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Monday, December 23, 2019

Fashion Enthusiast Noble Igwe Writes Memo To Igbo Men Who Think A Woman's Place Is In The Kitchen..

Noble also touched on another sensitive issue asides the living in the kitchen issue.............
















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  1. Key word: rest!

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  2. Most Anambra men are on this table, don't come for me cos I'm married to one, although he is not like his brothers.

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  3. Igbo men will now be insulting him. And some women too.

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  4. This Tyrion lannister should know that what works in his home wouldnt work for others, advice the women not to accept a slave treatment.

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    1. Anon 17:44

      And you okrika Ramsay Bolton should know that he’s simply saying allow your wives enjoy the holiday as most women are tired and burnt out from the stress that comes with cooking, cleaning and catering for battalions during Christmas. Women will not mind sitting and drink wine or juice while hosting and laughing with friends. I wonder why you’re being so demeaning and defensive over a valid point he’s raised.


      To deal with hosting stress, I have capable hands around that make the cooking a whole lot easier. If they elect to go home for the holiday I book caterers ahead that bring delicacies home for storing.

      What a close friend does is that she and her husband use ready made snacks like chin chin, groundnut, biscuits, cake etc to entertain guests. She says it’s even cheaper than the food cooked and these people will still eat in other places they visit. Only immediate family and sleepover guests eat delicacies she cooks.

      Ivannah

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    2. Ivannah.. πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―

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    3. Ivannah valid points you made.
      Your first line is distasteful anyway, please calm down next time when replying inugo.

      Many don't understand Noble, this a typical traditional Anambra husband but he and many others have decided to change things for good. Me no dey touch knife during Xmas period o except to slice vegetables for coleslaw or cut slices of snacks.

      Cook for who and who, how many visitors? We employ cooks who have started this afternoon with small dishes by tomorrow afternoon they go full gear.

      As I'm typing this, the FAMILY MEN are cooking their 3 goat heads into a peppered nkwobi sauce all by themselves after sharing their ewu umunna slaughtered for a brief meeting. Na me go cook those? Abi my mates wey dey flap their full eyelashes?
      We came to rest biko after a stressed out one year in different parts of the world.

      His 2nd point. When you start attending family meetings(usually from 27th to 30th, depending on the town) it's difficult to lose the values transferred to a child. The meetings are for a whole day with a 2 hour break. Men, Boys learn a lot, get wise and get prepared to take over from their daddies. My hubby started at age 9,our son goes with him now being of secondary school level, even the Yoruba boy we adopted goes too. They come home and practice the konk proverbs and antics while laughing hysterically. If Baby Lo gets to 12 he will join, certainly.

      That proverb *agam egosi kwa nwam nwoke ukwu ogilisi ebe ana alogha mmuo, otokwaa tinye isi n'ofia, nke afu buzikwa okwu aka ya*
      (I will show my son the awkward medicinal tree where ablusions are performed to pacify the 'gods', if he grows and decides to enter the Bush and pay ablutions under the wrong tree that's his business).

      Anambra families pass on strong traditional values, have you seen any of Chief Pete Edochie's sons pick a kolanut at a ceremony, pay libation and offer words of wisdom?
      That's how they got them.
      They go home, sit with the elders and lock in these values.
      Chief Engr Arthur Eze just finished the rites for the Ofala festival in their town, surrounded by 1st his eldest son and other cabinet members.
      You can't find his son with piercings and dreadlocks. Naaaaa.

      Let's not miss the other warnings and reminders Noble is issuing. They are highly mkpacious(important).

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    4. Erm... noble isn’t an anambra man

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    5. Noble is from Anambra @AdaBekee
      He talks about his village a lot

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    6. Noble is not from Anambra. He is from Abia state. Ohafia local Government to be precise.

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    7. Tyrion Lannister πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£...wow

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  5. My only problem is, why can't a grown ass woman be able to tell her husband.."I'm TIRED"....Why marry a man u are scared of? I don't get it

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    1. Because some women were raised to please men. For acceptance, for validation, for so many reasons. I understand cooking for your family/extended relatives but Noble is right - cooking for an entire village and getting no rest for yourself is crazy. Hire a cook, or have enough snacks..not everyone should be served food. Improve your mental health and quality of life.

