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Thursday, April 09, 2020

Former Oyo First Lady Florence Ajimobi Reveals How She Reacts When She Catches Her Husband Cheating And Gives Marriage Advice

Former Oyo state first lady Florence Ajimobi had a conversation with her daughter, Abisola Kola Daisi on Instagram live,and revealed that she has caught her hubby,the former governor Abiola Ajimobi cheating on her several times but forgave him each time...

She also advised her daughter on marriage issues and how to turn a blind eye to a man's cheating ways. 
Check end of post for the video Interview



Mum -Even on one or two occasions that I've caught him cheating,

Daughter Abisola -Doing what?


Mum -Cheating, cheating,and then he will apologize. And once he apologizes and it ends, I never go back to them again, I never Bisola, I never ever discussed it ..... what I'm saying is, to err is human, to forgive is divine. We are friends Even though as a wife, sometimes I fall below his expectations. Sometimes we do things that is even worse than cheating.



Daughter
-Like what, What is worse? What can I do that is worse than cheating?


Mum- I know some women that build houses without their husbands knowing.
Having a relationship with the woman he loves is making love, it's not having s#x. So if you are cheap enough, give yourself to my husband, he will use you and go his away. He's mine and whatsoever is mine will come back to me. 


Daughter
- (mutters 'wow' below her breath) and says out loudly " I agree with that"


Mum - I tell people it's my leftover you are eating, he's my leftover, I've eaten the better part of him, I get the chunk of the meat, eat the bone, it's none of my business


Daughter
- Exactly!!!


Mum
- As you are doing it hush hush hush, you are not enjoying it. Cos you are stealing, you are looking if somebody is there....... Am I going to be caught? He's my husband, he can't go anywhere else. If you don't love your husband you won't be jealous, a woman who doesn't love her husband will not care what he does out there. She doesn't care. Even when you see him, you don't care.


(Continues with her conversation) :

'' When I see my husband, you know, ahn ahn, I feel like dying. When I love him so much and I don't want to be seen as a failure to lose him to somebody else, so I fight for him. I'm always fighting for him, always fighting to get him back, and he knows. Do you understand what I am saying?

Sometimes, I see my husband... I can google the girl's name and then I just print out the picture and put it on the bed. When he comes back from work, he sees the girl's picture on his bed and he knows the girl.
"I put her name, I put her telephone number(Abisola exclaims "Yeeeh") and I don't say a word. I don't say a word. I've done it before, ask him. I print it out.
Because, when I see the phone, I use Truecaller, it will give me the name of the person. I'll google the name of the person.Even, one was living in America. I googled her, printed her picture, put it on the bed.
What do you have to say? And I left.


So, when he went into the room, he saw it on the bed. I don't know what happened. I wasn't there. I don't know what he did But, you know, he now came to me later that, "Can we discuss?" I said, "About what? Nothing to discuss" 'Do you want me to send her away?' I said, "Pay her off'."


Abisola - Mummy you are SAVAGE!!


Mum- I want to keep my home. So, where would I go? I'll go and be staying alone, when I've laboured all these while then somebody will come and enjoy? Never, It's not going to happen. Never! Never. Never! Never!



236 comments:

  1. This patriarchy ate deep into this woman! Imagine what she is teaching her daughter! Her self worth is tied to her husband!!!!

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    1. I tell you.

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    2. Like I feel so sad for the younger girls on this women's generation. This is the kind of advice a supposed older and wiser woman is dropping for her daughters. What utter rubbish.

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    3. I blame Bisola sha....why bringing your mother out on live for christ-sake,when u know Nigerians. Giving dem d opportunity to insult ur mother.
      Iv known dis family for donkey yrs and d woman gives really impactful talks to young ladies,i may not agree to all she says but dis is d mind-set of many women of their generation and its d reason dere marriages lasted. But me sha i cannot endure like them.

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    4. Thank u. I wondered myself. Must everything be on SM??!

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    5. I'm sorry all I can do is laugh
      πŸ˜…πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£
      Like seriously???

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    6. This sounds to me like a very personal conversation........
      I wonder why it was put out there...........

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    7. Rolling my eyes and saying "yes ma" "yes ma" πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

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  2. I'm here for the comments...

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    1. Plenty comments today. SDK women go chop her raw

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    2. Too bad.
      Am speechless about most of her ideologies

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    3. πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ€£ @ Fam

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  3. Madam we don hear, Enjoy your man.

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    1. Wow
      The daughter already agrees with her.
      What more can i say.

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    2. What caught my attention was the "pay her off" statement, its easier said than done.
      With her kind of money and connections even agbero will fight those girls for free for her.
      Wrong advice though.
      I think the daughter was wrong in putting her mother on insta live.
      If I were the daughter,I won't adhere to such advice.

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  4. This one has been psychologically brainwashed....broken over and over again ..shes deluded. I pity her daughters and those who will take this self degrading and humiliating advice. I guess because men cheat..its ok for them to cheat...Mtchewew

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    1. Because she no die of HIV or living with it by now. Wonderment!!!!

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    2. She is saying she raised her daughter to settle for less, less, less over less to have a keep her marriage. There are many with this mindset. So you see why COZA's wife is blameless?

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    3. Her daughters are doing fine.

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    4. What does doing fine mean in your dictionary madam?

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    5. Shebi you have dictionary at home? make use of it. Or google it.

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    6. Defend your statement now. Doing fine ko, doing fine ni. Madam I must talk by force.

