Monday, October 14, 2019
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Its only a quadriplegic that expects his wife to do everything for him...except you are king, then u can be excused for status sake.
ReplyDeleteSome guys can do chores and all when they are bachelor's but they stop immediately they are married.
DeleteMy husband right from time can't cook nada. So I do ALL the cooking right from when we were dating. I also wash up as I'm cooking. He is clueless abt kitchen so I just leave it. But he's extremely organized,always arranging the room and helpful with his son. And we have help.
DeleteYou have to know each man's strength and weakness.
What about a man that loves to do ALL chores? He enjoys it more than a woman and won't let you do anything. But doesn't know how to hustle for money. He just can't. Hustle and show him what to do like unpack goods, arrange etc and he will do it like a pro. He is not gay. Birthing ideas like a man is just not in his dna. What do we call such men?
DeletePretend that you are ill and can't lift a finger to cook and let's see what will happen. Who will do the cooking?
DeleteWhatever makes people happy in marriage. In as much as I would say that husband should help out with some house chores when he's around and convenient doesn't mean a woman should capitalize on it and rob it on his face all the time. Again, a woman should be treated equally as human and not as a subject. It's all about understanding here.
ReplyDeleteNo its takes 2 to tango...and yes you must be involved in dosmetic housechores and capitalize on that..Make I work like "JACKI'' and you expect to empty 50 gallons of ngwogwo inside me when its time for lovers play..2nd base jare..
DeleteYou just contradicted yourself Teejay, you said a woman should be treated equally as human and not a subject but yet you also made it look like when a man helps his wife, he's just doing her a favour and it's solely the responsibility of the woman to the house chores cos am not understanding what you mean by a man helping when it's only convenient and that a woman shouldn't capitalise it
DeletePick a side na
DeleteConvenient you say?
DeleteNo it doesn't have to be convenient for him to do them.
Who said its convenient for women to do all they need to do in the home and still go out to work or go hustling?
Okay, when I said a woman shouldn't be treated as a subject(slave) I mean the man should help out if he's around at home and not relegate the house chores on her alone. Why I said convenient is for men whose business or work are more tasking. Beside, you don't expect a man to always wash his plate everyday after eating. Who does that?
DeleteTeejay, please speak with sense I beg you. Do you just want to type or trend? Before the man gets married who washes his plates? What do you mean who does that? They are married! Chores shouldn't be delegated to one gender. You speak about men whose jobs are more tasking, what about those for women? You seem like one who would leave everything to his wife to do and claim I'm a man.
DeleteIf you clean up after yourself, you go die? Go abroad and don't clean up after yourself, be waiting for slave to wash your plate for you and claim 'who does that'.
Nonsense and ingredients
Lady Diana why sound so pained? I made a point and you made yours. Why make it look as if every point here should align? Why then is it a thing of discourse? A man came back from work, after eating will dash to the kitchen and start washing his plate immediately. He will be doing that every night he comes back from work. If you are the wife, how would you feel? Be sincere. Mind you, I didn't say he shouldn't wash his plate ooh. All I am saying you allowing him doing that everyday cos he's the one that uses it to eat. A man mustn't wash the dishes to make you feel he's helping out. What if he fetches water steadily, clean the houses and windows weekends and even iron both clothes and occasionally washes both clothes and the bed cloth?
DeleteDid you say who does that? Who washes your plate for you everyday now as a bachelor? If you say a maid, then hire one for your wife. As soon as men marry they believe the wife is their maid.
DeleteIf convenient as his business is tasking? A working mum, cooking, taking care of kids and then having to clean the house is not tasking?
The patriarchy is so very ingrained in Nigerian men. To was their own plates is "demeaning" because a wife is there. Nawa o
DeleteDear teejay, I am not pained just amazed at your reasoning. You talk with both sides of your mouth and when asked to explain, you spew more hogwash. Now lemme ask you, do you have any idea how women who work and take care of a home do it?
