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Tuesday, May 05, 2020

Women Treat Their Husband's How Their Mothers Treated Their Father's...

It is time to have the couch conversation....Please sit down!!!

Do you agree with the topic above?...That you are married and treating your husband the way you saw you mum treat your dad?





114 comments:

  1. Nope. I'm treating my husband the way he deserves to be treated. Like a king, of course.

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    1. In other words, your father wasnt treated like a king

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    2. Anonymous, na that one concern u.

      Hi.

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    3. Yes, Eka, it concerns us because "nne na nwa ma ofu akwa" -like mother like daughter.
      Quit the pretense.

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    4. I won't treat my hubby the way my mum treats my father, she over pampers him, I don't have the strength for that.

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    5. @queenamy
      Then save your strength for fights. What a boxing ring you mean?๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

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    6. Amy are you sure we don't have the same mother? It is exhausting abeg! My sis and I always tease her for over pampering the man

      Melancholy

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    7. I heard this from my husband's mouth for the first time. It was after we spent a week hoilday with my parents that my husband drew that conclusion.

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    8. My mother treated my father as her Lord and saviour after Jesus Christ. My father was a good man though. A good husband and great father. Never cheated or raised his voice/hand on my mum. He was imperfectly perfect for her.

      If the man deserves it then he will get it from me. Basically, I will treat my husband the way he treats me. I can't do more than him.

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    9. Thank you Anon 19:47. I can't do more than him.

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    10. When a woman doesnt treat her hubby well 80% of her kids will learn such habit. Women should learn to allow Jesus Christ dwell and rule over their affairs, everything is not all about money.

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  2. How about people and NOT women? Like men are not worse. Next!

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    1. Thank you

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    2. Calm down, Stella might do men treat women the same way their dad treated their mother next time. No be everytime drag drag.

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    3. Madam dont change the topic of discussion here. Are you not tired of discussing about men everyday?

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    4. Hanty rainbow, how about you move over to comments that align with your constant effort towards under-valuing women and seeking men validation and leave mine alone?

      And if you must know, that topic came from a viral tweet by a MAN; hence my commemt.

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    5. By default we all will treat our spouses the way we saw our parents do - good or bad. It takes conscious effort to unlearn negative traits from our parents and do better in our own marriages.

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    6. I hate bitter feminism. Sometimes it doesn’t allow people evaluate scenarios objectively ๐Ÿ™„

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    1. Yea, just as we see your dad's traits in you here. If you had a loving father that respects the girl child, you won't always be talking trash about women here

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    2. Are you a woman or you are speaking for the women folk?

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    3. Anon 12.18 stop ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

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    4. He has right to agree or disagree @ anon12.18

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  4. Hmm๐Ÿค”
    Will be back to read comments.
    Over to the married women ๐Ÿ˜˜

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    1. Well, for years I've been with my parents including when I started understanding a lot of things... I can boldly say the number of times I've witnessed my parents had heated arguments ain't up to 10times... But one amazing thing I observed was that despite their exchange of words, dad has never walked out on mom to say he's gonna spend the night elsewhere or go eat out... Instead mom would prepare food and they would still eat together as if nothing happened... And I find that really amazing... My prayer to God is to find a man as amazing as my dad... Though he's got his flaws but he's the best father/husband material any daughter/woman can wish to have๐Ÿ˜˜
      As for my mom, she's my supermom and also a great wife๐Ÿ‘Œ
      May God continue to keep them alive for me so they'll surely eat the fruit(s) of their labour. Amen๐Ÿ™

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    2. Bae, God would bless you with an amazing man just like your dad

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    3. ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ

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    4. Me iv never seen my parents even argue before. Never heard my dad raise his voice at my mum before. I know of a time they had a rift when my brother was getting married and my mother was doing over-sabi but they didnt still argue in our presence either have i heard raised voices from their room.
      So when i hear of DV its strange to me.
      But u see the guy im dating now,he can argue for Africa over irrelevant things. Its so unusual for me to see that in a man. We are always in a shouting match.

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    5. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ beautiful ๐Ÿ˜

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  5. Hmm. Good topic.over to the married ones. Abeg,Make una no lie oooo.

