What you are about to read will either excite or piss you Off......
I know someone who did exactly this and they are both better off.....he says catching her made him realise what a jerk he had been.....
If you are a man and cannot stand your wife cheating,then park your blokos in its garage and stop cheating!!!
Lol...that man wants to murder that woman.
ReplyDeleteI swear!🤣🤣
DeleteHaa Aunty! Lekwa gi le onwu gi
DeleteI dey tell you 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteOr maybe he has the heart of Will Smith.
DeleteStella yaff said it all. Nuffin to add. Sheybe they were writing epistles on why cheating men should be tolerated and understood. Same goes for cheating women.
DeleteThe man is giving her mental torture. No need to leave the marriage,forgive her. But you see en that babe will be emotionally down,cos she can't predict what's going on.
DeleteSomething similar happened with my husband's ex wife yet he grovelled when she left.🤣🤣🤣. He never talks about it so I heard from his mother. No wonder he is extra good to me🤣🤣🤣.
DeleteIf she comes back alive, she should do thanksgiving.
DeleteIf he is Igbo. Nne RUN ooo. Those ones don't forgive such
DeleteReversed psychology
DeleteChai! Rest in peace in advance o🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteMadam Sabella......See what i'm talking about here
ReplyDeletewhere was it written that the man cheated ?
can you see how she stylishly blamed the husband for the wife's adultery
Now recall anytime a woman with cheating husband came here to vent......was she blamed for her actions ?
can you see the much.talked about double standards
Of course, let's make it about the man and forget the one that broke the vow
DeleteToo many evil ladies on this blog, that's why I didn't even bother commenting on yesterday's chronicle.
DeleteIf I was the guy dating that girl that sent that chronicle.. I'm ending that relationship immediately.
What an insult, her shallow perception and other shallow insulting comments is just the height of it.
Nonsense
Hello.
DeleteI humbly admit making an assumption, in this case, isn't fair because there was no place it was the man cheated. What if the man happens to be amongst the 1% who doesn't cheat, right?
However, recently a man of the same gender as the man in the story sent in a piece to Stella and talked about 99% of his fellow-men being a cheat. Straight from the horse's mouth. You see, Most men aren't making it easy to put up a defence for their kind.
Due to that and many other reasons, it is easy to arrive at that conclusion that the man in the story could have cheated and the wife acted out even though the contrary could be the case and he might turn out to be an exemption, after all, that is what we hear men say all the time.
If you belong to the school of thought that most men cheat or you hear the majority of men say it themselves all the time then you shouldn't be surprised when you see that most women become resigned to that notion and start to believe it and do not hesitate to arrive at such a conclusion because believing such a generalized fallacy (due to what we see and read most men do and they admitted with their mouths they do in the society) thanks to male folks who fan the embers isn't farfetched. Though I admit once again, those reasons still don't make it right. Why accuse the man, right?
Still, If we are still going to talk about the double standards then we might as well tackle it in its entirety.
A man cheats on his wife she is being told to watch war room and pray because he is being jazzed or she is unkempt. While a woman cheats and he is being told to get a replacement. Responses differ, why is it so?
If you want to go neck-deep into the issue of double-standards then at this point you would also agree that both genders aren't innocent and it takes more than just pointing fingers and scraping of the surface of the subject matter.
""If you want to go neck-deep into the issue of double-standards then at this point ************you would also agree that both genders aren't innocent********** and it takes more than just pointing fingers and scraping of the surface of the subject matter."""
DeleteFinally....you recognise that nobody is actually innocent
I keep saying when it comes to relationship/marriage issues, There is nothing, no matter how grievous that men have done, that women haven't done too or even more grievous.
ps: how does one man speak for 99%...can it be assumed that this woman represents 99% of women.
And The fact that men dont talk about women infidelity doesnt mean it isn't rampant........ i mean we've seen chronicles/ comments from lot of ""faithful wives"" and those that cheer them on on this blog
See Gobe!
