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Monday, October 05, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIAGE BY FORCE

Good Stella


Please I need some honest advice urgently before I make the worst mistake of my life.


I met Mr X at his company’s end of year party I ushered. He was very courteous and persistent so I started officially dating him during NYSC in 2018. He is extremely intelligent, witty and quite good looking. He is extremely wealthy from clean deals and family money. I really fell for him and he is my first and only everything from kissing to sex.




I was serving in the South South and will travel all the way to Lagos every two weeks on my monthly allawee and from the few modeling gigs I booked to see him. I stayed in a lodge because I didn’t have enough money to pair with a friend for accommodation. Not until I fell sick and was hospitalized before he coughed up N50k for me to add to my hospital bill and attach with someone for the remaining two months of service.




Mr X will fly first class, rent a jet for local trips with his friends, buy wrist watches, co-owns a beach house, spend $5.7k in the club in one night but didn’t care that I was literally living from hand to mouth. He will even be bragging about what he bought when he travelled and will be showing me pictures. It used to pain me so much that I will cry bitterly but I was too timid to confront him. He knew I was fending for myself but he didn’t care.



I had to cut down on hangouts because all his friends wives and girlfriends were well catered for and it caused a deep inferiority complex for me. I used to stalk them on Instagram and weep. They will all travel for vacations and he will be the only one without his girlfriend. The other girls sensed it and would exclude me from their girls trips and dinner dates. It really really affected my self esteem. I felt so ugly and unworthy.



We broke up last year September after I asked him to assist with N70k for a professional exam and he laughed said I should ask my father. He knows my father is late. I’ve never cried as much that day in my life. Ofcourse I missed the exam because I couldn’t balance the money. He did too many things that made me feel very worthless. An example that hurt was when he told his chef to stop calling me madam because his chef could feed my entire family. One time he told his friend not to bother asking me about my alcohol preference because I’m a smirnoff girl. At the beach house he has laughed at my outfit and his friends had to tell him off. Painful things like that. I had to stop dating him for my own sanity. I hate to admit it but I had two abortions for him and those were the only times he actually seemed genuinely worried about my wellbeing. I fell into serious depression after the exam incident but God used a job offer to save me. I currently earn N120k and use it to support my family. I’m also currently single as I’ve taken self actualization and getting closer to God as a priority for now.



After months of silence he called on valentines day to apologize to me. Since then he has been on my neck for a reconciliation and has been singing marriage. In April he sent me N5m on my birthday. On the 24th of each month he sends at least N500k. I’ve warned him to stop sending me money and blocked his numbers. He still finds a new number to call. I’ve insulted him but he laughs it off and will say my new fierceness will be channeled to the right things very soon. Basically making sexual jokes out fo my resistance. He reminds me every time that he deflowered me and we had two abortions together. He says we have a soul tie.



To the reason for my panic. My mum and pastor’s wife called me for a meeting this evening to tell me that Mr X is my husband and I am the Esther of my family. They said they’ve met his elder sister (his parents are late) and a formal introduction is being planned for October ending. Somehow he had found a way to link up with my mum and has bought over my own mother.



 My mum also dropped a bombshell that she had accepted a house gift from him and will move into it with my siblings (8, 10 and 17 years) in December while I will move into my husband’s house. I felt very faint during all of this and still feel faint as I type. My mum spoke about the promises he made to sponsor my brother to US for schooling and so many other things. They’ve planned everything on my head and are making me feel like a wicked child for not agreeing to it. They both knelt down to beg me to consider my siblings. I feel very bad and cornered as I type this. If someone told me an adult graduate was being married off in 2020 I’d say it’s a lie but here I am.




I firmly believe that it’s the way a man values you and treats you when you are at your lowest that he will treat you when you get married. I feel like I’m being sold into being a baby factory for an emotionally abusive and highly manipulative man. Please I really want to run away from all of this but I think about my siblings. I don’t want them to suffer for my decision. I plan to transfer all the money he has been giving me into my mum’s account and run away to squat with a good friend in the state I served. My boss is a good man so I want to share my problems with him and ask if he can permit me to work remotely till the end of the year. I need to escape from this madness.




Most importantly, I really need reassurance from everyone that I’m not the one being wicked and childish about the whole thing. I’m turning 25 next year and he will be 42 in November. I’m really scared for my future and close to having a panic attack this night.




*If you do not have longer throat for money,please do not marry this man as more chronicles will load and then it might be too late to leave.....Please forgive your mother,she is suffering from poverty mentality and that is what he is using to try to get you..
If your mum persists,then go and use the money to rent a small place and tell her to marry him instead...
You are young and easily swayed but please stand your ground and do not marry this man..DO NOT!!!

145 comments:

  1. 🀐 I can't say anything.

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    1. Poster, RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!

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    2. snow-white and ffk loading. That was how her own started. Baby run for your life. Your mum and pastor's wife can both marry him if they so desire.

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    3. Such men can and will never change
      He will give you money but your family will become useless to him.
      He will insult your mother, siblings and yourself in the presence of visitors.
      Domestic violence will happen cus he will forever see you as his property.

      Do not I repeat to not go back to him
      Don't reject all he gives you, but do not request.
      Start a business from all he has given and elevate your family.
      That's your payment for all he put you through.

      But I repeat DO NOT MARRY HIM

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    4. Another Precious and FFK case loading...

      Tell him that you will think about it and don't allow that introduction. If you will run, run and transfer the money to your mum to start a business. If he demands for the money, tell him is for the abortions n your payoff.

      Call your mum and talk to her and if your oga can help tell him and hear from him, please don't lose your job.

      That guy will treat you like a rag... And he will collect your kids and send you away... Manipulative and emotionally abusive man.

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    5. sorry girl, yiu are in a very bad situation, it will take a minute before you can totally come out from this mess, because he is rich, just avoid your mom and that miserable pastor, and don't share your problems with everyone including your boss, you will be surprised how your boss will turn or take advantage of your situation.

