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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BITTER TEARS OVER THIRD PREGNANCY..
My wife conceived four months after delivering our second baby. Our first baby is two years and four months now. The day I found out she is pregnant, I cried like a baby because in the two previous birth, I was with her in the labour ward, so, I know the pain and stress.
Please what do we do now for the well-being of the both? Wife says no abortion.
*So her last two pregnancies were high risk?Òga you should used protection nau...
Why dont you discuss with your doctor to know if she can carry the baby to term or not?On that condition you would both sit down and agree on what the Doctor says you should do....
Please dont ask her to abort until you talk with your Doctor.....
Why are you crying like a baby? Were you out of your mind when having raw sex with her when your new born baby was less than four months old ?
ReplyDeleteNo be your fault, Na the woman that allowed you to have sex with her without protection I blame.
Nonsense.
You are so not nice. I bet you are not married. This man is traumatized and needs words that will encourage and keep his psyche up. And this is what you have to say to him?/
DeleteThe man is confused and just needs reassurance. This things happen all the time.
Of course you would always blame the woman.
DeleteLadyT reassurances would not change a thing for the poster right now. It would only temporary make him feel better. So too would blaming him would not change a what has happened either.
DeleteI went up to read the post again there is no place where the poster mentioned high risk pregnancy. He said "I was with her in the labour ward, so, I know the pain and stress", so I don't understand his distress as his wife as said no to abortion. It has happened and abortion is not an option, so they should accept it and birth their child(ren). They can decided to stop having kids after this pregnancy.
Well nothing you can do,just face work and make more money for the extra mouth to feed.
DeleteAfter this you can go for vasectomy since you guys aint good with protection, atleast your mind will be at rest you cant father a child anymore . It must not always be women doing family planning.
He wasn't traumatized when he was having raw sex? What was he expecting to happen after ejaculation?
DeleteYes, I blame the woman too, why not ask for protection, unless she wanted the pregnancy in the first place.
When two people are having sex, they can only expect one thing, pregnancy. .
I can't believe I'm saying this but I agree with Don. The man should go and have a vasectomy and the wife should have her tubes tied after this pregnancy. Shikena
DeleteWhy do you jump to the assumption that he did not use contraceptives. Most contraceptives are not 100% reliable
Delete@Don abeg easy with the insult
DeleteU talk like a woman,men reason well b4 dey talk.
DeleteOga, let your wife get a non-hormonal IUD inserted, it would prevent pregnancy for 4-5years. She only needs to check that the strings are in place after each monthly period. It is very effective for preventing pregnancy.
DeleteI agree with Don 💯%! I did not see any insult in his comment also.
DeleteGuy, please carry your cross with your wife.
God gave us self-control and a higher intelligence than animals. That's why medical science came up with family planning methods. You can choose the one that suits your faith (safe period, withdrawal, vasectomy)
Having children without planning is not nice. God planned for each and every living creature (daily loads us with benefits, satisfies every living creature, clothes the lilies, feeds the birds and numbered every hair on our heads).
Go have your 3rd baby and stop thereafter.
Madam Stella, i think the issue the man has is the timing. Good afternoon
ReplyDeleteWhat women pass through eeeehn, now he is scared after he has impregnated his wife. Oga please speak with the gynaecologist for medical advice shikena.
DeletePoster sorry. This also happened to me,my babay was 6months when i discovered was pregnant again. Was i sad yes. Did i think of aborting, yes. But funny enough it was my family doctor that even helped me. He simply told me to go ahead and have my babies. That same happened to hin as a doctor. That as far as their was no risk with me,i should just have my babies fast and rest. Did that and no regrets. But hubby had a lot to do. So poster,you need to help you wife. Carry the baby and bottle feed at night so she can have adequate rest. Help around the house. Be her rock and should to cry on. All will be well. Buy as many gadgets as possible to make her life easy and also the baby. And most especially double your hustle.
DeleteWhat you should do?
ReplyDeleteNekwanu ajuju n'ese okwu o
Congrats, buy and stock baby diapers and formula milk inugo? 😊😊😊
Wife said no abortion, which means you said abort? 😮😮
Okwa ajuju
You love this Sisi at all?
