STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
COMPLETELY BROKEN
I use to think I'm strong hearted until Wednesday morning, I was sitting with my fiance in her dad's sitting room and she has this sch friend (female) that they are very close and they gist and play a lot.
So my babe was on whatsapp video call with the friend and she was intentionally showing me to the friend on. I was sitting beside her surfing the internet but the call was on speaker then i heard clearly the said friend on phone and in quote "Why are you showing me this guy on video, I don't like him he's not fine but wait is that your brother, if he's your brother I like him" .
I felt so bad but did as if I don't know what they're talking about but in all honesty I felt it and almost questioned God for the way I was created but later give thanks. Mind you I'm not ugly, dated some girls in the past, Infact if I happen to meet the said friend outside, I can bet that i will date her but actually I always wish I'm more finer for a man.
Now, me and my babe are planning wedding, we are like family friends and neighbours but the the only thing bothering me is, My babe's mood changed immediately her friend said that and she hurriedly ended the call.
She went on deep thinking for minutes and I understood she felt it too. I know people always want the best and she will wants her friend to be like your man is handsome and all. Now I'm scared for the future, I hope stuffs like this won't be bringing issues later? hope she will be proud of me? Hope she wont be keeping me away from her friends cos of the unknown feedback.. note" Guess she has never discussed me with her friend before from what I understand in their convo. Im literally crying inside that I'm not some Ramsey Noah or Desmond Elliot In looks
Should I swerve before it too late? Please help me post for God sake..
Should I swerve before it too late? Please help me post for God sake..
Hmmmm i called him after he sent me this Chronicle and he cried on the phone..I was so shocked that i was confused but i told him nice things and asked for his photos promising to tell him the truth..
He sent me his photos and lo and behold,he looks like a finer version of Nollywood actor Joseph Benjamin (use google to see what Joseph Benjamin looks like)
I told him to ask her about the conversation so that he can find closure.....you cant be getting married to a woman who allows her friends bring you down,hell no!!!
Stella, you are very correct.
ReplyDeleteMr Man, goan make money.
DeleteWhy are some people in the habit of doing that? It's absolutely wrong to bring someone down in this manner
DeleteDis one pass me oooo, first question: hownold are u both? The girl and her friend sound like children and the guy is just like them.
DeletePls halt every marriage plan and go get more matured first, if not, it's insecurities and stupid fait that will the marriage abruptly. Them say u no fine and u come sad, that fine pays the bills or puts food on the table or helps on to achieve life's goals?
Damn! These kids need to understand what real life is all about not some 16yr old brained children thinking of marriage. Never marry ooo.... una never ripe enuf, na only biological ripeness u get, no be wetin dem dey take marry be dat.
Uncle u and Ned Nwokoro who fine pass?
DeleteThe friend likes him that’s all. She’s envious cos she has no bae
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DeleteWhen I got married my friends gossiped about my husband saying he’s ugly but my husband is not ugly in my eyes he’s presentable and super rich! We have 7 houses in Nigeria I’m living big, my fashion is top notch they are now tapping and wishing but I have cut all of them off my life! My husband is my best gift from God! He worships the ground I walk on and we have 4 lovely kids 7 years in sweet marriage and counting...
DeleteIt seems all of you are babies....dat is why dey say be mature before contemplating marriage. Who really cares abt how a man looks. Thank God i married a man dat looks good but i was in no way looking for a Usher look'alike, dat isnt what even endears me to a man. I am more concerned if u have a good heart. Not only how u treat me but how u also treat ppl around u; if ur hardworking,will take care of me,have goals in life etc.
DeletePoster im sure ur not ugly,dont dare ever let anyone look down on u...You are a man and its obvious u have a good heart.
Awwww, I love your story.
DeleteBros cool down, the lady may be joking. She just has a loose mouth. You and your babe are just not used to play play Yabeez.
DeleteThe girl never ready for marriage. A man that looks like Joseph Benjamin is verrrry handsome! That girl will be swayed by her friends on any matter. Oga, open ya eyes wella
DeleteI am more worried about your Fiance's reaction to such a comment than her friends poisinous tongue.
DeleteIn this day and age,na ugly guys dey marry the hottest and finest girls sef,as long as your pocket is handsome.Na money be fine bobo.person no dey chop handsomeness.Wise women know the koko.