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  6. I'm not married yet
    But from my siblings what I've seen is they improved and patterned their marriage the way the desire(d) it to be ,
    I also in my relationship with my homeboy soon to be hubby I'd say its a combination of the good traits I picked from my mom and correcting what she did ( my mom is quiet lol she doesn't voice out stuff so some times my dad wouldn't even know she's mad it him lol)
    I realised I could be this way and I'm already nipping it in the bud.
    Generally I feel like the environment a child grows in can make or Marr that child and this is why we should also make conscious decisions to do the right thing by patterning our relationship/marriage .

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    1. lol choco are you sure we dont share the same family?
      I loved what my mom and dad had going on too tho. And my married siblings said they are doing what my parents did and also adding some finishing touch.

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    2. I'm with you Chocolate on a 100%

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    3. Yaaay@ convince me ๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿฅณ
      My kindredship

      ๐Ÿ˜˜@ Sunshine ๐ŸŒž

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    4. Gbam. My mum too was too quiet and I never liked it.

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  7. I disagree. It all balls down to level of exposure and psychology.For example, I dont have to abuse my wife because I grew up in an abusive home. I feel morally lazy people do tend to carry what they learnt from their parents to their new home.

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    1. self determination too ,
      When my immediate elder sister's husband was introduced to us,
      He told my sister that he was marvelled at the kind of love and oneness that existed btw us all , trusg me if you don't know my family you'd never know who is an inlaw or the child of the family,
      And he also saw how my parents related, this made him strive to be better in marriage and his relationship with his siblings.

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  8. Nope. Anybody who wants to be wicked will be wicked and don't need a role model.

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  9. Stella, I will send you a mail concerning this topic but with a twist.

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    1. Sorry, not a twist to this but it will be on Divorce.

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  10. A husband is usually treated how he treats you...
    My mother was never treated bad by my dad, infact i grew up in a lovely and united home..
    I am treating my husband well because he treats me well too and also because i can differientiate between bad and good as an adult..
    Women who treats their husbands bad do so for reasons known to them not because of their upbringing of their mothers treating their father bad...

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    1. I agree... there have been cases of women that were treated badly by their husbands in marriage for whatever reasons on the man's side. They chose to endure but gave up enduring and decided to treat the men like they were being treated.
      Now an onlooker who never knew the genesis of their issues might see the woman being cold or like in that posters case ( hiding food/ provisions from her alleged lazy husband) and say that was how her mum treated her dad? Not true...the woman just got fed up.

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  11. Hasty generalization. Was it not on Twitter I saw the thread?? One rule doesn't apply to all, the way a woman treats her hubby isn't a factor of how her mum treated her dad. What if she had no mother or father? What if her hubby is maltreating her? Would it be fair to say the way a man treats his wife is the same way he saw his dad treat his mom??
    I am not married & I know I am not treating the man I'll marry the way I grew up seeing women treat their husbands. To each his/her own .
    #okbye

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    1. Thought I was thw only one that saw it on twitter. They must always find a reason to make it look like women are of no good.

      The guy that told that story on twitter, should have asked his so called fiancee questions and not judging just based on what their father said.

      Abandoning their father that way was bad. But do you know what he did? What some humans do in this life sometimes will shock you. When the victims try to pay back that's when the whole world will suddenly hear their own bad story and start preaching forgive. Meanwhile e remain small victim for don die. It's well

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    2. I tell you. That guy didn't want to marry the lady. He heard from the father & took his decision.. said nothing about knowing what the man did to get treated as such. I'm not justifying their actions but c'mon!!

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    3. Exactly anon 12:44. Just like how people where blaming some guys for not sending palliatives to their families & village people, when Sharon Ojah brought up that advice. I remember some BVs asking whether d parents or village people accepted or treated their children well?

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  12. I don't agree with the heading. How did they arrive at such conclusion.

    Lovelace

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    1. If I treat my husband the way my mum treats my dad, I will be fine with that. My mum treats my dad like a king because he treats her like a queen. He is a good husband and a wonderful father. But in a situation where a lady from a good and United home marries a fool, do you expect her to treat her fool like a king?

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    2. @anon may it not be our portion ,
      Trust me it wouldn't be easy to cope at all .
      We can never be too careful but may God lead us .

