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Sunday, June 21, 2020

Sunday In Housegists - Living With Your Spouse' Bad Habits/Flaws

Are you one of those married to or dating someone with a lot of  bad habits that would shock the next person?







What kind of bad habits does your spouse have and how do you cope with it?Your response might save the next person.

What kind of bad habits can you live with and which ones are making you to consider taking a walk?

Those of you just dating,what kind of flaws are you managing and hoping you can live with when you marry this person?

Sometimes my OCD drives my family crazy but hey,we live in a very neat house and that's fine...LOL

My hubby snores lightly and on a good day its fine but sometimes i cant stand it and keep waking him up until he finds the right position that reduces it....I can manage this....

Lets gist!!!

204 comments:

  1. Dater and married people over to una...

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  2. You will just be woken up in the night with papapapapa-tutututututu-pooooooohhhhhooooooo.
    You are talking with someone on phone and the speaker is on;
    Paapapapapap-ttututututu-poooooooooooooo.
    Not annoyed, just living with it. We laugh about it most days.不不不不不

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    1. Hubby snores and when i tell him he denies it. Now this lockdown has been shouting,guy man baths once in 2days. Saying he dose not go out and always in ac. Which is true,but its driving me mad. No i don't allow him near me. You want to do the do,then clean up.

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    2. Bathing once in two days 痰

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    3. Mine forgets things a lot. Like he is supposed to buy bread for breakfast from bakery on his way back from work, he will totally forget he was reminded and be wanting me to do magic come morning. Anything that has to do with feeding my home, I don't depend on his I will do it. I find a way to keep spare; even if it is biscuits. You can be waiting somewhere for him and he will forget himself somewhere else. It used to hurt me a lot before till I understood that's him. I own my shit without waiting for him. That's his major problem. But he can over do things for you that when you talk people will say you used jazz on him. Just never ontime for anything. Them for don sack am for office too because of this thing; but he's their BEST! They are managing him too like me.

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    4. @15:57
      Don't go and learn to bake and wait for the bakery to supply even okpa you eat in your house

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    5. Let me go anonymous
      My hubby doesn't bath often and as if that is not enough, he baths with only water
      He also doesn't brush every day
      He wears his boxers until the bum bum area turns brown
      He doesn't clean the house when am not around
      The last time i traveled home, this man did not wash all the clothes I normally help him to wash, he washes his jeans, boxers and shirt while i help him with the rest, nor clean the room till I came back which was about a month +
      He is a good man o but this his bad habit is just tooo disgusting

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    6. Probably has adult adhd-inattentive. Google it. It will help you to understand him and get less fustrated.

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    7. @16:10, If everyone learns how to bake how will the bakery business prosper? Why shame a woman for ordering bread from the bakery? Your reasoning is highly flawed!

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    8. Anon 16:10, please what is the color of your frustration? Learn to bake as Chefchi that I am na? Useless keypad warrior.

      Thank you anon 16:44. Will look it up

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    9. @17:55
      So baking is only meant for "chefchi?" Wow!
      So who is complaining about her husband not raiding bakeries
      as early as 5 am to buy bread?
      Why do you cook in your house, instead of waiting for "chefchis" to
      come and supply you or for your husband to pack "takeaways" and come to
      the "queen" on her bed?不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不

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    10. Hian! Inability to bake bread is now a crime? I didn't know that o.

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    11. My hubby snores loudly but now we found out that he has sleep apnea so he’s now taking treatment for. Whenever friends come to visit they wonder how i cope with it but i just tell them I’m used to it. Lol

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    12. The way some ladies reason is so mind blogging. Is it a MUST a lady must know how to bake bread?

      Kia! Women dey try sha.

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    13. This woman, what is wrong with you? Must she bake bread? What if she doesn't have an oven? Be commenting with sense please, It is an appeal.

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    14. Some of these Anons can be so annoying. They come under your comment to talk trash and still claim being on their right with more insults. Must every woman be a baker?

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    15. Hold it. How much is a miniature oven and now much is an iphone?
      How much is your hair attachment?
      cut out that hypocrisy.

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    16. Na waooo, madness has different forms. So she must bake bread? Ok we have heard

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    17. You are the hypocrite and you are also queer. Soon you will say she has committed a sin for not baking!!! A virtuous woman bakes bread daily for her household .

      I don't know why you think It is ok to force your way of life on others. I do not bake bread, I buy my croissants. Abeg do you and let others do them, nobody is competing with you, shior.

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    18. @Abroadian
      All these rants aren't necessary. Laziness comes on different forms.
      What's there in baking what one will eat instead of complaining that
      the husband doesn't know how to buy bread?
      Must every married man know how to buy bread?
      If you like buy your "crocodiles" from the zoo, we are talking about bread;
      if you like put Agege there. Nobody is saying you shouldn't buy your bread but
      don't come to the internet blog to complain to us that your husband's bad habit
      is that he does not know how to buy bread.

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    19. So your husband is the one going to the market and buying bread dont go and look for work and go to the market
      He has memory issues get him sone drugs .go run some test ,thyroid test ot any thing that causes that and stop whining

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    20. Wow!!!
      Some peoplenon this blog are so shallow-minded
      This is why people don't whatever stories. Imagine condemning someone for not knowing how to bake???
      I am short of words. That comment looks like ANG way of writing.
      Na wah ooh!