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    7. Madam I must talk by force, what exactly is "doing fine"? πŸ™„πŸ™„

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    8. Doing fine in Nigerian parlance = as long as he is giving me money, no wahala. Zero self respect.

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  6. I agree with someone of her point...but menh it is not easy looking away especially if you truly love your man. But why must it be the woman to always fight self? Why can't the men fight too? We should stop excusing these men Jo..they know they will get away with it that is why they keep doing it. God please let my husband fear you not to cheat and be contented with me in Jesus name amen.#gift#

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    1. She no love the man, she was only trying to cover her shame and the thought of leaving all she enjoys for someone else was to much for her to bear. First lady title

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    2. If she had cheated even once enh by now she would have been out of that house

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    3. The man will keep doing it when he knows all you will do is print picture and keep on the bed...
      Hei God, can i get over this, well na her generation.

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  7. The eye i'm looking at this post with right now....Let me just reserve my comment.

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    1. This one you have dropped two comments already and you're still reserving your comment🀣🀣🀣

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    2. I like you jare. You are smart- Abisola her daughter receiving coaching indeed. Someone who is a player herself. Smart women. They allow because they do- you all sit there and be calling them stupid.

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  8. Ah! What is she teaching her daughter? To accept cheating? When you admire these old marriages, understand that a lot of sacrifices has been made, mostly at the detriment of the women.

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  9. To each his or her own! I do not cheat and will not accept a cheat.

    Building a house without your spouse knowing is not worse than cheating with different women/men.

    Cheating is wrong.

    This beautiful woman is old skool and she has trained herself especially her mind and heart to be able to handle her husband's cheating ways; but, there are so many other women who can't handle a cheating man.

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    1. I for one, can't handle a cheating man. To me, that's the greatest height of betrayal.

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    2. Where or how far would she have gone without the man? Better a threesome-tensome than divorce, mbok. What if it is the other way round, would her husband keep her?

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  10. Don and the other one named 'king' will be so happy @ this post.

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  11. She stayed because of money. Mr and Mrs constituted authority.

    Women do what makes you happy. Don't allow cheaters to dash you diseases.

    Because most of these men do it raw

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    1. Exactly!!! Our mothers should know better,their taking rubbish because of the inheritance they'll get from the man.

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    2. I agree with you completely, na money keep am there. My father cheated on my mother wella, he had them plenty. My mum said when she complained they would tell her that doesn't my father provide for the house and true true the man took care of the home 100%. My mum never lacked infact when I think of it I am always angry that she was so pained she refused to eat his money. So from her own experience I always eat my husband's money if I see, I don't like doing any contribution to the house except necessary. He does most of it. If to say I dey my mama position with my kind of dad as husband I will suck him dry that he will know what it means to have two wives. She was so emotional about it.

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    3. Yori some women are accepting all this crap and more and are living in one room; they are even the bread-winners feeding dere jobless horsebands.

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    4. Thank you beds and roses..
      Do people think breaking of marriage is that easy..
      No human has a 100% quality in them..
      Some women will push their husband away with their nasty character and still complain about the man..
      Marriage is a give and take situation, sacrifices must be made..
      Even gold pass through fire to make it what it is..

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    5. But she’s happy. She has weighed her options and realized she prefers receiving millions of naira for simply being married than be divorced and be hustling up and down.

      This woman is happy. Besides, who says she doesn’t have a sugar boy somewhere. Shebi na she dey investigate her husband, does the husband snoop on her like she does him?

      Which reminds me of a certain former governor of Ogun State who caught his wife with her side bobo. He didn’t send her out but he ignores her and disrespects her steady in public, she Ben his staff disrespect her. Shebi him sef no divorce. Abeg, make everybody carry dia own kaya for head dey handle their personal ish the way they know how.

      Tankio

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    6. Thank you Rambo,
      This woman is happy, or at least she makes it seem so. Which one of us wouldn’t be happy with the money of a Nigerian governor and title of First Lady.
      Personally, I wouldn’t stay with an unrepentant cheat/polygamist regardless but mama has weighed her options and this is what she feels is best. She should stay there with her husband and enjoy the money please

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  12. Hmmm. I'm not even sure what to say. Except that, may he not return with HIV one day. Since you say, he always returns.

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    1. Abioo Most of these rich men never use condoms.

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  13. See how our mothers encouraged cheating!

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    1. It's disgusting.
      Daugther biko do not listen to her oo cos during they time,there was no HIV and brothers

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  14. Marriage is hard
    I'm definitely gonna tell my kids that when they come of age!!
    They need to enter prepared
    My mum didn't tell me that...I just entered because I love the man and thought we will never have issues
    But this cheating can really destroy one oohh if not handled careful
    Mrs Ajimobi made some points though!!

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    1. Your own hard is not someone else's hard. Not all marriages are hard btw. If a man doesn't cheat and he is faithful that takes away the chunk of the problem. A marriage where a man cheats will always seem hard. She didn't make any point. She won't tell you about her sleepless night. How she cried herself to sleep most night. How she developed hbp because of a generous giver. Look at the street she went through. Printing a side chick photo and placing it on their bedπŸ₯Ί if she wasn't that bothered she won't bat an eyelid. Let's not talk about the other things she must have done which she obviously "forgot" to add. I am not surprised her husband cheated anyways, those men in power cheats for reason different from what you think.

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    2. She made no points in my opinion.she is letting her children know they are nobody without their husbands. Thus encouraging them to remain in domestic violence situations and if they have a philandering husband they should collect diseases they bring with Joy. Madam if your husband is cheating, know your limit. Most mother's are treating high BP while the men are healthy because of infidelity. I pity we women. There are more impressive role models, look at Mo' Abudu, look at Florence Ita Giwa. There are several women who have achieved great things as single mothers.if you must remain in a cheating marriage at least you are gaining something material. Hian!!! He will cheat and you will still be contributing feeding money, house rent, na wa!!!!

