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Saturday, January 30, 2021

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT NEEDED.



Good day Stella

I need emotional support , I just came out or maybe still in an emotional abusive relationship and it’s taking it’s toll on my mental health. I’m a lady in my early thirties and I grew up in a very strict home hence, no freedom to socialize, also due to the nature of my job I hardly meet people of the opposite sex , I managed to date a guy who later impregnated another lady and his parents insisted he had to marry the lady, since then I’ve been single until sometimes ago I was introduced to a man of about the same age with me by a woman whom I know. 


According to her the man is having issues with relationships that ladies just leave him without reason. I asked if she thinks there are things he did wrong she said she has no idea except I get close to him and study him.


We live states away from each other so we started by communicating on phone for months, he appeared calm and nice on the phone,supportive and caring,what I found Interesting in him are he’s caring, supportive and he also mentioned he had stayed two years without touching a woman and that he can stay six months without touching a woman, I felt he will make a faithful husband that even if I travel my mind will be at rest until I received the shock of my life, I’ve heard people pretend but this is the first time I’m experiencing it firsthand. 



I got leave at work and I traveled to meet him to spend some time and also study him, the day I got to his place before I even undress this guy had his way with me I couldn’t even shout, I don’t know if I should call it rape, I was surprised I wasn’t expecting him to touch me anytime soon due to his attitude towards sex on phone, the second day I got to his place this guy pointed out my chores to me before heading to work, I had to do laundry, clean the whole house a three bedroom flat and cook, this is someone who told me on phone that he doesn’t stress any lady he’s dating that he doesn’t even allow them to clean or wash and he would’ve made breakfast and bring it to them in bed before they wake up it was all lies!.



Three things I surprisingly found out about him are : firstly he’s always angry, I mean there’s a difference when someone is angry because you got them angry but in his own case he’s always angry 24/7 like literally angry about everything, he’s always screaming and yelling and shouting whenever talking to me that people in other houses must be hearing, not like we are fighting or arguing but he’s always angry His look , his countenance, everything, I mean if I ask him dear, what will you like me to make for dinner he will start screaming that is it night already?



 I’m always shocked, I’m always afraid to talk to him , to even greet him sometimes I think twice, I can’t talk to him, I dare not ask him any questions, I mean I must always keep mum in the house, I can’t play with him, I must keep a straight face when watching the television , if we are watching the tv and I get up maybe to drink water or something he will shout at me to comeback and sit down , I mean I can’t even breathe in the house, if I cook he will say the salt is not enough which is not true cause I’m a good cook, if I greet him in the morning he will say I didn’t greet him well, sometimes I greet him up to four times before he answers, he is a terror!. 



He’s so controlling that he will tell me what to wear, when he’s going to work he will lock me in the house and leave with the key I mean I can’t even take a stroll I’m always indoor, he even told me once he marry me no family is allowed to visit me not even my siblings or mother, and I can’t visit them either and I have to reduce the monthly allowance I give to them.



Secondly he’s a CHRONIC WOMANIZER AND A SEX ADDICT, as oppose to how he presented himself over the phone, I found out this guy is a chronic womanizer I mean he sleeps with anything that has a vagina, both young and old, the most shocking ones are including married women I mean he also sleeps with women in their husbands house, including teenagers this guy sleeps with girls as young as 13yrs old, I found out after checking his phone because his behaviors are strange to me so I had to go through his phone maybe I will find out things, infact there’s this 15yrs old girl he introduced to me as his boss daughter who I even did shopping for when coming , he’s also sleeping with the girl , someone who told me he hasn’t touched a woman in two years sleeps with different women everyday and every weekend he must invite a lady from outside his state to visit him , he even slept with a girl a day before I came, I was shocked, he’s so much addicted to sex, to the extent that his hand is always in his boxers fondling his penis and scrotum watching porn! Surprising right? 



As a Christian he claimed to be! very disgusting habit, I don’t even want to talk about how he snores heavily and Loudly that I always end up with migraine and stand up to sleep in the sitting room.


He started pressuring me to get pregnant that he needs a child badly and he’s not getting younger, I told him I’m not having a child out of wedlock,he introduced me to his people cause they are in the same state with him, but all along my mind wasn’t there cause I knew he just couldn’t be the ONE.


