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Monday, December 23, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LIFE IS A POT OF BEANS


So today Monday will be our 20th anniversary. I never thought I'd be married twice in my life time. Neither did I foresee, get married to a man with kids. Life is indeed a pot of beans. And marriage? What can I say: if you find a good understanding partner, look for what would work for you two. And work with it.

I just left an abusive, deceitful and distrusting marriage with two children. Then I met him. He had all these unbelievable characteristics you can only find in Dreamland, except that he was struggling. So I took it unseriously, just for a rebound. As I was struggling too. Then I fell in love and before we could say "what" we were married.

It was then I found out he is a baby daddy - he had 3 kids. And he never told me. He knew I had 2 children. I was so devastated. Asked him why he hid that from me. I know he was married before but he never said there were children involved.

I couldn't tell anyone. As I contemplated on how to end the marriage. But there was something about him - very unusual guy. I have never met such before. Like he understood me better than myself. Very supportive, and can be critical when he finds holes in my decisions or choices. With him there was complete peace. He tolerated my absence and some misgivings without unnecessary complaint.

So I battled with the decision to walk away or stay. Eventually I stayed. But one condition, we both bring whatever skeletons lived in our cupboards to the table. With no more surprises. Afterall, I've got my own share of darks in my past too. That he was not in the know of. It took me a further 5yrs to let him know I was very comfortable and doing well, right from when we started. Although he was shocked. But like he told me back then. when he revealed he had children. I told him, that I didn't let him know all this while because then he couldn't handle nor was he in a good position to process such information until now.

That was it, no more secrets. Staying was the best action I took, cause 20yrs on we still loved like our dating days. We were created for each other. Very domesticated and handy. And his role plays are just what any very busy working wife needs.

I love you Ify. You've been my all, even when you had nothing. You still haven't changed one bit. Thanks for putting first and above everything. At the beginning, you had to paused your life for me to grow, because in your very word "You are doing way better than me, when you attain stability I can pick up my life again." It was a great sacrifice, I don't think I would have tried it. But you did just that and more. You are unbelievably true.

God bless your parents for raising such an incomparable man. And bless you too, for choosing an honourable personality.

I know you, I love you. You believed in me, when I don't even believe in myself. You are the best for me. I have wondered what going through this life, without finding us would have been.

Stella, no vex o. Na as I take get time to write be this o. We are both BVs here. Abeg make nobody come for me o.




*20years?Well done and thanks for sharing....Who is coming after you for what?One mans meat may be anothers poison!

Oga Ify well done oh........

58 comments:

  1. Men are scum
    Hahahahhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    I wonder what was the big deal about having kids. Having three kids was not skeleton in the cupboard like you made it look. Well he ought to have said it. But discovering that shouldn't have been a big deal. As long as he does not misbehave. Love the kids like your own. Many girls are looking for ready made men even at 50 and it is worrisome.

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    1. Did you read this chronicle from Australia? Like upside down

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    2. Na wah oh! Comprehension is far from u

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    3. The girl Aproko does not know what sarcasm mean?

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    4. Aww beautiful love story.πŸ’žπŸ’–πŸ’

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    5. Aww beautiful love story.πŸ’žπŸ’–πŸ’

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    6. Why so I think the poster is ANG?

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  2. Mr Ify thank you for loving poster very well and i wish you both the best love you two can wish each other. Continue to enjoy your marriage.

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    1. It has been proven that second marriages are the best. Enjoy, lady.

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  3. This is beautiful. Just like you, i ve been married twice and here praying to post testimony like yours in 20 years. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

    Ify, you have a great wife. God bless you both.

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    1. @Perxian
      So Ify has a great wife because like you she is on a second marriage? Do you know the lady at all. Or we are to believe that every woman on a second marriage is a great wife. You have to update your mindset. Wonderful

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    2. Amen Perxian😍😍😍

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    3. Perxian,so shall it be in Jesus name Amen.

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    4. Amen darl..God will grant ur heart desires in Jesus name(Amen)

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    5. Anon, dear. I believe everybody deserves a second chance and no, i don't have to know her to believe she's great. 20 years in marriage is no child's play

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    6. Some people just love to come for perxy sha. The poster appears sincere. Told us about the good, the bad and ugly side of marriage and giving your heart a second chance. The poster isnt perfect and neither is her man but they found each other and have made a go of it. Poster seems like a good woman. Wish them well move on and stop unnecessary attacks.

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    7. @Perxian,
      You have a good soul just like this poster.
      Some of us are really enjoying a blissful marriage truly. More beautiful years ahead of you.
      Even though the world wants to only hear negatives side of marriage.
      πŸ’—πŸ’žIfy, keep the fire of love in your marriage blooming always as your wife appreciates you.
      Compliment of the season everyone. Never give up on love.