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    3. @anon 9:11, "Those men in power cheats for reason different from what you think " see this shit is deep,may side chicks not be used as sacrificial lambs. The women that encourage cheating from their hubby ,do so for reasons best known to them.

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    4. It's not only cheating that makes marriage hard,every marriage has its own challenges, the way you handle it it's all that matters..

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  15. She made some sense though.
    I know the core feminists will not agree.

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    1. Do you even know the meaning of feminism though?🀦‍♀️ What is core feminist by the way? You mean radical feminist? Kmt

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    2. Anon 9:16, radical or core feminist... you still get the drift. Drop your own opinion and leave another person's comnent alone.

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    3. By the special grace of God,your wife will cheat on you severally Without remorse.If you divorce her and marry another, the circle will continue still you will be infected with HIV.

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    4. Officers wifeπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. How are you sure she isn't already cheating? Most married women cheat and their husband don't talk doesn't mean it doesn't happen. The men also keep quiet and keep it a secret and take their revenge outside.

      I just realised my neighbour'wife has been cheating for the past six years and the man kept quiet( they both cheated by the way). She slept with all his friends. He left her and went to marry someone else and he is back to his wife and now have two wives.

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    5. I also suspect she this smy neighbour and her husband are now in an open marriage because they both have side cocks and chicks while the man is keeping her and his other woman. Their marriage have scattered but they still sleeping with each other.

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  16. It's okay to accept whatever you want, just don't bring it on social media. This lady wants her mom bashed by world people

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  17. Cool. Though I don’t know why this conversation had to happen on IG live..
    Gimme a husband that’ll stay with me even when I cheat..
    Print his photo on the bed and nag me to breakup with him.. A man that’ll suffer and labor to build our home.
    .. Isit only women that fight for men?? Men can’t fight for the sugar in their tea? Women this. Women that.

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    1. πŸ˜†πŸ˜„. I'm telling you! The desperation! What is good for the goose...

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  18. This marriage thing though,everyone is different. For someone like me,i don't tolerate crap and once shit starts getting toxic,i leave. What we should teach our daughters,is the need to love themselves unconditionally,high self esteem,financial independence. Don't encourage your man to keep cheating,he may infect you with STD.Whew!!

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    1. The one that got me most, the part she asked him to pay her off. Azin?

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    2. So it's obvious she took all the man's bullshit because of money!!!

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  19. This interview pissed me off

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  20. She's right to some extent. .if you leave your husband because he's a cheat, how are you so that the next man you are going to end up with won't be worse ie a cheat and a woman-beater

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    1. If you leave your wife because she cheats how are you sure the next woman you meet won't be worse ie a cheat and a nag who can't cook?🚢‍♂️

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    2. I left my first marriage because they guy lied about so many things and was still lying plus domestic violence. Now I married a cheat. I want to also leave but who will listen to me.

      NB,there was no sign I swear

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    3. Oh please shut up! Do you and let me be. .I'm a realist and not a bitter feminists like most of you here...@Anon 09:44, if you are not ready to forgive your husband for cheating, you too go and cheat ok, don't bother me cause we all cannot be mad feminists.

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    4. Leave if you want to. Nobody would listen to you because they aren't the ones suffering in the marriage, you are. Do what's best for your sanity and stop looking for supporters you would never find.

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    5. Kidjo you are disgustingly rude. Did I insult you? Why call yourself names thinking it is me you were addressing ? My husband doesn't cheat not all men do. We both got married as a virgin and we waited 4 years before we got married and the whole waiting till marriage to make love was even his idea. So relax, I am not fighting you okay? Gosh!! Just trying to make you see the clarity of your comment. Stop being defensive and over the edge. Well...It's good to know you have prepared yourself for the worst and you won't be shocked when it happens that you catch your man cheating🀷‍♀️

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    6. And please kidjo kindly google the meaning of feminism next time before you make mention if it. You seem like a joke throwing the word around just to fit your rhetoric.

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    7. Anon 10:17
      You are foolishly rude, Why did you reply my comment trying to be sarcastic πŸ˜•πŸ˜• "your husband doesn't cheat blablabla", that's the lie you all feed yourselves with while encouraging others to leave their marriages. ..
      I don't care what you think about your husband, do you and let others do them..stop encouraging women to leave their marriage because of cheating, there are other ways to go about it without separation. Are you not tired of the high cases of divorce? As long as he doesn't beat you, then you can work it through .everytime divorce this, divorce that .. mtcheew

      Anon 10:20 You google the meaning of stupidity so you don't come here to display it next time.

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    8. A lot of women think they can cope with a cheating man till they find themselves with some one like that. Wait till you get into that situation then come back and tell us everything with a smile across you face.

      My coursemate was a side chick like a confirm runs girl. I helped her with project as the bookworm of our department and she paid me. I will advise her to stop but she would call me deeper life etc. She would hit her chest and tell me that if she gets married she won't be bothered at all if her man sleeps with the whole neighborhood because she has had her fill.

      She got married and we still kept contact after school. She calls me weeping profusely. Aunty what happened nah? She said her husband was cheating with a girl in their area, with a colleague at her office bla bla bla. I had to clean my ears because that was a girl who bragged about not caring if her husband cheats. It was then I realised you never know what you will do till a situation happens. Look at the lady who commented yesterday that she may kill her husband and the NYSC lady. This woman won't tell you everything she went through and the pain she felt. Just Be careful what you wish for. May we not marry a cheating person either men or women. Amen.

