STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
RICH HUBBY REFUSES TO HELP WICKED RELATIVES:
Hi Stella,
My husband is a very successful man. In his family line going back to three generations, he is the first person to have succeeded in extraordinary fashion. People from his village and his family usually did not do well. My husband seems to be the one to have broken the jinx.
My late father-in-law (my husband’s late father) looked like he was going to be very successful. He was extremely smart and was the first person in his village to study for a first and second degree and went on to work for some private companies where he was paid well. He wasn't rich o, but compared to his siblings, he was wealthy.
His father’s siblings (who were all unambitious and stayed in the village) envied him. Even though my late father-in-law tried to help his siblings, their children and the community, his family never fully appreciated him and always talked ill of him. You know how village people can be sometimes with their wicked hearts.
Also and the village where my husband comes from has a reputation for wicked village people and witches, etc.
Somewhere along the line my late father-in-law’s fortunes reversed. He lost his job and struggled to secure another. My husband told me that while growing up, they got broke. They went from church to church praying for answers and it was revealed on different occasions that my late father-in-law’s siblings and family members were the ones working against him spiritually.
Somewhere along the line my late father-in-law’s fortunes reversed. He lost his job and struggled to secure another. My husband told me that while growing up, they got broke. They went from church to church praying for answers and it was revealed on different occasions that my late father-in-law’s siblings and family members were the ones working against him spiritually.
The story I am told is that my father-in-law never regained his fortunes and he died penniless. He did not even leave anY inheritance for his children (my husband included). For this reason, my husband HATES his village and his father’s people. He has not visited in more than 30 years, our children have never visited. He does not associate with any person from his father’s side.
When we were getting married, he just hustled some elderly people from Lagos to act like his uncles, etc.
Because my FIL left nothing for my husband and his siblings, my husband and his siblings all had to hustle and work and find their own ways in life. They are now doing well and settled, but my husband’s own success has been extraordinary.
He was able to get a scholarship and studied in the U.K and Netherlands where he worked for many years for some oil companies. During the time of Obasanjo, he came back to Nigeria, and together with some of his former colleagues in the U.K, they raised money from some foreign investors and they successfully acquired some marginal oil fields in Nigeria. Marginal oil fields are fields that have been discovered and owned by the foreign companies but because of their relatively little reserves they are not usually attractive to the big IOCs, so they abandon them.
Because my FIL left nothing for my husband and his siblings, my husband and his siblings all had to hustle and work and find their own ways in life. They are now doing well and settled, but my husband’s own success has been extraordinary.
He was able to get a scholarship and studied in the U.K and Netherlands where he worked for many years for some oil companies. During the time of Obasanjo, he came back to Nigeria, and together with some of his former colleagues in the U.K, they raised money from some foreign investors and they successfully acquired some marginal oil fields in Nigeria. Marginal oil fields are fields that have been discovered and owned by the foreign companies but because of their relatively little reserves they are not usually attractive to the big IOCs, so they abandon them.
For instance, fields producing 700 or 1,000 barrels per day. My husband’s consortium had the foresight to buy these assets and they turned them profitable and sold the company to a British oil firm. My husband and his partners did very well on the deal and he came into a lot of money. Of course he is nowhere on Alakija or Adenuga’s level but he is quite wealthy and everyone back in his village knows it.
My husband is a generous man to the people he loves. He has settled all his siblings and bought each of them houses in Lagos and even set up a generous trust fund for them and their children so that they can be taken care of. He helps as many people as he can. However, my husband has refused to do anything for his uncles and his cousins from his father’s side. He does not associate with them, and ALL OF THEM are living in ABJECT poverty.
My husband is a generous man to the people he loves. He has settled all his siblings and bought each of them houses in Lagos and even set up a generous trust fund for them and their children so that they can be taken care of. He helps as many people as he can. However, my husband has refused to do anything for his uncles and his cousins from his father’s side. He does not associate with them, and ALL OF THEM are living in ABJECT poverty.
People from the community keep abusing my husband that how can he be so wealthy and his uncles and cousins are living from hand to mouth? Their family head tried to get their village king to summon my husband, but my husband does not even send the King. He did not even respond to the summon. He doesn’t care about any of them really. He says his uncles and aunties are wicked and destroyed his father’s destiny and they don’t even like him and his siblings, and so he doesn’t have anything to do with them.
He believes they are all witches and even though he is in a place where it is almost impossible to ever get broke again because of how well he has diversified and spread his investments, he worries that any engagement with them might send him to brokenness like his dad.
One of his Uncle’s wife's has a major illness and he has refused to help. He believes he is justified in withholding help. Is he really?
* Hmmmmmmmmm if he gives he might be opening a window for them to come in and destroy his wealth?Your hubby might be right or wrong.
Maybe this is the reason some rich folks refuse to help some people....
Hmm Omo this is one gidi oh..I really dunno what to say..May God give him wisdom and directions and in all, keep praying for him and hold God very dear and near your heart..Make sure the hedge is not broken;always fortify it with the power of God so the serpent will not bite..All the best
ReplyDeleteOriginal poster what is your own in the matter? it seems you are tired of enjoyment and want to lose your husband. You don't know the level of hatred his unclea have gathered over the years for him and his family for not coming to pay homage to them.