DeleteGet my point, chores are not specific to any gender! Whether the man works or the lady works. That's all.
My husband washes his plates after eating. Who will he leave it for? We don't have a help. No be only who does that.
DeleteYou know how to eat but can't wash your own plates? Why not poop and call madam to come and flush, shior.
That same hand you used to devour the food she cooked is the same one you should use to wash your plates!!!
DeleteIt's really simple, I as a man cannot stand dishes etc and the wife stated the need for support. Bins etc I can take out, and so ensured everything became automated. Dishwasher, washing machine which is standard, robotic vacuum etc.. I cook once in a while but not everyday... The Mrs likes it and we both cope better.
DeleteA lot of us if given the choice do not like to do dishes. We do it cuz we have to do it.You don't have to like it, just learn to clean up after yourself.
DeleteSo Madam Anonymous who pays your bills when you were single? Don't you? So why wait for a man to pay rent, pay school fees and put food on the table? Please enough with the gender ish. Women should not be domestic they should not be providers then what exactly should they be?? She can't wash plates for her hubby but can be a cleaner at work abi?? It is common courtesy as teejay said that a man who has worked all day shouldn't do the dishes. Biko am a woman and yes I work and am also domestic doesn't make me a slave. To every union as they understand or deem fit.
DeleteActually the 30yr old has failed as a man, why put the blame on the parent? People pick habits acordingly, as they grow. What's my own as the parent of a 30yr old! He should grow up abeg and not call my name
ReplyDeleteMany Nigeria men are on this table...
ReplyDeleteI tell you Sharon,many if not all of them. smh
Deletemy husband is worst,he expects me to do everything,while he still open his mouth n say what am I doing that is a big deal,is that not d duty of a wife,d minute I object,he start shouting that am disrespectful....na money I no get,if not.......
ReplyDeleteHe expects you to do everything like what?? No go kill yourself oh.
DeleteQ.E.D What else to say again?? Some mothers are responsible for the bad character of most of our men nowadays e.g Chronicle of Wednesday and Thursday..Train both boys and girls...God bless the womb that birthed Mike BBNaija...
ReplyDeleteAmen!
DeleteSome mothers? What's the father doing while the mothers are responsible? LMAO
DeleteYou see the littlest things as small as taking your plates to the kitchen after eating should not even be a gender thing.
ReplyDeleteBefore you got married, who was helping you do that?
My husband is a yoruba man that believes so much in tradition but he takes his plates to the kitchen after eating. Sometimes, he cooks, even do the laundry.
Heaven knows I cant stand entitled men.. nah
Let's not be unfortunate please!
my hubby put his plates in the sink but his shoes are always scattered....the one I'm currently battling is him wearing indoor slippers outside the house to go buy stuffs and wears it inside...its paining me cos it gathers so much sand..He has outside slippers but he keeps forgetting to wear...I dont want to make an issue out of it because I told him and he always apologise but I'm pained cos I'm d one always sweeping.. the annoying part is that he wears mine too out..I've turned to slippers washer ...I'll do it as long as there's peace
ReplyDeleteContinue madam peace but note you aren't his slave. Anyways, if it makes you happy please continue. Complain and let him wash the slippers and also sweep the sand. I hope you dont condone such peace mentality with your son ( if you have one) before you turn your son to a nightmare for his future wife.
DeleteMy dear you need to talk to him when you both happy..Dont say na small thing oh as it always become a big issue at the end of the day..
DeleteIs this even an issue?? You are the one always sweeping the house.Is it not the same house you live in??. Buy a doormat simple .
Deletelol@ it's paining me. Na so matter dey pain me too oo
DeletePeople like me wey no get daughter wetin i go do? my boys run all errands. There is nothing I don't send them. Even if I had a daughter she cannot do all work while someone will stretch leg and say he is a boy. Though some tend to not like to do anything (one of my boy, all he wnts to do is play, read, eat and continue playing) but i force him to do things. He can remove his shoes, throw one in sokoto, the other in kaduna, tell him to pick them and keep on the shoe rack he can start crying or tell you he would pick it later. I just put my foot on the ground and tell him do it now or get punished. I have studied him and know he needs iron hand if not he won't do anything.