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    9. Anon09:50
      Sorry for all the bitter experiences, I don't support cheating or domestic violence but if he's only cheating and domestic violence is not involved then I think you can work it out, but you see that domestic violence, it's a no no for me..That's the only time I support divorce

      In this era where people sell charms to entice men et al, you won't blame some men cause they don't cheat with their clear eyes..Some re jazzed into doing it, So women shouldn't give up the fight and allow sidechics to win with the help of jazz

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    10. Now I see comprehension is your problem. Trying to make you see the irony of your comment is being sarcastic? You saw how dumb your comment appeared when I flipped it around right? That's why your temperature is at a boiling point. I encouraged women to leave their marriages? Show me where or better still change your glasses because it's old. How about you stop encouraging men to cheat and pat them on the backs for it but I am not surprised You all would do anything to stay married. Even throw your self worth on the floor so these men can trample on it. Pfft🚢‍♂️

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    11. Thank you Kidjo!!!

      The next man you think is a saint,what will you do if you catch Him cheating?

      You will continue to leave a remarry?

      Na so!

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    12. Anon10:59
      I can see drinking water and minding your business is your problem? You gonna choke very soon ok. I don't need to see anything, if you do not agree with what I wrote, then waka pass, don't come here trying to school me when you actually graduated with a 1st class from the University of Foolishness...πŸ˜•

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    13. Anon 9.50 keep changing them,maybe when you get to the 5th husband you will rest. I hope you arent having kids with all these men. Because before u know it you will have 3kids for 3men.
      The first marriage is a NO NO,but have you tried working out the issues with this cheating one; is it a one off,is he willing to change.
      Many advising you wont even leave a cheating boyfriend. The ball is in your court.

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    14. @10:43 if a run girls can be hurt that her husband cheat what should those decent woman she cheated with their husband doπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    15. I love you kidjo- you are wise. Leave them, let them be shouting. Is it more than cheating? Nawa, stupid people.

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    16. @ORIGINAL COSMETICS DEALER please must the person remarry??... can't the person focus on self and God?... it's obvious marriage is your problem and it's like you can't survive without a man... smh

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    17. 12.21 you are actually the stupid one here. You and all those trying to shut down others from expressing their views because you disagree with it.

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    18. Anon.12:45

      Why are you guys so deceptive online?
      Osikwa no '...self and God' lol.

      After eating the forbidden fruit...
      Widows and widowers have not finish resisting the temptation na one hot Chicky mama.

      And oh yess,I'm a strong advocate of marriage.
      11years in marriage no be beans.

      So shut your mouth sweety and use your sense of proper reasoning.

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    19. 9:44 your comment reminds me of a yoruba movie I watched. I think the title was" ABAWON". muyiwa ademola was the main actor. He was looking for a wife.

      He met the First Lady but she was a chronic smoke. She smokes like a chimney every where they went to. He started complaining she got upset and left him that he was nagging too much for her liking.


      He met the second one. Too much partying has entered her system ehn. He comes back from work he won't meet her, he won't meet food. Today she is travelling to abuja tomorrow portharcourt. He brought his friends home told her to prepare something nice for them but she left them to grace her friends occasion and they ended up taking water. He left her too.

      He met another lady she can cook wella very homely but has a temper like a hurricane. She fights everyone in the area. Fights his mother, father slaps and tear his clothes.in short she was hulk Hogan even broke bottle on his head. So he ran away.


      Then he met another one and another one till he met the last lady who was perfect in all areas. But it turned out she was a chronic cheat. She sleeps with the security man and the errand boy and even his friend. Then he got tired and he was advised and told in the end that everyone has flaws and no one is perfect. Very interesting movie.


      If a man and a woman keep changing fear would catch them ehn. Many married women have are cheating even a deacon in church was asking my friend where they should meet. Yes she is married with children. I couldn't believe until I saw her picture. No make up no earring very plain serious looking woman.

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    20. I love your comments kidjo..
      Marriage is all about sacrifice, I'm against cheating, but women should learn to respect their man..
      You won't respect your man and you expect the man to worship you..
      Most men that cheat,do it most times because their wives made their home a living hell..
      Some women are worst than Jezebel.
      With all she said,it's only the cheating part they picked..

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    21. You are using your business account to tell someone to shut up. Na wa. May God give some of you wisdom.

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    22. Anom.13:38.

      Yes darling.
      And I say again SHUT UP.

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    23. Anon 9.50
      Please do what is best for YOU. If you can’t deal with the cheating leave, but do so after careful reflection and trials to work things out. Ask yourself if you would rather be alone than stay with your present husband. When you get your answer, nothing else matters.
      There are many women even in Nigeria who are married to their 3rd or 4th husbands, heaven hasn’t fallen

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    24. Kidjo hope you will want to work it out if he one day comes home with a disease? Hope you will still be around? I'm sure you read the Chronicle here a girl was battling with a man's family spiritually just cause he lied about his marital status and she decided to teach him a lesson? Hope you will still want to work it out if your husband starts cheating and neglect his duties? Hope you will also still be dere when the emotional abuse that comes with cheating start

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    25. Madam dealer, I am not the anon. You are simply showing your lack of sense and wisdom. No wonder you are selling cosmetics πŸ˜‹

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    26. Later, you will see them begging BVs to patronize. Mannerless folks.