It sounds like she is a kind of girl that doesn't have a mind of her own.She thrives from people's praises,especially her friends.You better wise up.
This just reminds me of an incident that got me shocked that some girls really choose guys to date/marry based on if they can show off the man to their friends.
How old is this your fiance??Is she even ready for marriage?? This type will nag you to death and make life unbearable for you,if another friend's husband is doing better,or getting more praise and hype from mutual friends.
Or it maybe,that her friend is even jealous,yes i said it.Either you treat your fiance better than her own man,or she might be wishing it was her getting that type of love,attacking your looks,makes you look less than in her eyes,and make your fiance question her choice.Girls get problem no be small.
I have a friend that her husband is not good-looking in anyway,but the way she is so proud of the man and shows him off ehn.You will question your eyes.Because the love go dey sweet you self.Takes care of her and their beautiful kids,spoils her silly,birthdays and anniversaries on her whatsapp status is always lit.She made me realize that looks are not everything in a man.Visiting their home,I feel like getting married the next day.Will fear or respect allow you even talk shit about her husband's looks??
Your girl shouldn't even give room for such disrespect mehn!!I think you should let your fiance know how hurt you were.Her next reaction and words should let you know if you have found a wife or not.
Bros, tell us the truth, the whole truth- Do you have money? It's like you don't have money. My brother hustle o! No be people marry Obj, Oshiomole and even Nwoko? No qbe fine fine women?
DeleteThat shows she can't defend her mind.
DeleteSmall girl still dey play her head.
Nothing like ugly man o, if you fine pass Oshiomole, my bros you be A1
Mr poster...
ReplyDeleteYou cried? Really? Because someone felt you're ugly?
Abeg man wey ugly na man wey no get money... hustle now and hustle hard.
Also work on your self esteem. It's very low
Nwunye Doc, ike gwuru o. A man's beauty is in his accomplishments abi which kain petty, vain and zero self esteemed excuse for a husband-to-be be this one?!
DeleteOga, you have deeper issues you must deal with and marriage should be the last thing on your mind. Gosh!.
Mr poster u better marry a matured lady. Your babe nd her friend are sounding like teenagers. She is not matured biko.
DeleteSee b4 we got married my husband had a big head but he was a charmer! He knew how to give you attention and be romantic ehn. So,when we were planning our wedding, my bff was so friendly with him that she always called him big head. One particular day she said it in the presence of other people and they all busted out laughing including my husband. I was about to react when he said to them "na brain full the head o. To be best graduating student in medical school no be beans. 1st class!!!"๐ Everybody quiet!๐คซ He then added "that's why I made sure I chose a particularly beautiful woman to help my children"๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ
DeleteThat was the last time she ever called him big head but his body has even caught up with the size of his head since we got married and he is very handsome now o.๐๐๐
Sapphire, nwa nnem, ezigbo ike gwuru.
DeleteNo Hell No bros!!
DeleteWhat happened to loving yourself? Being confident about YOURSELF?the friend said if you were her brother then you are fine,this should tell you YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, ask your fiancรฉe though,make sure you are on the same page!
Careless talkers, you see?
ReplyDeleteThings you might take as a joke might just push the recipient of that sick joke of yours off the cliff. We have so many careless talkers and loose tongues in our society.
If you don't have any nice thing to say; SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!
The friend is not well. How dare u tell someone that her fiance is not fine???? Even if u are thinking it, u don't ever say such out to the person. But I don't blame her, its the yeye fiancรฉe that allowed such in the first place.
DeleteWhat rubbish????
Ummm, I think its her opinion and shes entitled to it.... thing is, the poster's girl should have cautioned the girl right away instead of ending the call like that. Now if the fiancee eventually addresses the matter with her friend, I bet you it won't be the same. If she had cautioned her friend right away, the guy wouldn't be feeling what he's feeling right now.
DeleteAlso the friend is not totally to be blamed, (show me your friend and I will tell you....)the careless talks shows how the two girls talk about other people, hence the othersity to utter such knowing she was on speaker phone.
*audacity* not 'othersity'
DeleteYour comment is right on point.
On point!
DeleteLet's interpret what her friend meant;
ReplyDelete"If he is your brother, I like him... (to be my husband)"
"If he is your fiance, I don't like him...(because jealousy is holding me captive)"
Plain English.