DeleteYou really don'know how these wizards and witches work, if you do you will not go close to them. They know their lives are ruined and they don't care what extent they go to ruin others lives.
Leave your hubby alone to care for your kids and you.
The wickedness of the fathers will be passed unto the kids.
If they want wealth , they should pray and work hard like your hubby did.
If those women knew how bad the family was and married into it, who's fault is it?
The only wisdom that man needs is to fashi them abeg. They should work and end abject poverty in their live too!
DeleteI'm touched. This poster is a good wife unlike some Bvs😏.
DeleteSome wives won't send their husband's people at all. It may look like your husband is heartless but he may be right. It may be the nemesis that is catching those relatives.
Truth is not all those ppl like your husband.
I feel you but this world is a wicked place. Your husband may be right.
It is possible for a billionaire to become wretched. I have seen it happen b4
@Anonymous 16:25. you are right. Rich men fall yakata if devil put hand for their life. The poster doesn't know what God is saving her from. Left for me, i want to have nothing to do with such people. The God that blesses is alive and can bless anyone who prays and works hard.
DeleteJust like my Sister's case. Her husband was warned never to give his mum cash, but due to pity he did. He nearly became Zero but thank God for fasting and prayers Someone that left him since he was 3month and never looked back until she heard he has made it big. Dont joke with witches and wizards. let your husband's family work hard too and become rich.
DeletePoster, you must be incredibly naive. You say its impossible to go broke? Lolllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
DeleteYou never jam correct 'whinch' and "winzard' that reduce vast billions to a few pennies.
Face front.
What did I say?
I said FACE FRONT.
There is a reason why many of us dont venture near our paternal or maternal villages, no be say we dey fear say we go loss for road.
Poster, I am not understanding you at all. Let your husband be and let him enjoy all he's laboured for.
DeleteNa jeje wahala sit down oooo, dont go looking for what ul regret.
Poster your husband can help because the bible says Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.”-- Romans 12:20
DeleteBut the question you should ask your self is that "is your husband rooted in faith?"
If he is hot in Christ Jesus believe me those people can do him nothing... but if he isn't...toh! It is well
Exact story of my fathers life just that he still carries these family members that hate him and does little or nothing to hide it on his head like Gala.
DeleteOnce my dad makes any close attempt at a major breakthrough something will sha come and scatter everything and if we begin to pray about it the messages we keep getting is that it’s the handiwork of household enemies but will baba calm down...NO
Now that they’ve succeeded in making him lose his Job na em know what else remain for am.
You see this family members eh make dem ready wait me cos I’m not a man of love, I’m war and I’m the Indabosky cos those people don’t deserve anything good and me I ready to deal with them squarely. The only thing paining me is that my elder brother is just like my Dad Nwoke di too quiet.
Poster please respect your husbands decision unless better thing dey run your belle.
Laslas fear household enemy.
Poster its like devil is beating drum on ur head, if u like dont use ur tongue to count ur teeth, you would soon dance to the tune of porverty of you dont wisen up now. Shuuu!
DeleteThere’s a Yoruba adage that says, “Ti ‘su ba jina a maan fowo bo je’
DeletePray for him and don’t ever compel him to give help!
Your husband can get a doctor to look into the sick woman's case but should never drop cash.
ReplyDeletePlease he should run away from them or else the story of his father may likely repeat in his life.
It is impossible to help everyone.
The one he has done for outsiders will still speak for him
Twins Squared
And poster if you think your husband can never go broke again, ask Job in the Bible.
DeleteYour prayers should be wicked people should not remember you and that God should not permit it.
That's it! @ Twins Square. God have mercy on us and save from the wickedness of the wicked. Amen.
DeleteExactly... Poster, please free your husband. He does not hold them anything. He's obliged to help whosoever he wishes..
DeleteHe takes care of his family, siblings and other people he feels like helping so let him be...
Madam, you don't know village people. May you not experience their wrath... Pray for them not to remember you
Please, free your husband..
Poster please leave your husband alone, he will not be broke but they may kill him. The same thing happened to my dad but thank God my mum is a formidable force, if not we would have begged for food not after my dad has trained many of them, fear village people.
DeleteGolibe, leave her oh. She wants to do Feyitola Nightingale.
DeleteWhen they deal with her, her eye will clear sharp.
Let us please read her write-up again. She said ...'almost impossible to go broke' she did not say impossible. Which means there's a slim probability of going broke.
DeleteHaving said that, poster you have a good heart but please let your husband be. The bible says that the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
Jeremiah 17:9
Surely..the wickedness of the wicked will surely come to an end!
DeletePoster I will advice u leave ur husband alone pls.
Sometimes when you help certain people, they take your money and tie it, you will see all your hard work down d drain cuz you mistakenly gave money to some who hates you but pretends to like you, that's why you place a pact on any money you give out. You see some village uncles$aunties, fear them. And you, remove eye from what you know nothing about its origin.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe that anyone is spiritually capable of such. But I know the power of Love. If your condition is so bad that you are unable to attract Love even from a family member, then truly you have scorned love. Remember Love is God.
DeleteMadam leave him alone. If your in-laws have any iota of Love in them, it will call out to that of your husband's someday and he will respond. Till then, if ever, madam face your front
Sapphire, people are spiritually capable of such. I was working for 4 years and earning almost 200k but constantly struggling financially.