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    21. I don't bake, we buy bread from his preferred bakery...and my family is happy.

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    22. Lol, why I am even wasting my time with you? You have lost touch with reality and your inability to think deeply is mind boggling. See how you concluded she is lazy?? The guts you have that makes you think you can tell anyone what to do without even knowing their circumstance. You should bury your sanctimonious head in shame.

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  3. I chew loudly and he always gently reminds me 丹‍♀️丹‍♀️丹‍♀️丹‍♀️

    Please if you are the annoying spouse with the bad habits (for e.g. shouting to wake up the next door neighbors during midnight drilling sessions), please keep us informed here. Thank you.
    元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️

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    1. My own can be very annoying and we are getting married soon. You must remind him a million times before he does smthn. He's a very rich guy and very generous. But tell him to send you money you will call him atlst 10times just to remind him. Its like his brain is scattered. What i just do now is take anythn i see in his wallet while waiting for whatever he will send.
      Then he works too much. I am just tired of that one and honestly dont know how im going to cope. Works everyday including sat and sunday. I actually went to spend the wkend last weekend and hes only home to sleep. Soon as hes awake,he has an appointment,doesnt return home till 10 daily even weekdays. And he isnt cheating,he actually video chats me constantly just to show his at his site. He says dat is what is bringing in money,we are always fighting of this lack of time.

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    2. Madam what you cannot take please do not manage i5. If you cannot accept him the way you met him please allow him to go before you will give him heart attack.

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    3. Anon 15:02. Offer to accompany him to at least two of his meetings to make sure you are not about to enter one chance.
      Well, that is if he has proposed, some men are seeing wives in other people while dating, meanwhile, the girlfriend is already calculating the number of kids.

      Any man that sees you as a wife material doesn't necessarily need reminder to send you money, unless he doesn't have.

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    4. I hope you will be able to live with it in marriage and not send in chronicles after 12 months.

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    5. Anon 15:02 you need to decide if you want a broke husband or a workaholic provider husband. I hate to break it to you but most stinkingly rich men have to constantly work to maintain that status. You better be grateful that you don't HAVE to work like bunches of naija wives do tirelessly just to keep their home and they are look old and tired. The time to enjoy him was when he was up and coming and when he had more time at his disposal to be romancing you. Now you have to compromise because you are enjoying from his money. No marriage is perfect.
      As long as he is really working and not cheating, I don't think you have any thing worth complaining about. Sorry. Personally when I get married, I want a rich dedicated hard working alpha man that does not have time for petty internet fights and to be gossiping like a woman like some guys here I won't mention.

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    6. Anon 15:02 the struggle of being married to a BOSS. Deal with it o cus What you have is a blessing. Some women are the breadwinners in their home and slowly fatigue,bitterness towards their husbands are setting in. They don't get to take days off because when they come home they continue with house chores and babysitting their kids and overgrown baby called husband. You better be grateful. That is all I will say

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    7. Anon 15:02 I pity you. See husband wey women dey find outside. Biko is that his only flaw abeg.? If you don't want him again pass him over here to women that know what to do with him. See radarada o

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    8. @15:02
      You have started fighting (you ATM) even before "mirage?"
      You have only written the introduction of your chronicles,
      we are waiting for the rest.
      Oh before I do my usual, what do you call that "collecting money from his wallet?"
      I thought people who go to ATM to withdraw at least have a bank issued ATM card?
      Okay, let's do the usual 元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️元‍♀️

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    9. Anon 15:02 do you want a rich busy boss man or you want a broke man that expects you to go 50/50 yet has all the time to spend with you? It is left for you to decide honey. Sha just think about it o. Cus poor man will expect you work just as hard as him in the office and still expect you to come back home tired and still prepare food and clean the house and card for him and his kids ALONE with little to no help. Again. Choice is yours darling

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    10. Anon abeg i dont steal his money. I take whatever i can in his presence cos u cant just get him to do anything. Not like the money isnt there. But he is extremely scattered. Send him to buy even the simplest thing like bread when he goes out,he can return home with pack of juice,biscuit etc. The important thing for breakfast bread of 1k he has forgotten and spent 10k buying juice,chochlates and rubbish things.
      Then the work,he is truly at work and not cheating. I know for a fact he doesnt even have time for me not to talk of other women. Even his mother is tired of complaining and just wants him to marry. Believing maybe i will give him stability. Well,im trying to manage him. He even waste money on things i dont need,and come home with some rubbish. But for me to get him to do exactly what i want is the challenge. He just does not listen.

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    11. Anonymous 15:02,
      From your post, I can deduce your fiance is into civil engineering or building construction.

      My dear, you just have to make some sacrifices. At least, he isn't LAZY and he's ready to take on the responsibility of being the breadwinner, which is what many wished they had.

      Is it possible, in your spare time, if any, to accompany him like a BV suggested above to the site? You get to see first hand what's he's doing, how he spends his day and how his job gives him fulfilment. (I can tell him it does give him fulfilment)

      If you're the inquisitive and adventurous type, you'll find it enlightening and interesting learning new things and he'll so much appreciate you for that, as he will be able to discuss his day with you and you too can chip it one or two things as well.