Truth like the noonday sun.
If you both are not in Christ, that is
where to be to secure your life, eternal life, marriage and other things.
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You just mirrored my exact thoughts.
DeleteGbamest. Na bad belle dey catch the friend
DeleteThank you 15:06.๐๐
DeleteExactly what I thought.
I agree with you. She can want him (if he's her brother) for herself, but(ugly) if for another person. Poster talk to your girl, her friend is jealous. Please work on your self-esteem. All the best.
DeleteThis posters self esteem is the problem. The is nothing wrong with what was said
DeleteYou're feeling like this because of what one person said? You didn't see where she said she likes you if you're you fiance's brother? What does that tell you? Your friend should first of all cut off that friend cos she's not a good person.
DeleteGbam!!!
DeleteImagine, the deep meaning is in.what she said. She is jealous of your fiancee who is her friend. Its as simple as that. She is trying to bring her friend your fiancee down whether she realizes it it not is another matter. But like anonymous said, if its your brother I.will date him but if its your guy he is not fine. She is plain jealous of your fiancee. You too don't talk words too much to heart. Most girls like their friends to validate their guys. Which is wrong anyway, because "na you wear shoe, na you know the shoe".
DeleteYour girl too should not mind her friend mbok.
Based on Stella's visual assessment of the man,over you sabi the matter.
DeleteAt best, the friend was joking as some girls do; at worse, she is jealous of the handsome man her friend has got.
Poster nothing do you.
That too...the girl is jealous for sure. Poster your fiancee need to stay the hell away from that girl.
DeleteThe girlfriend is just envious but the fiancee is not wise enough to handle the issue...
DeleteAm confused here#he looks like a finer version of Joseph Benjamin,I thought it's only women that could be insecure about their looks,guy if she's not confident about you,that's a huge red flag,theyvsay "A man is never ugly"so go pick your confidence from where you dropped it,you might want to have a rethink about this,peace✌️
ReplyDeleteI want to guess you are in your twenties? Cos sometimes u have to be a MAN...not a sissy. If she is actually thinking about what her friend said, then she n Her friend dey craze.
ReplyDeleteThank you blackberry, poster, how old are you please ?
DeleteIf you're right in my front, I would have slap your fve right now for this rubbish.
You want to be Ramsey Noah, why not be yourself and stop being stupid.
Oremi don ti binu oooo ๐คฃ๐
DeleteSomeone said “if he’s your brother I want him” you can’t see she’s stupidly foolish ni?
DeleteYour girlfriend doesn’t look to me like one who is ready for marriage,if something as mundane like is a problem for her๐ถ♀️๐ถ♀️๐
What has looks God to do with how you feel about her and how she feels about you. Your concern now should be how does she feel about you and how you look? Your babe didn't say anything to her friend and for all we know she might be jealous and she might also be joking.
DeleteSome friends play like that,:if he is your man,I don't like him,but if he is your brother I like him"she might be saying she doesn't like you for herself but might like her brother for herself.
Shake it off,you're a man.
Oh no guys, I beg to differ....the reason the guy is worried is because PEOPLE are different. Do not expect people to perceive things the way you do, it doesn't have a anything to do with AGE at allllllll....and it doesn't have anything to do with GENDER either. ..think about it
DeleteI like your girlfriend for not discussing her relationship with her friends. Oga, you are too emotional, mehnnn. That girl is obviously jealous of your gf...
DeletePoster, don't let anyone born of a woman kill your joy in this life!
ReplyDeleteYour fiance's friend might be blind, but, your fiance is not blind and if she decided to be influenced by her friends shenanigans, the jokes will be on her. That means, she doesn't deserve you.
Your fiance should have immediately shut down her friend but, she decided to indulge her.
My advice to you, is to overlook whatever her friend said and continue with your plans. But, if you noticed that she's being withdrawn from your plans, then, you can call her and question her. If she doesn't want the marriage to go on because of your looks, then, she doesn't deserve a man like you; you'll just let her be.
Women, especially Nigerian women should learn to have a mind of their own.
You'll be fine ๐ค
Jealous women!
ReplyDeleteProverbs 27:4 Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can
stand before jealousy?