      Think smart, pray for wisdom to hadle this, and stand your ground. I have been in similar situation. Las las all man go dey ok, provided you do not keep encouraging the guy by collecting money. If your family is taking his money that's not your problem, let him keep buying everybody just to get to you, in the end if yiu don't give in he will slow down and finally stop giving them money. Just respectful dey your dey, and keep living your life.
      Trust me he will soon calm down, na EGO dey worry him.

      Don't do anything stupid, face your work, do not involve your boss, keep your private life separate from your job please.

      Goodluck

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    7. Poster pleasesssssssd run awayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

      PLEASE DO NOT MARRY HIM

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    8. He has shown you his hand. He is a very wicked and controlling man. This is another FFK episode loading. U can marry him but prepare urself for misery. It is well.

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    9. A man who doesn’t respect but instead mock you before others is not someone you should consider being friends with, talk more of marry. Men like this will make you feel so worthless, even when they divorce you, you’d feel unworthy of love and happiness for the rest of your life. Be very careful. If at 42, he isn’t married, then there is a huge problem with him.

      Poster, you are in a dire situation but pray for guidance on how to solve this, mainly on the part of your mum and siblings.

      Run away from this horrible man before you wreck yourself.

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    10. Don't marry him
      Wvat he is doing Na format o.
      After marriage, you will not see sisi.
      He will use your mum In that house to control and abuse you. You are also too young for him.
      Tell your mum to better not move into the house
      It is good for you to dissappear for a year

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    11. I am happy you are finally thinking. Please tell your mum and fake pastor to go marry him. God can still use you to get a house for her in future. I feel sad that you lost your virginity to such an asshole but what's done is done. Keep it moving. Don't transfer the money to your mum. Keep supporting her the way you used to and leave the house if you have to but NEVER EVER tell your boss about your personal issues. I repeat, NEVER let him know. Ask him if you can work remotely and look for another reason to give him but please no matter how nice he is, don't let him know you have these issues. Before you know it, promotions and opportunities will pass you by because you will be labelled just for sharing your personal issues. Separate your personal and professional lives if you want to succeed as a career woman.

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  2. Poster your mum is just influenced by money. I swear if you marry that guy, this time the insult will reach your family not just you. If I were you, I'll collect plenty money from him and set my family up then dump his sorry was coz he won't change!!! You'll just end up being his doormat...

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    1. Easier said than done,The man is a manipulator and may resort to violence if she tries to dump him.

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    2. I know someone like ds. His name starts with H. I'm in a similar situation but I'm 36 and he's the only one in my life right now. He can be sweet and loving but mainly during sex. I'm also lost on what to do. God help us.

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    3. Poster if you marry this man, the initial suffering, insults and emotional abuse you experienced in the situationship would be a tip of the iceberg, compared to that which is to come.

      Please, don't marry him because if you do, Precious Chikwendu would be a happier woman than you.

      By the way, why were you traveling to Lagos every 2weeks during your service year? Is it like you don't value your life and your hard earned money? Also, I never read where you said he ever came to see you. Knowing that with all that money and at that age he's not and has never been married, does it not get your alarms ringing?

      Babe, he never loved you and he still doesn't...

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    4. I knkw its your opinion, but taking money when you are not interested in relationship to me is very bad and greedy...so girl take NO MORE MONEY

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    5. They are not loving

      Stop fooling yourself

      They are manipulative sociopaths!

      Emotional blackholes

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    6. 36 Yr old anon 16:01
      You're not lost on what to do, you are stupid.

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  3. Do not marry this man o. The signs are there. Your Mum and Pastors wife say you are his wife because of what they have gotten from him.🀦🀦 Your Mum went as far as collecting a house from him. He sounds like the type of man that can throw your family out of the house, when you have a disagreement. Abeg, run faaaar from him. Stop collecting his money. If you can close that account, do it, and open another one. All the best.

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  4. Hunger is bad. Your mother wants you to be in eternal bondage.
    This marriage is dead on arrival. You will cry shege. He will manipulate you and make you suffer. Anything you are seeing now will only be amplified in marriage. Look for your husband. It is not this guy!

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    1. I just weak for this matter.

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    2. My friend's mum was a sacrificial lamb for her siblings... The marriage crumbled and the same siblings were the first to mock her after enduring emotional and physical abuse just to make sure everyone went to school

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    3. The guy just wan prove something, it's about ego...he can't stand that the girl dumped his black ass

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  5. Being the Ester of your family doesn't mean you should be forced to marry a rich guy, you maybe richer than him if you are focused don't be intimidated by your mother, you have a bright future ahead

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  6. Dear poster,in as much as it seems so perfect, please don't go into that marriage. At least from what he has deposited in your account so far,it can go along way in helping your mum and siblings. But if you feel,you can bear whatever it is that comes out of the marriage, then accept him. My 2cent.

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  7. Poster, your mother and pastor want to sell you out to the highest bidder! Poverty mentality is a bastard mehn

    You better find your way out of that relationship, you will never have peace of mind and your self esteem is going to be reduced to zero.
    Don't open your eyes and enter a marriage that you know is dead on arrival. The guy doesn't even respect you to start with and he thinks he can buy you with money and also shut you up with money.

    We read about similar stories/chronicles every now and then, these set of men have a way of capturing their women and building a fence of bondage around them.

    Your so called guy might be driving both back and front... Awon bisexuals.

    Don't get greedy, it can be quite difficult to get out from this type of marriage.

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    1. The guy is cruel. Imagine asking his chef not to call her madam because he is richer than her family. So what will that chef call you when he married you? Also mocking your clothes in front of his friends instead of taking you shopping to upgrade your clothes if he felt they were below par is just sad. He is a meanie and sadist. Keep running. Do not sacrifice your life for your family. Your brother can still go to US some other way. That's how Precious married FFK because he was paying for her mother's healthcare. See where that left her. Last last, the whole family should have hustled together to pay the bills instead of her sacrificing her youth and body to a meanie. You were probably the one that took his bull shit for that long and he just hates that you moved on. Please tell them no and keep blocking him. He thinks you are weak and is manipulating your mum and pastor, show him how strong you are. You have a bright future in front of you and can still marry someone that will love and care for you.