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  21. “I want to keep my home”

    That’s all I needed to make sense of her reasoning and i don’t have to agree but i respect it. That’s her choice

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    1. And then I ask myself, what exactly is a ‘home’?
      Is it the people in the home?
      Or tThe atmosphere in the home?
      I’m really confused. I’m not married. But I have seen how lots of adults are out there. Many don’t have home training. Many don’t have good characters. This ain’t about men alone, it’s both.
      Can we say parents spend so much time focusing on each other than their supposed home? Most women with this type of story end up transferring aggressions to their kids. I know cause I’ve seen things happen.
      I just don’t think something like this should be shared.
      It’s too controversial.
      I feel gloomy.

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    2. "I don't want to be seen as a failure to lose him to somebody else, so I fight for him."- you can't be in this kind of competition as a woman and still win in the boardroom. You can't be efficient working two full time jobs. This woman's entire CV is her husband and she seems to be fine with it. Her gamble paid off since he didn't die or lose too many elections. Other women have to see if the advice can for their own situation. To each, her own.

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  22. You are doing well Ma. Oinn!
    Her daughter's husband just got the license to cheat anyhow because there is no one she can report him to.

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  23. Well, people react differently. My type will hit the roof. Can't stay with a cheating partner. It's unforgiving. #myopinion.

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  24. Iranu of the highest order.

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  25. I'm currently speechless πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

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  26. Only some wise married women will agree with most of her points. However I say in this marriage thing, to each his own. Everyone should have a deal breaker. For some it is not cheating while for some it is violence. Do what you can live with. Men and cheating can never be separated. Some will say if he cheats responsibly it can be handled.......whatever works for you. Divorce is never the best option either...there are so many other things coming in to play. She is saying what works for her so everyone should do their own. Shikena.

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    1. It's as simple as that but trust SDK's feminists, they will drag her for this today, bitter lots

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    2. Kidjo, you obviously buy condom for your husband sef to enhance his cheating, all well and good but please leave SDK bvs alone to comment in peace.

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    3. @KIDJO you're doing well. Fantabulous... Oooin
      Continue to be you

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    4. Yes I buy condom for him and plead with him to wear at least 3 before diving into the holes of his sidechic, Are you happy now???@anon 10:42
      I didn't attack anyone until I was attacked under my comment and I didn't attack the owner of the post above,maybe you should read again

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    5. Kidjo leave them. Let them keep leaving husbands and the world counting it for them. Na there them go dey 20,30 years time in misery alone.

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    6. 12.23 yes o, while your husband shares himself like akara all over the place πŸ˜‚ the joke is on y'all defending this rubbish.

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    7. Better to be alone and happy with my kids than die of HIV or Heart attack

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  27. I don't know how i feel about this interview

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  28. I respect too...It works for her but that doesn’t make it ideal . But I just thank God he didn’t give her hiv or some other std cos most of these powerful men won’t use condom. I know a woman who caught hiv from her hubby, they are both dead now.

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    1. ****I know a woman who caught hiv from her hubby, they are both dead now.

      Kidjo, abeg read the line above.

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    2. Anon 10:43
      Eya, RIP to the dead... but y'all don't seem to understand, I don't support cheating and don't support divorce either, unless it's a case of domestic violence,
      I get y'all re scared of STDs But there are people as well that got hiv through other means apart from sex, You can't be too careful, talk to your husband about it instead of leaving.

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    3. Kidjo, this is not about HIV through other means. The MOST COMMON means is through sexual contact. Don't try to minimize the issue.

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    4. E never too late to collect the STDs

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  29. This shows that not all long lasting marriages are happy ones. Some people are just suffering and smiling and keeping up appearances.

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    1. Long certainly does not imply happy.

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    2. EVEN the ones without cheating husbands aren’t happy. Infidelity isn’t the only marital there is.

      This woman does look happy though.

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  30. I can't stand a cheating man, i will rather prefer being a widow than to stay with a chronic cheat.

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    1. You mean 'you will rather prefer to remain single' right?????

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    2. Contradicting yourself, You cant stand a cheating man but you will rather be a widow than stay with a chronic cheat you say. Which means he has to be chronic cheat not just a cheat before u leave

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    3. If I understand you well, you would rather be a widow than stay with a chronic cheat, meaning you send the cheat accross. Internet never forgets

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    4. Meaning you'd kill the cheat?

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    5. Husband killer on the loose

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    6. So how is that your business? I still repeat my words, i prefer he dies or live a life of misery while enjoying myself than to watch him cheat on me. @ Anon i don't tolerate cheating of any kind.
      12:19 what if i kill him? Did i invite you to do that, mind your business

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  31. Half the women who stay in a cheating marriage or relationship is only for one reason, the man is rich point blank plain and simple. But I bet you if she had cheated be would have left her in a heartbeat. 9 out of 10 women in this comment section will do exactly the same thing she did as long as that man has it in the bank, forget about all this internet talk when real life hits you, it always hits different

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    1. Spot on but a woman that has her own bag will leave in a heartbeat

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    2. Thank you Francis.

      See them everywhere.

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  32. The daughter's hubby got license to cheat now if he hasn't been doing that

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    1. This is so deep...must women always suffer for a home to be kept.We are not responsible for badly raised men.

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    2. A responsible man doesn't even need to see this to change.
      Responsible men are still out there.Men who knows what is right and wrong and wouldn't succumb to cheating for anything else. If you get that one,enjoy it.
      If you get the irresponsible one tame him,talk about it or better still keep quiet.

      No be only leave my home.