Tell your wife to cut off that jealous "friend" if you people wish to enjoy
marriage.๐๐ป♀️๐ฎ๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️๐๐ป♀️
Very Jealous. He is fine enough to date if he is her brother but not good enough as a husband material for you. The girl is plain jealous that her friend is getting hitched before her and she couldn’t hide it. Your girlfriend needs to do away with such a person cuz the moment you both go ypur separate ways, thรฉ so called friend will come for you. Your girl needs to grow up seriously. Letting peoples’ opinion get to her when they have nothing tangible to contribute but hate. You both should speak to each other in a better light and move on from here, you will encounter a lot worse than this but how you go about handling it will determine your growth and bond.
DeleteLemme add this,I bet if you are rich,you won't feel this way because they say"Ego bu nma nwoke๐๐๐
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DeleteIgbo people do say that money is the beauty of a man..
ReplyDeleteSir,u re not ugly.
Pick urself up.
Look at oshiomole nd see d beauty he got married to..no man is ugly as long as u have a working penis..nd legit source of livelihood
Don't mind him.
DeleteNobody ugly ( in psquare's voice)
I actually went to check Joseph Benjamin and even found out he's one of my crush ๐.
ReplyDeletePoster, don't ever let anyone bring you down okay?
See it as that friend is jealous cus she said you are not fine but like you if you were her brother, that's just a bad Belle friend Biko.
Who cares about fine boys these days sef? So long a guy treats me well, I don't care if he's fine abeg.
That her friend has a loosed mouth. Even if she has reservations about the guy she just saw, she could've atleast kept her comments to herself.. it's a video call for God's sake, we all know how video calls can be, no be everybody dey fine. Oga, don't bother yourself abeg, you didn't create yourself.. when you get married & everything begins to fall in place, you'll be more handsome. Joseph Benjamin is handsome. ๐
ReplyDeleteThis is really sad. But I could not stop laughing imagining the scenario. If I was the poster, I will jump in the video call and tell the said friend that I might not be as cute but I treat my girl the cutest that way she complements me. Instead of feeling sorry for your self. If your babe have sense she will read btw the lines that the other friend wants her man. If he is your brother I want to date him. See talk ooo. Hahahahaha guy Man U have no business getting married. You people should leave young girls in their 20’s alone una no go hear word. Wake up and have that conversation and leave her alone. Let her go and look for Ramsey Noah while she tries to become a Kim.
ReplyDeleteInukwa I want him if he's your brother! Rubbish talk. Jealous being!
DeleteCynthia dear you get the drift, that her friend is a jealous bitch want her to be single to stupor like her #awon da bi mo se da# I bet if the guy ask her out she will jump at it.
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DeletePoster if what Stella describe is who you really look like then dry your tears! You fine die,hot chocolate like Joseph Benjamin? and don't allow her and her friend to bring you down pls! Go with what Stella advised so you can find closure on time before it's too late
ReplyDeleteWhatever you find, going forward never you feel this way again! Be confident in your looks cos you're uniquely made by God
Please you, that girlfriend/fiancee and the said friend should gather at the children's play ground for 10-10, suwe and game box! Because you people are not even mature enough for ludo and monopoly๐๐๐๐๐...
ReplyDeleteAs in eh!
DeleteLMAOOOO. Spot on!!!!
DeleteMr Man you must be a pussy, with all what you wrote there, it's like inferiority complex is disturbing your life.
ReplyDeleteYou're complaining about you not finer and if it's going to cause you something in the future.
Dump the girl before he dump you and go make money and date women that will appreciate you.
Ode leleyi sha.
Don don vex.... Abeg, pity the guy. Some people soft like that.
DeleteAbeg Don talk sense to this man o. There's nothing like ugly man but only poor and lazy man. If you see basket mouth before eh... but the guy made sure that he made money and clean up himself. Bros go make money.
DeleteCHAI UNCLE DON...yes he might be suffering from inferiority complex but he also has a point' the not wanting to show him off to her friends' anymore. That part is real, some girls are like that, they think their men are ugly and they dont make mistake of showing them off, but they like the marriage or relationship or even the MONEY. So forget. The guy should just find a way to deal with himself or walk away if he feels somehow.
DeleteAnd yes...men can be FUGLY with or without money, not just women. But forgive Love for I cannot create ant not to talk of human being.
DeleteLord*
DeleteBro, if what her friend(s) think of your looks can turn her that way, please make a turn now before it is too late.