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  8. Chai that man tried to kill your spirit. It is well. You will make your own money. Repeat it after me. Some girls have the prostitution spirit in them. You do not. You cannot chop degradation for money.. Stand your ground.... the Lord will guide you.

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    1. I just thank God she didn't go down a hole. Some people would. Those things that guy did were so cold! I picture it and I feel a type of way.

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  9. Wow. A shocking chronicle.
    I wonder whether the man was being stingy then to see if you were after his money and when he probably dated other girls after you left he found you were gold.
    I'm sorry for all the insults he poured on you then and how he belittled you in front of his friends.
    But he was stingy sha.
    You tried. I couldn't have lasted with a stingy rich boifrend .
    If you don't have, I understand
    But to be wealthy and be stingy, man I ain't rolling with ya
    Find out if he is repentant truly or just wants to settle down.
    If it were me, since I like money wella I would accept him back cos of all he is doing now. And he should transfer 10M to be breathing in my account before the wedding.
    At least that's my pension for all the suffering.
    Bill him.
    Bill Him.
    5M ain't enough.
    He put you through hell.
    Tell him minimum of 1M every month as upkeep to your account to prove he is sorry.
    240K ain't shit.

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    1. My sister don't take this advice o,For every penny he spends on you,You will surely cough it in 1 million folds. Channel your energy towards building yourself.

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    2. Don't answer this person o.. That money he is spending on you and your family is an insult money! I'm really angry on your behalf sef

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    3. Bianca Bruno you better change. I am sure you had orgasm just reading the amount of money the poster wrote. This your character since I know you on this blog is less desirable. Imagine such desperation.

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    4. Are you being sarcastic or being stupid?

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    5. Bianca, the N1m a month is still insult money! Your asking for N10m in your account before the marriage, doesn't mean anything to him because, he could pay in double and mock you and your entire family at the wedding reception! Don't forget he spends over N2m a night in the club...

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    6. It's not your fault dear. Its poverty that has stricken your poor mind. You are no different from her mother.
      What exactly is 10million that she she exchange her self worth for.

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  10. Hmmmmm. This is a dicey situation. The man is a manipulator. I will advise you to speak with him and find out what happened to him to come back to you.

    Have an open mind and speak to God to direct you aright.

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    1. Phew! This is how it works with most guys who are well to do. Most of them are narcissists and egoistic. Most enjoy being in control and seldom regard how you feel. This guy is single at 42. As much as I don’t ascribe much relevance to age and late marriage, we can agree Mr. x has character flaws which he may or may not be aware of. He knows the poster is wife material; he probable knows she’s one of the very few who can tolerate his excesses. This man will enslave this young lady if he gets his wish. What he’s doing is top notch mind games just to get her and when he does, in time, the cycle will begin slowly and build up tempo. I wish for the poster to stick to her decision and move on. Thankfully she has a job and can support herself. She should put herself first and live life on her terms.

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  11. Has this Mr X been able to explain to you all the insults and abuse?
    Please, you did not abort for him, you
    aborted of your own volition.
    Own your mistakes and that is the way to progress.
    Why his sudden summersault?
    One thing I know is that people who
    have cult ties to their wealth do not
    use it to help people genuinely. Only when they need "a sheep for sacrifice" do they give any and everything. And
    that is the character this Mr. X
    has demonstrated. You may be seeing "clean money" but ask yourself, why couldn't "clean money" buy even a lunch for you. Then
    suddenly, "clean money" is giving you
    5 million?
    If your mom and "pastor" has begun to accept gifts and houses, let them go on.
    But let me warn you, if you do not
    give your life to Jesus, begin to pray
    and fast and study the bible,
    you will find yourself in the trap already set and sealed.
    It might be too late to extricate yourself.
    I've shared my story of such a trap here before and how I was able to overcome.
    The power to say "no" and stick to it
    lies in Jesus, bible study, fasting, prayers. Do it and have your peace.
    😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

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    1. I love you,anon 15:13 I honestly didn't want to say it with all my mouth. See the women on this blog that married extremely rich men in this Nigeria can totally relate. What do i know,make i just FEM..Poster run for your life,nigga is desperate and definitely up to something.

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    2. Hmm, sounds like the same way his own "pastor" has told him that
      you are the correct lamb for sacrifice. shine eyes.

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    3. Let him not use your mum for ritual. You can talk to him, tell him about everything, hear him and tell him to give you 3 years that you are not ready.

      Another thing is, has he accepted Jesus as his Lord and savious?

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  12. Poster,drop his number abeg..
    I'm sure so many girls here want him...
    This guy has done nothing wrong to you!..
    He was initially stingy but he has changed!...
    Dont enter poverty with your koro koro eyes!...
    See correct big boy with 200 yard husband material..
    Chai!..
    Your village people are dancing on your head if you miss this..

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    1. poster abeh dash this person Mr x , thet fit each other. awon eyan tonto dike

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    2. But queen you are very wicked to even consider typing this sort of advice. Poster, thank God you are not a long throat. Please run for your life, this man is evil. Money isn't everything.

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    3. How am I wicked?..
      You people are talking of insults..
      Can you sworn your siblings or even your parents have not insulted you before?...
      Nobody is born perfect!..
      Some of guys here dey chop insults and beating join from your husband and boyfriends on a daily basis!..
      Poster,drop his number let me connect him to someone that will marry him well!..
      A young beautiful babe for that matter sef..
      Continue watching fake love movies from nollywood and zee world...

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    4. anon, poster was long throat for money initially until she received sense...but please don't listen to this advice up there...just run

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    5. Linda atimes be serious. Money is not everything.