      Just like some ladies are advised to watch football matches with their man, why don't you give it a try?

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    12. To add, if he TRUSTS YOU enough, you can suggest he gives you his ATM PIN and mobile and internet banking passwords so you can help yourself at will without having to remind him every time.

      That's if he trusts you enough with his finances that you won't misuse the privilege.

      Cheer up dearie and congratulations on advance!
      樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹樹

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    13. Please rich men also have time for their families, I am married to a stinkingly rich man and he has my time unlike the anon up there. I don't know where you people meet your own rich men fa

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    14. Anon 16:24...is your man into construction?? Specifically Portacabin?

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    15. Cos people into that kind of construction are really busy

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    16. @Rubynnia
      You are the definition of a vain, money grubber. You think everything in life is about having money.
      Marriage is all about companionship. And you are congratulating her (on????)advance for going to sleep over
      for nights in the house of a man that hasn't married her. Which kind of end time advance is that one?
      毋毋毋毋毋痰痰痰休休休休休

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    17. Anonymous 17:50,
      Calm down sir or madam. Life isn't that serious you know.

      Me? A vain, money gubber? You wish I were!

      About sleeping over, I don't support BUT I'm speaking from the point of prepping for marriage.

      Also, some men love it when their woman ASKS them for money. Yeah, some men like that exist; I know of one. So if her fiance is cool with it, why are you stressing yourself? One man's meat is another's poison. Does the idiom sound familiar?

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    18. @Rubyna
      So marriage preparation manual teaches you to steal money from your boyfriend's wallet,
      and sleep over in his house to fornicate? 不不不不不不不
      Flee fornication -does it sound familiar
      Lake of fire -does it sound familiar
      If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off...for it is better to enter into
      life with one hand than to go into the fire that does not quench...does it sound familiar?
      ‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️‍♀️ eternal race is individual.

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    19. @16:24
      You see how you "smartly" finished your yarns and remained silent about fornication?
      Why are you in his house through the nights and mornings; what are you cheapening yourself there for?
      Has he married you?
      Stop this concubinism and harvest sense.

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    20. @16:24
      His mom said you will "give him stability?"
      不不不不不不不不不When did you become a stabilizer?
      Please remember our chronicle when his mom tells him to dump you.

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    21. Anonymous the man is bisexual he has another man he is seeing trust me I an speaking from experience after h marrh him it will become worst.he does not forget about anything they ate intentions act to rope u in confusion thinking it is just a habit.
      He wants to marry u bc his fam6 are beginning to wonder you are the other woman the main woman is a man and that's the fkng truth take it or leave it

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    22. Anonymous the man is bisexual he has another man he is seeing trust me I an speaking from experience after h marrh him it will become worst.he does not forget about anything they ate intentions act to rope u in confusion thinking it is just a habit.
      He wants to marry u bc his fam6 are beginning to wonder you are the other woman the main woman is a man and that's the fkng truth take it or leave it

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    23. Grandma dimoko22 June 2020 at 06:40

      Sister, we are in the same WhatsApp group. I've been married to him for 12 years anyways. I think it's the nature of their job ooo. I got to a construction engineer and cos he's always pressure to meet targets, he tends to forget things easily. If I tell him to send money to me, I'll need to call like 10 times before he remembers to send. So, please check if you can cope with it cos chances that he will change will be so low. Meanwhile, serious men are scare ooo. Don't think of letting go ooo. Oko won lode ooo

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  4. My spouse we never replace things where he took it from ..very annoying something

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    1. This is my husband. Its no longer an issue for me. I Don tire to talk.

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    2. Marriage to a phlegmatic isn't easy,as a melchol(melancholy+choleric) I can come across as a bitch sometimes.we tolerate each other's shortcomings,I mean we dated for 7 years if there was something I didn't like about him or him about me,I don't think we would have gotten married.

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    3. Chai I got bad habits fa,I take long calls in the wee hours disturbing him and probably any of our kids on our bed some nights,some days like that,woooo, I just stick around in my own room and finish up calls but he complains when I laugh because he will hear and wake up to come peep.
      2.I snack a lot at night,there must be some tiny snack or choco to munch while doing this and that, then at dawn ants will crawl over the place,lately I got the ants under check through a Pesticide,we good now.

      Hubby's own,is that if it's only both of us, he must SLEEP STARK NAKED,haaaaa,I don beg am taya,like if succubus demon grabs you nko,he will laugh and say 'we will enjoy each other'.He doesn't believe in all those,to him,he needs all the cool breeze and night prayer got him under God's canopy. He must pray to sleep even if it is for a minute and then he dozes off.

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    4. Xp you abs hubby and kids sleep on sale bed? Wonderment is it a self contain apartment?

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    5. Anon 3.26...You are so silly. Most married couples with kids have their kids sleeping with them so nights. Especially pre-teens. Miss,I must talk.

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  5. I am a light sleeper that snoring can be annoying. I keep on tapping and waking him up until I sleep off. He like throwing clothes around the house especially in the sitting room and if try to correct him another wh獺l.