ReplyDeleteNo one should make you feel inferior, for her friend to have the guts to say that about her man, smh ๐คฆ♀️
You are an image of God with other qualities that make you unique ❤️
My Guy, first of all.. don't feel pity or low about who you are because of one loud mouth..Your babe sef no Sabi give response o, why end call? (reason why you guys need to talk about it).
ReplyDeleteAlways remind yourself and tell yourself every day that you are who God created you to be and you can't change it.. And nobody.. I repeat nobody can make you feel inferior about who you are if you have already accepted you for you! As for your handsome/beauty my dear.. Na you be the only beholder wey matter! Is your own, be confident with it.
Omo truth be told the friend is jealous!!!!oga u at sexy and ๐๐๐.imagine saying""if he is your man man i dont like, but if he is your brother i like him"'nabe is jealous...is like saying '"guy you go like woman'"(meaning:guy too fine)
ReplyDeleteSome girls are always in competition with their friends, and ll always discredit good things that happen to their. Only wise babes can spot these kind of frenemies. Let this girl leave her man with this friend, then watch her qualify him as prince charming.
ReplyDeleteShe seem jealous of your fiancee. If not, she would not have said later on, 'if that is your brother, I like him'. She wanted her friend to feel insecure because she thought she showed you to her, to spite her. Maybe she reacted instantly by flipping the table back on your woman. However, on a second thought thinking she had a chance( that is if she is single) she contradicted herself by inquiring if you were her brother.
ReplyDeleteMy verdict: she is jealous!
Lemme quote Tyrion Lannister...
ReplyDelete"Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not, wear it like an armour and it can never be used to hurt you".
I act all tough and can be when need be but deep down I'm really a very compassionate lady.
ReplyDeleteThis post brought tears to my 'heart'.
Poster, please girls can be petty and jealous. Your fiancรฉe's bestie might just be getting back at her for something or NOTHING. She might indirectly want you for herself or mad her friend is getting married (before her if she's not).
Have a talk with your fiancรฉe. Her self-esteem must be very low for her friend' s opinion/comment on her choice to throw her off balance/deep thought.
If she ain't proud of you, take a walk and go for a lady that's head over heels in love with you.
By the way, MUST BE A STUNNING HUNK for Stella to say you are finer than Joseph Benjamin. That actor is really a dark, tall and handsome guy. I've seen him close up in a snooker bar in, Ikeja GRA, Lagos some years back. ๐คฉ๐๐
By the way, *YOU* MUST BE A STUNNING HUNK....
DeleteThere’s a difference between Jealousy and envy, but that your fiancรฉ’s friend is pure winchcraft... No be only who dey fly be winch... she wished she is the one getting married. Small winch!
ReplyDeleteAll i can see from this chronicle is JEALOUSY....
ReplyDeleteIf he is your brother, She likes him but if he is your husband or boyfriend he is Ugly.
She is Jealous already..
No man is Ugly on this earth
It’s possible Your girl is feeling bad cause she knows that’s how she might have bad mouthed other men with her so called friend.
ReplyDeletethank God it’s not too late for you to talk to her and figure out where she stands for real.
Please do not be sad. I know it’s not a nice thing but please take it easy on yourself. No one is ugly as far as I’m concerned, if you have good lifestyle you are good to go.
♥️.
Poster, her friend is just a jealous soul. Didn't she say if you were your fiancee's brother, she would date you? Abeg ignore.
ReplyDeleteBesides, if your fiancee is more worried about what her friends think, good riddance to bad rubbish.
Hahaha have you seen Adams oshomole?
ReplyDeleteHave you seen his wife?
If you have, oya wipe your tears and get your sh*t together!
I however feel your fiancee's friend is jealous of her and trying to make her feel bad, and your woman is enabling her
Mr man please don't leave you fiance bcos of what her friend said, see if she had a problem with your looks, she would have left you since.
ReplyDeleteSomething tells me you are not ugly at all but just insecured and little things get to you, just have a talk with her so she knows how you feel.
Poster called me ๐ค
She saidshe like you if you were her brother, the battle is between them not you, she's trying to hurt your girl
ReplyDeletePoster, there's something you obviously failed to decipher from the bad-mouthed lady. She's a jealous being.
ReplyDeleteShe said her friend's man is ugly but she can have you if you're her friend's brother. She's obviously not happy for her friend and said what she said to spoil y'all's mood and it's working.