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  33. If you want to leave your home because of a cheating husband, ngwanu pack and go, Don't come online to form voltron, bashing those that chose to work it out and stay ...Some ladies here are married to men who cheat and beat the hell outta them but na them go come here dey act like their husbands re saint. ..madam your husband is a cheat, deal with it or leave.. stop living in denial and coming here to bash those with different opinionsπŸ˜•πŸ˜• you be crying in keke napep but have the mind to come bash someone crying in a Maserati...Ozuor.

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    1. Breath Kidjo, Breath.

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    2. Nne, why are you crying all over this topic like this? 🀐

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    3. KIDJO, calm down now. You're laying too much emphasis on the latent truth. Meanwhile, loud it if you can. Like I said earlier, you're doing well. Oooin

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    4. Who do this girl this thing?hianesst!!!

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    5. Kidjo you're a wise child.

      All these women all over the post are in a cheating marriage or out of marriage and are bitter!

      This woman stated the obvious truth.
      Who are you leaving your home for?

      Lie lie!
      I will just continually get you packs of condoms.
      Leave to where?

      Akuko mike ajeagho!

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    6. Honestly Kidjo is so triggered. It must have hit close to home lol

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    7. It's your eyes that will cry nonstop☺☺
      Leave Mrs Ajimobi alone and stop bashing her, She has made her choice deal with it or are you one of the sidechics that was expecting her to leave her husband for you? You will wait and age cause she is going nowhere.

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    8. You are asking people to stop bashing her, is it YOUR data or your mouth?!

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    9. You are already weepig now, can't you see? Jumping all over the post running from one comment to the other πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  34. This is wrong on all levels. To each, her own.

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  35. She chose money over faithfulness and is shamelessly spouting it on social media, what a shame
    πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ€’πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©πŸ’©

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    1. Pls stop using that nasty poo emoji. It is disgusting!

      Thanks in advance for complying. ANG take note too! You like that silly emoji. #bye

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  36. She made her choice. I watched them live and I can say she is never going to leave that man. She said she already made up her mind that divorce was not an option except in violence due to how she grew up.
    Personally I can never put up with a cheat and I will raise my daughter to know that they have options.

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  37. This interview made me cry. See what these people are encouraging. That’s why even the good men are falling because they’ve been made to think it’s really not a big deal. Just look at them. Shameless women that tie their self worth to roaming penis. Even my grandmother cannot talk like this.

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  38. Did she really say women do things that are worse than cheating like building houses without their husband’s knowledge?!?!?! This woman is a sick.

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  39. In summary, her horseband is a baby spraying Yoruba demon? 😎😎😎😎😎

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    1. Let me shoot my shot with their husbands so i can collect a nice pay off and walk away. That’s the only thing my girlfriends and I picked from this interview. Sugar babies, her we go. πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ€£

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  40. Hmmm, what can I say? She has spoken from her perspective, and like it or not, this is practical advice. Is it ideal? No, but it’s practical.
    My main problem with this type of mindset is not just that the men cheat, but we enable this cheating by letting them know that ‘we are going no where’. He knows this, what then is to stop him from cheating?
    I once attended a wedding where the MC jocularly prayed for the couple, told the woman ‘don’t ever cheat, if you cheat you will be caught and disgraced’ and told the man ‘don’t ever cheat; if you cheat, if you cheat, e go remain small make them catch you’ and the men in the hall were filled with joy and gladness🀨
    It’s ingrained in our society, because we don’t have laws that protect women. If we did, the stakes would be higher, cheating would not be exterminated, but not as brazen as it is now.
    Sometimes I read advice here where women are asked to pack up and leave a cheating husband, smh, that is the ideal response, but how practical is it? In this society where some women are nothing without their husbands, abi wasn’t it on this blog that someone said a woman doesn’t have to bring anything to the table as she is the damn table πŸ˜•? Where do you go to if you can’t butter your bread without your husband? That’s the first practical hurdle. Then even for those that are independent, leaving could be difficult because they don’t want to be alone, it’s not everyone that will be lucky enough to remarry, and even fewer people will be lucky to get married to a faithful man. They weigh their odds and remain where they are since the society and this type of thinking has ensured it ‘rains almost everywhere’
    It’s really a pity.

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    1. I read that comment about the table mystic. And I support it 100%. Mind you, I am made. I am a straight As student. Bsc to PhD. I work and have my own business. I have my own house and cars. Money is not my problem. but usual pickmes would never understand I guess. A man is meant to provide while I support but a man expecting me to shoulder all his responsibility must be dreaming or looking to see if I can lift his own weight must be high on something.

      There are a lot of women who feed and cloth these men but they still take these women's money out there to spend on other women. So it has nothing to do with women depending on men for the most part. My cousin is stinkingly rich but her hubby is a whole baggage on his own. Cheats with everything in lingerie and adds nothing to their home. If only she knows she is the table she would have kicked his behind to the curb. Women need to know their worth girl.

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    2. I will fire that kind of useless MC

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    3. Anon 11:13, so long as you have said ‘ A man is meant to provide while I support...’ we are on the same page. Having your money is not for the man’s security or enjoyment but for YOUR own security. I don’t know why some interpret this as being available to be leeched on.
      I can’t respect a man that can’t hold his own.