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    3. I'm not sure I want to be like my mum. She put up with so much and it was a VERY abusive marriage; so much so that we the kids, used to be happy when he'd travel because those were the only times she wasn't crying. I used to think she was too weak but as I grew I realised she was only trying to protect her home. He eventually left.

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  13. Too blessed to be cursed5 May 2020 at 12:20

    Mmmmm my mum over pampered my dad and spoilt him, I dont intent taking that lane.

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  14. Nope. I wish though that my husband will treat me how my dad treated my Mum.

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  15. I'm not married yet but I see myself doing certain things my mom does in my relationship. Most times I ask myself what would mom do. How would she react. I watched her a lot. You can't serve her husband food anyhow, you'll go back to that kitchen and do it right till you get it that he's the Head of the home. lol. I admire their home. My Momma try.

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  16. All I know is I wish to marry a man like my dad and be a lovely wife like my mother is๐Ÿคž๐Ÿผ

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  17. My mum treats my dad as her king even when he lost his job and was unable to provide for a while. My dad does not use my mother to joke at all. Their marriage is the envy of friends and relatives. We wouldn't have known there were bad marriages if not of the stories of others. Their marriage also taught me i should never settle for less when it comes to real love and support from your intended spouse.

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  18. Awon feminist gang gang5 May 2020 at 12:38

    That's absolutely true, the mango does not fall far from the tree.
    A woman who disrespect her husband,check well, her mother also disrespected her father.

    A woman who cheats on her husband, check o! Her mother too was a cheat and adulterer.

    A woman with a bad rotten mouth, check well o! She inherited it from her mother.

    A wife who wants to control her husband and be in submissive, check her mother did same thing to her father.

    A woman who is fetish, check her mother, she is the one taking her to various so called men of god.

    The list goes on...these women dont last in marriage.

    Advise for young men, before you marry any woman, take a critical look at her mother, I mean critical, physical and spiritual. The gene never lies.

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    1. Lies from the very pit of hell

      Melancholy

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    2. This is a fallacious statement .
      Like Mel stated these are lies from the pit of Hell.

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    3. @awon feminist gang na lie
      All that you wrote up there my mom never did to my dad infact she is a definition of a virtuos woman but me o I am the opposite because I married a nonentity though we have divorced now o and he wants me back but I don't think I can go back because I am presently dating a wonderful man that is 1 in a million to me and the kids I had in my first marriage although ko easy rara o but I will treat him right till eternity so far he treats me right

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  19. I'm not using anybody's marriage blueprint as my own. That's even what my Momma will tell you.

    My husband thinks highly of me and shows it every single day so of course, i will reciprocate by treating him as he deserves to be treated. Royalty ❤

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  20. This is somewhat true.i advice guys not to marry from a family where the man is alive but the woman calls the shots on what happens in that family and no one can go against it.its a complete recipe for disaster and I'm speaking from experience. Prospective daughters-inlaw take note.sons-inlaw take further note sef,cause you may be emasculated and turned into a vegetable. I have sad stories to tell about this issue but I dont have strength to type

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    1. My husband hardly makes good decisions. Even when he does, executing it is a big problem. We have to talk, beg, quarrel sometimes before he'll take action. This attribute of his has set us back as a family in so many ways. Now I call the shot in our family. Since he's too weak to pilot the family

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    2. Your husband is likely a good "starter" while you are a good "finisher". Team up and lift up your family.

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  21. My mother treated my father like a king. You should see how she served him. I went to my aunt's house for holidays and woke up to the sound of sweeping, to my surprise it was the husband sweeping, I almost fainted because my father was waited on like a king and it was unthinkable for him to be sweeping or doing chores.

    Now I understand better, my husband cooks, cleans, and does virtually everything. What is important is mutual respect, I can never think of worshipping my husband the way my mother did hers, ours is a partnership. Different strokes for different folks. Let everyone do what suits them.

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  22. Everyone's mother is now an Angel ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. Abeg, I don't have strength.

    Some also say you will treat your husband how you treat your father.

    Does it mean that the men that maltreated their wives will also have sons that will maltreat their wives? If so, we in trouble because many men are nothing to write home about as husbands.