The third thing I found out about this guy is that he’s a CHRONIC AND PATHOLOGICAL LIAR, I wouldn’t want to go into details but this guy tells lies that makes me question my sanity, it’s so bad that even after he just finished saying something he will deny ever saying it, I’m not even talking about something he said long ago i mean something he just finished saying when he hasn’t even left the same spot he will deny ever saying it and even swear with his life and destiny that he never said so which he actually did, in fact he once swear on his grave , he swear on the grave they will bury him that he never said something he just finished saying that was the day I became afraid of this guy , I wasn’t the one asking him to swear cause I hate swearing he’s the one who likes to swear ,this has affected me to the extent that when I talk now I repeat words twice just to be sure the person I’m talking to heard me right, I repeat words , I repeat sentences that people are beginning to ask me if I’m okay.



During the leave I spent with him, i confronted him over his womanizing ways and he got angry , he kept malice with me and didn’t talk to me for four days, if I sit near him he will stand up to sit elsewhere, if I touch his shoulder he will fling my hand away, the last straw that broke the camels back was when several times I caught him looking at me in a hateful and disgusting manner and when I want to look at his side he will quickly smile, I became afraid of my life, I had no one to report to cause he has said many bad things about me to the woman who introduced us to each other so the woman no longer talk to me, and then he told me afterall now you have no one to report me to again, he heaped heavy lies on my head, I left his house one day and checked into an hotel so that I can leave from there, when he came into the room and saw me packing he got angry and wanted to attack me, I had to run out of the house with towel on, as I was running I was shouting the towel had dropped from my body and people in neighboring houses came out he started shouting that they should hold me that I just ran mad and that’s why I ran out naked which wasn’t true..


 I didn’t run out naked I just didn’t know the towel had fall off, I tried explaining to the people that he wanted to attack me that’s why I ran out naked but no one believed me, I mean who would believe a naked lady on the street, it was a woman who covered me with wrapper, I begged some neighbors to enter the house with me so I could carry my load and I left for the hotel , he came to the hotel and started begging me, crying that he’s sorry and I should come back to the house, I went back but he was still the same , my leave was almost over so I knew I’ll be going back soon and that will be the end, to my utmost surprise the day I was leaving at the park this guy bursted into tears in front of the people he was crying profusely like a little child whose mother is traveling,and everyone was talking about how much he’s in love with me, I just smiled thinking in my mind ONLY IF THEY KNOW.



Ever since I’ve left he’s been all lovey-dovey posting my picture everyday, something he never did while I was with him, calling me 24/7 to check on me, infact he’s now resumed to how he was before I traveled down to meet him, he now talks calmly and like a Christian over the phone lols....By the time I got back to my base after a month, everyone was asking if I’m sick, I had become so lean, drained (physically,psychologically and financially), my skin color has faded with pimples all over my face, I had become a shadow of myself, he made me leave some clothes in his house as an assurance that I will be back, I left those I can forfeit, he’s planning how to go pay my bride price this year lols....he’s still calling me 24/7 , his mother too wont let me rest, she’s a nice woman though, at first I thought maybe the behaviors are as a result of what he suffered while growing up , he suffered NEGLECT, both his parents separated and got married to someone else so he lived in the house of one relation to another , so he was neglected and really suffered, I’m a very understandable person and I pity him but is that why he’s also a chronic liar and womanizer? Controlling?.


I’m emotionally drained and tired ! .





*You are always shocked like Bubu!!!
You went to see a man and he raped you on the first day and you stayed for month and encouraged abuse on yourself?If you dont love and respect yourself,no one else will
Please walk out of that situationship and move on already.....I am so pissed with you but minding the words i use cos you are already emotionally down.
Move and get some emotional balance before you venture into another relationship...

122 comments:

  1. Poster Please forgive me, I didn't finish your story πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ˜…πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…, I stopped where you said you ran out with your towel and when it fell off, he told people to catch you cos you were mad. What in the name of wizardry is this?
    Please this is the kind of man that will make you lose your sanity and the day you do something drastic to him, everyone will see you as evil and him as the victim.
    Chukwu aju!!!

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    1. And the silly poster went back and still live with him for few days, jeeeeezzzzzzzzz you are so desperate

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    2. The shocking and annoying part is when the poster went back to his house...

      Please as Stellakoko has said, love yourself and don't allow anyone to mistreat you....

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    3. Ehen you got to that part? 3 lines after she was raped I stopped reading.
      Some girls are so desperate Sha.