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  41. Hmmm, what can I say? She has spoken from her perspective, and like it or not, this is practical advice. Is it ideal? No, but it’s practical.
    My main problem with this type of mindset is not just that the men cheat, but we enable this cheating by letting them know that ‘we are going no where’. He knows this, what then is to stop him from cheating?
    I once attended a wedding where the MC jocularly prayed for the couple, told the woman ‘don’t ever cheat, if you cheat you will be caught and disgraced’ and told the man ‘don’t ever cheat; if you cheat, if you cheat, e go remain small make them catch you’ and the men in the hall were filled with joy and gladness🀨
    It’s ingrained in our society, because we don’t have laws that protect women. If we did, the stakes would be higher, cheating would not be exterminated, but not as brazen as it is now.
    Sometimes I read advice here where women are asked to pack up and leave a cheating husband, smh, that is the ideal response, but how practical is it? In this society where some women are nothing without their husbands, abi wasn’t it on this blog that someone said a woman doesn’t have to bring anything to the table? Where do you go to if you can’t butter your bread without your husband? That’s the first practical hurdle. Then even for those that are independent, leaving could be difficult because they don’t want to be alone, it’s not everyone that will be lucky enough to remarry, and even fewer people will be lucky to get married to a faithful man. They weigh their odds and remain where they are since the society and this type of thinking has ensured it ‘rains almost everywhere’
    It’s really a pity.

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    1. You are a wise woman woman, proud that people like you exist.

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  42. See all the coded lesbians and feminists hyperventilating! So, forgiveness and love is now termed low self esteem! While you and your high self-esteem wallow in one room apartments! This advice is only for ladies who want to keep their homes, it is not for everybody! So, if your aim is to stay single and frustrated like Toke Makinwa and her three overused dildos, please disregard her advice! Ladies, it is not a crime to remain single and frustrated, so please don't marry!

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    1. Hope you will keep the same energy when you marry a white girl

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    2. Heya, pele. Your husband is sharing himself all over the place like akara, you are here dissing singles instead of facing him

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    3. You made this same comment on LIB and since it didnt get you the attention you crave, you decided to come here. I don't think you have a life, or else you wouldn't be this starved for attention. Not a lesbian but a proud feminist and I've been happily married for 15 years. My husband knows I won't tolerate cheating and so I don't deal with any cheating.If you know your worth, men will treat you as a worthy woman. If they know you are a doormat, they will walk all over you.

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    4. Anon 11:13 if that's what you console yourself with,continue. Instead of you to love yourself and know you deserve better

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  43. The funny thing is....many married women cheat too. Even the ones on these blog.

    They cheat with other men physically and emotionally but will claim they don't.

    Even when they do...they will give excuses that the man started cheating before they decided to cheat.

    Most men who find out that their wife cheated actually hide it and continue the marriage.

    Yes..many men throw their wives out...but most men who find out actually keep that marriage.

    And most men who find out their wives cheat will never say pim to anyone about it.

    Why? Because you Are automatically seen As a weak man the moment people find out your wife cheated. So most men keep it silent.

    Fact: more Married Women cheat more than Married men. You just don't think so because the women don't do the chasing. The men do.

    But no woman will admit to this fact. After all....they get more guys asking them for sex than the other way round.

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    1. Thank you. So I don't know why everyone is pretending not to know this. Was it not a married woman that sacked a guy for not sleeping with her? The man became jobless straight despite he begged he has a wife and children at home to feed. People keep thinking side chicks are single ladies will be shocked to find out that married women has taken over since eons.

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    2. Why is this comment being ignored? πŸ˜‚

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    3. A lot of what you have said is true.
      A good number of men hide it when they discover their wives are cheating and remain in the marriage. The society as a whole has no moral code, everyone does as they please, men and women alike.

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  44. Hehehehe, so many hypocrites exist on this blog...
    Most of them encourage Chioma to marry Davido and they are aware of his ever wandering blokos o 😢 but want Mrs Ajimobi to leave her husband of more than 20 years for just cheating o, e nor give woman belly for outside like bros Davido did while he was still dating ChiomaπŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

    Una go dey alright, I'm taking a walk with my new found friend, A cat. see y'all later ndi hypocritesπŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

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    1. Her marriage is even 40yrs. Her first daughter is 39. i cant abuse my mothers mate,if dat is what has worked for her marriage,she knows better. See her shinning pls i want to shine like this at 60,she lacks nothing,plus all the kids are married with their own kids. Shes a fulfilled grandmother to many.

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    2. I for one, think it's disgraceful that Chioma tolerated (and still continues to tolerate) that from Davido , so I'm not one of these "hypocrites" you talk about.
      It's one thing if your spouse made a mistake and he's genuinely remorseful and wants to rebuild the marriage. That's worth working on.
      But for him to keep cheating, knowing that it hurts her, knowing that it breaks her heart, it means he doesn't genuinely value her or care if she's hurt.I know if I loved someone, I wouldn't keep doing things that hurt them. Would you want your daughter to live in pain and heartbreak? Always wondering if he's cheating, if she's good enough, what she's doing wrong, crying herself to sleep and all that? Is that the life you want for your daughter?
      Like the Hausa woman who stabbed her husband for cheating. It never had to get to that! She should've just left him.
      I KNOW that if Florence was the one doing this, Ajimobi would've dumped her a long time ago! 5 children or not.
      African women, we need to hold our men accountable more. We give them too much of a pass and that's why they feel that cheating is their birthright. They CAN be faithful. Their western counterparts don't have two heads.