If she die in the process of your shooting to kill your baby, you will
quickly marry another sisi wey go crack the heads of the first two kids okwa ya?
When you dey pound her morning and nights with raw pestle like fufu, you no ask us all those ya ajuju n'ese okwu o. Were you expecting a Limousine to be the result?
Oga (wey suppose be on top) make you
buy cap, cap ya pestle after this one. inugo
Wow its not by crying Sir.Person wey dey cry dey see road..This discussion is what you should have had with your doctor..Please go and meet your doctor to weigh your options..Please take care of your health and your wife's seriously...You can do vasectomy and Madam should try her tubes...Please be wise..Don't try God even if the doctor tells you something you both may not like but follow his advice nevertheless..I am begging you..Cos most people do things so they can share testimony in church...
ReplyDeletePoster, after the delivery of this baby, please start using protection or master the art of withdrawal method.
ReplyDeleteShe most probably had two previous high risk pregnancies, she should have rested for few more years before getting pregnant again.
Anyways, the deed has already been done, just take good care of your wife and be there for her. Make sure she visits her gynaecologist when necessary.
Congrats for a job well done. And make sure you don't ask this lady to do family planing without you first taking the lead by harvesting those your balls. 😏😏😏😏
ReplyDeleteDon Don, unapologetically blunt.
ReplyDeleteI'm not ready for all that nonsense "Aww, oooh " I don't know what he was expecting when he was doing it raw.
DeleteMy dear if your problem is labour stress fear not, God will see her through because no two pregnancies are the same but if both of you are not ready for the baby HOLD HANDS WITH YOUR WIFE AND ASK GOD TO TAKE IT OUT. I had a friend who had twins, and took in at about 8mths, she said immediately she found out she was preggars she held hands with her husband and asked God to take it, that they weren't ready, the very next day she lost it!!! Strange abi??? But if she chooses to birth the baby let her go to a family planing clinic at 6weeks after birth to avoid another pregnancy OK. Know that once you keep gbenshing her in her fertile period she will take in because THATS HOW IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE BEFORE NDI WITCHES AND WIZARDS COME SPOIL THINGS FOR SOME PEOPLE. It is well OK?? Wipe your tears cause that baby might be the star tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteSuper story!
DeleteLike God didn't know their heart when he gave them the second one Abi??
Lol... God is now a murderer. That your friend probably lied
DeleteThat god must be sango or amadioha.
DeletePoster,go and hire a nanny and cleaner...case closed.If your husband isn't good at withdrawal methods, new mums please go for other family planning methods.
ReplyDeleteWhy wont they be good at it? its called DISCIPLINE.
Delete15:55,we are not talking about stolen fu#k u hear...discipline in marital s&x? ok na
DeleteOga were expecting plasma TV after unprotected sex???.. dnt worry ok. Just discuss with ur doctor on wat best to do.
ReplyDeleteHelp me ask him if he was expecting his wife to discharged Ludo after raw sex.
DeleteDon pls 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteYou sound really delusional @Don
DeleteThis moved me differently
ReplyDeletePls if you have no kind words for this man pls keep off
As in, see the way they're bashing him, someone that is on the floor already. Not like he killed somebody oh, he only got his own wife pregnant. This is common with couple who just had a baby.
DeleteKind words and pity isn't the solution. He needs to be told some hard truth so he won't repeat the same mistake
DeleteI got pregnant again when my baby was 5months. The pregnancy was easy and the baby is great. So just pray that all goes well with your wife. She already pregnant. But seek medical help if the pregnancy is threatening. But next time you dont want a baby , please take precautions not after pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteOga, you love your wife? Use protection naw!
ReplyDeleteFamily planning is not expensive
Mtshewwww.you guys don't have a problem at all,when you were doing it did you call us....Some ladies don't like themselves ,Una no dey tire..If something happened pere,men don move on.
ReplyDeleteYou scored a goal and are asking us what you should do?
ReplyDeleteCelebrate. 🍾🥂🥂🥂
I have never seen a player that scored a goal and began to cry.
This happened to me, I was nursing a baby when I discovered that I was pregnant. We decided to abort the baby, till today, I am stuck with a child. I have been begging God for forgiveness, till I lost my husband. Since then I kukuma leave everything to God.