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    4. Poster u truly have self esteem issues. U have to heal urself b4 u can date someone well. This guy u described above should not even be brought here as a chronicle. U should have used ur sense to walk away cos he is useless. U writing about it shows u have issues. Take some time off dating, Work on urself then start dating again so U can make correct choices. In the mean time block him in every way and keep away from him. He will never change and get better. Good luck dear.

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    5. You see this poster ehhhh, she will marry that guy. Take your time and read her last lines on how the guy was neglected as a child and she ended up saying she is a very understanding person and she took pity on him.

      Desperation is what will lead you to your early grave.

      I got married on the 2nd of January 2021 (this yr) at the age of 33 (will be 34 this yr) and my husband is only 3 yrs older than me .

      Did I have other suitors before him? Yes. But I took my time cos I don't like what I hate .

      My husband isnt perfect cos I'm not perfect either and no one is, but I married a good man who loves, adores and worships the very ground I walk on amd a God fearing man.

      Poster, don't let desperation lead you to your early grave. Stop giving excuses for his stinking behavior.

      Thank you

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    6. This story shock me. What did I just read? Well, I don't blame you. Like you said, you lack experience. But please, done put yourself down to be threaded upon. You already have the answers you need. No one needs to tell you anything different. Just move on with your life. I wish you all the best

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    7. Chimoooo! What sort of desperation is this? Don't marry a lunatic all in the name of bearing Mrs please, you are only 33 years. Thank God you came out alive. Block him! dude is not well upstairs

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    8. Your experience is just a tip of the iceberg compared to what you will see in marriage.

      The good news is, you won't say he hid his character or you didn't see the ugly signs. Brace up for all forms of abuse, you just got yourself a psycho.

      A little word they say..........hmmm.

      Being unmarried is not the worst thing that can happen to one.

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    9. You missed the shocking part.... SHE RETURNED WHEN HE CAME BEGGING!

      Like.....how in the world????

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    10. I couldn’t even finish this 🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣.
      Rubbish story

      God forbid bad thing.

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    11. End the relationship or whatever ship that is ASAP, how did you manage staying in that house for a whole month? You tried and have suffered a great deal, break ALL TIES with that family, delete and block every and anyone. You owe no one explanations for your actions, you alone know what you passed through, imagine getting married to that sicko. I REJECT IT FOR YOU, YOU DESERVE BETTER.

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    12. Poster please run as fast as your legs can carry you. The guy you are dealing with is a psychopath, please love your self. If you end up with this guy, you don’t want to imagine what will happen to you. Please cut him off and take some time to heal. Love and light.

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    13. Beautiful nonsense, I just couldn't waste my time reading and digesting this crap. What degree of lowself esteem is this?
      You know what, I'm out of this post πŸ₯΄πŸ˜πŸ™„

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  2. Oh dear! That guy actually forced himself on you, like, he raped you and you still continue with the relationship.

    Please, erase everything about him from your life! Those that put their trust in God shall renew their strength.... Please, go to God and beg him for forgiveness, turn to Him and worship Him in truth and in spirit, He will heal you from this bad feeling and heartbreak.

    You don't need someone like that in your life, you deserve better.
    Just make sure you're totally healed both mentally, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually first before venturing into any other relationship.

    As for that guy, he will remain old in his ugliness.

    Sending you love and light πŸ€—πŸ’–

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    1. She still has the guts to pity him and say his mother is nice. It’s like the deception you saw from the guy is not enough. Yes, his mother is nice o. Yes, he suffered neglect o. Oya pity him and go and marry him na.

      I really feel sorry for you but you entertained all these rubbish. Let’s just call it a learning curve for you. I’m not saying women shouldn’t be patient with men but this guy raped you. And you stayed and suffered all these for how long? Wow. Baby girl!!! Inexperience has nothing to do with this.

      Develop yourself before you go into another relationship pls.

      Let’s stop talking about how we were raised to be unsociable. Our parents did what they could with the resources they had. Leave that alone and build yourself . That’s your responsibility! My parents were hard workers. My mum had different maids. One abused me but I never remember it for wrong. I never remember it to give it power over me. In fact, I hardly talk about it and honesty, it doesn’t affect me. I’m married with 2 children now. What would it have done to me? Made me like women or like men inordinately? Abeg, we forgive and we move.
      Don’t give the devil power over you. Overcome your fears and move!