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    6. Queen and boss thank you! You are very real. All these advice of "run poster" no follow. Some of you have not experienced poverty, if you do you will marry the devil himself just yo escape it...tho the poster exaggerated the figures, she should marry the guy ASAP at least to remove her family from poverty. When them reach Precious Chikwendu bridge they will cross it.

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  13. No be small queen Esther of una time.
    That man will treat you like snowwhite. Tell your boss so that you can have your sanity

    Your pastor no get spiritual eyes. He sees the physical because of what he will get from your mum.

    I don't blame your mum, poverty will make man dance like ogogoro dey worry him.

    Do what makes yoy happy

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  14. Mr X character you explained sounds like that of FFK.. narcissistic beings

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  15. I think in the period of your break up with him, he must have been talked to by his family and friends to reconnect with you. He must have weighed in, checked himself and came to the conclusion you are a good girl.

    Calm down. If TRULY you do not have any iota of feeling for him, run. If you have hidden feelings for him on account of being your first love, like some girls do, then give him a second chance. Him talking and treating you the way he did was him trying to reconcile his status with yours. Now he has done that and maybe wants you for keeps. There is no perfect man anywhere. Everyone is managing every one.

    Good luck.

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    1. Poster I understand where you are coming from but prayerfully take this, he must have changed. Yours is just to confirm if the change is real. Why are people quick to say run away from situations that deserve second chances as if they do not err or people do not change, or there are perfect beings out there, can you predict the next persons character. If everyone is bad, You yourself, are you perfect? I tire for una

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    2. I help this poster to rebuke any kind of second chances thoughts when it comes to this man. Aameen

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    3. Please stop this bad advice. So it's ok for a guy to treat a lady he's dating badly, even if he doesn't have any intention of ending up with her?

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    4. Poster this man has not changed anything.
      He has found a servant in you. He has trued that bullshit with other girls and it didn't work.
      He feels you are still that innocent subservient girl he deflowered years ago.
      If you marry him, you will see shege!!!! He will imprison you in his house, and by the time you eventually break free, you won't leave his house with a penny. He will make sure of that.
      Such a pompous twat.
      Don't let the money he is sending you now fool you, tell your mum you have dashes him to her, she can marry him if she wants.

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    5. Muru anya ka azu5 October 2020 at 19:04

      Poster ignore these hungry thwarts. That's how precious found herself. Remind your mum you are not responsible for your siblings it is her job as a parent. That you are helping out is a privilege not a right. Parents should stop dumping their responsibilities on their kids. Stop guilt tripping them to sacrifice their future. Poster same people you will kill yourself for will mock you tomorrow. Help when you can.

      Poster if tomorrow you want to walk out of the marriage, this sadist will take your kids forever. He is rich! Your manipulating mum will tell you to go back and die there. Guard your future, life jealously.

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  16. Your Mother wants to sacrifice you on the alter of selfishness and greed. Shine your eyes! The signs are already there. Learn from FFK and Precious. Your family may think he is their ticket out of lack but he has his own agenda. That part cannot be changed. Good luck cos you gonna need it.

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  17. Ehya poster i feel your pain.
    I have once been in your shoes. During my service year I dated a man with this your description. He had money, wealthy and threw it in my face, never bothered to share with me, I was low-key,we both hung out with his friends and (cousins both males and female) from their looks and every you could see they are really living the life, but I always looked odd amongst them.When we visited his family house his parents always admonished him to get married quickly. Good thing I didnt fall pregnant, this man promised my mom heaven on earth,he would call her, tell her a lot, thank God im not from a poor home, my mom is well taken care of amd earns well too.so she wasn't taking him serious because she felt he ought to be doing better.I asked him for cash to start a business for where, he wont just spend cash on me,instead he mocked me.
    Finally I borrowed sense and left him, we didn't have any quarel we just drifted apart. After a year he tried coming back, but my mom & wouldn't hear of it.
    You need to run for your sanity sake. These kind of men are manipulative, they have a way of making you feel you are the problem, they will push you so hard you get to your breaking point.
    Don't be swayed by the cash & gift he is throwing around ,after this phase he will return to being his silly self and then you will regret.
    But if you don't mind going through all you experienced before and even worse to come you can go ahead and marry him.
    I thank God im in a better place now, even if not yet married, but I have a man whose priority is my happiness, good thing he is way more of a man and richer than the former.

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  18. God forbid!!! Nne Runnnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!
    Ffk's wife's story will be a child's play compared to urs! !!
    Tufiakwa!!!
    This man wants to use you to birth his kids, you will just be a glorified maid bought with money in that house!!

    This is slavery..Not what marriage should look like!
    Disappear and block your mum's and siblings number. Just continue to send your monthly support to her account, nothing more.
    Change your number.
    Don't travel to your base at all.

    This man is a psychopath and he has found the right prey to unleash his demons on.
    Let me burst your bubble, he has a woman he is dating who and they are in the same social class, but guess what??
    She dumped him.
    That's why he came back to you. Knowing he will use chicken change to sway you and your family..

    Ask yourself why he wasn't spending this kind of money on you, when you guys were an item??

    He had a woman who he was doing all that for. You were just a necessary evil for him then.

    He wants to marry you, to pepper his classy girlfriend who dumped him. Don't be a pawn in this game of chess being played between his girlfriend and himself.


    You are intelligent, you are beautiful! ! Raise your head high and give him and your mum the middle finger.

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    1. That’s the word I was looking for! PSYCHOPATH!!!

      Poster I pity you. If you make the mistake of marrying that man, what you’ll see, your mouth will not be able to say it. He will so degrade you, you will wish death upon yourself. Better tell your mother to return the house because even she will not be exempt from the abuse, that’s even more ammunition that the man will use... he will tell you that he bought you with a house from your poverty stricken family.

      As for your pastor’s wife... you better leave that church because I’m not sure the god she is pastoring for

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    2. Thank you!!! The idiot was dumped by a lady in the same social class with him.
      He is of no good.

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  19. Poverty die die, pls do not marry him or you will join the people that cry in a mansion.