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    1. Say your own and keep it moving like everyone else.

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    2. Exactly anon 13:09. D other day , someone complained about BVs exonerating themselves from being trolls & today again. Sounds like it’s d same person. For d fact that most of these BVs are on anon mode, shows that they’re not expecting any accolades from anyone, since no body knows them. Just like u said “say ur own & keep it moving like every one else”.

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    3. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

      Melancholy

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  23. No way,my mum treated my dad with so much love,patience and hope that someday she will reap the fruits of herlabour,she didn't get the love she yearned for and died without getting it.so i learned from that,refused to give chances or be lenient when i noticed that something i know i wouldn't put up with is happening or about to happen.God heard my prayers and gave a husband 100% better than my dad.when i look at children playing with my husband, or see how much he loves them i secretly say a little prayer of thanks to God.when i gave birth to my last daughter, she had mastitis that was so big,the doctors said she will undergo a surgery, my husband started crying and lamenting why God will
    allow a 7 day old child to go through such. I was strong for my daughter and he wasn't, in fact i cried because my dad doesn't know the dates we were born. Once my mom is reaching her due date,dad will abscond and return months later without dropping any upkeep allowance. So much to tell but i am tired.

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    1. This is so sad, thank God you have a good man

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    2. Thank God for giving you a good man❤

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    3. Thank God for your husband ๐Ÿ™

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    4. God bless your family!

      Melancholy

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  24. My mom is meek likewise her daughter's,she treats my dad with so much respect and love.At times my dad will say hurtful things to her,scold her or even reject her food,any time he does these things my mom ll kneel and beg him.Although my dad don't usually apologize but he appreciates all her effort by buying her what she likes,even at their old age they still call their selves sweet names...my dad is a good man but not when he's angry,his voice can bring down the roof.i see all this but I ll treat my own that way if he's worth it

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  25. I don't think that's true. I am not married yet but to a larger extent, how I treat my man is simply based on my personality and the reciprocal display of affection between us.

    In all how you treat people is dependent on a lot of factors.

    How they treat you ~ if a man treats you like a queen you automatically feel the yearning to treat him like a king. My man pampers and spoils me silly. He literally turns to gold the stoned floor which had the honour and sheer luck of my feet stepping on it. Babycakes treats me like royalty, I can't help but treat him accordingly.

    The pain of waiting~ I waited for six years before our chance meeting. Nobody talks about the pain of waiting but it isn't easy. You question and doubt if what you are waiting for even truly exist and then it happens. Deep down I know those years of waiting made me appreciate him even more.

    The knowledge of the scarcity of noble men~ There are boys everywhere but good men are scarce. I have met the selfish man, the flirts, sexually depraved, the gold-digging pick me. "Met not dated" thank you! ๐Ÿ˜ So I know a good thing when I am blessed with it.





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    1. Some women get married to nice men but destroyed their homes because of bad character.. because A appreciates doesn't mean B would do same@sabella

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    2. Nothing like having someone who treats you right. Nothing at all๐Ÿ˜˜

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    3. @BCW. You see, I understand where you are coming from but these are very own reasons why I treat my man the way I do and it has nothing to do with how my mother related with my father.
      Sure, we shouldn't generalise however, I talked about my personality as well. So I somewhat acknowledge a woman or man with an awful personality won't appreciate a good thing even if it slaps them in the face.

      Hello bini๐Ÿ˜˜

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    4. love is really beautiful,
      When you are with the right person , especially when it was worth the wait ✋,
      Everytime I look back im grateful to God for granting me the patience to wait and not settle ๐Ÿ™
      Today I feel like I'm in a Disney movie ๐ŸŽฅ ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
      May your love last my darling Sabella I dont know you but you're a beautiful soul and I read your love stories with so much glee ๐Ÿ’•.

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    5. See love ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ Chai!!!
      This ur love story always totori me๐Ÿ˜Š biko sabella I have been begging u to come and give a full version of this your love story since yesterday. na beg I dey beg. All this cut and paste no belleful me ๐Ÿ˜ stella make u no swallow my comment this time o.