DeleteUntil God opened my eyes to see who my problem was and I cut the person off permanently. God can help anybody, I will help those around me but not to my detriment. Madam Poster, face your front.
Madam don't use your hand to create problem for yourself, let your husband be and face ur front.
DeleteThis poster please I beg you, allow your husband to be. Hope you have your own money.
DeleteDont push him to do what he doesn't want to do and do you think for your husband to reach that level na moi-moi? Don't join them and bring him down.
Even you the poster, don't give anyone money but you can give them foodstuff that's if your hubby permits that and be careful.
Give them and let them use it against him. Use your tongue to count your teeth madam poster
ReplyDeleteYanga dey sleep,trouble dey go wake am.
DeleteYou will be amazed how broke your husband will get even with all his investment,witches no dey joke when they want to bring someone down.
If you're a good wife,you should be afraid when he wants to give to those people.
Assuming you've had any experience with them,you wont even want to hear their names not to talk of give them one penny. A word is enough for you.
Brown sugar 💯 💯
DeleteMy husband till date is still suffering finnacial difficulty because he built a house for his father in the village. Everywhere we go, they keep telling him building that house exposed him and the village people are angry. We have been praying and still praying for total deliverance. Since he built that house 5years ago, things have not been yhe same for us. He lost his job, got another job earning 2 million monthly, but he uses that two million to pay debts every single month. Now he has even lost that job again. We know God will deliver us, when is when we don't know. Poster leave your husband alone. Go and cover your head and cover the blessings God has given you. Don't push your husbans to his death. Do not, i repeat, do not blame your self later in life. You see dont wicked people, they are wicked without apology. I won't be surprised if they are waitibg for him to help them so they can ruin him finally
DeleteBrown sugar 👍👍👍👍👍👍. I fear who know fear village people...
DeleteHe shouldn't help. No need to open that window.
ReplyDeleteSome family members can be evil. Trust me, if he does anything for them, that might be his undoing. Affliction shall not rise for the second time. Amen
madam dont say he cant go broke, even job went broke in a day.... i will adviae he avoid his family members and also be spiritually strong, cos the spiritual controls the physical
DeleteNawa o
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
What do you want s to do with this story now ? Can you leave the man alone and let him run his life he way he want and stop telling people about his background and his fortune.
ReplyDeleteSee the way you described him now and you never made mentioned of yourself anywhere.
Insider, don't sell him to wicked outsider o.
I have to agree with you Don. Madam kindly leave your husband alone. It is well.
DeleteLovelace.
Thank you Don! See the way she exposed him, so annoying! Poster mind your business and allow your husband help who he wants to help
DeleteDon, you're on point. Exposing the man to outsiders.
DeleteMadam, Biko let your husband be and allow him to maintain his decision. He's totally right..
My point exactly,even people who know them personally will recognize from her description, madam I hope this not how you go about describing your husband,you’re exposing him to spiritual attack if you don’t know.
Delete@Poster, let ur husband be. Dont force him to give them. Village people no be am.
ReplyDeletePoster,you won't stay and enjoy your home in peace,wickedness from high and village places is not what you would want to experience,My Uncle does diabolical manipulation for a living so I understand your husband clearly.
DeleteNedi Glamour, my own na 3 different uncles and several aunties and other village people. It is well.
DeleteAnon19:28,God will keep giving his Angels charge over us and all that pertains to us.
DeleteOne of the fruits of the Spirit is KINDNESS and the Scripture made us know that above such there is no law...Gal. 5:20-23
ReplyDeleteThe law of death does not work against anyone that is kind, loving, peaceful, selfless etc. For there is now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus...Rom. 8:1
Being in Christ Jesus is the prerequisite. If one is not in Christ,
no matter how wealthy one is, there is no hedge around his/her wealth, thus the fear that surrounds the person and resides in his heart. Everything that person owns can fizzle away in a moment and yes, it can.
This is the tragedy of the life outside of Christ.
You’re a big fool anon 15.10 na religion go wound una . Poster there’s no money that can’t finish look at what’s going on in the world. Leave your husband alone. Am talking from experience leave him be . Don’t go looking for trouble from village people. Why can’t you help from your own pocket. Over sabi make e be like say you be good wife . Abeg bounce.
DeleteWhat are you saying in essence?
Delete15.10 may your hate and evil mind consume you in one gulp! So in everything this woman wrote you couldn't proffer an advice but threaten her that their wealth will vanish until they accept your religion?! You are terrible, jealous, self sanctimonious and far from being the Christian you think you are.
Delete@Baltika
DeleteWhat I am saying in essence are;
1. The husband is afraid of dying from being kind to his relatives because he is not in Christ.
2. Not being in Christ, his wealth can disappear no matter how enormous they seem.
Wealth do develop wings and fly away...Proverbs 23:5
I am not talking about being in "religion," I am talking about being in Christ.
God bless you @15:41
DeleteAwon association of beggars,if the family were good it would have been different,and you are here quoting bible passages.
Delete@Shooter
DeleteThe same God you are miffed at his Word quoted above? People now have a form of godliness but deny the power.
Nothing calls for this kind of diabolical fury in what **** wrote above.
