I am attaching a viewers discretion to this story because of the photo i attached.It is not to serious though....
''I went for an interview at Lekki. While we were all waiting for the interview to start, the security man told me to hand over my CV and leave the premises. I was shocked and surprised.
I had no issues with anybody and I tried to find out the reason they wanted me to get out, even before the interview started. But nobody offered any explanation. The security man said he was told to send me out and if I didn't want to drop my CV, that's up to me. He just wants me to leave. To avoid creating a scene, I dropped my CV and left.
I never got to hear from them. I was broken and torn apart. What did I do to deserve this sort of humiliation and ill treatment?
I only have neurofibromatosis which causes tumor to grow on my skin. But it is not contagious or infectious in any way. I grew up seeing my skin this way and I felt since I do not have a beautiful skin, at least let me work hard for myself.
I graduated with a first class degree in microbiology and right now, I am assisting my mum in her shop because no employer wants to employ me. Even after going through the stress of explaining the medical nature of neurofibromatosis and it's harmless nature, people still treat me differently everywhere. It hurts.
I just want the world to know I am a normal person and these tumors are not contagious. These rejections have started getting to me and I can't bear it any longer. I get on buses and people try to avoid me like a plague. I just want to live a normal life and be happy, is that too much to ask for?''
I saw this sometime last week on IG. She should wear clothes long enough to cover her properly abeg!
ReplyDeleteTbvh, I get freaked out when I see those tumors on people's skin
Shooter is mostly in d face
DeleteYou're funny, hope you're not as terrible as you act here in reality.so she should cover her body all the time?
DeleteWaow shooter!! You just displayef your ignorance and insensitivity with your statement. You will turn your daughter to Eleha if she has this? You need to be flogged.
DeleteDisgusting boo! Get off my comment you miserable piece of shit
DeleteIf there's anything I'm grateful for in life. It's that I left that country called Nigeria.
DeleteThank you JESUS 🙌🏽 🙇🏽♀️.
What if it happened to you, let's always try to accommodate others.
DeleteI said same.thing
DeleteI just hope it's all for fun
Ps shooter feel free to insult me.
Imagine a first class student being discriminated against because of a non communicable medical condition...also in a way I don't really blame them as most people are scared of what they do not understand perhaps if there was more awareness about the condition more people will be kinder.
ReplyDeleteI pray this post of yours goes viral and God uses it to open the kind of doors you never imagined. Keep your head up girl and remain solid..God will definately come through for you.
I agree, must be hard for her trying to live a normal life. God bless her and give her great outlook towards life challenges.
DeleteI get all pissed off over a lone pimple, seeing this puts everything in perspective.
Amen
DeleteThank you Essa. That is a sensible and encouraging response. Shooter Gyal please note.
DeleteYou are right Perx, it puts a lot in perspective and helps one be more thankful for the seemingly "little things".
DeleteAmen oooo Chai
Deletethis is sad , people generally fear what they don't understand ..now you have explained what it is i think someone should reach out to her ..they taught it was a contagious disease ....they didn't know..so sorry
DeleteEeyah...May God come through for you
ReplyDeleteSad indeed..why are people like this?
ReplyDeleteShe didn’t create herself neither did she ask for such a skin.
May God send your helpers, and I believe you will get a job real soon.
Alot of people are uninformed about certain illnesses,
DeleteMatter of fact the first time I saw someone with tumors I freaked out so bad,
I just read about it now, people are really going through stuff, it's sad 😭😭😭
😭😭😭
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad ,
Really sad .
Stella, u sef. Y wud u attach viewers discretion to it?
ReplyDeleteWear a trouser suit to your appointments. If it's only ur face tha isn't smooth I can be understood that women have face problem but on your body? Don't blame anyone who wants to protect his/herself.
ReplyDeleteAll I'm saying!!!
DeleteI agree with you. People are afraid of what they don't know or understand.
DeleteIt's on the face too.
DeleteSorry my dear poster. God is your helper.
ReplyDeleteThe Good lord will come to you aid, if the spots did not affect the face, I think you just have to be wearing long sleeves to cover the bumps try and be happy, eat well, don't let it bug you down, it is hard but try and be cheerful, luck will definitely smile at you one day
ReplyDeleteSee the way i opened this post with fear and then scrolling carefully with my eyes near closed so as not to see any gory pic. Stella becareful o!