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    2. I said i was tired and my man left l, because he couldnt get it

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  6. women shouldn't slave and endeavor to have adequate rest but the fact that a woman's place is in the kitchen should not be under emphasized. Women know your position in God's creation. Trying to dodge or claim otherwise hasn't helped matters if everyone man and woman recognise their place,there will be no debate

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    1. You are obviously a man. And if you are a woman. I don't have words for you. If women knew their place, that cellphone in your hand will only be accessible by men. Women fought for us women to vote, read and write but in 2019, a random nuisance is saying women should know their place.

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    2. Please come and tell us women's position in God's creation.
      Assistant creator.
      Alfool and Omenshi.

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  7. Any man who can't cook is useless.

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    1. And of what use are you with all your Michelin stars?

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  8. I don't know about other women, I'm one of those women that love to cook sumptuous dishes and the best time to put my God given talent into action is during festive season.... I derive joy in doing it and the joy in my heart when I see people eats and enjoy my food.

    So, short man Tyrion, some women love to do it. The war against men is on another level in Nigeria.

    Be careful of the advice you accept on social media.

    That social media feminist that was always calling men scum and what not, is now pregnant for a man and she has been doing pepper dem with her man and pregnancy. But, trust Twitter savages, they took her to challenge market and use her to sweep the market streets.

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    1. Who in the name of food are you referring to?

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    2. you had a nice response there but why are you name calling ? that is immature. make your point and move on. it can't be that difficult right?

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    3. Aunty Cersei take it easy with the bile. We know wine and hate are your oxygen and food but pipe it down, it’s the holiday. Tis the season to be jolly.

      Noble is speaking to his ethic brothers based on what he observed. For an Igbo man to say this trust me he’s seen and heard enough. Even Flavour released a song about mothers and women being relegated to domestics and not being allowed to have a voice. That’s the environment Noble’s message is intended for. Don’t shook your head inside.

      I’ve had a friend hospitalized on Jan 2 because during the holiday she was as good as a donkey. One domestic activity or the other to the point that she fell sick. Some women hate the holidays because no rest especially when extended family members are around. My friend’s husband is part of the Igbo men folk Noble is taking to so let him be! Some men need to hear this.

      Not everything is a “feminist” battle. It’s funny how you’re in Europe claiming that the war against men is on another level in Nigeria you haven’t been to in a while. Who told you that daft nonsense? Cersei, you know absolutely nothing.

      A lot of Nigerian women are tired and cannot speak up because of certain ethnic and religious sentiments. It makes sense for a man to speak to his fellow man on their behalf. It’s on this predominantly Nigerian blog we chastise women for doing silly things or having unreasonable expectations from men. Even you quoted the way the FAKE feminist was dragged and you still think Nigerian women have an agenda against men? Let’s be objective abeg. You’re too old to have a “pick me” mentality.

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    4. You that doesn't feed on bile and hatred, read your own comment full of thrash! Daft is written allover you miss woke biatch.

      Oh, you meant, your husband is among the men Noble the defender of the your world is referring to; I see why you're so hurt by my comment.

      Gullible women of small mind always looking for someone to speak for them.

      At least I am old enough to know that I don't need noble ìgwè to speak for me or defend me.

      Now that I have noticed you, you don't have to cry anymore, I can warm you some milk or do you need baby adult pacifier?

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    5. I came back to tell you that you are thrash and daft Ivannah.

      See how angry you are with my commentπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚, please, learn not to enslave yourself and then be looking for people to speak for you.

      I am not the one that hurt you Ivannah
      I am not your problem.

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    6. Please Ivannah, I've packaged your kisses
      Where do I DHL it to? Someone is trying to give a voice to some voiceless women and a fellow woman with our usual "I'm better than them all" mentality is insulting him. It's a shame.