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    3. Take a walk where? No oh, come and continue running all about people's comments na πŸ™„πŸ™„ Iranu

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    4. 40years @anon12:48😲😲😲 lemme carry biro and paper to note some points in what she said cause me too I want an everlasting marriage o😍😍😍

      Anon 12:54 I know cheating hurts, especially when you are faithful and love the man,divorce shouldn'be the next step nah . And if you think it's only African men that cheat and their western counterparts don't cheat..I laugh in amharic πŸ˜…πŸ˜… , So Jeff Bezos and Jay-Z nko, what did they do again? ..no perfect human exist be it a male or female.
      I am not supporting cheating but since it has happened, what you ve to do as a woman is talk it through with the man and not just to pack load and vamoose. I believe in dialogue in marriage and not divorce, only condone divorce when domestic violence is involved.

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    5. Talk it through with the man?! πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£

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    6. An everlasting marriage doesn't mean a happy marriage, instead pray for a happy one that he will have eyes just for you alone

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    7. So you mean you will keep talking through it over and over again? You go talk tire then.. that's why that man keeps cheating and is still cheating on her cause he knows she goes nowhere no matter what happens

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  45. Intelligent comment mystic...thank you. I'm short of words but I know I can't stand a cheating man I have never experienced cheating either while dating or married, my territory has never been threatened in that aspect but I know I won't stand for it. Women pls keep hustling so you can have options, having no option is the worse and it all boils down to discipline too, if we women can be disciplined about these things and true to theut vows, our men can too only if they want to, but most are already bent on been a cheat

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    1. ‘ Women pls keep hustling so you can have options’
      On point!!!πŸ‘πŸΌ

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  46. Not everyone who disagrees with what she shared is a feminist or female empowerment. We're sad that because of the way this was discussed they have enabled the current and future generation of men to believe that there are no repercussions for cheating on their wives, after all their wife should stay and keep the home.
    Adultery is a sin and is the only scriptural grounds for divorce. When any partner in a marriage dishonours the other and defiles there marital bed by sleeping with another woman, they have breached the covenant they entered into with their spouse.
    Adultery should never be encouraged, applauded or overlooked. And actually it brings judgment upon the one who commits adultery.
    Whilst I respect Mrs Ajimobi, I am really sad about what she shared. This should not have been a public discussion. She has exposed her and her husbands nakedness.
    I pray God has mercy upon her and continues to keep her and I pray that God will indeed fight this battle for her and there will be no more adultery in her home.

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    1. **She has exposed her and her husbands nakedness. 

      Honestly

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  47. Is there actually any woman on this blog that will divorce a billionaire and man of power for mere cheating? Lol. Make una dey Mumu una sef

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    1. Because in Nigeria the woman will still leave empty handed. That’s another reason they stay.
      Didn’t Jeff Bezos wife divorce his cheating ass?
      Marriage doesn’t really favor the women in Nigeria that’s why.

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  48. Rubbish! Shameless women everywhere! I'm not surprised, that's how women of her generation are. They'll be there celebrating 25, 30, 40 years marriage anniversary and be condemning our generation for early divorces. Lazy and shameless women! Our generation of women are more hardworking and independent. Our self esteem is not tied to the men in our lives.

    That's how my mother got knowledge of my father abusing me sexually and she didn't do anything tangible about it. That's after having knowledge that he was having affairs with most of her friends, molesting her cousins and nieces, some of our neighbors, his students, practically everything that had a vagina. Dumb asses! Ruth dem!!!

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      Sorry about your experience. The desperation of Nigerian women is nothing short of SHAMEFUL.

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    2. Sorry sis. No offence, but your mother is weak. Some lines should never be crossed

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    3. @anon 12:52, if people like you complain, I will understand. Sorry for your experience.

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  49. The only time I will advise a woman to leave her marriage is when unprovocked violence is involved. Yes, cheating is bad but if you leave your marriage because of cheating, Do not bother remarrying o. The next man may do worse! No wonder the Samaritan woman kept changing husbands. It takes the grace of God for a man to stick to one woman consistently without winking at another woman.

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    1. It also takes the grace of God to keep to one man consistently.

      I am currently single and believe me I pray for God's help to be faithful. I have never cheated but God help me. The kind of men I have been coming across these days could make a sister commit. Fine ass men everywhere. I honestly think men are finer than women if you ask me. They don't apply make up, make their hair and all that but these boxboxes of chocolate and caramel be making a nun reconsider her vows.

      I saw one last year and I have been having sleepless night believe me if you are a man you won't understand. How can a man be that handsome? I started and stared till I almost twisted my neck. I turned over and had to look again. I didn't care if anyone was watching. Dude was so fine. As if that wasn't enough the next day at a conference I saw another heavenly drops of dew, I melted literally. His lips, eyes, his broad shoulders. How could a man be fine like that?😩😭😭 he caught me staring and he smiled. I thought to myself "I can't be the only want feeling like this" thankfully My friends says they feel the same way too. My man is handsome and all and I love him but you won't understand. You just won't😞

      I think I need to write a chronicle to stell😩

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    2. Blog visitors heheπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  50. I thought she was an enlightened person. A mixed Lebanese woman with rich parents saying all these. 

    Women that openly preach this nonsense have suffered much emotional abuse from their husbands & have accepted being a doormat as a coping mechanism. Sad.

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  51. Let's stop with the half baked stories. Pls listen and watch the IG Video. Her husband was also a part of it briefly.She said her own truth and shared her experience. She raised very valid points. You don't have to agree with her in all she said.

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  52. She even strongly advised the women to leave on the basis of DV. This woman was real and I'm glad I watched her Video.

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  53. I love Perxian9 April 2020 at 14:21

    Alexa play me 'speechless'

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  54. I respect chiamaoke nnamani and Sullivan chime 1st wives they left their cheating ass even when they are gov, they didn't look back cos their self esteem is intact

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