ARMED LIAR UPDATE.....Original story HERE
Thanks for all the bashing. I sure deserve them.
The wedding was sponsored by him and his elder brother which he told me.
And yes we carried out all necessary test before wedding in the church clinic ( my church) so he is free from any disease and our genotype is perfect.
He lives in Lagos while I stay in PH. Visiting never crossed my mind because I just felt no need.
He usually comes down to PH every month for a visit.
Truly, he was working with an Engineering construction company in Lagos and he was laid off before wedding because of his cert.
Of course, I sat him down to tell me things I don't know about him before wedding which dropping out was the only thing he said.
I have moved out of the house ( he got two bedroom place for us).
I will be going for surgery by 2nd week of Nov.
He has enrolled in Yaba for part time studies in engineering ( he loves engineering)
And started business again which is picking up gradually.
All these sponsored by his brother
And he has promised no more secret and that if I find out any, am free to walk out of the marriage.
Like I said previously, he is loving and caring to a fault just that I was taken aback by the lies and he has asked for forgiveness and promise no more lies.
Note: I got to know that he started making good money so early in life and forgot about school ( Igbo man things) until things went south with him.
Yes I was angry with him, but am cool now.
I just have to forgive him after so much begging and pleading/ leaving the house i was staying and for the fact that my marriage is just to early for this nonsense.
Our wedding ( trad and white) was a day. My bride price was #1500 ( Yoruba way)
And yes I work(teaching) hoping for a better job.
My only anger was the lies I got to know after the wedding and not before.
Thanks Stella and BVs
Pray for me for a successful surgery. Am a bit scared.
*I wish you a successful Surgery
auntyyyyy, take it easy with all this lie you are blowing. we just read ur chronicle on the 14th, 4day after everything has turn normally. kai sister fear God ooo. I wish a successful sujiri oooo
ReplyDeleteDear, I Stella did post it the day I sent it.
DeleteI sent close to 4 weeks back.
You can ask Stella.
I don't fake it or Cook up stories, OK?
calm down.
Thank you
Doubtful Anonymous, you have stayed long enough on this blog not to know that Stella doesn’t post Chronicles immediately they are sent. It’s based on first come first serve. Poster’s life got better before her chronicle was posted. Take this info to the bank.
DeletePlease poster, go to government hospital and ask to see a consultant gynecologist. Then ask him if your fibroid is a problem such as to affect your fertility?
DeleteI am saying this out of experience. Having fibroid does not translate to infertility!!! I was also misinformed and almost went for it when mine measured just 4cm. These doctors especially those in private practice will exaggerate it. I eventually concieved my twins whe i had multiple fibroids withe the largest measuring 9cm. But that was when I met an elderly consultant in a government hospital and he told me not to panic.
Thanks Saphire
DeleteI have been with it for 5 years now
I have gone for scans even before I met hubby.
They are in a bad spot.
Thanks for your advise, God bless
The psychologist that said women exaggerate things a lot didn’t lie
DeleteSorry poster, but have you tried conceiving? I detected mine when I was 29 and it measured 4cm. I concieved at 39 (twins) when it measured 9cm. By the time I had my babies they had degenerated. I went back to take them off last year just for aesthetics cos I got a tummy tuck while at it to get my flat tummy back.
DeleteSee, bad spot can only mean that you give birth through CS not like you can't concieve with it.
Thanks Saphire
DeleteWhat I meant by bad spot is that they are right in my womb(uterus)
Period is hell (pains, heavy flow with clotted blood and 8days flow) + some days of spoting after normal flow.
And then the big one which is scary is that Lovemaking is painful and hubby has decided to steer clear till after surgery cus of the pain.
Thanks so much for your advise/care
Truly appreciate them.
God got you. Everything will definitely end in praise
ReplyDeleteNne may chineke Lord Jesus grant you a safe and hassle free surgery -Amen.
ReplyDeletePick your bible and read Mark 2.
Nice you are looking forward with your husband now.
Ngwanu all those that were chanting "offload, offload..." how una (gala) market?
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
You are trash. Psychotic fool.
Delete😂 @gala market.
DeleteAwww love will find a way...i wish you a successful surgery..dont be afraid the Lord is with you...put your eyes down to know him better ok...happy married life..
ReplyDeleteIt is well.
ReplyDeleteYour story sent me back to the storyboard and we had a long discussion. I can’t deal with surprises. They destabilize me, sending me into frantic mode that looses control.
I pray things keep getting better for you both. God bless your home.
Okay, with this update the situation is not as bad as I thought.
ReplyDeleteYour chronicle gave me lot of worries and had me pondering on my life eh. It’s well. God will give you wisdom to handle and build your home.
DeleteStay positive things will fall into place. I'm glad you forgave him
ReplyDeleteyour surgery will be successful, all the best.
ReplyDeleteFor your surgery if it’s myomectomy, stay calm and pray, u will be fine. I removed fibroids after having two children and now I am expecting another baby. Have faith
ReplyDeleteBecareful,his first character is his real character
ReplyDeleteWomen always settling for less.A foundation built on lies...Best of luck
ReplyDeleteSo you want her to leave the marriage? The man has apologized and promised to change and has put in some effort. No marriage is perfect.