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    1. Is my husband your husband

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    2. You don't have your own bedroom?? You may need to look into that

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  6. Not dropping his clothes in the laundry basket but on the bed or couch used to annoy me so much, I don talk tire. He will sometimes drop them in the laundry basket but most times, I'll just gather them myself. I can cope with this, na machine go kuku wash them.

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    1. Hubby use to do this. I complained and later stopped helping him to put them in the righ place. Now he does it himself.

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  7. No human being is perfect, everyone has certain flaws so you just have to know they type you can deal with forever.

    But you see mouth/body odour, pig behaviour like the ones I read on Chronicles of BVs(eg not wiping yansh or flushing toiler after shitting and the rest), snoring like locomotive engine, addiction to video games... i cannot stand these ones.

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    1. Jut kukuma kill me 不不不不

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    2. Abegi leave video games out of the list. There are good sides to it. And one of them is he's staying in the house and not out there

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    3. Nah that thing of not flushing toilet/wiping yansh get as e be o. That one na automatic grounds for divorce but I think it is somehow an easy trait to catch. Just have the guy sleep over at your place every now and then just to study how he behaves and hopefully pick up on any unbearable habits. Even snoring can be managed. Just ensure you have your own room during marriage. Not by force to have one bedroom for mommy and daddy. Daddy's bedroom can be for sex but if one of them snores or has conflicting bed room habits thatbcan cause fight then mommy having her room to sleep in will come to the rescue

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    4. @Aunty 15:29
      Madam you are not me, these are MY own pet peeves so you cannot determine habits that turn me off. If you like a man that is addicted to video games, good for you.

      And I don't think being a gamer is bad, but when you are ADDICTED to it, it becomes really irritating. Imagine a full grown man spending countless hours everyday playing video games. Sad.

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    5. @16:05
      That's a splendid idea! My parents have separate bedrooms although they usually sleep together but once it's morning, it's to your tents oh Israel. I want same in my marriage because i like my personal space, just because we are married doesn't mean we should be in each others faces 24/7.

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  8. As a single guy, First thing I teach my woman is my toilet and bathroom rules and continuous reputation piss me off

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  9. Hahaha.. Stella ur husband snoring they learn work where my husband snoring dey o..
    My husband snores has PhD.. Ahhh, I don't sleep whenever he comes home weekend because I go just dey awake dey do vigilante by using my hands to cover his nose and mouth when he wants to start. After some minutes, he would start again, me too will get ready to stop it.. Sometimes I will hide my number and call his phone so he would wake, he doesnt put his phone on silent or off it..
    Whenever he visits, he feels tired and exhausted due to the nature of his job. He works Monday to Saturday and travels that same Saturday to see us and leaves as early as possible on Sunday.. That one na visit??
    There was a time he woke my baby up with his LOUD snore and she started crying.
    The worst of all is whenever "we do the do" haaa, na there wahala dey because the snore go pass 2 speakers wey dem mount for church.. Even my neigbours have learnt to live with it.. So that is the only flaw I see in him o..
    Thank God say na once in a month he visits now.. so we sleep very well at night.
    pls how do we overcome this bvs.. I need advise biko.

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    1. 不不不不不不不不不不不

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    2. Hahaha, my husband snores too, but e don become melody to my sleep

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    3. This woman oh

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    4. My husband snores bad bad too and he has moved to the guest room. I cant kill myself.
      My lack of sleep was beginning to affect my health because i suffer for migraine. My productivity at work and even taking care of kids was getting compromised,so he moved o.
      We have sex,cuddle for abit. He falls asleep sometimes and i now have to wake him to return to the guest room.

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    5. 14:55, he is now a sexy tiger gen

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    6. There is snoring machine that they can wear before going to sleep.

      I also snore but that is when I get tired oh min is not that serious as you guys explain. I your husband i.on the big size he could be having breathing problem.

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    7. @GCN,I think there is something that can control it,its usually placed on the nose of the person,I can't remember what it's called.
      My own can over work himself, if you ask him to rest, na there wahala dey.
      If there is nothing to do,he will start manufacturing work to do.
      I thank God still.

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    8. GCN your husband needs to see ENT surgeons. He's suffering from Obstructive Sleep Apnea. Pls stop covering his mouth and nose whenever he's snoring as that could lead to death. He's already battling with insufficient oxygen due to OSA don't add to it.

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    9. I once turned down someone's proposal because he snores. I tried coping but I couldn't. Any weekend I sleep at his, the whole week will be ruined because I will be useless all through with very serious migraine. Gosh

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    10. Is getting an extra bedroom a possibility for you? You may wanna look into it. Some Bush unexposed people think a wife having separate bedroom is a taboo but Your sleep doesn't have to suffer just because you are married biko. Talk with your husband about getting another room or moving to a house with an extra room (cus by the way you're commenting there is no extra room in that house.) Use his room for lovemaking then when he falls asleep or on days when u wanna enjoy your sleep use your room

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    11. Anon that commented about sleep Apnea is correct. Please take your husband to a doctor that specializes in sleep issues. It’s a potentially deadly condition

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    12. 不不不 This is funny but should be taken seriously. Has he always been like this? If no, then it must been because of work, if yes then he should see an ENT doctor as suggested.