Poster don't listen to this person telling you about kindness o. This one is a baby abd hasn't seen life. Forget kindness. Take that kindness to people who are pure and clean in heart not village wicked witches. Even the bible says, suffer not the witch to live. See, may you not experience the wrath of those wicked people. You will pray it will seem as if God is not listening. Years, you will be praying. Though God will eventually hear, but the suffer won't be worth. My uncle left his wife, the woman reported him to some prophet of baal. They so dealth with my uncle till date, everywhre he goes, its the same thing they keep telling him. If you jam those people, to get deliverance no be beans oooo
Delete@17:14
DeleteSo how many witches have you killed in your lifetime?
Did you also quote Acts 19:19 where witches were saved and brought their
books to be burnt?
If religion could save Nigeria it won’t be in the mess it’s in
DeleteI know a former governor that became so poor he was using okada
DeleteAnonymous 17.30, maybe you are one of them oo. Abeg lesve me alone, i no look for una trouble ooo. I am only advising the poster. Since you have become an advocate and solicitor of witches. Biko no vex
Delete@18:36
Deleteaka killer of witches. Why not kill me since "I am one of them". Thank God I found Christ.
Jesus died for witches too. And do not forget that "the sin of disobedience is like the sin of witchcraft..." 1 Sam. 15:23
At ano 15:10 simply stated the truth, there's no need to crucify her... the bible says "you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free"... the bible says Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.”... just because the truth is bitter doesn't mean we should not say it... i am telling you, if we truely have the love of God in our hearts, we will never be afraid of the devil and his agents... because the love in us gives us the assurance that greater is he that is in us than he that is in the world.
DeleteMay the Good Lord grant us the grace to love him wholeheartedly in Jesus name (Amen)... Shalom
The husband may not be afraid of dying. There are people you want nothing to do with and you cut off.
DeleteHaving said that, Poster leave your husband alone. If they could hurt his dad, then they can hurt him. How spiritually strong is he that you want him to start what he may not be able to finish? Please helping is not mandatory, let him be and stop pressuring him.
Abroadian BV
Poster your hubby is doing the right thing. Pls don't go behind his back to assist them o, to avoid had i known.
ReplyDeleteI'm honestly worried she might do this
DeleteExactly Rose after all na his people
DeleteShe would be very foolish to go behind his back to do such.
DeleteThereby opening up their family finances to attack!
Anyone who is rich and thinks he can never be poor is mistaken. Poverty is not lack of money. When a person is sick unto death or hooked on drugs, prostitution, gambling etc. this person is poor and a servant to iniquity. he can turn to rags anytime. 😏😏😏😏
ReplyDeleteDear Poster ...........hmmm
ReplyDeleteMy dear Poster ♥, please tread with caution and wisdom 🙏 I'm pleading with you.
Are you a Christian? Do you seek God's counsel before making decisions.
I come from a similar family but I thank God for the pillar my mom is else it could have been a different story.
The only thing I'd tell you is why it is okay to help family members ,it is best to prayerfully do these things ♥ 💖 ❤.
I think you should allow ur husband do what he wants in that regard and don’t interfere o, what he starts helping them and they start over asking for help and then he can’t keep up and they get jealous and start attacking u Nd ur kids or even him, then he will say u joined forces with them to destroy him Nd start blaming u. Don’t say he never b broke again o, it’s like u v not heard of ‘ spiritual wickedness in high places before’. Except you are very rooted in Christ , please leave ur village pple alone o they will b fine!
ReplyDeleteEven if she's rooted in Christ, is that an opportunity to expose her family to danger???
DeleteI’m not religious but I believe in Christ Jesus. What if not helping this sick woman is going to be the avenue through which locusts and caterpillars enter into this man’s finances? What if this incidence is meant to teach this man forgiveness? What if God wants this man to help this woman? I really don’t know. But poster go into fasting and prayer so God will direct you on what to do.
DeleteAnon 18:18 all what you wrote there is assumption and God doesn't work that way unless the god you worship is a wicked god.
DeleteYou just make Christianity look somehow, make God look like a hawk, that's about to kill at anytime.
God doesn't use wickedness an evil to test his own people..
What if indeed. Abeg, he has forgiven in his heart but he doesn't want to help, no be by force.
DeleteI don’t think I have made God look wicked and I serve the God who is gracious and merciful. Let us look at job’s situation in the Bible through the eyes of his friends. Lets say we do not know the truth like we do ( that it was God who gave the devil the permission to attack him) , probably we would have said more terrible stuffs than his friends did. If it happened today, we would say he is a ritualist or whatever else we can say led to his sufferings. After Job prayer for his friends that mocked him, that was when God restored his prosperity .. Poster if the sickness is unto death and you know that with money the death can be averted, pray for God’s leading. Don’t take actions without his leadings. That’s all....ask God is all I’m saying
DeleteYou people have lived in peace and affluence all these years, your husband knows where it is pinching him.
ReplyDeleteYou better leave those diabolical people because by the time u open the door of your home and heart to them, u see that wealth u think can never go down, it will surprise you what those village people are capable of.
Please let your husband continue to ignore them. You dunno what could happen if he decides to help just one person from that side, you dunno oh
Leave her o.. Na jeje trouble dey sleep, her yanga Wan go wake am! Continue you hear madam
DeleteHonestly. In as much as it’s good to help, but one can’t possibly help everybody.