    He is so manipulative, do not return the money, return bawo! Did you ask him for it? See it as payment for the times he treated you like a jackass.

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    1. 3Amigos Bread @ 6 Okesalu, St. 081385163285 October 2020 at 15:58

      πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ @ poverty die, die.

      Poster, Mr X will wreck you if you marry him. Remember those posts on this blog about marrying a destiny destroyer, you’re staring one in the face and that’s Mr X. At 24, work on establishing yourself and hold on desperately to God as He will never ever forsake you. God knows how much your family is cajoling you and listing all the benefits of marrying Mr X. Don’t destroy yourself by yourself because if you marry him your family will leave you in that marriage no matter the torment you go through being that he may be giving them money. And torment you he will.

      If your mother mounts pressure on you, find your own apartment and leave. Mr X is a no go area. Send back his Greek gifts back to him.

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  20. Agree to the marriage and do a long engagement of maybe 1 year while you study him properly. He may have done a lot for other ladies who took him for granted he does not want to be a maga. Its possible he was just pouring out his anger on innocent you.

    Find out about him. Go close to his friends wives and try to know his past.

    Pray a lot yourself. Fast and pray fromyour heart at midnght that God should reveal this mans true image to you.

    Do this religiously all through the 1 year and observe.

    I pray God guides you.

    If he is not the one the relationship will scatter on its own.


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  21. Mumsie collected a house gift already..... that's sad

    Your siblings destiny are not in your hands but God's.They shouldn't manipulate you with that.

    It's not as if your family has a life or death matter on their hands that they need him for. It's only in such situations that people can do or endure anything.

    Choose your happiness first.

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    1. Even life & death

      He is still NOT AN OPTION OOOOOOO

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  22. Poster please do not marry that mam. Whatever you do, stand your ground!!!
    You didn't ask for millions before just necessities and he could not give you knowing fully well you were struggling and couldn't afford it.
    Now all of a sudden he's so comfortable to be rolling out millions... I smell a big rat.
    Your parents won't be there when you start suffering. There are some kind of suffering one will suffer and you'll prefer to be poor jeje with your rest of mind.
    God will come through for you. Keep praying and stand your ground, your mother is not seeing it now. May it not be too late before they realise the kind of man he is...you're not a sacrificial lamb, may God let us not see the one that will give us one thing and use it to collect 50 things from us

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  23. The guy thought you are a gold digger,find out why he behaved that way towards you.maybe he has been dealing with bad girls and he thought you are one of them. Pls don't reject him without having a serious heart to heart talk with him,my husband was like this,very proud and quick to call me names,but today he can't make any decisions without consulting me. No man is perfect, don't listen to all these self acclaim feminists here,marriage is btw two imperfect beings. I am the boss now in my home

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    1. Please was your husband like this when you were dating or when he married you ? Which kin gold digger ? Someone that refused to give her 70k. In fact Mr X is a destiny destroyer.

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    2. And told her to go and collect the money from her father who he knows is dead

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    3. Who are the self acclaimed feminist? #sideyes

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  24. Poster please run away from the guy. I hope he wasn't using your star then,and after you left he wasn't getting as much money again.

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  25. Look for a Mordecai that will speak sense into your mother ooo. If you marry that man, you will regret for 600 years.

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  26. MY SISTER THIS MAN IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND
    RUNNNNNNN
    GET CLOSER TO GOD
    STUDY YOUR BIBLE DAILY
    LOVE U

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  27. Things you should do- be nice, play along but act a lil difficult so he keeps begging u,collect every penny he offers dont form I dont need your money. Collect it for all the expenses you spent and insults u endured

    Dont ever believe he will send your brother to the US, a man that cannot pay 70k for your professional exam cant do anything for u or your family.

    Lastly play along, a day or two to the introduction disappear. By now u have money for rent

    You see it's good girls like u this narcissists like. They cant do it for wats up girl. This is chop and clean mouth season. Good girl is gone.

    If u marry that guy he will say, 'your mum and siblings are too dirty to come to his house'. I am talking from what I have seen. You will be disrespected, your mum and siblings will be disrespected, your hungry pastor will blame u for not taking more disrespect

    Dont listen to pastor oh!, he only wants his share of the national cake. They want u to be the sacrificial lamb. it's not only Esther

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  28. MY SISTER NOBODY CAN TRULY LOVE YOU EXCEPT THEY LOVE GOD FIRST
    RUN

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  29. Poster excuse me someone that told you to ask your father" . Someone that has no respect for you before his friends? Someone that told his chef that he can feed your whole family ? Aaaaa my dear, he has not changed and he will never change.

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    1. Poster, whatever you do, don’t marry him. Let him remain your EX. My sister suffered in the hands of a man like this. Do not do it!

      He is your first and so what? Look, a time will come it won’t mean anything to you.
      He was not testing you. He was not transferring anger from other ladies unto you. Please do not buy that bullshit.

      He had an opportunity to be trusting and loving but he didn’t. You were a virgin. He broke you and let you have 2 abortions when he was of age and wealthy enough to take care of a child even without marriage. If he didn’t love you then girl, he doesn’t love you now. Don’t be fooled again.

      My dear, don’t allow him completely destroy you. Forgive yourself for allowing the disrespect and torture. Cut him off.
      And be vigilant. There are many like him out there. Some are poor too. But there are good ones too. You’ll find one. Be careful. Cut your mom off if you have to.
      Don’t return the money to him. Buy treasury bills with half. Invest 500K in your mom’s business. Pay your siblings school fees and move away from your mom for a while. Go back to school and upgrade yourself. You can also be as rich and even richer than him. Your mother doesn’t know everything good for you.
      She gets things wrong too.
      She’s trying to push her responsibilities (caring for her children) to you.
      Don’t do so at the expense of your mental health. Do not marry him o. Don’t even date him again. PLEASE πŸ™πŸΌ

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  30. First of all.. You get patience and really tried o, I can't take that much insult before I will tell the man to go to hell with his wealth because na money I no get yet but blood dey run for my vein

    The money he is currently giving you is a big insult to your being and your family are already accepting gifts too and forcing you to marry him? They want to make you a poverty alleviation child/sell you despite supporting them with your salary, no contentment at all. YOU BETTER CHANGE IT BITTERLY FOR EVERYONE OF THEM INCLUDING THAT PASTOR.