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    13. Thanks alot bvs for ur advice..I will check up on that Obstructive Sleep Apnea.
      Thanks anon 16:09 although we live in 2 bedroom flat, one room for the kids and the other for hubby and I.
      Thanks for ur advise.. I appreciate

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  10. My hubby can go a whole day without calling to check on me and out unborn baby. On a good he calls once everyday and there are times he won't bother calling throughout the day. Mind you we stay in different States since our courtship days because of work. Even when we're dating he only calls once a day. I'm the type that my love language is word of affirmation by calling and sending texts SMS. Initially I would be so sad with him that I will cursed him out for not calling until I realized his calls doesn't defined me. I also stopped calling him entirely. I can stay days without dialing his number. Any day he doesn't call,I won't call him too. And if he eventually call the following day I will not nag him nor complain. I will answer him lovingly and face front. He will even be the one trying to explain why he didn't call me and I will just brush it off. I've taken away that power of making me feel bad from him. I do what makes me happy. If he calls fine,if he doesn't call all day good. Any day he comes to pay me visit fine if he doesn't come good.
    I've realized your happiness depends on you and God. No man owes you anything.
    Another thing about my hubby is stinginess. If you don't ask he won't give you. I've started asking now seriously. Even all the baby things I made sure he singlehandedly bought everything without me adding my kobo to it. Each time he wants to come visiting I will call him up on phone and tell him what exactly I want him to buy when coming over bcos if you don't demand he won't buy anything instead he will appear empty handed. God punish miss independent.

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    1. 莞莞莞

      Let me drink water sha

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    2. Lol...Hahaha . God really punish 'Miss Independent'.

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    3. You had to get married to realize you can't let a man define your happiness?? Guess you married young sha. Some of us learned that early already while dating. Guess it is never too late

      Ms. Independent na biggest scam and women are the ones that suffer from it and other results of extreme feminism. Stingy and low effort men are loving it pa. It means they can sit back and a woman can bring in all the finances and he can use his own money to chase women about. Then later have the audacity to give excuses that he wants to leave the woman because she does not respect him enough.
      Also a man cannot cherish what he has not spent time, money, effort on. Serious talk. Another life lesson for you If you don't know that. None of the ex bf I spent money on ever stayed or repaid me with loyalty. It was the ones that spent money time and energy on me that really had a hard time letting go.

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    4. I hope he is worth the stress of this marriage sha, how can someone that loves you not call you for days, nawa o. Dear poster you sound like you are in a loveless marriage though

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    5. Very transactional relationship. Sometimes it works

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    6. Oh well, how about you call him since he is type that doesn't remember to call?

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  11. Hmmmm,things are really happenning.Sdk there is a certain pastor rigmonallin with his members and most of them are married women.

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  12. My hubby's voice is like a trumpet, when he starts shouting here ehn you will wonder, if you follow the way he talks eh, you go dey vex steady but I just dey look am because it is a family thing, you need to see him and his siblings arguing or even talking, you go think say na fight, but that is how they talk.
    At first I used to be so aggravated but mil told me not to allow it get to me because that was how his father talked too.

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    1. Sounds like my family. We are a high volume family. The first time my inlaw came to visit us, he couldn't believe his ears. He thought we were fighting but he found it fascinating too. He now likes the fact that we are very outspoken and don't keep malice as a family. You upset us, we tell you, give you food and move on.

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    2. Trumpet kwa.. abeg melancholy no killi me wit laugh

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    3. Gifty are you talking about my husband? Hmmmm my hubby can shout for Africa, if he is talking to you his voice is very loud like who wan fight, I don talk tire for where. His OCD is on another level he washes the bathroom and toilet himself if I wash it he will say I didn't wash it well. So I leave it for him and face front since I got married to my husband he washes the toilet and bathroom while singing I will just be looking at him. Apart from this 2 things he is okay so at least I can live with a extremely clean guy with trumpet voice 不不不不

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    4. Leemao... Everyone in my family has loud voice, people who don't know us will misunderstand 不不

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    5. Lol @ singing while washing the toilet and bathroom.

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  13. I don't have annoying habits except for my always wanting to put things in orderly manner.... I just hope that is not a bad habit.

    Y'all should also talk about your bad habits and not only your spouse's bad habits

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    1. It is a bad habit to some people.

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    2. Don’t be too certain ma’am , nobody is perfect. Probably, most of the peeps around you haven’t been bold to say it ........ what you may consider a good habit might be what someone else finds annoying. “ we all have our shortcomings/flaws “

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    3. You're right Swaggie.

      @anonymous15:45, you do have a point... Maybe being too strict is also a bad habit

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    4. Mrs A. I have noticed your post always have harsh tone. Hope you are not harsh for real... To co workers and relatives and so on. But for grace pls be gracious too

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  14. He bangs the door while I'm sleeping.
    It pains me eh but how I go do.

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  15. I don't have a spouse so I don't know

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  16. My husband is so annoying, he will be greeting every minutes, every time "are you OK dear?",even when I'm sleeping he will wake me up to ask if im fine, if I'm sick,na then greetings go wan kill me, kilode, if he's out he will call more than 20 times to ask 8f I and the kids are doing fine, if we have eaten, I went to a party last week, e no allow me enjoy the party.na soso call n chatting he wan use finish me. I tire for the man

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    1. Aww he is caring and loving. Maybe he doesnt know how to draw the line

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    2. I am praying for the type of your husband.