DeleteBibire,He might change for better. Marriage is full of up&down.
DeleteIt's good the revelations came out early, she can also be involve with him.
She's not settling for less! She already said he was good to her in previous post. He has shown he is repentant and time will tell. For now allow her to enjoy the good part of her marriage. We all have not -so-good parts of us that we might be tempted to hide from people we love because we're afraid they'll leave us, that doesn't make us bad people.
DeleteDear poster, please enjoy your marriage. Put every bad thought behind you and forge ahead if he's a good man like you said. All of us are prone to mistakes but a good person learns from theirs. Don't let anybody make you feel like you're settling for less. You have a good man who did a bad thing and that's honestly more than a lot of people have. Don't compare yourself to other people. They say 'comparison is the thief of joy'... Godliness with contentment is great gain
your last statement.
ReplyDeleteit's a taboo to call ones husband a liar.
becareful.
association of terrible Men.president
attention seeker
DeleteWow all this within four days ?
ReplyDeleteAnywhos Good luck
Chronicles are hardly posted on the same day they are sent to Stella.
DeleteThe poster's may have been sent at least a couple weeks before it was posted.
So scared of fibroid surgery in Nigeria as my friend just died from it
ReplyDeleteAnd you had to post it here? To encourage or to put fear into her?
DeleteYou're insane.
DeleteThis poster will not die from it. You didn't have to post this here.
DeleteAunty inasmuch as you have let things go, just be aware that those lies he told were not small white lies. Hope you have shock absorber ready oh because lying is in his character so be ready for more. When someone shows you who they are believe them.
ReplyDeleteYou felt no need to visit your boyfriend? From Lagos to PH? You sef you are either a liar or you knew something was amiss but refused to accept it. Hian
ReplyDeleteAnon 17:10
DeleteThank you
We take decisions based on experience.
You don't know me or my stories.
Wish me well or you back off.
I lurrrrve you poster civil and firm!
DeletePeople feel a need to belittle and talk down on others...people never give room to others for making decisions contrary to the decisions they would have made..
Thank you for the civil response
I really hope things are right as you wrote.
ReplyDeleteMy husband did not have a job and he didn’t finish his university because of sickness and step mother wickedness. I only got to know after marriage! He lied! He was only able to open up to me few years ago. I was not even hurt because it didnt matter to me. I felt bad for him. We are 16 years into a blissful marriage and almost 19 years in total and he has made it big time as a big businessman! Yes he lied! I forgave and we all laugh now! I will marry him over and over again! Forgiveness is Key!
ReplyDeleteForgiveness is KEY
DeleteWhen i met my husband, he lied about the car he was driving at the time, i found out later that the car belongs to his brother, i was hurt and irritated but i have forgiven him now.
DeleteNever judge a situation you haven't been in... marriage isn't all fun and games
What if he wasn't a big business man, what if he was broke, would you still write this epistle you wrote.
DeleteAnonymous 21:00. Yes I would still write this Epistle. I married him broke but he had a vision. I also had a vision. He didn’t make it overnight. We went through hell and back. But we made it. Even if he was broke I wouldn’t regret marrying him because I married for who he is! Not for money or degree or class! We worked together to build what we have today! Women should learn to contribute to marriage! Stop sizing up a man! P.s I don’t condone lies and I married at the age of 22 and he was 26!
DeleteMy husband did not finish his university because of sickness and step mother wickedness. I only got to know after years in marriage! He lied! He was only able to open up to me few years ago. I was not even hurt because it didnt matter to me. I felt bad for him. We are 16 years into a blissful marriage and almost 19 years together in total and he has made it big time as a big businessman! Yes he lied! I forgave and we all laugh now! He doesn't have time to go to school because he is so busy with business but he said he will make time soon(which I don't care if he goes or not lol). I will marry him over and over again! Forgiveness is Key! Your surgery will successful IJN. Amen
ReplyDeleteThank you for this....
Deleteposter you shall have a successful surgery 😘
Thanks for sharing your story. Poster, read this up here. Wish you a successful surgery.
DeleteIt's a good thing the man begged for forgiveness. Some will tell you to do your worst. I wish you a successful surgery. God bless your home.
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwwww!
ReplyDeleteThank goodness that your hubby apologized and is back to school.
You are a wise lady.
Your surgery is going to be a success, fear NOT!
May your home continue to blessed.
Thank God. May God perfect all that concerns your marriage. I wish you successful recovery.
ReplyDeleteThank God...may God bless your home
ReplyDeleteAlright
ReplyDeleteMay Your surgery be successful.
Good luck to you
hmmmmmmmmmmm.. is it just me or this story is not adding up for everyone too........... i dont understand this story again o... anyway i wish u a successful surgery
ReplyDeleteDear poster, Archer the priest here.
ReplyDeleteI am happy it worked well between you and your husband. I am so thrilled that you decided to work it out with him instead of fleeing at the first challenge, and everything is going so well. See how you helped better his life! You are a blessing to that man, and I am sure he knows it .
Be assured of my prayers and Masses for your successful operation and fruitful conception and delivery afterwards. God bless and keep you my sister. E kuse.