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    7. Ivannah aarrgghh!
      You had this on a negative lock down.
      Ms A was wrong but you went too deep, cool it now please because she's Yoruba and obviously doesn't understand this Noble's post.

      Ms A for the records;
      Yorubas don't travel in groups, droves or as a family to their villages for Xmas in Nigeria. Correct me if I'm wrong.

      Noble is trying to save the women folk from stress and tension. Most 25th dec mornings there are women who proceed to Awka the state capital 1hr plus drive from their homes to go purchase beef(raw cow meat shared in portions and according to the budget they can) from a state abattoir, not all families kill their own cow within. They arrive home at about,11am and start cooking straightaway till around 4-5pm.
      No Xmas day service,steadily attending to visitors reeking of fried meat and onions.
      26th they are cooking again up until new year, trust people to always show up while their husbands boast of their culinary skills. It is killing. Besides many prefer eating from some particular pots even when their own mother made tasty foods so she has to 'satisfy' basically everyone.

      My hubby won't even release me to any task, reason we travel with a child minder and another help. Just set the tables and serve guests if personal in our home if not in the general sitting room or outside of the garden. All the kids ride their bikes and make a hella noise under watchful eyes. Shikena.
      Child molestation and incest is real when families gather.

      Dem no dey take suffering boast. Eji rΓ³ afufu anya isi!

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    8. Ms. Cersei A Lannister. It will interest you to know that I am currently happily married to a man of European descent who works as an expatriate in Nigeria. His values are amazing and he’s everything I’ve ever imagined and more. I’ve got three beautiful children and with everything I’ve faced in life, my family is a major testimony that there is a God who looks over us. So your references cannot and will not move me at all. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      Dearest Cersei, As a child/teen I’ve been harbored by people who gave Noble the reason for his comment. As an adult I’ve also met people who need to imbibe the post from Noble. That’s where my support and “passion” is coming from. I’m not enslaved. I’m free, blessed, happy but that won’t stop me from calling you out on your acute lack of understanding. Got it?

      Like you know Cersei, Tyron may be short but he’s a million times more intelligent and spot on than you can ever be. Noble made more valid points in one Instagram post that you’ve ever made in your years on this lovely blog.

      I don’t need milk. I’ve produced it and I also know where to buy it. Kindly take your life lesson, sleep on it and put your mouth were you knowledge is.

      My message hit you so close to home that you had to take another glass of wine and come back to insult me. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ If you like keep drinking in your council flat and typing intellectually handicapped nonsense. I’ve said the truth in my first comment. You may wish to read it slowly, print it and meditate on it day and night.

      Good night Cersei and do have a lovely holiday 😘♥️

      Ivannah

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    9. Ms. Cersei A Lannister. It will interest you to know that I am currently happily married to a Caucasian who works as an expatriate in Nigeria. His values are amazing and he’s everything I’ve ever imagined and more. I’ve got three beautiful children and with everything I’ve faced in life, my husband and kids are a major testimony that there is a God who looks over us all. My husband is he most stress free hunk of goodness so your references cannot and will not move me at all. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      Dearest Cersei, as a child/teen I’ve been harbored by people who gave Noble the reason for his comment. As an adult I’ve also met people who need to imbibe the post from Noble. That’s where my support and “passion” is coming from. I’m not enslaved. I’m free, blessed, happy but that won’t stop me from calling you out on your acute lack of understanding. Got it?

      Like you know Cersei, Tyron may be short but he’s a million times more intelligent and spot on than you can ever be. Noble made more valid points in one Instagram post that you’ve ever made in your years on this lovely blog.

      I don’t need milk. I’ve produced it, got it and I also know where to buy it. Kindly take your life lesson, sleep on it and put your mouth were you knowledge is.

      My message hit you so close to home that you had to take another glass of wine and come back to insult me. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ If you like keep drinking in your council flat and typing intellectually handicapped nonsense. I’ve said the truth in my first comment. You may wish to read it slowly, print it and meditate on it day and night.