ReplyDeleteAll of y'all supporting this remember when if/when your husband cheats.......you know what to do....LOL
ReplyDeleteIkwakwakwakwa😅🤣😅🤣😅. Maybe the man realized how sexy his wife actually is and decided to treat her right. I hope he started working out too to look good for her. N wear sexy things at home. Hes a wise man,a wise man doesn't leave his marriage just because of cheating.
ReplyDeleteSee how wonderful their relationship has become.
He should start mentoring other young men.
🤣🤣🤣
DeleteGbam 😂😂😂😂
Delete😭😭😭 girl bye 😂😂😂
DeleteGbam! hohohoho
Delete😂😂😂😂 I love you already Yvonne.
DeletePls Yvonne,tell the man to also watch war room,fireproof and a 7 days fasting&midnight naked prayer too.
DeleteMEN WORLD!
@Bemorebliss 😅😅 those extras you listed are also very important.
DeleteWomen are promiscuous in nature you know. We just have to accept them like that. I'm sure the pressure has been much on her, he probablyhas been trying to seduce her for long and maybe even jazzed her🤕😟. It's not easy out here at all. The pressureswe go through,. So many cute, rich and sexy men tempting us day and night.
We need a very strong and prayerful partner to always help us.
Lmaoooooooooooooo @ Yvonne O's epic response.... what a fantabulous response....
Delete☝☝☝👉up there is a two way thing. Its either he is messing her up pschologically to revenge later or hr has accepted his faith to be more committed better in their marriage.
ReplyDeleteI'm tempted to think that he is working on himself to love is wife unconditionally.. Hhmmm this waking up catching the husband starring at her at night is not a good sign. If na me I for don run comot ooo..
DeleteIt's bad enough that you cheat. You now do that on your matrimonial bed. Smh. Whoever this woman is, I fear for her. You wake up, and find him staring at your "beauty". Na real wa. Lemme just 🚶🚶🚶
ReplyDeleteAs in....
DeleteWhat a disgusting woman! God forbid!
The woman get mind no be small.
DeleteBut what a man can do......
The woman get mind no be small.
DeleteBut what a man can do......
That staring at her is deep....
DeleteOh ok...I dated a guy who did the same thing...he treated me better after catching me cheating...The challenge came afterwards that when he realized I have fallen in love again he brought back the past to torture and remind me every day till I ran away telling him to find someone else who has done nothing wrong to him...he couldn't move on and insisted we must carry on bcos I stole his heart....but I say no and break up with him....sadly after many years he is still stuck to the past...moral lesson becareful how you treat people you might cause a psychological mental damage which might take them years to recover...dont cheat in relationship. Break up if you're not interested anymore
ReplyDeleteIt is nice of you to accept responsibility for causing him trauma. People are rarely inclined to admit their part in breaking someone else.
DeleteMy dear forgiveness is not easy. Little things triggers it back for you
DeleteThe LAST SUPPER...that is what he is giving to you..
ReplyDeleteHe is not admiring your beauty Madam;he is simply bidding you farewell in advance..
He is giving you better days as the memory for the worst which is about to happen..
Most men CANT forgive a cheating wife;they will gain your trust again then strike deadly when you least expect..
@MARTINS
my thoughts exactly
DeleteMartins onye nna, you get the point.
DeleteHer doom is near...
Well,you don't know most men whose wife feed are aware they cheat but get so blind just to keep being lazy.
DeleteMost marriages is the more you look,the less you see.
Oga it will shock you on the amount that actually forgives and keep it moving. Don't kill your cherikoko when it happens o. It's in women's DNA to cheat. The temptation from toasters with fat pocket is too much. Always pray for your wife and treat her well so she can conquer temptations. Tankio
DeleteAnon 11:11,you say whaaat??😂😂😂😂.
DeletePls off the mac
This is the best method for those who cheats. It will keep eating them up and guilty conscience wont stop judging them and trust me, they won't ever try to cheat cos they'd keep wondering why you haven't scream nor chase them out of the house and this wld keep hunting them cos they know what they did is bad. SILENCE they say IS GOLDEN.
ReplyDeleteLol...you think it is everybody that has a conscience and a sense of accountability. Most would accept the nice treatment as their due while blaming you for whatever they did.