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  3. Oh God, give this lady her husband pls. Dis insult is too much. Plz God , answer her.
    Poster, my heart bleeds for u
    Ndo!!! Nne
    Hhhmmm

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    1. Honestly eh!!! What women have suffered in the name of looking for husband. And you saw all you saw and stayed. Nne bia Kam welu ula maghanata gi uche azu!!!
      If you ever go back to that lunatic just know that sdk blog have officially disowned you!!!!
      Choose between this blog and that lunatic!!! Better be wise and choose us , as we continue to pray for your healing and full recovery okay.

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    2. Funniest chronicle I have read. I had tears streaming down my eyes. Stella's advice summed it up for me. You need to place more value on yourself. What if he's mentally deranged. I am sorry for you

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    3. Poster please if you will remain single for life instead of getting married to this Yaba left escapee, please remain single for goodness sake before you die before your time, kini gbogbo katikati yiii? How old are you that you are this desperate, you ran out with a towel , checked into a hotel then went back because he was crying, like egbere, oh God 🀷🀦🀦🀦 please rate your self high next time, this is the lowest of the low.

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    4. God pls give me my own husband o cos chai I have suffered ohh! I was just thinking about all the mess that I have taken and o shock me well. Father make me love myself again and be confident that I’m enough for any man. Amen

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    5. I'm really surprised she left the hotel and went back with the mad man. Imagine all she went through. Let me just assume it's a made up story.

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  4. Poster, if I hear you are back with this guy eh, if I hear. OK o

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  5. WOW. One person has all these irredeemable qualities and you are still entertaining him? Talmabout 'you pity him'..

    I pity you, sis. Leave that demon alone!

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    1. he must be really good looking with tall stature and big chwest with muscles cus idunno wtf is going on

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    2. 16:21 add honey dick to it, I hear say e de make some women loose their senses

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    3. Na real demon🀣🀣🀣🀣. Good afternoon

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  6. Sis, please and please block him already. This guy is a no good. He's the devil himself . I beg you. End it and block him

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    1. I expected her to block the guy all round but she's still receiving calls from him...


      May you find closure in true and genuine love...

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  7. Why are you making excuses for a grown man who choose to have a bad character?with your post,a part of you is with him.
    If someone could embarrass you that much on your first visit to his place,your domestic violence chronicle will be in series.
    You'll surely find love again,remain optimistic.

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  8. I don't think that guy is ok mentally,babe please move on ok.....

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  10. What is this that I just read? Sister, let your SENSE work and walk out of that situationship as Stella said.

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  11. Hmm, this seems like someone who may be bipolar or have some sort of depression mixed with limited inhibition with regards to the sex. His mom knows and she's trying to get him to marry you quickly so someone else can take over the stress he must be giving her. He will get worse and you will lose yourself if you dare marry him. Don't you dare marry him. The way you are speaking, you sound gentle and don't realize what's going because of the tone of your email. RUN!!

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    1. A person with bipolar is not a bad person, its things that control them and that's why its mental health issue. This man poster is talking about is a devil with invisible horns on his head, an abuser, a narcissist of the highest order, a future murderer and all the bad things a person could be.

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    2. Sounds more like borderline personality disorder. He obviously has a personality disorder and should be avoided. He should also seek help.

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    3. I beg you poster, remain single than settling for this were. Ha! Some people know how to suffer fa!

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    4. He is a narcissist. I know this word is usually thrown around, but this seems like a clear case.

      Poster, please go to YouTube and follow DR. RAMANI, she is a certified professional in this field with almost 400k subscribers. You will learn more, especially on how to heal, and build your self worth and esteem. Sheltered people like you make very good targets for people like him....please please work on your own healing and stay far away from that sick man. Marriage will come, but you have to grow from inside and heal so that the right person I'll come.

      ....as an addition, also follow Chloe_ on youtube on how to build your esteem as a Korean feminine woman.

      God bless you.

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  12. Poster, whyyyyy. You left few clothes in his house for what. My my, entertaining his call when you should have blocked his number.

