man doing any of that. Your self-esteem and sense of pride is so damaged that you won't even be able to make something out of your life while you remain in this marriage. I know you worry for your kids but your situation now warrants both parties and families to come together and discuss terms of separation. One person cannot make it work alone. Two must agree before they can walk together.
Is his God's will for your life? That is the summary. How can I not sleep with my ordained legal husband for two good years? I reject it in Jesus' name
Delete@Dre right on point!
DeleteHowever, if I were in her shoes, I will walk away from the Roman Catholic church.
No church denomination died on the cross for me. Jesus Christ did.
Anon 19:14, wisdom in your words.
Delete"He saw me and we got married"
ReplyDeletehow do you people do this thing bikonu?
I mean no dating? no bond? you just entered marriage like that.
Is it desperation or what?
Or did you marry him because he's rich?
No advice for you oo since you decided to marry a stranger.
Next time use your tongue to count your teeth.
Come let me prescribe more fasting and prayer for you. You haven't started sef.
ReplyDeleteI will also add special prayers so that you will not be kicked out of your matrimonial home.
I think you're really happy, so remain in that marriage. The title of Mrs is so important to you, you have it by being married to this man that is living his life, while you fill yours with fasting and prayer.
The illusion of being married and happy that you paint to your friends is more important to you than actual happiness. So stay with your man.
You're an unwise woman. You saw how he treated you, yet you remained there and gave birth to one, two and three.
Stay there!!!!!! Your prayers are working.
We can't all be happy, some are bound to make foolish decisions and remain bitter and unhappy all their lives.
You threw your life away at just 21, just because of marriage and you have invested 9 years of your life nurturing a lifeless seed. Tufiakwa!!!!!!!! Time you would have used to plant a tree, you're using to nurture a dead seed, watering it with fasting and prayer that is wrongly channeled. You lack wisdom. And no one in your family has been able to speak some into you, such a tragedy!!!!!
Yet another woman wastes her life.
Best comment “the Illusion of being married and happy that you paint to your friends is more important to you than actual happiness”. This line got me.God give me wisdom to always choose my inner peace first.
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DeleteSimple, he never loved you...the earlier you smell d coffee n leave him, d better for you.
ReplyDeleteNa ur cross carry am...i bet u he's still fucking his ex...
ReplyDeletePoster your husband doesn't love you. He never did and he never will. I'll advice you walk away, you're still young and hopefully good looking. Start over and get your peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteOh he will. When he is old abd frail and needs some strong woman to take care of him. Men don't think about tge future.
DeletePoster when a man loves a woman, he can't keep his mind on nothing else.
ReplyDeleteGo listen to this song and that's the advice you need to make your decision.
Masturbate. I promise u. U will still go to heaven
ReplyDeleteThis anonymous 20:12 sef!
DeletePoster, may God heal you, because only He can do that. I do not know why and how you are still in that marriage. Since his parents do not want you, what about yours? What is it about that marriage that is making you torture yourself? Marital or Material status?
My dear, nobody is worth killing yourself for, because of you die tomorrow due to high blood pressure, your kids will be taken care of by another woman and possibly maltreated.
Stop reporting him to everyone, it is extremely childish and annoying. He is not a child, he is a grown man and your husband. Stop washing his dirty linen in public. Anybody would be upset trust me. Since he has refused to change, leave him be. Ignore him if you decide to stay in that marriage. Pretend he doesn’t exist. Treat him like he treats you. Put on an amour of strength and stop showing him your weakness. You also need to shut your heart to being loved by him and be indifferent because it might never happen. Do not talk back at him, or pick fights, continue all you’ve been doing in the house and live like he doesn’t exist. As for his family, ignore them as well. Avoid unnecessary calls to check in or anything of that sort. When they visit, treat them nicely and be cheerful. Do not complain about anything. If you need to cry sometimes, cry in private and silently when you are out of the house. Mess with his head!
It is well with you.
divorce the idiot and move on,life doesn't center around marriage
ReplyDeleteHe never loved you in the first place. Marriage without dating, what were u thinking? His heart has been elsewhere from day one. Marriage to you was just to make his family happy since they rejected the love of his wife. Nne, he may have had sex with you only 25x and produced 3 children, that is not a guarantee for love. He never and will never love u, if you like do dry fasting for 365days. His heart is with the love of his life.YOU ARE MARRIED TO YOURSELF.
ReplyDeleteYou're a baby factory only. My dear free yourself and find someone who likes and loves you.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is for enjoying with periodic low and hard times not enduring neglect and disrespect. A woman deserves sex, affection and intimacy in her marriage not just to face her children.
9 years a slave, do you want to make it 12?
madam am sure you are based in onitsha, I have some questions for you, 1,Is your prayer partner a man or a woman? cos if she is a woman I sense she is your husband steady fuck mate & your monitoring sprit forget the prayer drama she is the devil, pls cut her off entirely, get a fuck mate too, since your hubby want to play games, beb this is real show time, stop disturbing him for sex, cos you guys are just parents & Co tenants, get a lover, blank him, the moment you stop complaining, & get your groove back he will come around, your husband is behaving that way cos you are still complaining, Don't grant him divorce, punish him by fucking even in his nose he will turn red, cheating is the only thing that reset brains of men like him, even if he caught you remind him that he doesn't do his job that he should be greatful someone is helping him out since he is not man enough, let him report small like you then you guys will have a round table discussion, don't forget to keep late nights, stay off weekends, infact contact me lemme teach you & link you up with bebs that has similar issues with you in onitsha or anywhere you are, imagine a man 17yrs older than you misbehaving, biko gbanyuro agadi Nwoke ahu oku full time. inukwa nonsense & ingredient, your problem is not a prayer problem ooo is a tackling problem, baby girl join ladies of like minds in the quest of ito agbogho, afterall the love is dead so even if he pursue out of the house you you gat noting to loose but don't leave without fucking under his nose, even his best friends, chai how I wish am you, your husband would have seen nke toro father for my hand.Madam Plssss contact me let's treat his fuck up even if you want to leave the marriage make sure he is hypertensive before leaving
ReplyDeleteSome people sef,so this is what you will advise your sister if she ends up like this,I fear women oo una too much.
DeletePlz read this nonsense you wrote and rewrite it before this poster see's it or someone else with similar problem.
Lol... Amacastel bad chic!
DeleteBut honestly some men deserve this treatment.
Anons 06:04 this exactly what am going to do if am in her shoe, inukwa rubbish, cos that's the only thing that reset men brains CHEATING ON THEM
DeleteWILL YOU RATHER Be in bondage because of what church will say?.. please let us do the right things and stop this church church stuff.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, my advice to you is that if you still love this man from your heart.
ReplyDelete1. Improve on your dressing.
2. Learn to use sweet words.
3. Compliment him even on little things.
4. Learn to pray more and also some quite moments to reflect on the word of God.
5. Love yourself with high esteem.
Kill the flesh? There is a huge problem here that goes way beyond your non existent but result oriented sex life...25 times in 9 years...I think its time to get out of the kitchen😩
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