Never allow anyone to look or talk down on you cos you are special, unique, and different. This is not to motivate you but to make you open your mind to see the greater good in you.
Your babe doesn't have a friend. She had better keep her away from you both.
At this point, stop feeling sorry for yourself and take charge of the situation. Talk to your woman!
Our words are like weapons...we should be careful how we use them.
ReplyDeleteYour fiancee should have shut her jealous friend up but I think like you, she needs peoples permission before she made up her mind.
As for you poster, in as much as Joseph Benjamin isn't my own spec, I still find it funny that you allow this minute issue cause you your tears.
Brace up my dear because you are about to be married and there are even worse things you'll deal with when you eventually do.
God bless you both.
I agree with your second paragraph.
DeleteCrying is what makes us human I guess.
Guy no be NED NWOKO marry Regina?
ReplyDeleteStop this noooow!
Confidence is SEXY . Even if you looked like a chimpanzee confidence can change your perception of yourself.
You need to wake up and say to yourself every damn morning
I AM BEAUTIFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE
IM A JEWEL IM UNSTOPPABLE ..load your mind consciously with positive words of affirmation and watch yourself THRIVE
The defeatist mind set over what a human has said about you...a fallible human who poos and farts like you has to be ditched real quick
Change your mindset and THRIVE BOO
Poster this isn't an issue for a guy. Most ladies date and Marry the package, not the appearance. Have u wondered why girls Date sugar daddies, men twice their father's age, with stomach bigger than a 9 months pregnant lady, etc. And they marry those Nna bros budinessmen that can't speak English apart from Their container on high sea, with zero ethics & table manners, and lousy behaviours? Their money.
ReplyDeleteHaven't you seen girls flocking Shatta (the ghanian dwarf)?
If you are rich, you will marry the most beautiful girl in the world and she will remain faithful, as long as the money is flowing. And offcourse flaunt you.
Aside this, there are the other set of girls who look out for love and good character in a man. The one who treats them right and make them feel like queen. They don't notice their handsomeness or ugliness, but how they are treated. That's handsomeness for them.
So, know your woman's category.
Then, you must have that talk with her. Tell her you heard what her friend said and want her to be honest with you what she feels and is thinking.
If she thinks it's a problem, don't be mad at her. But be bold enough to let her go. Cause she won't be proud about you or flaunt you.
"KNOW YOUR WOMAN'S CATEGORY". I love this catch phrase ๐คฉ๐
DeletePoster,this here is what you need to know about your woman before you say "I do"
And instead of wishing to be fine, wish to have more wealth and be influential.
ReplyDeleteWait o am I the only one who saw the part where the silly lady said "but if hes your brother,I like him"? meaning Mr poster, if you are to ask the yeye lady out she go gree, she actually sees something in you.
ReplyDeleteRelax, women say stupid things they don't mean sometimes, please don't take it serious, rest your mind, and if you notice some shady behaviours from your fiancรฉe, speak to her and then decide your next move.
All the best.
I've actually noticed that people who think they aren't fine are actually quite handsome or beautiful...
ReplyDeletePoster, please work on your esteem, the friend seems like a nasty person jor. I'm sure your girl is proud about you that's why she was lowkey showing you off to her friend on the video call.I'm quite sure they've gisted about you. I think she will comeback to her senses soon. And for you, this is not the time to get emotional about it. Do small shakers for her, always look and smell good when going to see her. Hype yourself small.. women are stimulated by words... so use them well (I didn't say you should goan be bragging oo) younknow her so you will definitely know what she likes to hear..
If you notice that she changes her attitude towards you, then I guess shes not loyal or wife material... all the best dude..
awwwn,you are an emotional person.
ReplyDeleteA male colleague told me that I was too fat to be married and too dark.i was a size 10 then.
Said my boyfriend would soon dump me for a light skin girl cos he is a young man.
My boyfriend is now my husband, I told him then and he warned me to stay away from that colleague.
Talk to her about it,pele.
Bia, Uzu Anwuli, gini bu "awwwn?"
DeletePlease, lose that 'n' in that exclamation fast. It's not vernacular.
Hmmmmmmmm, it is well, what kind of friend does that? Mr poster you are not ugly.