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    3. Your husband has my love languages oh, I pray for such kind of man. Madam stop complaining and enjoy every moment, your man is so caring.

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    4. My sister appreciate him for always checking up on you.

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    5. Does he have a brother? 突突突

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    6. You better start appreciating him.
      My hubby doesn't care even if you are alive.

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    7. Anon he has a brother, and he's married, the wife too dey complain same thing, you guys won't understand, I hardly go out without him tagging if he's around, and if GE didnt follow you will meet him outside waiting for me,thank God we live in our own house, the father too na same same, 12 years of choking marriage.

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    8. According to an Igbo adage: "The dog said that those who have buttocks don't know how to sit down." Madam enjoy your husband's attention abeg. Some of us are praying for such transformations. Lol

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    9. It is obvious your husband does not have friends, apart from you. My hubby too is like that, but I am used to it now. He is an Ondo man and his best food is pounded yam, so when i want to go for parties, I make pounded yam for breakfast and that knocks him off completely. Na to sleep all day and I will enjoy my owamabe

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    10. My homie is this way
      And I've learned to live with it .
      Sometimes it's cute other times it's plain annoying lol

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    11. Your comment made me smile

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  17. I am not married,not dating as well.

    I can't condone dirty habit such as;using the loo without flushing and washing your bum-bum and hands thoroughly,dropping your dirty clothes in a wrong place, dirty clothes are meant to be dropped in the laundry basket,I destest snoring chai,and mouth odour is a NO for me.

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  18. Stella i need to send my chronicles.I can say i have an almost perfect man.But his only flaw is money.We have been dating since uni days.He graduated 2 years ago and no job yet.He is not lazy,but not the hustling type either when it comes to entreprenurship.But believes in coroprate job and travelling abroad to hustle.I finished my service last year and this Corona has been slowing down every effort of starting my business or getting a job.I am from a comfortable home,same as boo.But our families are not rich rich.Not having Money is the only flaw my boyfriend has that bothers me.Is not easy dating a guy that is still coming up,when I don't have money either.I pray God smiles on us.If my parents were rich enough to see my business through,i don't mind carrying all the burdens till my baby stands on his feet.Even the little he gets,he shares with me and spoils me.God please answer my prayers.

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    1. Please, don't let him know you don't mind carrying all the burden, even if your mind and flesh are willing and able.


      This might make him lazy indeed .

      May God hear your prayers.

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  19. My husband hardly sit one place, after I have finished moping the house in the morning,this man will legit go outside and come inside more than 20times,i use to be very upset with him before, until I realised that he's just a restless human being. If I finish cleaning and he starts his normal go out and come in,i will just look and comot face.

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    1. This really got me laughing. My dad is also like that,my mom is tired of telling him

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    2. 不不不 @ restless human being

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  20. my hubby snores like there are helicopter and aeroplane in the room at the same time , and me am a light sleeper, i go just dey tap in to change position till i sleep off. He told me i snore too but i didnt believe so we decided to record ourselves while asleep, omo i was surprised that i snore loud toowe just laugh it off. we shall live by the flaws

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    1. Call me abbey my husband and urs na d same whatsapp group then dey.. Bv Nigeria first daughter say na Obstructive sleep Apnea na wetin dem dey call an

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  21. I don't eat and drink out. So I don't do eateries and restaurants.
    That includes eating at parties like weddings, birthday events and all. I just can't eat out. If the food wasn't prepared by me or I wasn't there when it was cooked I can't eat it. I think I also have ocd. Looking at the brighter sides of things. I have a clean environment.


    Gates.

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    1. @ Gates....Eating out is not a bad habit. It is a good habit self because men like you do not cheat. Are you single?

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    2. My twin,thats why I don't like visitiny in-laws, Cis I won't eat whatever they give me,and they don gossip me tire, its just the way I'm wired I can't help it, I can't eat whatever didnt cook, even if I'm with the cook ,I will see one or two this that will make me not to eat

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    3. I actually like this. Not a bad habit at all Gates

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    4. I use to be like you. Was so bad in secondary school. I never ate any other of my friends visiting day food but everyone ate my own. Oh how my friends couldn't understand, some didn't like me because of that, even me too didn't know what the problem was.
      As I was about to get married that was really an issue in my heart. I am better now... I can eat foods that look very neat in the eyes, I can eat fast food too. But eating some foods out my home is still a problem.
      My husband has become like me a little. To eat outside the house Na issue now.
      You can work on your mind small about it.

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  22. He doesn't close the door gentle when living the room in the morning,and once he bangs the door,our baby wakes up to breastfeed.

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  23. My husband snores but it is not a big deal for me. As for me, hmm. I can fart Sha. Not ordinary fart o. But my fart go Harvard. It's that type you will not know whether to run or to hold your breath. It is the type of evil smelling, stomach churning, tears inducing fart that you will be wondering when you ate oke nwuru anwu. God delivered me, Sha. So now, we are good.

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    1. Hahaha you are so funny

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    2. Chai. Smelly fart sha Mine has gotten worse during the lockdown. My husband is permanently on nose-mask. Night and day. Kai marriage sha.