ReplyDeleteThis should go viral on twitter na. Thats why I love that place. Help is coming your way girl.
I doubt that you can go unnoticed ma'am,very few people are disciplined enough not to gawk at something unusual,wear long sleeve shirts and ankle lengt trouser,may you be miraculously healed in Jesus name
ReplyDeleteMy dear receive your healing in Jesus name and may God surprise you with a very good job in Jesus name Amen.
ReplyDeleteStella I meet a young manager in One Estate dey messed up, sat down with this boy and his Intellegence blew me away, he was actually d brain behind most of d new things those goat did there, he told me about his fiancée, honestly within me, everything within me felt d girl and d mum wants to chop this boy and reject him afterwards! This person own Na child’s play, his is mostly on his face and I kid u not, it’s very very very skin crawling, but wen d young man talks , u will b forced to engage him.
ReplyDeleteDear keep pushing , if that guy cld get a well paying job u 2 can. Good luck dear
I wish this poster went into IT/programming or a job she can do from home without discriminatory stares and rejection. Being good at very technical fields where very few people can do the job would earn her better opportunities because not everyone can do that job.
DeleteEyaaa poor baby, I wish I can give her a hug. People are so mean my God! Especially in Nigeria they’re mean to disabled, deformed, even burn victims. Sorry to this young lady, keep being you and be confident, don’t let their ignorance intimidate you. For so many people that dislike you there are millions who love you. Keep your head up.
ReplyDeleteAs in eh, while in other countries disabled have even more rights. Our ignorance& backwardness is so annoying. Infact wickedness cos na we go church pass o. Imagine if Kechi Okwuchi (Sosoliso survivor) stayed back in Nigeria or had no money. Babe is loved in the states, even went for America got talent and made it to finalist. Living her best life abroad. Sorry to this lady, but dear, put this post on instablog and attach your CV. Make a video as well if possible. If it goes viral, I'm sure you'll get a job or scholarship. Or start a go-fund-me and detail your being stigmatized. Some compassionate people around the world could offer you a job. You never know. Good luck!
DeleteIt was on my Facebook last week. Someone wrote for her to contact him but I don't know if she had done that.
ReplyDeleteGd will take controlo
Let her cover up next time. You won't blame them bcos most of them discriminating against her are ignorant of her condition. May God send help her way.
ReplyDelete@Stella
ReplyDeleteI do not like your covering this girl's face. Isn't that subtle stigmatization?
Don't you see these ladies in Germany and other European countries well employed and
thriving?
Please do educate Nigerians that these things is not a yardstick for judging her abilities.
Chaiiii see the way auntie Stella posted it self!!! With a viewers discretion adviced!!! Na wah oh!!! E no reach like that Na!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you are here and you have a clear skin just thank God. Skin problems abound o.
ReplyDeleteSee me feeling insecure with skin tag.
DeleteEyah,it is well with you,i pray this post open doors of favour for you.Amen
ReplyDeleteAwww so sad. Maybe wear a long sleeve next time?
ReplyDeleteIf it is here na, na dem dey first get job if not she will sue their arse. But my beloved country? Smh
ReplyDeleteIt is well my dear. God will send a helper to you.
ReplyDeleteHi Stella,
ReplyDeleteYour goal here is to educate and not further enable her stigmatization. Please remove the "viewer discretion tag," and reference to the tag being because of the "picture you attached." I read your blog and I generally respect some of the choices you make, so please update this post.
Thanks!
Thanks,
I pray you receive your healing but in the meantime wear long sleeve shirts and pants when going for interview until you are employed and get an opportunity to explain it's not harmless. I had chicken pox bout 5years ago and had to wear covered up clothes when going to work to avoid uncomfortable stares
ReplyDeleteThis skin disorder is not transferable, i know this girl in particular she is beautiful and brilliant. Graduated with a distinction in science and lab tech from Auchi polytechnic.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, cheer up, u ain't alone. Nigerians descriminate a lot. As a fat gal, I get it often. U see them coming to sell drugs to help u slim down, guys want to date u but can't marry u because u are fat and their families want a slim gal.Even to get a job is wahala cos fat people are often, though wrongfully seen as lazy. To them, u ain't competent cos u are fat.Even in buses, u get abused and people say all sorts of nasty things and it hurts. So my dear, learn to ignore and be happy with your loved ones , at least u still have a mum that u relate with.Mine is late. It's well.