      Good night Cersei and do have a lovely holiday 😘♥️

      Ivannah

      Oh and what the hell is a “baby adult pacifier”? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Is it some sex toy you use? Erm no thanks hunnay. I’m good. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    10. Ms. Cersei A Lannister. It will interest you to know that I am currently happily married to a Caucasian who works as an expatriate in Nigeria. His values are amazing and he’s everything I’ve ever imagined and more. I’ve got three beautiful children and with everything I’ve faced in life, my husband and kids are a major testimony that there is a God who looks over us all. My husband is he most stress free hunk of goodness so your references cannot and will not move me at all. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      Dearest Cersei, as a child/teen I’ve been harbored by people who gave Noble the reason for his comment. As an adult I’ve also met people who need to imbibe the post from Noble. That’s where my support and “passion” is coming from. I’m not enslaved. I’m free, blessed, happy but that won’t stop me from calling you out on your acute lack of understanding. Got it?

      Like you know Cersei, Tyron may be short but he’s a million times more intelligent and spot on than you can ever be. Noble made more valid points in one Instagram post that you’ve ever made in your years on this lovely blog.

      I don’t need milk. I’ve produced it, got it and I also know where to buy it. Kindly take your life lesson, sleep on it and put your mouth were you knowledge is.

      My message hit you so close to home that you had to take another glass of wine and come back to insult me. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ If you like keep drinking in your council flat and typing intellectually handicapped nonsense. I’ve said the truth in my first comment. You may wish to read it slowly, print it and meditate on it day and night.

      Good night Cersei and do have a lovely holiday 😘♥️

      Ivannah

      Oh and what the hell is a “baby adult pacifier”? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Is it some sex toy you use? Erm no thanks hunnay. I’m good. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    11. Ivannah delivered a TKO!!

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    12. As for me too, I don't mind and the cooking. Cos the work that my hubby does set is more tedious and I won't want to be in his shoes.

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    13. God bless Noble for being so sensitive to the plight of women this period.

      With in-laws watching, scrutinizing and analyzing, no woman wants to be seen as lazy so they suffer in silence.

      Being a woman is not a crime and this is not even about feminism. She is human and It is not a sin for her to rest.

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    14. Oh my Goddddd who is Ivannah

      May God bless you darling I love you, this how a well expose woman should think.

      Chaiiiiii Ivananah 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜

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    15. Ms A, you said some women love to do it...

      Clearly, it is like the whole point of Noble's comment flew over your head.

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    16. Oh ivannah, please chop plenty kisssesss! Mrs A should really calm down and understand where noble is/was coming from.

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    17. Ivannah!!!!!!!!!

      Omoh mehn I thought I had fangs!!!!!

      Chai.

      But guess what? You just wasted all of your time. Loll.

      Because the oversabi-quick-to-judge-moraslistic-dimwit no even sabi half the grammar way you dey knack. Abeg sis, just face your own jare, there are some people I would NEVER condescend to respond to. NEVER


      Chai, how people have been humbled sha.....ikwakwawakakakakakakakakakwakwakwa

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  9. Chai! Even when you champion for women, you still cannot win. See comments from some women shunning the guy. Hmm. It is well

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  10. I agree with Noble

    The narrative is gradually changing

    Many years back, mothers missed wedding ceremonies, cooking. Glad they are outsourcing that now. My Mom sometimes outsources Christmas cooking and just makes the salad. We go for mass and come home and chop better food.

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  11. Our mothers and the cooking part is so true.I remember my mom telling me that she always dread Xmas in the village when we were still very little because she practically sleeps in the kitchen as the wife of the first son,no co-wife. so,it was from making breakfast to lunch and she wont even know it was Xmas. I felt so sad for her.

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  12. What works for one may not work for the other. Let women make this decision by themselves for themselves.

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    1. Please i think he should empower women if he wants to. We women dont even realise it, if we arent reminded. I enjoyed my 2019 because i dont cook as much anymore, if you love cooking, then thats great, if not let us rest.