ReplyDeleteWeldone mama boys!!!!Way to go..Wife not slave ooo.
DeleteThat is how it should be, both boy and girl child should be domestically inclined.
DeleteAnd this thing that boys have certain chores and girls have kitchen chores for me is not right.
There is one in my house, he can't even clean up after eating.
Thank you mummy for raising men.May God continue to strengthen you.
Delete👏👏👏👏
DeleteGod bless You! keep it up....this is how we make the world a better place for everyone. You are grooming someone's husband and people's future father. When I have kids.. my boys will know their way around the kitchen and do chores..female kids will know how to do all chores as well. Let's make the next generation better..it starts with us.
DeleteGod bless you jare.
DeleteMy husband is on this table too.#Wife not slave.
ReplyDeletePlease, welcome me too.
Just got my I'd.
Welcome Janey. Pls go and communicate to your husband about how you feel.
DeleteWelcome Janey
DeleteThanks perxian and Essa.
DeletePerxian,is not easy but God is helping us
Some women like their men like that.
ReplyDeletemine is husband please always help your wife out whenever there's a need to do so.
Be considerate enough to notice when house chores is becoming unbearable and overwhelming unto your significant other.
what causes all these is due to negligent from the wife's part: i believe in correcting one outrightly, No mincing of words, No Rumbling, No delay and correction with love.
Our husbands are human being; any time you notice an abnormal behaviour/character please without hesitation or procastination....correct them(They will hear i know cause i have been there). Is only when the house isn't in order: no peace, no love and lacks unity that this kind matter arises.
My own husband that can't even do anything inside kitchen.He doesn't even enter dere sef.So lazy.He only do the laundry.i do everything inside that house.I will cook for him morning afternoon and night.If I go to work,I will make sure I pack his lunch too.in d night,I will cook again.He think it's women duty that men doesn't have to do anything in d house.mtcheew
ReplyDeleteMadam some men are not good in the kitchen....if he enjoys doing laundry,encourage him and push the laundry to him. And know your own job is kitchen,afterall you still need to cook for your kids too.
DeleteThe way some men will mess up kitchen when cooking. It's better they don't enter at all sef. Leave them to do other things.
Hmmm my 6yr old son must help out in house chores oh , I keep telling him that I'm training him not to torment his future wife. He's got to get it right abeg cos his Dad isn't. My daughter in law is not going to suffer some things I'm suffering today. He's got to be a better man. Am adding prayer too. No gender thingy in my house, every one is a human being. I tell him that anything that is wrong is wrong even if your Dad or mum is doing it, DON'T COPY IT!!!
ReplyDeletehow can a grown up married man be engaging in domestic work?it's taboo.
ReplyDeleteIt is womens' Job.
Stella stop pushing this women to us.
"associationof terrible Men"President
Attention seeker!
DeleteHaaaaahhaaaaaaa
Reminds me of my younger brother that does not like anything kitchen chores and cooking. He keeps saying he has kitchen phobia, but can open his mouth and eat food that was prepared in that same kitchen and still won’t wash the plates he used.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame him
DeleteWho permitted it ?
Those of you complaining, hope you ve talked to your husbands first before blasting him here. Some of you enabled this entitled behaviors unknowingly, some encouraged it by keeping mum.
ReplyDeleteIf I am footing bills, wife shouldn't expect to do any house chores. Anyway I was trained by my mom to do all these things but right now I don't do nada and have grown very lazy in that area. Currently, I pay someone to do it for me. So future wife shouldn't expect me to do house chores. I working hard to ensure money is available.
ReplyDeleteVery good, i like you. As long as money is readily available for housekeepers and cook, future wife shouldnt be bothered.