ReplyDeleteOh sweetheart, you blessing!
DeleteMay this open doors for her, how sad!
DeleteHow dare you compare an issue mostly borne out of poor lifestyle choices, which can be managed with a change in habits; to an issue that a person was born with and has little or no choices to deal with?? Some of you just like the perfect opportunity to play victim!!
DeleteEven if you move to Europe, you will still not get some jobs because most people in those regions are slimmer. But this girl's case is different. She will be grouped as having some disability. You won't!! So your case is not just a Nigerian thing. Sorry but I'm gonna be honest with you.
This is that discrimination we are talking of! Being fat to u is born out of poor lifestyle choices which to u can be managed by a change of habit!Do u know what a lot of fat people go through just to be accepted and it's not just a Nigerian thing!Y don't u accept the fact that they are fat and not try to chame them with ur suggestions. See the human in them and not force them to fit into ur ideology!
DeleteAnyway,I'm not a victim and can never be. Just wanted to point out to her that life is what u make it out to be.If she wants, she can play the victim but otherwise, she can rise above the ashes and stay strong like I long did!
Thank you Chiki!
DeleteFat gal if you're serious, then lose all that weight instead of looking for sympathy.
Some fatness are genetic , no amount of exercise can burn it.Dont be quick to judge
DeleteI have NO issues with you (or anyone else) being fat. I have never rejected a person for being fat. Afterall, we are created differently.
DeleteBut.... I DO have an issue with you quickly trying to compare your situation with this young lady's. Has anyone ever chased you out of a premises for being fat? I am quite sure they havent. Your weight isnt considered a disease so I do not accept that they are the same situation. This can be grouped as a disability and would call for medical attention and more research.
@21:19 true. And such people can never be skinny. But I maintain that they can manage themselves in such a way that they dont become an avenue for mockery. It does take a lot of discipline, though. No one should live life to be mocked by anyone.
Chikito, am I correct to say you must be a really mean egocentric person? In a bid to pass across a message, you completely denigrated someone else.
DeleteI see the point you're making that pretty me's case is not comparable, however, you used a hammer to kill a fly.
I used to live in Nigeria and by Nigerian standards (emphasis on Nigerian standards please because I have never had these experiences in the States), I am orobo. The manner in which I was spoken to because of my weight, the shock of some colleagues when I announced I was getting married and relocating, was beyond me. To them, it is not my type that has 'handsome' boyfriend because I'm not the poster girl for slim and sexy.
You walk on the streets, some men are making snide remarks, calling you orobo and other derogatory statements. Do you understand how depressing that is? Do you realize some people actually struggle to lose weight and have a hard time doing it? Do you know some people have become anorexic and bulimic because they are trying to stay slim?
Don't let me get started Chikito. I love reading your comments but please have more empathy.
@01:02 I think you're being as sensitive and the original comment owner. And I can understand why.
DeleteI do have empathy, but PLS it's not the same thing. I'm happy you found your happiness, and I hope this poster does to. Afterall, by global metrics I'm the 'classic' slim beauty and I'm still unmarried. If that doesn't make you happy rn, I dont know what will. Lol.
The girl needs to apply for a job in a multinational. She is not a victim but a good candidate for diversity and inclusion programmes. Large companies will hire her because of her brains, her resilience and a story that they dont discriminate. An international HR unit will love to tell the story of how she became family after several rejections.
ReplyDeleteSometimes when you get rejections, it's because you are playing below the place God has for you. May God help Nigeria to see the light.
She should also try to wear longer sleeves for presentation purposes. I feel for her.
Gbam
DeleteTrue. I used to have a colleague like this, his was worse than this. He was a lively man. He worked in the organization (a multinational) for years. RIP B
DeleteIt is well with you in Jesus mighty name....
ReplyDeleteIt's really sad.
ReplyDeleteI pray she gets a better job.
ReplyDeleteVery sad. May this open door of employment unto her
ReplyDeletePlease who knows an effective way of treating psoriasis. Just like this lady, I can't have a normal life courtesy of this condition. I am tired.
ReplyDeleteTried using black soap consistently??
DeleteReduce your stress level by any means neccessary . Zero alcohol intake and invest in very good moisturizers. Helps me whole lot
DeleteIf she were in the US, na enjoyment.
ReplyDeleteAsk Mr Femi Otedola for assistance
ReplyDelete