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    6. You can say that again chocolate noir. I pray everyone finds Christ and true love. Happy for you and your fiance. May you forever be happy and your union blessed. Thanks for the kind words and prayers I'm tickled pink๐Ÿ˜Š.

      18:07 Awww, thanks.
      Really? I didn't see that. No problem, I will do that one of these days.

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  26. Upbringing plays a major role in this topic,I saw my mother manage my father's temperament like no other.I keep wondering how a human being will possess such but we still leave in love and peace with the 8 of us as their children.now that I am married over 10yrs counting I treat my husband from what I learnt from my mum and the way my husband treats me and treats him like a king cos he deserves it.marriage is adorable when you marry the right person...I can testify.

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  27. These generalization is very wrong abi is it not inside this life where a woman will treat a man like a peasant even when he treats her like a queen.I have seen daughters become better mothers and wives than terrible moms so this thing can’t be generalized at all.Every daughter has a choice to be as good or as bad as their moms, choose wisely.

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  28. Because of the young man's viral post, a man on Facebook said he just remembered a lady whose father washed clothes and also bought food by carrying many plates to a vender. He said this happened despite the man having a wife, four daughters and a son. He said the first day he saw the man, the man was not happy washing the clothes and the wife brought more cloths for him to wash, on another day, he saw the man with many plates going to buy food. He talked about this with a mechanic who knew the man and his family and the mechanic told him that even when the man and his wife comes to his (mechanic's) workshop, the wife tells the man to go sit in the car.

    This narrator on Facebook said he will never marry from such a family because his daughters will treat their spouse that way too.

    NOTE:Facebook narrator's main concern is not the wife treating the husband that way but the man's children not doing anything about the ill treatment.
    What do you ๐Ÿค”?

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    1. This story sounds unbelievable , as if the narrator on Facebook or Twitter imagined it. Even if na Jazz, some of the children must kick against such inhuman treatment if their father was or is that humble & good.

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    2. Anon 15:04 better believe it cuz these things happens o, most times it is jazz.

      Melancholy

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  29. My parents had the best marriage I've seen in my entire life. They were each other's best friend. The fight and squabble like kids but you dare not interfere or you'll be the devil๐Ÿ˜‚...

    They would gossip about everything (us, the kids especially๐Ÿ˜‚) and gang up on us. If my dad hears a gist outside and forgets to say it, the quarrel of that day.. Until he learnt how to call my mum and drop the topic, so my mum, Mrs "rememberer" would remind him later.

    Oh! I miss my dad. I miss how united and happy our family was. He died at 65 after 40yrs of marriage and my mum, though she tries to hide it, has been never been the same. Since 2015.

    I tell my husband about my dad all the time. Cos its the type of marriage I want, and God help me, its what I'm building.

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    1. Such a sweet story
      Please ya'll should ensure mom's not lonely ,
      She would surely be missing her husband but I've realised women have a better coping mechanism .

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  30. I won't treat my husband how my mother treated my late father because my mom was very wicked, i wonder how my father managed to cope with 3 of us and 3 other from different men, she lied to my dad that those other 3 are her siblings which my dad later found out that they are for 3 different men.
    She left us with my dad when i was 6 and moved in with another man and birth 2 children there.
    Today she wants to be in our lives, if not for God i won't allow her to sit as my mom on my wedding day.

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  31. Stellz, it is my considered opinion that, to a large extent, this assertion is credible. We instinctively imitate certain behavioural patterns we were surrounded by while growing up. A lady may not treat her hubby the exact way her mum treated her dad, but subconsciously she may react the same way she saw her mum react when she finds herself in a similar situation.

    Though this logic is still up for debate, it is one of the reasons some parents are reluctant to allow their children marry a "child" from a broken home. Though it's not absolute but it is a seductive argument that a lady whose mum left the marriage, may not be inclined to soldier through a turbulent period in her marriage. Same way for a man who watched his father end the marriage, divorce will be a reasonably foreseeable option at the slightest provocation. Again, this is NOT absolute.