ReplyDeletedear poster, you shouldnt allow such comment get to you but most importantly you need to get out of that relationship with that lady who cant speak up on your behalf. just have it in mind that the friend fancies you but is jealous of her friend's relationship
ReplyDeletePoster, if it's any consolation, me and my friends talked same way in our twenties. We were young and foolish,so we expected all our boyfriends to be boyishly handsome. We discouraged each other but still dated them,out girlfriends had no choice than accept them later on. Just chillax and go make some dough,ok. In ten year time, u wil wonder how silly u were. Cheers
ReplyDeleteOga face front what's with the tears, I get it that some words can be hurtful sorry ehnn!.
ReplyDeleteEven Mr. Eazi that's not one of the cutest artist is dating Otedola's daughter and their love is going stronger by the day.
See ehnn, If your girl cannot love and appreciate you for you unless she gets approval from her friend (that is obviously jealous) then I don't think she is ready for the real deal ( if you are planning to marry her).
Everything God created are beautifully and wonderfully made.
she's jealous.
ReplyDeleteLol.. I can't help but laugh at this..that was a mind trick aimed at your girl, probably to stop her from throwing her soon to be new status at her face or something...
ReplyDeleteAnd you obloblo fell for it.
Did you not ask yourself why she said she'd date you if you were her brother?
This means she would have no issues dating you if you were not entangled with her..
From Stella's description...you are not ugly. This means inferiority complex is your problem.
Poster, I am a lady, and as a lady, I can categorically tell you that an ugly person self confidence will most likely get the woman he wants...
Look, I am a lady, with speech impediment, what most people would tag disability...but the confidence with which I carry my self has never given any one the allowance to put me down in my presence...I dont know about my absence, but no one has ever summoned courage to tell me, "this is what they said about you".
I stand out positively wherever I go.
I've selected and re-selected guys I want to date. (Contrary to the popular opinion that people with disabilities have no choice with regards to partners)...
I am a magnet.
My point? BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE, and talks like this would not matter to you.
Way to go! ๐๐๐
DeleteParents, raise your children to have self-confidence.
It does not matter if you are a single mom, divorced, poor, rich, educated or not. I don't mean arrogant rude children or bullies.
Show them love plus tough love, how to empathize with other, give them reassurance, emphasize their strengths, allay their fears, hug them often. Every child want to be loved.
EVERY CHILD IS A STAR, LET THEM SHINE!๐
Poster,you have to man up,nobody should make you feel less of yourself.
ReplyDeleteAnd you are supposed to be a man? I'm really disappointed in this chronicle of yours. You are hurt, literally crying over what one human said about you? We all were not created to be all beautiful and handsome. Inside beauty is what reflects on the outside. You have to love and accept yourself wholeheartedly. I hope you won't start doing things you aren't supposed to do just to make people accept you. No, you cannot do that. Cos by the time to start paying attention to what people say about you, you will never be focused in life. All you will ever care about is your appearance. The only thing that should matter to you now is starting a family and making necessary provisions for them. Leave people to talk na. Let them say whatever they like, don't be bothered. You see this inferiority complex hovering around you, dodge it. Abeg I dey vex for you o say you cry cos of watin one imbecile talk. Drop this attitude cos marriage is not child's play. Man up and take charge of your life.
ReplyDeleteToo bad Mr chronicle poster. Too bad you feel this way about yourself. I mean I have seen a lot of guys and babes who are not good looking, like I can call them ugly but their confidence is on the high. I admire them a lot! Guy why bring yourself so low for what? Even if she is a beauty queen. Na wa oh.
ReplyDeleteBetter pick up your self esteem from where you dropped it. It is well with you.
You might need to have a heart to heart talk with that girl friend of yours so you know where eachother stand in this thing you call a relationship that is leading to where again ????
I had to go and look at a picture of Joseph Benjamin. Bro you need to have a talk with your girlfriend o. Marriage is full of plenty wahala which will need you guys to talk and re-talk. So you can start practicing your communication skills with this present issue. And while at it please work on your self esteem too. E go be✌️
ReplyDeleteI've seen people call fine people ugly. It may just be a joke. Nothing serious.
ReplyDeletePoster, your fiancรฉe's friend is just jealous of her. Dear poster you are handsomely made in the image of God. Maybe you have what she likes in a man. Be confident
ReplyDeleteMy late brother had a lady friend who was a year ahead of me in the university. One day I caught her and her friends discussing him (he was serving then). They were like this guy likes you ooo and she replied "ko jo, he's ugly". I never told my brother but it still hurts me till date what she said about him.