DeletePoster leave your husband...don’t push him too much. Because if he finally helps and things go south, guess who the blame would be on.only he can make up his mind on what he wants to do. I’d just advise you assist him with prayers.
And that was quite a vivid explanation on how your husband got his money.
Hmmmmm....I think your husband knows what he's doing because the heart of man is desperately wicked. Given what the village people (FIL siblings) did to your FIL and children, do you really want to gamble your immediate family's life & wealth again all in the name of doing good?.
ReplyDeleteWell, if you really want to render help to the sick woman, I suggest you pay directly to the hospital account.
Pls do not make the mistake of giving money directly to those so called wicked uncles and aunties because, trust me witches and wizards are real. Pls a very rich man can go from grace to grass. Be wise!
If he doesn't wanna help, don't force him because by the time he is broke, the story would change. Why would the king and elders summon him? For what? Did he kill somebody or commit a crime by being wealthy? Pls those village people should leave him alone. It's a good thing he ignored them. He needs to focus on his family and wealth pls. No distraction for now
ReplyDeleteThat summon by the king and the elders got me...
DeleteWhere were they when he was suffering???
When I heard the king summoned him I was like how so the king can summon but cannot help them out or sponsor the sick lady
DeleteSomething is fishy sha
Poster please let the man be if he tries to help God forbid and there is a change of fortune what do u think can happen to you, your marriage,kids.
ReplyDeletePOSTER LET SLEEPING DOG LIE.
That was how my dad used all his savings to train his junior ones,extended family coming from village our house is their first port of call in Lagos,build a house in the village,the building was on linted level when he got sick & died in 2004,since then till now me and my younger siblings trained ourselves with the help of our mum.This is a man that can starve us just because he wants to help both families & friend,is it those ones we would call that don't pick our calls nor dim it fit to call back,or the ones that don't know if we have shelter over our head or sleeping under the bridge.
I know nothing about this kind of spiritual matters, but his reasons might be justifiable. Only him knows what he went through so I will advice you to leave the matter for Mathias. Don't give his money to people he doesn't want his money to get to. Face your immediate family and leave him to worry about this one.
ReplyDeleteI'm even thinking his village people are trying to use you to get him.
DeleteMadam poster please face your front o. It seems you don't understand how this things work. Face your front and mind your business
Hnmmmm this one hard
ReplyDeleteDear poster, if you insist why don't you advise him to help through the local church in the village. He can do that anonymously without them knowing he is the one helping. But I fear some village people Sha. Pray to God for wisdom and direction on how to go about talking to him. You are a good person, some other wives would have just balanced and enjoy themselves without thinking about others.
ReplyDeleteIs it only your husband,what of his siblings? Are they helping their cousins?
ReplyDeleteHe should keep his distance as he has been doing
My 2kobo!
Poster, families differ. You don't know his people more than him. Please, let him be. This is difficult but let him be. Support him with prayers always.
ReplyDeleteIf he wants to help the sick woman, he can pay to the hospital directly and not give cash for her to treated.
@poster ur husband should go through a third party always when dealing with them.......that's if he eventually chooses to
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeletePlease let your husband deal with his family as he sees fit. while i understand that you pity their condition i need you to understand that his fears and reasons for staying away are valid. He's duty is to his nuclear family only and his extended families all have the same 24 hours he has to make money...so let them go and make money for themselves, THEY ARE NOT ENTITLED TO HIS MONEY AND HE IS NOT OBLIGATED TO HELP THEM...SO LAY OFF THE MENTALITY THAT HE OWES THEM ANYTHING.
Don't use your hands to bring problem into your home, Remember he knows their history of Evil against his father better than you, so let things be as they are.
LEP
The truth is that it's only God's grace that keeping us, village people can locate anybody anywhere! That been said,let your husband be but if you are not ok! Let him help the sick woman from afar anonymously in the hospital,by so doing he won't come in contact with the sick woman! Just pay bills directly to the hospital account that's all
ReplyDeleteAll the best poster and intensify your prayers for your family
I think I agree with Stella. From past experience his dad had,giving them maybe an opening for them to repeat same evil meted to his late dad.
ReplyDeleteYou are a nice person and wants him to give to them but know that if you are eventually able to convince him,you are going to be engaging in lots of midnight prayers sis.
I will say you leave him,atleast it's not a case of him being stingy but of him being careful..
My 2cents.
My dear your husband is a wise man.
ReplyDeleteI am speaking from life experiences,he should help but he should not send the money directly to them.
Some family members are pure evil.
Hmmm Poster, there is no place, point of wealth or level of diversification of investment where it's almost impossible to go broke again. You don't even know the meaning of "village people". Do you?
ReplyDeleteLeave him alone. He knows his people more than you do.
Poster just pull your 2 ears! LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND ALONE!HE IS A SPIRITUAL MAN. DON'T PRESSURE HIM INTO UNTIMELY DEATH.AND YOU, DON'T EVER ATTEMPT TO REACH OUT TO THOSE PEOPLE. DO NOT ATTRACT ANTS&RODENTS TO YOUR PEACEFUL LIFE. FACE FRONT!!!
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeletePoster if you guys are well grounded spiritually ie in Christ then you can help. But also do so cautiously if possible do it via 2nd, 3rd parties and never give direct cash.