    And you said you want to run away? Abeg what about your job? You want to go back to square one? Well, except you have a good plan already. Think about yourself first oooo because as it seems now.. Even your family chose themselves first! You better stick to God to fight your battles and also learn to fight for yourself! Stand your ground.

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  31. FFK and Precious part 2 loading if you don't refuse that man.

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  32. Dont transfer any money to your mother. Use it and establish yourself. Relocate and find your self. Leave a message for your mother and cut off from them for a while. They will survive it. Your happiness is paramount here and you are going to secure it with your life. You seem to me like a sensitive and intelligent human. Accepting this man will be tantamount to committing suicide. He means no good for you. You already know.
    What an evil man. And no, he has not changed. Don't be decieved.

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    1. Infact ofbof of 🍾 for you

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  33. 8yrs ago my mum almost sold me too I refused n no 1 died...my mum doesn't talk to me because i remove food from her mouth but oh well.
    .don't marry him for haven's sake.

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  34. Dear Poster... I hope you read this comment.

    It seems all the time he insulted you, he wanted to see how much you could take. Some people have a warped sense of how to test people. In his head, you have passed his test which now qualifies for wife material.
    My dear; can I say this will be the last emotional abuse? I don't think so. He has offered to buy you and your family. And once you are bought (by you marrying him), you will be in a life of slavery. You will not even have a say in your own home. It won't even be your home, because he bought you - pitied you and your family by giving you a lifestyle.
    You will have to endure insults - physical, emotional and verbal.
    You may never have rest of mind. And no one - from your family will be able to talk to him because he has bought them all over.
    Yes. You will have to all the material things in life, but you may never have peace of mind.
    Ask yourself why with all the success he has achieved he didn't marry the Michelle Obama of his life? Michelle is an analogy for an equally strong woman in her own standing who can face him. Also note, at every turn of the screw, he will remind you that he brought you and your family from the gutter and will lord it over you.
    This is a sick and sadistic mind at play.
    But please note, I am not God. I am just giving my advise from a human perspective. However, be ready. When you marry this man, unless the Holy Spirit comes and makes a donkey speak to him, you may just live a life of sorrow in every way, shape and form.
    Be very guided in your decision.

    I pray God gives you the strength to make the right decision. He is not the problem here really; your family is. They are sacrificing you. I pray the sacrifice is to God Almighty and not the devil.

    All the best.

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    1. There's no way all of that was a test!
      He's a narcissist. They can be sweet sweet when they want to. Please don't marry this man... Please I beg you except God clearly gives you a sign. Speaking from experience, that man is a narcissist and no I don't use harsh words like this so I'm not exaggerating.

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    2. Typical scorpio behaviour

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  35. am really scared for you,you need Jesus now,that man is definitely up to sometging..plsss be careful.

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  36. Mr X derives pleasure in people kissing the ground he walks on. He smelt your desperession earlier in the relationship and felt you were after his money alone. Now, it's the thrill of the chase. If you still love him, then don't let him have it easy with you. Let him beg. Yes. Show him your worth. Use the little money you have and make yourself look good. Be proud of who you are and where you come from. Show him that your not threatened by money and you have real values
    If however you feel nothing for him, tell your mum and pastor that either one of them can have him. Give him back his money. He's using it and it's working well.

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  37. You have some sensible cash on you based on what u wrote abi? Transfer it into different accounts. Newly opened ones. I know bvn will link all but don't worry. Disappear. Let your boss know u want to leave. Hopefully when the dust settles and u return, u might still have a job. Disappear. Just leave. Go underground. Go where no one knows u. Ur mom: its inter that is worrying her. By the time you allow her escort you to where she wants you to go, even she will not see tears to help u cry. A word is enough for the wise.

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  38. Mr X derives pleasure in people kissing the ground he walks on. He smelt your desperession earlier in the relationship and felt you were after his money alone. Now, it's the thrill of the chase. If you still love him, then don't let him have it easy with you. Let him beg. Yes. Show him your worth. Use the little money you have and make yourself look good. Be proud of who you are and where you come from. Show him that your not threatened by money and you have real values
    If however you feel nothing for him, tell your mum and pastor that either one of them can have him. Give him back his money. He's using it and it's working well.

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  39. Let mw sound like typical naija...why fo I feel like he wants to use you for ritual(even though you said he has clean money) which you are not 100% sure of...or use your destiny like you people will say...

    Mehn dude is up to something period...he just cannot wake up and start showering you with gift upandan...because the kind of money he has can fetch him any woman, why go back on his vomit...you get my drift? So RUN for your own good. The guy is sick.

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  40. First off, there’s a reason he isn’t married at 42, when dating older men especially those who hvnt been married or without kids, check it out; they have a very heavy baggage. You are seeing yours in HD now.
    You think he’s changed all of a sudden? Nah babe, he’d collect every dime he’s spending on you now in a gruesome way later.
    Your mother has failed you.
    Ester kor, Kim khadashian ni.

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    1. Buahahahaa na dat one off my 3 year synthetic wig kata kata. Something way Abuja wind no fit commot. Buahahahahahahaha

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  41. Hmmmmm, hope ffk and snow white story not loading again, make money from him and run

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  42. Isn't it better to attach your dna with a rich man. My dear if truly he wants to mary you which I doubt except you are extremely beautiful. Go for it, even a loving man during courtship can change for worse. But this one you know what you are getting into.

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  43. Both of you should settle, see a psychologist to assist with his manipulative behaviour. Watch him for a year before u decide to marry him or not. All the best.