DeleteI think this method will work on women better and few men with conscience. Not that oloriburuku that said he buys gifts to appease and his cohorts. They will feel the gift is working
Delete@ anon, yes it will work on women better. The gift method won't work at all cos that'd trigger the cheat more.
Delete@ Kamikaze, true, but how I wish everyone could think in this direction, everything would go at ease. I know its not easy but
silence is the best answer. most people don't know this cos of anger issue.
Madam be careful plsss...
ReplyDeleteE be like stella na constant cheater with this her comment
ReplyDeleteBumea shey u head correct like this abi u missed ur drug ni.
DeleteCheater ni Tiger ko
DeleteLoll Yvonne, Americans call it cheater. UK and naija folks call it cheat loll
DeleteA barking dog does not bite, the one that bites will take you unaware. My grandmother mom told us a story about chicken and Eagle 🦅 . She stated: Reason Eagles eats chick. One day a Eagle was hungry, she went for Owl’s baby, picked it and flew. when Eagle 🦅 got home, her mother asked her what was the reaction of the Owls mother, Eagle 🦅 said nothing. Eagle’s mother told her to return baby Owl, she did. Later the same day, Eagle picked chick 🐥 and its mother went wild, when she got home her mother asked same question and Eagle 🦅 said, “ Its mother nearly devoured me!!!!!!.” Eagle’ mother asked her to kill the chick 🐥 and eat. Till today Eagle does not mess with Owl. Moral of the lesson, sort it out my people.
ReplyDeleteNice story. Silence is golden. That's why people pester you for a reaction when they mess up. Because your reaction ends evil plots of vengeance
DeleteHe's heaping mild coal of fire on her, it will eat her up eventually!!!
ReplyDeleteThe cheating wife should know that Revenge is a dish best served when cold.
ReplyDeleteShe is enjoying her last meal before she will be executed.
The woman get mind.if na me,I will use my own hand and divorce myself.That man's plans for you is not for/of good.
ReplyDeleteA woman cheats on her husband, her husband is blamed
ReplyDeleteA woman kills her husband, her husband is blamed
A woman makes a stupid decision, her husband is blamed
In this part of the world, women don't take responsibility for their actions; that is why they continue to wallow in their irresponsibility, they put the blame on every other person except themselves.
The things most of you women get away with in that part of the world, in a sane clime, you know you can't get away with them. You're made to take responsibility, the reason most of them can only stay in Nigeria.
That man is just trying to set a heap of fire on that cheating woman's head.
She should beware!!
Wow. Spot on Ms A. God bless you for your honest and unbiased answer
DeleteYes he is blamed cos something is really lacking. It takes a whole lot for a woman to cheat,most Nigerian men are unromantic in marriage because they feel they've arrived.We act mostly by what we hear and how men act than what we see.
DeleteHello Ms.A
DeleteI've read through the comments and more people are blaming the wife. I haven't many people (except Stella's commentary up there) actually blaming the husband for the wife's cheating.
It is rare that everyone agrees in the comment section. There are always people for and against.🤷♀️
Always creating gender war,God forbid
DeleteShe has got nerves. When you cheat and you are caught. Please, maintain the little poise you have left and distance yourself from that person may be not forever till you are forgiven, at least. He caught her and she is still there asking questions. This is how some people get their privates chopped off. Not that it is justified but some people go to the extreme to retrieve their pound of flesh. What is she still doing there?
ReplyDeleteThis situation reminds me of my friend who said he does not have any intention of cheating on his wife but he does not know tomorrow. Ergo if he cheats he will personally ask her to divorce him because if she stays with him after finding out then she can't be trusted. He won't even be able to eat her meals.
But what if the husband is just a good person and really just wants to please the wife enough not to have her do that again????? And not because he has ulterior motives. Have u all stopped to consider that?
DeleteBased on how she described his reaction to the situation on first sight, I doubt that.
DeleteThe normal human reaction to a threatening situation is fear and flight the same way you would react with anger when faced with a demoralizing or highly intense situation. Your emotions will be all over the place because you just can't help it.
That man's behaviour from the onset was cold and emotionless. She is not safe. If had gotten upset at first and then after some time, forgave and accepted her then we could say he is just being a good man. After all not every man divorces his cheating wife.