    Hhmmmmm

    Lovelace

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    1. this guy i'm seeing can do juju on her clothes n pic to make love potion. very sick guy. it's not by posting picture o. forget all these lovey dovey some couples display online. it is pure HELL behind closed doors

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  13. Quite empathize with you on your plight with this dude.
    By leaving your house to travel states to visit and spend nights with a man you barely knew, was an invitation to
    fornication and all manner of iniquities. If you call it rape, no one will ever take you serious.
    If you call Jesus into your life,, you will find both the emotional support and closure you need and more
    in his teachings. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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    1. true and I can bet you the guy did invitation by text n made sure she responded to his invitation by text. That way there is evidence that she consented to come over

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    2. I hope this guy does not use your cloth for juju aka jazz.Please do not tell him you are no more interested cos he will make sure he ridicules your life to zero level.My advice if it's possible for you to change your number or block him on all social media kindly do please cos I fear for your life ooo.May God in his infinite mercy connect you to your rightful partner before the end of 2021 first quarter.

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  14. Did you just say you pity him? And your level of understanding is also shocking after all you've pass through under a short time with him. Las Las you'll still do what you want to do even if we play what the future will look like with him on a big screen... I wish you wisdom.
    "No be every food wey person smell Dem go chop"

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  15. My God you allowed a man do all these things to you..... Na wah oooo... You saw all the signs you still stayed..... My dear please don't ever go back to him.... If you do trust you will have a lot of chronicle to send to stella..... Please heal love yourself and the right person will come

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  16. You lost your worth in his eyes when he raped you and you cheered him up by even staying 24 xtra hours with him;then extended it to weeks..

    In life irrespective of the stage of your friendship,relationship or even marriage;always know your worth and add Tax to it..

    The guy you are with has a very porous orientation of life and relationship;and it's to worrisome for you to continue..

    Such guys believe You don't give any lady the liberty to see your laughter when they are around you;else they will "see you finish" and respect you less..more like "Master and servant" in a relationship..

    That is just the problem and truth is that you can't change who isn't willing to change or advice himself so as to be a better man..

    He can only Date then marry a woman with low-self esteem;and also someone who lacked love while growing up;hence running into the hands of any man that ask them for friendship or perhaps Marriage..

    Set your standards as a woman while dating;there are boundaries in life and you don't have to explain for decades why you won't tolerate being insulted or humiliated...

    You can't change him;but you can brush-up yourself..
    Also try not to be the first to visit a man no matter how good you think he is;let him spend his money and time to come see you;then you access him from there..

    @MARTINS

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    1. I love every single word you wrote up there.

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    2. Ladies. Please re read Martin advice. I am sure going to be taking notes from you hence forth for my kids especailly my daughter and nieces. They are almost at that stage where I would start dealing with relationship and life issues and I need to be prepared with relevant advice.Thank you Martin. Much appreciated.

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    3. Martin's I'm keeping my sister for you.

      You must marry her o.

      This your wisdom cannot waste lai lai.

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    4. Anon 21:12 Martins is married with a baby o.

      May God continue to increase your wisdom.

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    5. @ Eezi are you serious?

      When did our own blog Martins come and go and get married and I did not know?

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    6. Best advice, i can't say more

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  17. Poster are you waiting for us to tell you to leave the relationship? Why do you all read chronicles and this blog yet don't learn anything? Evety mallam to his kettle. Coffin loading πŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒ

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    1. Ahhh! She sill not die in Jesus name. πŸ˜’

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  18. Chaiiiiiii is not by force to be in a relationship nahhhhhh Poster even if you are 50years comonnnnnnnn what the hell???????????
    Poster you are SICK for going back to that guy after he “raped you” and after you ran NAKE

    Your your guy is bipola

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  19. Poster, you sha have mind oh even after the ill treatment you received, you still followed him to see his family. Thank your God you dodged a bullet. Some men are full of sweet words, they will tell you what you want to hear but their actions will tell you what they are made of.
    It is well with you, don't worry you'll find your own husband that will respect you and please don't be desperate about it cos once they sense/feel your desperation they will feed on it( some bad men feed on matured unmarried ladies vulnerability). Be wiseπŸ€—πŸ€—

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  20. STAY AWAY FROM. THAT MAN.. STAY AWAY FROM THAT MAN
    STAY AWAY FROM THAT MAN.. STAY AWAY FROM That MAN.. BLOCK HIM. AND BLOCK HIS MOTHER. BUT IF YIU ARE READY TO DIE ITS FINE. YOU CAN GO BACK TO. HIM.

    HE IS A MENTAL CASE AND YIU ARE NOT THR ONE TO CURE HIM
    .
    Plspardon my typos, I misplaced my reading glasses.