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    1. You people just seat at home and type nonsense. Watch him from where. Assist a rich egoist man with manipulative behaviou . that ll bring all the rage in him out U just give senseless advise and think u r intelligent

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  44. But why are some mothers like this? Just went behind your daughter's back to set up marriage and collect things.

    Poster, reject everything o! What rubbish? Refuse to be manipulated by your mother and pastor because when wahala start, na you go suffer am o

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  45. Poster I am annoyed. This man will insult you e3eee. Once you marry him you won't see his kobo again. A man that refused to give you common 70,000 is rolling out million. Another thing I am suspecting is you are going to be the sacrificial lamb. Run oooooo

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  46. Poster I dont know how to give relationship advice but please incase he wants to buy a house for your mom please follow @joadarealestate we have lovely and affordable homes. We will get you the best deal in Lagos.

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    1. Jesus, Stella your BV's are something else. This comment is so funny.

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    2. Oh my GodπŸ˜€πŸ˜€ are you kidding me
      This anonymous is funny

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  47. Dear poster, if all you narrated is true, then I can tell you that this man can never change. Accepting him will lead to more chronicles just as Stella has said. For your own sanity biko run for your dear life, nothing like peace of mind in a marriage

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  48. Poster. You don't need God to come down from heaven to tell you not to marry that guy. Also Everyone on this blog type very well. Good advice you have here because I read many comments base on this your chronicle today. In addition to what others said, don't marry that man because it's outcome might be worst. Good luck.

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  49. Your mother should be ashamed of herself. This is why I dislike associating with certain types of poor people, most of them will do anything for food.

    Imagine not having a drop of dignity. Tueeeehhh!

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    1. Muru anya ka azu5 October 2020 at 19:16

      Thank you. I hate poor people with such mentality and little dignity. Some idiots are stylishly telling you to consider, they'll be the ones to ask you if you didn't see the signs initially. DO NOT ALLOW YOUR MUM RENDER YOU USELESS. She had her days as a youth to snatch up a rich man and give you all better future but she didn't. And nobody died for it. Don't be a Regina Daniels living her mum's dream. If you want guts follow Nkechi Bianze on facebook. Read her posts. Be unapologetic and intentional about you.

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  50. Poster, I really admire the fact that you are not carried away by his money after the way he treated you. Please find time to fast and pray, seek God's face over his proposal and them make your decision. You might have to go on a retreat away from any form of distraction from your mom and others. Hold on to God and don't let go until you get an answer like Jacob in the Bible before you make your final decision. Tell him and your mom to give you time to make your decision. May God direct you.

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  51. You do not need to run away or leave your job. You boss does not even need to know about this. But please whatever you do, do not marry him.

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  52. It means you are 24 now. Oh my oh my...girl, tell him to woo you. He should have no contact with your family as it's you who should introduce him when you certify him ok and not the other way round. If he thinks he is buying you, he is mistaken.

    Meanwhile, you do not owe your mother or siblings nothing. You are not their Esther and you did not ask your parents to have children. Your mom is a widow so she is free to marry him to redeem the children she produced.

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    1. Muru anya ka azu5 October 2020 at 20:10

      Sapphire thank you. Exactly what i said earlier. Parents should stop blackmailing their kids.

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  53. Poster never you return back then money.
    Do not marry him.
    If you don't want to use his money transfer it to your mum's account and move far away from your mum.

    Get an apartment where you can be far from, only call her when necessary because no matter what she is your mother and your source, never say evil things or insult your mother no matter what.

    Talk to the dude to give you some small space for your to heal from the pains he caused you. If you Marry him and maybe you guys have delays in birthing he will blame it on you. Please never marry him.

    Best of luck.

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  54. Please drop updates on how you handled the situation

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    1. This is one of the most interesting chronicle I have read in a while..........

      Pls keep us posted poster.

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  55. @RD you are do right!a mother abusing her position as a matriarch. Imagine the shame I felt on behalf of the poster's mom reading this chronicle. A mom who should be protective her daughter's happiness at all cost is ready to sell her because of money. Sorry to say this your mom is a wicked person.

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  56. Your money or your life...
    You deserve better,he mocked/ disrespected you in front of others .He does not value you.. you would see 10 times worse in marriage ooo..He has seen that you are nice ,naive and selfless.He has seen someone who can take nonsense and endure.Forgive yourself for the abortions.Ask God for forgiveness.You will make it in this life oo.You are worth far above all the rubies in this world.Value your life , Value yourself you are so important to God that he gave you his son..So choose money(an a sad life you are still young) or a fulfilling life.Be Strong.

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  57. Your money or your life...
    You deserve better,he mocked/ disrespected you in front of others .He does not value you.. you would see 10 times worse in marriage ooo..He has seen that you are nice ,naive and selfless.He has seen someone who can take nonsense and endure.Forgive yourself for the abortions.Ask God for forgiveness.You will make it in this life oo.You are worth far above all the rubies in this world.Value your life , Value yourself you are so important to God that he gave you his son..So choose money(an a sad life you are still young) or a fulfilling life.Be Strong.

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  58. Wow! This made me quite emotional. Poster there comes a time in everyone's life when they have to take a "selfish" decision.
    At 42, it is not very likely that this man would change. At certain ages enduring traits stick.

    Please don't even stay platonic friends with this man, let alone marry him. To degrade a human being to the level he did you, speaks volumes. Babe don't marry this man, refuse him with your full chest. If your brothers will travel overseas, with or without him, they will travel overseas, refuse this emotional blackmail, Esther indeed! Ignore such talk. Hugs#

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  59. Even poor people behave this way talkless, poster pls marry him

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  60. DON'T MARRY THIS MAN yes I'm shouting!

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  61. I'm not rich but blessed in God's name and won't treat someone's daughter.. gave you 5millie and you earn 120k ..ogbeni you greedy.. 120 k can help your life wisely.. kilode na?? Go and marry him and vomit it all .. you sure say u dey talk true? If this guy no get money ur sense for set o . Abeg I hate ur mentality..