DeleteYou have no issues at all.
DeleteJust continue to pay for a domestic worker to do the chores too after marriage. It's not your future wife's job is it?
My brother tell them oo. Say it loud so those at the back can hear you. After working very hard to put food on the table, you are still expecting me to enter kitchen cook. Nonsense.
ReplyDeleteyinmu
DeletePlease DO NOT TAKE ANY FORM OF FINANCIAL SUPPORT FROM YOUR WIFE!
Like the wife too isn't working abi... Continue
Deletei have 3kids, all under age 6.my husband baths our 3 kids and gets them ready for school every morning,while he attends to the kids,i prepare their break fast, make seperate food and dish them in their lunch packs for them to take to school, pack their snacks and fill up their water bottles, then clear the kitchen and ensure they eat their meals.
ReplyDeleteon days hubby does not leave the house early, while i am sweeping the living room, he helps out by sweeping the rooms and making the beds. this pattern is as regular as daylight in my home.
my hubby is not the kitchen type, he can cook but does not like kitchen affairs at all, but thats not even a problem because i'm super satisfied with the other aspects of chores he helps out with.
when a man helps with chores,it eases alot of stress for the woman. doing chores and caring for young kids can be overwhelming and as we all know,house work nor dey finish,its a never ending cycle,from day to day.
if a man cant't asist with chores but provides paid help, thats totally fine aswell.
Talk about teamwork! How can you say you love someone and sit by whilst she works herself silly. Your husband is one in a million. God bless bim
DeleteBut for your first line, I'd have suspected this is my sister
DeleteHaha
ReplyDeleteLoud for the people at the back to hear.
ReplyDeleteI am of the opinion that both child should be hands on on things and not to be left alone to only the girl child only.
My wife can cook for Africa but house chores,minus. She is the laziest woman in the world when it comes to house cleaning.
ReplyDeleteShe goes to the market and uses same dusty, dirty legs to sleep in the bed.I have talked and am tired. What I will do next time that she sleeps with legs from the streets...
will you cut the legs? lol
DeleteYou need to do more around the house so she will have time and energy to take care of herself
Delete@Femilicious she has only swept the apartment 2 times this year. I clean the house oo
DeleteWhile she is cooking for Africa, what the hell are you doing? Can you not clean? Will you die if you clean?? Abegiii. Maybe if she wasn't so exhausted she will have the strength to take a bath.
DeleteWill he clean her legs as well? She is RESPONSIBLE for her own personal hygiene, no excuses. Not every time be blaming the man.
DeleteWhich strength to take a bath, is bathing weight lifting?
DeleteAfter cooking she won't bath? With all the onions and maggi smell.And sweat from market.Some people dey dirty oh.
DeleteAnon 15:50,make placards around the house esp in your bedroom that reads "Wash your legs",maybe she's probably very tired after cooking but still anytime you find her sleeping with dirty legs make sure you wake her up and drag her(lovingly and playfully) from the bed to wash her leg!Or you insist she takes her bath and use perfume,body cream before she comes back to serve your food for you,you can join her in bathing too o
DeleteSome women on this blog are so biased against men that you wonder. For me to write this here means it bothers me.
DeleteDoes she cook every day?
Anon 18:04 you lack comprehension? Always quick to comment without reading and understanding. You did not read where I said I clean the apartment? You seem lazy too.
Anon 19:24 She baths after cooking. What I don't understand is coming from the street and putting both legs in the bed.
Anon 18:57 you really understand what I was saying
Yen yen yen, where did you state up there that you clean? What is there to comprehend in your juvenile write up by the way? You can't even express yourself in clearly.
DeleteYou are saying someone can't express himself IN CLEARLY, you obviously are the one that can't. I am not the OP but if your husband is frustrating you, please face him instead of bringing your frustration to this man who posted. Haba!
Deleteso true.
ReplyDeleteLoud it. Some men need to hear this.
ReplyDeleteSo True
ReplyDelete