ReplyDeleteOga, call her discuss it with her. Meanwhile, that friend is rubbish that belongs in the bin. Black people are easily termed ugly, very annoying. Of she's not proud of you.......you might as well take a walk cos it will affect your marriage.
The girl is husband snatcher in the making, I said up there.
ReplyDeleteYea I'm the poster and the poster is me. I understand I was very stupid for crying yestaday but her friend's remark and her mood change hit somewhere in me which I can't really explain. I have a childhood friend that use to taunt me with "you no even fine" that was around 16, I use to cry because I was the least fine among 4 of us then. It went on till I started avoiding this particular friend till date. What I heard yestaday was like an open wound was touched. Infact while growing up, let say around 22, 23. I'd randomly ask a lady out online, go on blind date, dress well, smell nice just to see their reaction towards my look, believe you me, I ended up dating 7/10 girls. So I understand my self esteem is at zero level (Lol) and i must work on that. I use to be camera shy cos I always believe it won't come out nice but the few I snapped are nice and I see people that re not as okay as me always posting on Facebook and all (Since my religion no kuku permit pictures, why snapping? ) I've friends that are very handsome but can't do anything without contacting me for my opinion, validation and all (Not bragging but they loved to be around me).. This post is all bout My Lord and Stella, God Forgive Me When I Whine, I'm sorry for almost questioning you over nonsense. To my dearest Africa number one blogger, I love you, I pray for you May the Good Lord continue to protect, support and provide for you, Truly there's power in the tongue, your words are important but not as important as taking out your precious time reaching out to a small and unknown me within 5 minutes of sending you that all the way from obodo oyinbo, Was really wowed cos I never expected it, was star strucked at some point during our conversation and your voice dey sweetened my hearing too, So tush and cool (Lol). Youre the first celebrity i go follow talk (smiles). Indeed, you're a Mother, Motivational speaker, Kind hearted, Incredible, Amazing and should be included in the list of the next national merit award, OFR to be precise. People like you are what we need in Government, you go get pity for the masses (Lol).. Danke Gracias Siyabonga. My relationship has been undefined since yesterday sha.. She's 25 and a Uni finalist, I'm 30 and employed for the poster thats interested in our age.
ReplyDeleteFirst 'your religion does not permit pictures'.
DeletePlease what religion is that?
I was just ashamed on your behalf when Stella said you literally cried on phone cos of this.
ReplyDeleteOmg Bro you need some growing up o,(please pardon my language).You seriously need that.
What is handsomemness in a man bikonu..
Expect more of this in a marriage.
Please change your mindset concerning how you see and take unecessary things dear to your fragile heart.
Be tough like a man that is ready to marry.
Discuss this with her and see her ลeaction.
Poster no body can promote you more than your self.you should believe that nobody is finer than you and people will see you that way.if your woman loves you, she will see more of your good side and that will makeup for your looks, marriage is far more than looks I tell you.you both need to do some growing up.
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwwwwwnnnnn you are such a cutie.ive never been one to look or depend solely on appearance .if your woman is not proud of you with how ever you look so: which we all know you are handsome. Then she's not worth it.and that friend might have been joking , me I joke like that ,I say things backward I tell my Friends how ugly they are and they get really excited cause they know I'm complimenting them. Next time something kike tis happens ask your self will what others say define the image I have for myself. To show the friend was joking she said if you were the brother she will date you.its just play laugh and live life ๐ ๐ .don't cry again or should I back you, oya come๐๐.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion i think the girl felt like your fiancee wanted to get her jealous by intentionally flunting you to her codedly so she decided to rubbish her first. You felt bad cos you v always believed your are not cute,work on your self esteem ,your are indirectly insulting God
ReplyDeleteDem never born that friend wey go insult my hubby for my face
ReplyDeleteNa wa oo..poster you need to work on your self esteem ooo.my own sisters has insulted my husband severely ooo.always saying he is a draft an very ugly ...but to me my husband is a very wonderful man,I love him like that.he is caring takes good care of me,pamper me spoil me with anything I want...so what else can I ask for,I will rather stick to a ugly and good man ,than handsome and stingy man.
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