ReplyDeleteEven if they are grounded spiritually, except God tells them to help them, they should flee. There was a reason God told Abraham to separate from his family. Even when he took lot along, he and his wife nearly caused so much problems for Abraham.
DeleteAnon 15:56, True... The Holy Spirit's direction on all matters is key. Thanks for that pointer.
DeleteAnon was also looking at the being spiritually grounded from the "Job" perspective. The devil had no access to Job because God had a hedge of protection around him, one the devil rightly acknowledged. The enemy got permission from God and after the test and losing all he had it was restored a double fold.
DeleteLol that said this is not a test from God so seek the direction of the Holy Spirit poster on whether or not and how to give. You can never go wrong with the Holy Spirit.
Being grounded spiritually is not an excsue. Didn't God tell us to flee from all appearances of eveil. Why did God tell mary to run away with jesus from herod. Isn't he mighty enough to strike down king herod?. Off course he is. You see, there are some situatuons that you need to rely on what God is telling youm if your spirt is mot telling you to help, then don't. You better run poster
DeletePut yourself in a dangerous situation and be waiting for God to come and get you out.
DeleteYou enter into trouble (problem) when you want to help someone. Let your husband continue facing front and minding his business.
ReplyDeleteThese folks can go to any length to attract his attention to strike.
an advice from someone who knows...:
ReplyDeletehe must never give them cash. ever.
since he has decided to break away from them, so be it. he can pray for them but he owes them NOTHING!
He can forgive but he IS NOT OBLIGATED TO HELP THEM DIRECTLY. Infact, i would go as far as saying he shouldn't.
My two cents
Come madam better leave your husband alone o.
ReplyDeleteWhy should he be kind to them after all they showed him and his siblings ?
Besides you never can tell how it will turn out if he gives them financial help. Its possible that is the way they got to his late dad. Biko leave him as long as he sleeps well at night & is happy with his life..no be by force to give.
Hmmmmmmm. I'm of the opinion that no one should ever have a sense of entitlement to any other person's money. Let the owner of the money decide on what to do with it. It's his (or her) money. No matter how needy I am, I don't give opinion on how people should spend their money. I think you should let him be and keep praying for him. I'm not saying he's right or wrong because even if he's wrong about his extended family, nobody has a right to insult him for not giving them money. After all, he owes them not. It's good to be generous. I support generosity. At the same time, I don't castigate those that refuse to give for whatever reason. I believe it's wrong and an over stepping of one's boundaries.
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DeletePoster just leave this matter. I know you are concerned about the name of your husband but like you said... His father did all but he was still called a wicked man.
He can send a doctor to see the sick relative if he wants. Don't start nagging him about this matter. it may cause a problem in your marriage oh.
Don't ever allow those village people to think you and your hubby are not on the same side oh. That's a recipe for disaster
Madam oversabi poster, your husband has settled his siblings, that should be all. he owes no one a dime. you better face your front and mind your business.
ReplyDeletePoster shebi you were not the one who suffered the suffer that's why you can still be asking this kind of question
ReplyDeleteSuffering part 2 loading if you help them.
And you think his money might not finish? Have you thought of them giving him kidney issues and he's on dialysis all his life? Job was made poor from such height. The feeling you are passing through from him not helping out will not be comparable with when his stretched hand to them is afflicted and you live miserably and in regrets forever.
ReplyDeleteChoose from the two regrets and mind your business
I think you should mind your business. You can't know your husband's people more than him. Your life has been peaceful don't go looking for trouble.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, he knows his people more than you. If it ain't broken, don't fix it. What he has been doing has worked for him over the years, better not to wake up what you are not ready for. People like that have feelings of entitlement, plus pent up resentments dating from your father in laws time. Nothing you do for them now will make them love y'all. Please forget this matter and let your husband do what he is doing...and yes, there's no amount of money that is too much and cannot be emptied in a blink of an eye!
ReplyDeleteSee how some people invite problems for themselves. I support your husband. You should do the same.
ReplyDeleteHe should help them! God has already fought his battle for him and He won the battle on your husband's behalf.
ReplyDeleteHe should find a way to send help to them, if he doesn't want to do it directly.
He can open a bank account for them and put enough money inside for them, that way, he won't be directly giving them money.
Whatever the case may be, he should help them.
My sentiments too. The way almost everybody here has been a victim makes you wonder: So who are these wicked village People?
DeleteMadam I'm telling you from experience, allow your husband deal with them as he pleases. If he doesn't want to help them, let him be or maybe you're tired of the luxury life style you're enjoying. Don't assume that he has gotten to a level he can't go broke, never! This is life and your husband has his reasons.
ReplyDeleteWeldone madam...after your husband has succeeded in cutting off evillinks, you want to be the vulcanised to join him and his Village people again ABI?
ReplyDeleteBetter leave that side of your husband's life for him to handle as he pleases and concentrate on your household.
Please help them so you can know how poverty looks like. It seems you are tired of being wealthy
ReplyDeleteMadam mind your business and face GOD and your family
DeleteIf your husband becomes poor now, your type will run away. You better leave him to make his decisions. That’s why he is the head and the priest of the home. Stop pushing it unless you want to be a widow.