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  13. All these talk not necessary.adults know what to do.always dishing advice..okay oh..also dish out money.nigerians always doing work they don't send them to do!the one that needs their attention, yiu wiuldnt find any.if a lady is stressed and can't cook she sure would talk to her man and family.everyone just wants to talk in this country causing uneacessry debates

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    1. Don't mind them! They will not allow people celebrate their Christmas and New year in peace without trying so hard to push their selfish opinions on other people's throat.

      Some married people can't even afford the help of a cook... People like Noble and that thrash under my comment up there are the ones that use under age maids like slave.

      You don't see them speak against adults using under age maids but, when it comes gender baiting, they will be the first to stand on the queue.

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    2. Is the post about underage maids? Why not face the topic?

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    3. Ms. A na so my bone hook you for throat? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Anyway I got riled up by the lack of understanding and empathy. If my playful jabs touched some of your vital organs I am really sorry. I don’t take things to heart and will not be too proud to admit I was a tad bit harsh. .πŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌ

      XP!!! Thanks for breaking it down in ways I couldn’t. I’m also not proud of my outburst. I take nothing personal really and it’s all fun jabs to me. I’ll be more classy I promise.😘😘😘

      Ivannah

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    4. @ Ivannah please you said nothing wrong. People should learn to take criticism


      Yes I love all your comments

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  14. For those who want to cook, keep cooking. For those who refuse, I have an escape idea for you. During christmas, instead of traveling to the villa, travel abroad. Use that time to visit dubai, UK, Australia, cape verde, obudu, wherever. Have a true vacation. Rest, read a book and develop that business idea or proposal. Come back refreshed in January to start the new year. Christmas must not be spent in the village. Our generation will change that narrative. 😊evilgrin

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    1. Talking to the two percent 2%.
      How many Nigerians can afford to travel out of Nigeria for vacation?

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    2. I guess you didn't see the "obudu, wherever" in the comment πŸ™„πŸ™„

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    3. Like you know the road to the airport. A beg crawl back to your hut.

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    4. Mgbeke feeling funky. See your mouth like abroad. Anu ofia

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  15. Ain't he the boy that's always posing with crooked legs in pics,this guy is a bitch ass boy mehn,waiting patiently for the day he is finally going to come out as gay.

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  16. My sister cooks different kinds of soups as if her house is a restaurant during Xmas. This time she said she will just fry Chin chin for their visitors hahaha

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  17. He is right. Women shpuld not cook for their families while men should not bear majority of the house expenses. Let men be by themselves. Let women be by themselves. Cooking food is now a big deal? I will just order out, have babymamas and remain single. My money is mine. No more chivalry. Noble is an imbecile.I know some women that enjoy cooking. If you step into their kitchen it seems as if you invaded their privacy. It doesn't stop them from beong a good woman, good wife and enjoying their marriage.

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  18. There are 2 types of women in Nigeria:
    1. The ones that listen to hypocritical social media gurus like Noble Igwe.
    2. The ones that are happily married.

    How can a married woman listen to a single guy for advice on family matters? It is the same as me as a guy advising a pregnant lady on what to expect in the trimester of her pregnancy.

    Some people preaching online deserve to be ignored.

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    1. Who told you Noble is single?! Where have you been? Noble Igwe is married.

      Btw, there are more than 2 types of women in Nigeria.

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    2. Sorry to burst your bubble! Noble is soo married with a daughter.

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    3. Lolll, another dunce crawls out of the sewers.
      For you to think only a single man could think like this, shows your village mentality and those of your like... tueh

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  19. Going by all the comments for and against. And the passion it has stirred. Noble has struck a nerve and it’s obviously a conversation that needed to be had. I can’t relate because I’m neither Igbo not married yet. But I think it’s wrong for a woman to slave away like that. For those that enjoy it, please go ahead but obviously many women don’t and can’t even complain for fear of being labelled a bad wife

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  20. 2+ years marriage is like a kindergarten. Let him cross the 5 years milestone first. What is his husband's name? Nigeria is where people who have just been married for 6 months will be giving marriage advice.

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    1. Your talk is smelling.

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    2. Years of marriage is nothing but just numbers. My hubby agrees to what he has just said.

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