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    3. 不不不不不

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    4. @ permanently on nose mask.

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  24. Omo ehhh, my hubby can never put back wat he collect from d right place, he chews loudly sometimes, Nd sometimes doesn’t flush d toilet very well. I sometimes do it for him. Marriage is not easy o, bt we tank God.

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  25. My own bad habit is that I show less concern. If we are fighting or arguing, I will become quiet, he will talk from now till December, I go just dey look am. I want to start caring oh, but I have sharp mouth so I don't want to say things I shouldn't.

    His own fault, I think he cares too much and acts like a child sometimes.

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  26. My husband can argue for Africa.

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  27. My bad habits is I snore not the terrible snoring
    Once we are friends I report myself to you before you will find out and feel disappointed.

    I love to arrange the house like sweeping, mopping I can do that every minute and seconds.

    I want my toilet to be clean, always close the toilet door at all times.

    I go to the toilet with my phone, I cannot visit the rest room without pressing my phone else nothing will come out.

    Body odour, mouth odour I don't like it or armpit odour.

    I hope I don't have a problem.

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  28. Oga love to repeat clothes he must wear it at least twice I talked and talked waste of time ,I just ignored and act like I don't even see it anymore gradually he is stopping or because I don't bother to look anymore ,also I remind him to wash his hands like a child ,wash hands before you touch my kpekus was war ,don't come and put germs in my Toto abeg, thank God Corona came ooo !!

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  29. My spouse has plaques in his teeth. The color is now looking like green. He doesn't like to brush his teeth. Whenever we kiss I feel like I have worms moving on my teeth days after so I've stopped kissing him. How do I tell ada grown assrass guylguy to have his teethtteeth cleaned up?

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    1. Hmmmm,serious wahala dey oo. Used to see such on one pastor's teeth and I kept wondering how his wife does with the kissing. yuck

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    2. Wilder's, stop kissing him naw...why introducing bacteria into your mouth cos of foreplay?

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    3. You both should visit the dentist every 6 months, to wash your mouth, at the least. This will clear the plaque in his.

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    4. Dental plaque? Eeeeeeeeew! What you should do? Book a dental appointment ASAP and drive him there yourself. Don't even give him an option. Please talk to him about it coz he may not know how bad it is.

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    5. Please let him use salt to brush his teeth thoroughly before you kiss him

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  30. My horseband is both physically and emotionally abusive.
    People say he is quite and won't believe the monster he is behind close doors.

    I live in the abroad and he will go to prison if I involve the police again (he was warned the first time).

    I have widow fantacies (Google it). I plan on leaving soon, God please help me do the right thing for me and my child.

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    1. Hmmm God have mercy

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    2. Don't kill someone else's child

      Call the police and be safe

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  31. My husband smokes weed. He his it WELL during our courtship. I didnt even suspect because we were friends for many years before marriage so I thought I knew everything. Well, I was wrong! When we got married, I became suspicious because of this smell he often comes into the house with in the mornings (he smoked twice a day, in the morning and at nights). Turns out, he'd been smoking since his year one. Anyway, I used to rant and rave about it until I decided to let him be. After all, I can't change anyone. I can only love them and pray for them. Now, he smokes once a day or once in 2days. He hides himself well (I told him to keep it away from my children). Of late he's been using my empty hen house (I told him he's my first cockerel ). That been said, he's a good man with a good heart. Not violent, and a family man. That kind of makes up a bit for that very bad habit. Sometimes, we can't have it all at once. He's a work in progress and I'm patiently working with him.

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    1. mine is on this table too. we have quarrelled and fought over it. I am employing all my will power to stop talking.recently he threatened that if I ever tell his parents (cos I often said I would) and they get high bp, then I should say goodbye to the marriage.

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    2. Anony 19:39. Y not quit threatening and tell him the health implications instead. We can't have it all you know? Your home is blessed

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  32. My fiance is unemotional and cold. The relationship is one year plus now. When we just met,it was a really big problem. He doesn't call me sweet names nor act all sweet but he gives me things and he is a great provider. I told him my love language and things are changing gradually. No relationship is perfect.

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    1. And he is your fiance .

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    2. Yes he is @ Malley. We all have different love languages, don't we? Which giving is his own,so run along with your bad energy.

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    3. I did not mean to be rude .

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  33. He plays music to sleep.
    Most times, I have to wait for him to sleep first then i put off the music before I can sleep.
    He smacks my butt anytime I walk pass him,can be annoying sometimes.

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  34. My bad habit is I like making money.. I like money..I mean good money.. as in more money... Oh God pls bless me with yes money.. pls don't tell me to change ..let me die old in and with this bad habit..hehehe

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  35. My husband snores, I live with it.

    He also doesn't remember my birthday. At first it was so strange and annoying. But now, all I do is remind him. My birthday is in July and I have started now till the actual day - my birthday is next month ooo, it is next week ooo, it is tomorrow oo etc.

    He believes everyday is special and doesn't celebrate special days or waits for a special day to give gift. Everyday is Christmas, birthday, Valentine etc. I have come to accept it and I actually love it now.

