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Saturday, July 18, 2020

Actress Steph Isuma Says Talking Her Rape Experience Helped Her Find Closure

Actress and comedian, Steph Isuma aka Calabar Chic, has narrated her battle with depression after being a victim of rape






Speaking with Inside Nollywood, the Cross River State-born entertainer said she was moved to share her story so as to inspire other rape victims to open up. However, she rejected the insinuation that being a rape victim would scare men away from her.



In her words: “It was a burden I had carried for so many years. I was depressed for years of my life. But I survived it. At a point, I tried committing suicide but I survived it. I’m actually creating awareness for people to know the effect of this thing called rape. Another reason why I put it out there was to encourage victims that they are not alone, that indeed the people they look up to also go through stuff. We also encourage others to speak out because if we don’t speak out, these things would continue. We would have to change the rape culture in Nigeria; reduce rape apologies, stop shunning victims when they speak up for themselves so that rape issues can reduce.”



On whether being a rape victim would limit her chances of marriage, Isuma said: “I don’t believe being a rape victim would limit my chances of getting married. Although, the society we live in is one that sees rape victims who speak out about their experiences in bad light. They begin to bash, accuse and ask questions.


That’s the rape culture we need to put an end to. People that view victims as stained, irritated are the ones that believe one won’t get married as a rape victim, but I don’t care. If I am going to get married I would when I want to and when I feel I have healed. But I don’t think I’m going to miss my chances of getting married because I had to speak the truth. The man that I would marry should know what I have been through. If I can’t open up and tell the person I am going to spend the rest of my life with, the things that had happened to me, then there is no need going into the marriage.”



Wondering if she habours any regret going public with her rape story, Steph Isuma said pouring her heart out on social media was her best decision ever.


“No, not for one day. I felt it was one of the best things I have done in my life. After I went public with my story, I got lots of messages from people. I read about people’s stories and how they had been molested as children, how they had been raped and sexually assaulted by family members. Some were molested by people they trusted, even strangers. I came to understand that these people carry this burden in their heart, with no one to talk to. So, when I spoke about mine, they felt the connection. They talked to me about it, I encouraged them the way I could. I never regretted going public, never!”

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19 comments:

  1. Did she mentioned the person that raped her?

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  2. As a man and a father to a daughter, I still believe that castration should be the punishment for any man caught raping a woman. This way; it limits his chances of doing it again.

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    1. So just because you have a daughter you now feel the plight of women? How selfish and inconsiderate of you to say that because you have a daughter you believe in the castration of rapists. You should believe in it whether you have a daughter or not. I hate when men claim they are against rapist because they have daughters now. So if they only had boys they wouldn't care? Victims of rape may not be your daughters, sisters, cousin, aunties, nieces etc but THEY ARE HUMAN and that's enough to have empathy and fight for them and to prevent rape.

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    2. 17:52 Supported 💯%

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  3. Speaking up is the first step to healing, may heaven help her.

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    1. The society doesn’t encourage them on speaking up! Nobody wana be sued for defamation cause no strong evidence to nail their predictors moreover the victims never get to know if they are gonna rape,everything might come like a flash, even the so noble people you look up to in the society are guilty “rapist” too reason the battle against this maybe nt go far soon
      Ps : Ladies once you noticed the atmosphere isn’t nice for you pls use the exit 🚪 door

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    2. You made some valid points but sometimes the victims do not have any exit door 🚪, especially in the case of trusted person/relate, being overpowered, taken unawares or a minor/child.

      ADVOCACY - Time for good women and good men to rise up and lobby to get laws passed against rape as well as see to the enforcement.

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  4. It’s a terrible ordeal and has taken me decades to heal.

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  5. Rape is a crime against the entire world....because it reduces humans to beast.
    #say no to rape.

    ada042

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    1. Ada042, that's an apt expression for rape @"it reduces humans to beast".

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  6. Just found OUt my niece got molested as a child she blurted it out during a row with her mum... and she's just 21 we need to be more vigilant infact over vigilant with our children

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  7. #saynotorape# may God heal you broken heart.

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