ReplyDeleteMadam, please allow your husband to use his money as he pleases. Pray for him if you so much need him to help his extended family, he will if it's God's will. Who knows whether it's karma that is dealing with the village people
ReplyDeleteDear poster you see what wickedness can bring to someone. Your husband’s relatives in the village suffering today for what they did my dear not your husband’s fault. But this one that someone is ill it’s dicey too. I know of someone that assisted someone for years out of compassion what did the evil one do he began to carry the money to different herbalist for the person to be broke truly the person got broke and left and found out what happened. Human beings are that wicked very crazily wicked. He should pray to God. If God leads him to assist fine but if he doesn’t feel anything after opening his heart to pray to God pls hold your money back. It’s worst to give and evil befalls him very bad pls pray too so that God can touch his heart to assist his relatives. Good luck
ReplyDeleteRespect your husband's decision
ReplyDeletePoster, listen up..Leave your husband ALONE and let him stick to his convictions. A friend of mine kept troubling her husband to reach out to his brothers. He insisted that she shouldn't go there. Anyway, he died and his brothers moved in. Took ALL they ( my friend and her husband ) worked hard for and booted her out of the house she built from scratch with her husband. They exhibited so much wickedness. That was when she understood why her husband kept warning her to leave them alone.
ReplyDeleteShe was not sharp, as the man die na to remove all documents from the house, and cry that they took loan to do business and house documents was used as collateral. after burial, she moves out from there and sell it. case closed.
DeleteI can see you, virtuous woman indeed. Clap for yourself. It seems you want the thunder of poverty to visit you. You better mind you business and face your front. Your husband and his siblings went through a lot and he wants the best for you and his family. It’s good to be charitable but not to those who wants him dead or poor. Pls stop nagging and leave him alone to make his decisions after making your points to him.
ReplyDeletePlease be prayerful o. If you like give them if you like don't give. They will still try to bring you down .
ReplyDeleteEhe, poster, don't take this Chronicle or your pity for these village people to any pastor oo. They will advice you and your pastor to help out. When the misery/misfortune will start, they won't be there to bear with you other than be saying sorry.
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DeleteMadam dont let me swear for you. It's like village people are beckoning o you
ReplyDeleteThat was how my wife told me to help my family. I did and now I am penniless. From a multi millionaire to zero. You better just shut your mouth ad keep praying for your husband.
Madam, please leave your husband alone oh. You will so regret it if you convince him to go against his wish. So, you think they are happy your husband is rich all these years and they are living in abject poverty? They will so strike your family eh, you will be so dazed. He hasn't been there in 30years, how come you know what is happening and that someone is sick?Are you communicating with them behind him? I pity you. I feel sorry for the sick woman oh, but they have been getting by all these years without you guys, they will be fine. Keep it moving madam and don't cause wahala for your family. Be wise!
ReplyDeletePoster leave your husband alone and support him in his decision. It seems you are tired of being rich. You want to experience satanic afflictions. Leave that man alone and face your front. If i tell you what my mum saw in the hands of all this satanic relatives, you will know there there is life. Madam face your family and leave that man alone. I am telling you now. May you not experience the wrath of demons and satanic artack. You will pray for years and it will seem as if God is not even listening.
ReplyDeleteHe has told you his genuine reason and fear.
ReplyDeleteDon't you know if that fear is not conquered what he fears will befall him?
With the long gap and hatred from his people presently (cos he refused to help them) don't you think they might want to kill him?
Pls let him be. Atmost, let him front someone else and help them or do anonymous donations/help.
What you should be concerned with now is how to secure his life in Christ Jesus.
So he can live an all round meaningful life and a long one.
Get him closer to God. When his years are conquered and he now knows his powers in Christ, maybe then he can consider
Investment that can vanish. They can make him have problems that will make his bank account to be frozen. They can cause all his business associate to turn against him. They can make the government seize his lands. They can make it difficult to even sell a plot of land in a very good position.. Please be indifferent to their suffering and mind your business.
ReplyDeleteMadam almost everyone is telling you to face front, please do well and face front.
ReplyDeleteDon't go giving them money without his knowledge. Please don't do it
Poster from your descriptions it seems u from my city, please and please leave your husband alone only him know what he pass true
ReplyDeleteBoth you and your husband should be very prayerful,God repaid his dad's Goodwill through him,he should not extended kindness of any form to them, that might be a trap for him, above all be very prayerful
ReplyDeleteOversabi can kill. You better mind your MF business and face front. I just pity you because if you start what you cannot finish it will end in premium tears
ReplyDeleteI have a friend whose mother abandoned when he was a child, his wife pushed him into settling with his mother, one of the occasions while travelling to supervise his building site, he had an accident and died. The wife has not forgiven herself up til today. Be wise and face your front.
ReplyDeletePoster, I wish my Dad was like this your Husband. My Dad rose to prominence early in life, way before Democracy settled well in Nigeria. He rose high to an extent he could walk in to any ministry and bid for all kinds of Contracts, because He was well connected. But his folly was his soft heart for his village people. Against my Mom's Warning and wishes. They saw my Mom as a hinderance. They wasted her. He helped every Tom, Dick and Harry, even against his own father's advice. This has thought me to always learn from other people's mistake. His own dad suffered the same fate. He was stupidly rich and was brought down by his village people who are mostly into Voodoo. Now, those people wrecked my Dad as they did to my grand-father. I have learned from their mistakes. I no even send them at all, even when they send for me. Things are just okay for me but not like how my Dad made it in life. I vowed never to help any of them. My story too long, hopefully, I will share some day, when My testimony is complete.