ReplyDeleteKai what a sad story. It is well with you. Poster after this baby get a vasectomy or something you can't leave it up to your wife. May God see her through.
DeleteNo Dr will do a vasectomy or tubal ligation for these couple after just 3kids in Nigeria, Sam Sam!!! Just go for IUCD OR implant. Don't mind all these ignoramus up here talking about stuff they know nothing about OK?? Don't soak yourself with fear OK? Go to God and ask him to make this one easy. You are a child of God right??? Exercise your authority, don't let fear overwhelm you?? Be strong for your wife. All will be PERFECT IN JESUS NAME AMEN.
DeleteNonesense ingridients ......
ReplyDeleteCongratulations sir.
ReplyDeletePls always make sure she rest well, she can continue breastfeeding the other child if she has the strenght but if not, the baby should be fed with infant formula and cereals.
Proper care and attention should be given to the baby.
Make sure your wife rest well, eat nutritious food with lots of fruits and vegetables. She should also take and pre natal drugs religiously.
If she notice anything she should not hesitate to speak with her doctor.
Dont worry she will be fine, my sister experienced same, her first child was born in February and second April the next year. They are all doing very fine.
Hello bro,
ReplyDeleteNext time, do family planning. At the moment, you just need to be preparing for the arrival of your bouncing baby Junior. Don't that saw her through previous pregnancies will see her through with your support.
You are now a father of 3. Congratulations in advance.
If your wife is medically fit,don't abort that child. All you need to do is to help her out through the journey,get her a maid and encourage her. STOP CRYING AND MAN UP
ReplyDeleteThis is almost the position I am now.
ReplyDeleteI invited my breastfeeding wife to a soccer game last week and she told me point-blank that on condition that I don't play shots inside the goal post...say she's not ready for another goal.
Me, I was confused because I used to think that breastfeeding inhibits pregnancy.
Anyhow, that was how I agreed o....
For the first time in my home, wifey agreed to condom. Something she used to blatantly refuse.
You invited ke?? Nice read but Na wa for your way sha.
DeleteAnonymous 17:11 these days I dey invite o....with children, grandma and all at home,...
DeleteFunny thing, my 4 year old loves sleeping with me. ..and if he wakes up and doesn't see me, na cry.
So I now have to systematically send invitation to madam for the game.
But seriously, poster should just help support wife tru the pregnancy
Oga crying after knacking. God will help. Try and destroy fears. Oga go for vascetomy abi what is the name, so that you won't have fears of pregnancy again. It is not only women that will do family planning
ReplyDeleteHey God! What this my eyes have seen nursing my baby girl for 14months now, I never want to even hear pregnancy.. at least not now. No matter the help you have, there are some responsibilities you have to bear alone as a mother.
ReplyDeletePoster the lord is your muscle oh. Next time be careful biko. Take precaution. Your wife na human being too. As for this one, birth it since shes not high risk.
I jewelry went to do fp even when hubby kicked against it,only me know what i went through,i dont want stories that touch, and i want the number of children i can take care alone just incase,Godforbid but one have to think about the future and the children welfare
ReplyDeleteMy mother’s friend was pregnant with her second child, shortly after the first one, an unwanted child at that moment. My mum advised her against abortion. The lady went ahead and aborted the child. That was her last, her womb was damaged. About ten years later she still regrets it..
ReplyDeleteDon’t cry poster. Three kids is enough. Go do a vasectomy.
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteOga pls forgive me for laughing, you mean you cried like a baby? This is so hilarious!
On a serious note, if the doctor certifies that she can carry to term, after she has put to bed, pls kindly get a vasectomy
Imagine a grown man crying, smh. Poster, what are you even doing in labour room sef? My future husband should better not try that shit
DeleteHonestly, reminded me of Howard'e reaction when his wife told him she was pregnant soon after their first baby (The Big Bang Theory)
DeleteWhat to do?? Stop having sex or at least use a condom!!!!
ReplyDeleteOga go and do vasectomy.
ReplyDeleteCarry your doctor along.
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ReplyDeleteit is well poster, am passing through the same ish as well, just make sure that madam is well taken care of and speak to your gynacologist.