    I had a client who, whenever she has a quarrel with her hubby, locks the bedroom door and charges at her hubby telling him he must kill her and that's how the fight begins. Even when her hubby is trying to break free from her grip, she deals the first blow to provoke a good beating. I asked her why she acts in such a primitive and self-demeaning way? Her answer was quite intriguing but revealing. Initially she said something just comes over her when her hubby offends her but as I counselled her, she realized that that was exactly what her mum used to do. I found it intriguing because she used to tell me how she despises her mum for being a bad mother to her children and a bad wife to their father, and how she would never end up like her mum, but here she was allowing history repeat itself without even realizing it.

    I watched my dad worship and adore my mum and I gravitated towards men who behaved like my dad. I'm violently put off by the slightest form of uncivilised behaviour by a man. I was raised and taught to treat my man like my king. It was an easy sell because I saw it first hand. It was a textbook case of do what I say as well as do what I do. Mothers are usually the first role models for their daughters. Typically, we grow under the influence and the image of our mothers. While we later grow into our own women with diverse personalities and behavioural patterns, there are still certainly things we learned at our formative years that can't be easily "unlearnt".

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    1. You have said it all Anon. We usually pick a lot of things from our mothers...conciously or otherwise.
      Though my dad died quite early but the few years I spent with him, he was a good husband but a no nonsense man and mumsy on her own knows when to hush it. She doesn't interfer if he was disciplining us and even when she does, she does it meekly. I wouldn't say I behave like her ๐Ÿ’ฏ% but I model after her in more ways than one.

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  32. Hell no!!!
    Dad used "women submit to ur husband" story for mom. He practically slaved her, he will even cuss her out in public and at home. Mom claiming vitreous woman stayed in the marriage. She will cook for him when he comes home from his girlfriends escapades, she will clean up after him. Like he couldn't even boil hot water. The day he saw us use a blender he had to ask what it was and what he does, and when we told him he said "women are now lazy" looking for easy way out when his mom used a grinding stone to cut/chop stuff in kitchen.
    I remember when he came visiting, he said how can DH be cooking , that women are meant to cook. We just told him that there is not boss in the marriage, that we are partners and partners help each other.
    My Dad was speechless. But he went back to his base and still didnt help out, he just kept telling my mom to talk to me that how can my husband be doing chores and still work. I told my mom she needs to stand up to him even tho its extremely late, since they have been married for 39years.

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  33. My dad loves my mum, I see the way he adores her and cares for her but my dad talks down on her anyhow..
    Sometimes I wonder how she copes with the terrible character. She told me patience is key in marriage but my dad doesn't know how much he hurts her over the years till now with those comments.
    I treat my fiancรฉe well and show him respect as my head..I only wish I have enough patience for marriage.
    I love him but not ready to begin the married life together .
    Not cause am scared but rather I doubt my patience and tolerance especially with the kind of elder sisters he has
    Very demanding and always wanting to know every detail
    I salute my mum's courage and strength but we the children still tell her
    If she had stood up for herself a little, my dad won't disrespect her in public and apologize privately
    She never did full express how much she was hurting for the sake of protecting her home

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  34. I picked little from my mum and it's working for me too. In an instance where I keep quiet when am angry, only to voice out when calm and when he is in a good mood and ready to retrace his steps.

    And I also took advantage of people's Chronicles and bvs replies as regards to the dealings with inlaws in this honourable institution, and it kept me a step ahead of my inlaws including my hubby while maintaining the relationship. But for my mum, it was a difficult task or will I say a hurdle that is still showing its ugly head even after my dad kicked the bucket.
    I always have this (nothing last forever and no one knows tomorrow) at back of my mind.

    This is one of the reasons I GO NO WHERE.
    SDK BLOG WE LIVE!
    SDK BLOG WE DIE!!
    LONG LIVE CHRONICLES!!!

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  35. It’s true. My brothers wife treated him like a mini God. And that’s how her mother treated her father. But in their own case her father treated her mother like a queen while my brother has treated her like my father treated my mother which is very badly. Now that she has walked away after almost 20 years and the children are grown he is begging her. I know he is my bro but I beg she deserves her happiness.

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  36. If you have a good man who cares and respects you, you will reciprocate back the love and respect not minding the abusive marriage your parents had.

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  38. From experience this is absolutely true in most cases but there exist some exceptions like in every rule

    Girls from dysfunctional mothers more often than not are also severally damaged

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