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  62. Don't mind those that are telling you to marry him. That man will turn you to a baby factory. If you have any delay in child bearing. He'll kick you out without a penny. He is an agbaya, a bully, manipulator and a psychopath. Why are some mothers like that sef?
    Do well to give us feedback.

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  63. Poster please don't tell your boss, don't run away. Your mum should plan the wedding and marry him .I understand you are intelligent. Don't worry, you will have your own money. Please don't sacrifice your life for your family.

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  64. Anonymous 16.25 thank you for your wonderful advise, poster please don't marry that man,pray to God to reveal to you the next action you should take to push him away for good.

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  65. You have his account number, return all the money he transferred. Disappear as in run. Hide out and send a message to your mum that she will not see you until she is ready to listen to you. Try and workout something with your boss and Never make the mistake of getting married to this man

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    1. Poster don't return money o,just don't ask him for money. If he gives collect.

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  66. Poster take Baltika advice, maybe he has realize his mistakes and decide to change to a better being. But don't give in to the marriage for now, put him on test for another one year, whatever the outcome is will now determine wether you will leave him or marry him.

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  67. Keep some of the money, you earned it. Your story really brought tears to my eyes, he really ill treated you. I wonder what brought on his about face and obvious desperation to have you back.

    He hasn't earned you. It takes nothing out of him to give these gifts, he has not done any real work to get you back. For what he has put you through his ass should be moving like a new army recruit, sweating buckets day and night. What is 5m to him, a house, promise of schooling, he is filthy rich these things are nothing. He is doing the mere minimum, but for your family it is life transforming because they have never known anything close. I honestly do believe that ppl can change, but he would have to do way more to win me over. Mofo needs to go bring the moon and stars out of the sky first. He needs to fckn sweat for your love for a change, work for it and really earn it. His sadistic ass must really think he can get anything he wants just because he has money. Money has it's limits and he needs to be taught a proper lesson.

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  68. Sister Poster, while I was reading the post I was imagining if its true or not..cos its more like a movie thing.
    Its obvious that that man don't have your interest anywhere around him, in short, in his mind you should see it as a privilege to have had him sleep with you.Why is he so desperate now? He sure wants more than marriage.
    He wants to buy you and your family and if you know that you are not a commodity, I join my voice with other voices here and with the host of heaven to say RUNNNNNNN

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  69. Hello Poster,

    I know things look pretty hard right now but it will be alright in the end. The first and most important thing was for you to realize something is wrong. You are right to assume that he will not change. He still believes in his money, that's why he wants to buy you and everyone you know. That in itself is an insult. He is who he is. No one should disrespect another human the way he disrespected you, how much more the person he claims to want to marry. There are two clear options here:

    Option 1
    Do you have dreams? Do you wish to be self sufficient? Are you willing to work hard to have a better life for yourself? Do you believe in God and have faith that He can help you be greater than you ever imagined? Do you believe a woman can also make her own money and establish herself? Do you aspire to be something great?
    If your answer to above questions are "Yes", please do not marry this man.
    Based on experience and what I have learnt in life, he will ruin you without apology. You will never be free to be yourself if you marry him. Your family will be forever indebted to a man who fears and answers to no one. He is very condescending. If you ever stand up to him, he will take you to the cleaners and even intimidate you with his powerful influence. What incentive does he have to treat you nicely once he marries you? Why should he start to respect you? Why would he need to show you love?
    The only human you owe anything are your children. Your mum has failed you by wanting to hawk you to a monster just for a bowl of food. What will any of you do if he wakes up one day and decides to evict your mum and siblings from his house? What if he decides to take your kids from you and send you out empty? God forbid, what if he assaults you physically and that becomes your end? You have a duty to yourself to be great. Don't let anyone force you to take a shortcut for their own sake. Others have said that another man can be gentle when dating you and turn to a monster when he marries you. That is true but you already know this man. It will be insane to know what you know and complain if he ridicule's you after you marry him. That will even be unfair to him because he never pretended and you chose to marry him anyway.

    Option 2
    If you don't have any dreams, no hope of being greater, and don't aspire to be anything in life except pepper-dem gang without work, you can marry him. Just know that you might not end up peppering anyone because he may choose not to give you a dime once married to him. If you believe you have zero chance at anything better than being miserably married to a narcist, then marry him.

    Just know that you are worth more than one billion if you live life on your own terms.

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  70. MISTAKE NO. 1 Flying all the way to see this man n offering sex when he has not even invested enough in you. he got what he wanted so easily and to me he does not respect you or cherish you. he sees you as property n did I read well up there u said he has other wivesn gfs. my dear that man has no regard for any woman

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    1. My friend keep quiet. So only a vag makes a woman. Abi you don’t hear what virgins go through everyday? People that respect their side chicks and marry them nko? A man is abusive you’re talking about respect. Does he respect himself or is he a prize that his respect means anything? Biko

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  71. Another FFK loading.

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  72. Abeg poster marry the man I repeat marry him, my dear. Just really pray about it and commit the marriage to God. Something most have happened during the period you left him, he must have had a serious rethink. Please marry him and save like never before. And truly you both have a soul tie.

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    1. Which marriage.Abeg poster don't even listen to this Advice here.Thank you

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  73. I pray for all the best in your marriage

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  74. Dear poster,
    Remember 2face and Annie.
    Men do stupid things when they want to form James Bond.
    He might have treated you very badly and after you left on low-key without drama he realized the difference between you and his other exes.
    Na your turn be this now... Make the rule of the game, the ball de your court.
    So get back to him, see for yourself if he's still that same person you left.
    I wish you all the best.
    e go be✌️

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  75. My advice is use your head instead of your emotions. This guy has hurt you in the past without you gaining anything from it. And now he thinks he is very smart to buy your parents and force into a loveless marriage. Use your head.... Go ahead and get your pound of flesh... Let him do all those things he promised to do... Get hold of a sizeable amount of his wealth and check out of the country to where he can't find or touch you. Hin eye go clear.

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