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    8. Perxie, without a doubt, I love you. May your home never lack love and laughter, may your marriage be an example to younger couples, may your husband praise you and your children call you blessed. You will never shed tears of pain. All you do shall prosper.Amen!

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  4. Happy anniversary poster..forever to go
    Enjoy ur marriage

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  5. Awwwwwwww beautiful story.
    God bless you and your family poster. There's so much joy and peace when you are on life's journey with your better Half...lovely πŸ’“πŸ’“

    Sluttychic.

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  6. Congrats. Some of the best relationships have rocky beginnings. May God guide all in wisdom and discernment.

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  7. God bless your marriage. 20years no be beans

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  8. Chronicles like this brings out the bile in some bvs. They be like "madam perfect life" "carrying her nose as if she is better than everyone" "life will humble you"...
    They don't ever belive it's possible to have a beautiful marriage. They only know of marriages of lack, oppression and violence. Once you write in and sound like things are good...

    Poster chop knuckle! I am living it, so I know and I congratulate you.

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    1. You are the one starting the issue of bile. No one has made any bile filled comment. Drop your comment and carry go abeg.

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  9. I love this congrats,God bless Mr ify for taken good care of you.

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  10. God bless your home. Happy anniversary

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  11. Congratulations on your anniversary and May your laughter be permanent πŸŽ‰πŸŽˆ God bless all good men who treat women right.Marry well and you will enjoy marriage.Thank you to my rare gem,love you baby

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  12. Happy anniversary poster.

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  13. Congratulations, Ify and Hubby. Glad it worked out for you.

    Please, those who are currently single, don't try this. It's never cool to hide something as important as having kids from your partner

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    1. Men have nothing much to loose in marriage so they stay lying and deceitful. Imagine if it was a lady that revealed 3kids after marriage. Her inlaws will ensure they chase her away and will never trust her again. But a man revealing such- everyone expects you to forgive him and understand. If she left him for this lie, she'll be branded that woman who 'cannot keep her home' whatever that means..

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    2. NiB why not throw away your pessimism? Where has it gotten you? Men might have treated you badly, but men that have stayed after a woman reveals a kid she had in her teens exist. Try not to always view things from a negative point of view and you would attract many good things. Congratulations on your anniversary poster. Your are a wise woman, choosing to forgive and promote honesty fostered the beautiful and peaceful marriage you have today. You could have been upset, quit the marriage, etc but I guess that moment of wisdom turned into 20 years of bliss.

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    3. @anon, my comment has nothing to do with the poster's marriage, I think she made the right choice and wish her well in her union. My comment is a discussion on the imbalance and consequences of revealing such secrets differ based on gender. Of course there are men who will stay if a woman reveals such, I didn't even attack the men, I actually attacked inlaws. And my comment is true for most cases. You can disagree, it's valid as well.

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    4. 16:55 Like you don't know he or she is saying the truth. It is what it is. I doubt we would be talking 1 year anniversary if it were the lady who had the secret. It's not pessimism. It's the truth.

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    5. @ NiB it’s alright.

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  14. May the good lord continue to shower his blessings on you and your family.

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  15. poster I love your story.see me smiling cheek to cheek. I love love, may God continue to bless your Union in Jesus name amen

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  16. God continue to bless your home.

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  17. Beaurryful!!! Congratulations to the both of you and i wish all of us the best of the season.

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  18. May God continue to bless your home, I tap in this testimony

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  19. Beautiful story
    Happy anniversary ,more blissful years ahead

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  20. Na wa people are already in there second marriage and we are still looking for the first one biko God when?

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    1. Look around you, your husband has been there all along, but perhaps he isn’t packaged how you imagined. Posters husband is not as wealthy as she is but she is in marital bliss. Have you given that guy who isn’t as tall, handsome, rich, well spoken, as you like a chance? I tell ladies and guy alike character is key no things that can change eg wealth, social status and spoken English. May love find you or should I say may you find love


      Prince Ali

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    2. The Lord's time is always the best dear.
      Trust in Him alone.
      It will definitely end in praise.

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    3. just believe in God, very soon he will grant you your heart desire

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    4. Prince Ali of Bouboa well done Sir πŸ‘πŸΌ

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  21. why am I scared that another deep secret will come out again.

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    1. Change that negative mindset.

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    2. I don't think there's anything to hide again abi Ify is there another woman in Sokoto?πŸ˜€

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  22. all i can say is,,,God bless you both and will continue to make u both happy

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  23. I was a little bit worried when reading your chronicle but as it got towards the end, l smiled reading it to the last line.
    Congratulations on your anniversary. Wish you many more together. You both were meant for each other. Enjoy your marriage.

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  24. Congratulations poster..

    The step you took wasnt easy but I commend you
    May the good Lord be with you guys..

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  25. Wow. God bless your union. It can only get better. 20 years ain't a joke.

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  26. storry for the Gods , there is no hard and fast rule to this

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  27. I wish for this kind of love . lord pls help me

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