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  36. My hubby smokes a lot around the house. When am not at home he smokes in the house. I have complained severally, he will even deny it to my face even when the smell is obvious. The habit has even given him a terrible mouth odour now. I am tired, we have 2 kids and it's been 7 years of marriage

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  37. My fianc矇 does not sleep well without me. When he’s in his flat he will be calling me up and down when he’s supposed to be sleeping. But when he’s in my flat and in my bed, 30secs and he’s asleep.

    When we are both home together we might not even bath sef cause the sex Is too vigorous. We are mostly asleep.

    I am the snorer, I got that from my father.

    He’s by my side sleeping and snoring so softly... I love this man so much and I am so grateful. Both of us have come a long way and have had positive influences on each other. He’s a MAN and he loves me too much. Glad he fought to have me to himself and I am glad I chose him.

    Life is good and I pray God keeps us till death do us part. Can’t wait for my ring which is already purchased and on its way. See me who does not do nails looking for where to fix nails as the big proposal day approaches.

    Only other thing I don’t like which he is working on, is smoking. He makes the effort to change things that are not good enough about him and he’s working on stopping too. I am so grateful God! Thank you for this kind of love! We don’t have it all but we have what it takes together to conquer the world.

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    1. I love your love sweetheart. You guys will be fine....just keep praying.

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    2. Your post made me smile

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  38. [ ] I have been married for 7years. My husband is a good man and he provides financially for the family. I work too although my salary is about half of his but I also contribute to the upkeep of our home too. The annoying flaw he has is that he doesn't help with any house chore even on weekends. He believes providing financially is all that is required of a man.
    [ ] I'm currently pregnant with my 3rd baby, he won't lift a finger to do anything in the house. All he does is work on his laptop and press phone or go out to gist with friends. I practically fought with him to bathe our toddler when I was feeling too weak to bend down too much as a result of the pregnancy. I thought he would at least take the chore of bathing them off me due to the lockdown as we both work from home but he won't. Being heavily pregnant has not helped at all but I don talk tire yet he hasn't changed.
    I will sweep, mop sometimes, cook, wash toilet and bathroom, help the kids with e-learning and he will just be pressing phone. It's just so annoying.

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  39. This sam is a dirty, mouth-odour building, repeat-one-outfit-repeatedly, disgusting pig and a pathological liar. He's also a sadist who uses domestic violence to isolate you from everyone so he can do as he pleases without anyone intervening.
    He leaves dirty dishes and clothes everywhere but has a standing order that the windows should not be open, instead he throws airfreshners at the problem.
    So cunning, vindictive and pretentious a person, you wonder what purpose God made such a person for or if his folks got him from a shrine deity.
    NO! He pretended and acted differently during the 1 year plus courtship and it was only at the Introduction rites that my mom saw a sly act from him & warned me. But I loved the brokeass and married him.
    He uses church to cover up but argues with guests that he can be hateful but holy.
    I thank God I escaped the wretched grasp.

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  40. Na wah ooo. Nothing Musa no go hear for gate.

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  41. Anon on 23:00 pls don't kill yourself with house chores, get a help either live in or the one that comes everyday. This type of men don't change, you will just wear out and look old overworking yourself. My husband flaw is he's not an outgoing person, you can predict his schedule, work to home. I love outings, movies, wedding, birthdays, I practically drag him along or leave him to sleep at home but he will keep calling, I hardly travel cos of him, he will keep asking me if I want to leave him all alone & if I go, he will be asking me the day am coming back everyday. He has no friends only colleagues and family. He's a family person, calls my parent more than I do, he help me a lot, bath the kids, cook sometimes before I wake up, when he's off work, I meet food at home, he will even be calling to know what I want to eat. If he's off duty,he will want to drop me at work,and drive one hour back to pick me,he will ask me 10times if am okay especially when I sleep much,he does so much house chores I had to get a help that comes and go cos am lazy, I cannot work and still do so much domestic work.hubby works hard too and have off days which he dedicates to us but he's too attached to us, no other life style, he will grumble if I nag him to go for occasions, at a point I just plan my outings with my kids & leave him to sleep.if I say we should hang out and eat maybe fish, he will just go and buy the fish home.he's so boring but a calm person and quiet outside, he gist mostly at home. He can greet for Africa even his junior, this man will greet them and wave, when I complain, he will say there's nothing there babe, it takes nothing.another thing is hes unromatic,things I like.no surprise birthday, proposal, no Valentine plan, I have to plan every event & he will bring money and love it later. I see people spouse surprise them and wish for such, you must tell my husband before he sees it as important. Hes just focused on providing food and all our basic needs & saving money for rainy days but emotional needs nko? He's only very romantic when hes horny, he will over pamper few hours to the time & I will suspect.

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    1. U're really blessed my dear.
      I wish you the best.

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    2. My dear, your husband is a good man. No one is perfect. In my opinion, his positives outweigh his negatives so accept him and love him like that. With everything you wrote, you are a lucky woman.

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  42. If my husband has 1million he would call the whole world and gave them 950k.. and ask me to take the remaining 50k and keep for him that we are broke. And these people would abadon him until when next they need him.
    He allow pple come to our house for charity to use and dump him and they still abuse him on top. He doesn't buy things for himself but he can buy expensive things for pple but he expect me to sort the kids out

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