It seems he had known about her tryst for a while but decided to creep in on her when he has had enough. He didn't even seem surprised.
My husband knew I cheated, didn't ask me and had to move on.He cheated before me and so was too guilty to act.
ReplyDeleteI won't cheat again,but unless with a governor who can help us with plenty contracts.
Most men will just put you in trouble in the name of cheating, no tangible thing to gain, what a waste of infidelity.
A waste of sin I tell u.That was how one yeye one lured me to cheat but at the end nigger was broke as f*ck the sex sef wasn't worth it.Thank God my hubby forgave me and I will never cheat on him again even if it's with Bill Gate.
DeleteYou have a kind one sha. If you jam those ones their head sparks like wire, you will know killing people is like breakfast time for some people
DeleteYou are blaming the man you cheated with for turning out to be useless? What a wow!
DeleteKami, you're shocked ba?🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteIt is not only a "waste of infidelity," it is a waste of eternity. Yes, the adulterers will be wasted
Deletein eternal hell, whether you cheat with a rich or poor man. it is adultery.
@Kamikaze the thing tire you too abi?? 😂😂😂. Like has one not seen on SDK blog? Lmao😂!
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ReplyDeleteI hope you will also ask your husband how best to treat him so he doesn't cheat again when he's caught cheating
DeleteWhat's good for the goose 🦆 is also good for the gander sometimes.
Diana u indeed have a good man.pls treat him right.
DeleteHmmmm. Is he sick? Must be making up for something
DeleteEasy! Her husband forgave her and they moved on. There are also people here who have asked women that their husbands cheated on to forgive and move on.
DeleteDiana E I applaud you for using your ID to tell your story. Continue to enjoy your marriage, you have a good husband.
DeleteDiana you get liver to be saying this even with your picture na wa ooo
DeleteDiane delete this comment. Common! Your pic is online and rememberalso that internet doesn't forget. Someone you don't expect might recognise you,and you might not like the outcome.
DeleteYou should've done this in anon mode.
That's a man that wants his marriage to work/he also cheats.
ReplyDeleteHow did you know that he also cheats?
DeleteYou carry torchlight follow his John Thomas as a glowworm.
You'd be surprised how many married men that have caught their wives cheating and still forgave them. They forgive not because they also cheat, but, because of who they are as a human being.
Some women are becoming foolishly bold. Bring a dude to your matrimonial bed and spread legs like a pancake? And when they get pregnant they pass strange kids to their husbands. What affrontry to your creator😳😳😳😳😳😳
ReplyDeleteThey are learning well from their opponents
Delete@11:33
DeleteI see that adultery to you is a football game where you have opponents?
Jesus loves you?
pure mind games. she should pack out of that house ASAP or most likely leave in a body bag or suffer a horrible divorce without a dime to her name. Either that or he's gay or cheating as well
ReplyDeleteThough I do not support cheating, but why bringing the man to your hubby bed, the guy doesn’t even have a home or money for Hotel or you can borrow a friend uncompleted building
ReplyDeleteThis is a very foolish woman up there. Very senseless!
ReplyDeleteBe prepared for whatever comes out of this.
Your matrimonial home?
ReplyDeleteYou are such a foolish woman.
Who knows what's in your hubby's mind?
Deal with your shameless act please
Haha
Hmmmm I feel sorry for you ooo.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you are asking if you should be worried?? Lol.
ReplyDeleteIf the man heard from a trusted friend that you're cheating, it might be a different story but ma'am, your husband walked in on you laying stark naked with another man having sex with you🤦♀️. Do you know how that will make him feel? You not only broke him emotionally and messed up with his ego but you also do not regard your both home.
Nne you should be worried, he's spoiling you now because he plans to give you a slow painful punishment, the one that might make you beg him to kill you already.
He hasn't even talked about it? Like, he hasn't poured out his emotions to you so as to know if he's angry or not?? Dear be very very worried.
Those times you wake up to notice he's looking at you are the times he's looking at you and wondering to himself, 'so you have the nerve to do this to me? I will so mess you up'. Be worried dear poster.