ReplyDeletePoster, Your husband knows what he is doing, and it is not like he is stingy to his immediate family. Why don't you just relax and let him be. They only bad-mouth him because of their evil plans against him. Since, he is at arms-length. Just like the saying: NA WHO KNOW PERSON DEY KILL AM.
He can just use an NGO has a disguise fund them and tell them to help his uncle's wife but no mention of his name.
ReplyDeleteHe's still bitter over what Happened to his father bit I feel not every family member is guilty. My advice:He should find a way to help the relative who is terminally ill anonymously.
ReplyDeletePoster, God will take care of you husband's uncles if your husband does not feel obligated to help them. He has made up his mind. Leave him be. He knows what he knows. If he is wrong his good deeds towards others will compensate for it. Enjoy your marriage and help those you can. Let this matter rest.
ReplyDeletePoster, please be careful. If your husband was poor and suffering in the village, Biko will their family elder and king still summon him. Personally I feel like they are looking for a way to destroy him.
ReplyDeleteAlso, how would you feel if he finally helps them and they kill him. Will you be able to forgive yourself.
The best you can do is to pray for them. If God wants to help them, He will sender a helper for them. RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND DECISION.
Madam, they are in abject poverty,be like say you wan test ABJECT PENURY! KEEP AWAY FROM THAT TOPIC!HE WAS THE ONE WHO EXPERIENCED IT FIRST HAND! DON'T ASSUME YOU KNOW WHAT'S BEST!!!
ReplyDeleteMadam poster paddle your canoe... I even feel like slapping you sef. The man saw what is father went through then you want him to enter the same wahala.. if he goes broke now you'll leave him and run.. This is a typical example of my own father's story.. God started blessing him at a very early age our if the 13 children his father has from 4 women, only my father till date has properties.. built his 1st house before 40yrs, but you see his immediate elder sis(iya yomi) she is a witch..she almost turned my daddy into a pauper.. thank God for God and my mother..chaii that woman can pray and fast for Africa.
ReplyDeleteNo point being nice to witches and wizards, if you pity them and give them 1000, they will rather jazz the money than use it. Thank your God that your husband is wise.
Not everyone in his family is a witch or wizard. He needs to do something for them look for a life and change there since he has so much money. Get a child there train him through school and send the person abroad. Do it through a foundation.
ReplyDeleteAbroad ko, overseas. Na by force?
DeletePoster..Poster...It's like you are tired of seeing your husband alive .You see that family is same as my father's family ...Wicked and Hearltess .My father is at Zero because of them oh.Only if he had listened to my mum .Thank God we are all grown and doing fine now .Personally ehn I am your husband's type ..Whatever happens to my cousin's from my father's side is really not my business .I'm hurting as I type this .My dad did a lot for his siblings ...Let me just end it here...I will never be of help to my uncles,Aunties and cousins from my father's side .Pls allow your husband .
ReplyDeleteMADAM PLEASE AND PLEASE IN THE NAME OF GOD LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND ALONE. DID YOI NOT LISTEN TO HIS EPISTLE OF WHAT TRANSPIRED BETWEEN HIS LATE DAD AND UNCLES...DO YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE ABJECT POVERTY? THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SOME WIVES GETS TOO NOSY. LEAVE THAT MATTER ABEG.AS LONG AS YOU KNOW HE IS GWNEROUS ENOUGH THATS ALL THAT MATTERS. DO YOU KNOW THAT HE CAN HELP THAT SICK AUNTIE NOW AND HIS WEALTH DWINDLES...DONT JOKE WITH EVIL...ALL THEY NEED IS A LINK AND THATS FINAL THE DEAL IS DONE...WHAT IF THAT SICKNESS OS INTENTIONAL JUST TO BRING YOUR HUBBY PUT SINCE HE HAS REFUSED ALL THEIR CALL OUTS.... ABEG LEAVE THAT MAN ALONE TO HAVE PEACE WITH HIS IMMEDIATE FAMILY MEMBERS...JUST CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR GOD'S MERCY AND PROTECTION OVER YOUR HUBBY AND NOT BITHER HIM OVER THINGS THAT WON'T ADD VALUE....I'M AN ARDENT READER BUT HARDLY COMMENT...SO FOR ME TO SEND THIS IN PLEASE HARKEN TO THESE WORDS...THERE IS A YORUBA ADAGE WHICH SAYS " E NI TA FE LAMO....A MO E NI TI OFE WA YEYE"...I DON TALK...NOT EVERYONE IS GENUINELY SINCERE ALOT OF PEOPLE WOULD BRING HARM THEIR WAY JUST TO CAUSE YOU DOOM...ABEG, ABEG, LEAVE AM. I BEG YOU!!! THANKS
ReplyDeletePoster I feel ur husband village ppl have succeeded in about to finish him. That's why they sent u to him, they have entered u and from what u are saying,u wil happily take him down. Of cos,they will chase you out without a dime or rid of u. Hence the circle continues. I pity ur husband, truly.
ReplyDeleteThere’s something wrong with us africans abeg. See how many comments there are about fathers supporting siblings and extended family to the detriment of their own kids. It’s sad. People are truly ungrateful. The same father will now want his children to look after him in old age.
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