My thoughts exactly. Be worried. I would be. The reason men can freely move on attimes is because their wives have already reacted like the chicken who the chick was taken in the earlier story above. So she has already vented. If a man offends his wife and she is totally silent, man must pay for it somehow. So all these plenty love he is showing. Beware. By the time he strikes no one will almost believe cos he has been the beat of husbands. All those midnight staring... Hmm.
DeleteRevenge is best served cold. Don't be deceived, start planning your exit and get out of his house. It probably would have been better if he was told you are cheating. But he caught you moaning to the thrusting of another man, on his matrimonial bed. He can never take down the mental image of what he saw. He is going to gain your trust, gradually he will psychologically wreck you . You will regret the day he caught you.
ReplyDeleteStella, you can never change. You will always look for ways to blame the guy even when when there is no reason to do so.
My step mum cheated on my dad with my dad's childhood friend . I watched a friendship of about 30 years go down the drain. My dad didn't say anything, he stopped eating her food and sleeping on the same bed with her. That was the period my dad started reading novels, spending more time with his children and cooking for us. Helping us with our home work but he never spoke with my step mum. He became extremely quiet and reclusive. My aunt who was living with us went to the village to tell my grandmother. Days after my uncle came with a message. My step mother must leave our house immediately. It was raining heavily, step-mum pack her things, entered the rain and left. Before leaving she gave her daughters wrappers. A pastor saved the lives of her two daughters, when he burnt the wrappers. The pastor told my dad using the wrappers would have led to the premature death of my step sisters. According to the pastor my step mum wanted to drop all links with our family by killing her daughters in an accident.... Agbondimwingbe.
yeah right because she committed adultery she also a witch. you are just happy she left and you got your dad to yourself
DeleteYour dad sounds like a good and homely man. I think you have learned from the best. Alex I think you're a good man. Continue to be you.
DeleteA man who is not a cheat will not take this from his wife.
DeletePoster,I advise you leave o. Abi am I the only one scared for her? Just jejely leave. If family ask why, tell them what you did and his reaction.
ReplyDeleteI don't trust people who keep quiet after they've been offended. When they strike eh, e go shock you.
Her thoughts are in order. Because without me reading to the end I subconsciously thought same.
ReplyDeleteWell maybe you might need to tell someone about this and have your baecation monitored
Bye girl
Some people gather mind shall
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ReplyDeleteWow! You no try madam. Pls leave the house and don't come back until you guys talk about that day (before a family member or an elder he respects). Then ask for his forgiveness. It's even better you move on on own. I'm really scared for you and I hope you are safe.
ReplyDelete*on your own*
ReplyDeleteI see the rand used there so it's in South Africa, that lady should run. The men in that country murder their women so often that this one should be in genuine fear if her life.
ReplyDeleteI think the answer to this question best comes from you. You know him best. So, who is your man? Has he always been a calm level headed and forgiving dude or does he have a history of being an exceeding patient devil?
ReplyDeleteAs many have said, it is one of two things, the experience of you cheating shook him so hard and made him realize he can do better. Or it hurt him so much that he will raise you as high as he can do the fall can be most painful. Case in point is the man that abandoned the wife to be at the alter because he found out she cheated years before their marriage.
One thing I can assure you is this, irrespective of how he is reacting, that experience caused him really deep pain. That kind of pain won't just disappear, it shouldn't be buried either, but dealt with openly.
If he is the level headed and forgiving type, has he actually verbalized forgiveness? If he hasn't, then there may be one additional dimension to consider - he knowns not talking about it will slowly but surely eat you up inside. So, he might be staying, but also punishing you by refusing to talk. This is not healthy either, one day this might blow up in both your faces.
I learnt something new here today. Reading chronicles and comments here, I concluded only men, especially married men, cheat. Just learnt Nigerian women, including married Nigerian women, cheat too.
ReplyDeleteMy fiancé can never forgive cheating so, I will never cheat on him. His wahala is too much abeg. Ordinary hanging out with male friends he doesn’t like at all. He doesn’t cheat or hang out with female friends since we started dating so I can’t cheat
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