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  21. I can't even say anything to you because you are hurt already but please forget that guy else he will lead you to early grave..I have never dated an abusive guy and usually very careful when chiieinc guys.. whenever I feel uncomfortable around you on our first meeting..That will be the end of us seeing...I'm so scared of marriage that I pray it's with the right person because I don't have strength to quarrel at this my age or act unstable because of anyone..Do not worry,just go out more often to eateries and supermarket,so that you can delete that image of him in your head..Then,stay prayerful..God will bring the right person..

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  22. Honestly, if it were me, na dat day or night I dey go back home. Did u say u ran out naked, truly I would believe that u were mad oo. And the worst is that u went back. Nne, u actually dug a deeper hole for desperation and low self esteem.
    So, are u posting chronicle for us to encourage u to go back to ur killer?
    I learnt never to be Jesus to any man or woman, u are not an angel to help him from his horrible behind.amd past. That is the work of the Holy Spirit, dnt get me started on taking the place of God.
    Just delete, block and forget abt him. He is ur destiny killer who is likely to send u to ur Early grave. I Sha hope u dey hear word.

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  23. My dear poster, pls count your loss and move on. You don mumu this one finish. It happens that way sometimes to make us value the good ones. Pele

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  24. OMO I'm sorry but this story just dey make me laugh small. The day she saw he is literally the opposite of what he told her he was she should've carried her 2 legs n taken the next flight or bus back home

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    1. After the rape part, I could not read again I must commend her patience. What's that?

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  25. You are not okay at all!!!! How did your self hatred reach this level?
    I am not even angry at the man, I am maaaad at you!
    You tolerated nonsense from a badly behaved man who raped you and who treats you like scum and you are still considering him because you said he is currently pretending? Are you really 30something years old? Because I just want to slap you and jerk you back to your senses.
    Pls don't give that excuse that you were raised strictly, I was too. Many other ladies had a strict upbringing but they know not to tolerate disrespect from any man.
    Pleas go and start with loving yourself. And stop being so desperate!

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  26. Gosh! This chronicle is ANNOYING!!!😬 don't let me talk sha

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  27. Poster, read the responses to my story that was posted yesterday.take yourself out of this mess ASAP.I also tend to be very soft and understanding, it costed me 5 years of my life

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  28. I hope you have left the relationship. Chasing you outside naked was the height of it.

    Do you know you would have added to the statistics of dv?

    Block his family everywhere to avoid "Nigeria marriage is not only for the couple but the whole family".

    Good you came out in one piece.

    Good luck

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  29. God forbid bad thing,what is this?Nne please keep moving,this one isn't the one,unless you don't value Your sanity.When you meet your own,there wouldnt be need for a Chronicle.

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  30. I just want to tell you that,good men that are responsible,kind,caring and God-fearing exist.They don't even have to sleep with you and would be happy to wife you.

    I notice that as soon as a girl gets to 30 she starts overlooking and bearing nasty behaviours in men she wouldn't tolerate before.This age timeline of marriage is the reason a lot of young women have married wrongly.

    Yes it is great to have kids early,if God helped and you marry early and marry well,wonderful! and a blessing.Don't kill yourself if otherwise.Everybody and their own destiny and happy ending.I have seen a girl marry at 21 and was TTC for 13 years,some don't even live long enough to see their kids grow up,in this life it is just God's grace and timeline for everything.Stop putting pressure on your self and end up marrying a mad man.

    Poster,firstly forgive yourself from this mistake, and block that man and eject him from your life forever.No! He won't change.Stop pitying for him.You can't change him and you are not a therapist.He is a physcopath and narcissistic.That cry alone after what he put you through,just shows how much of a physcopath he is.

    The weirdo is trying to condition your mind to downplay what happened and pretend like it didn't happen.The more you entertain him,the more you get drained.Let him go with his yeye marriage.I thank God he didn't kill you and dump your body somewhere.

    Lastly,take it one step at a time,you will heal and be fine.count this one as a life lesson.

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  31. Please women enough of this desperation! How can a man forcefully have sex with you and you go back to him? I didn’t even finish reading your nonsense story! What bigger red flag do you need? Give yourself brain Abeg! It doesn’t get better it get worse! If he is so beastly now how will you be when you are married? Enough!!!

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  32. You want to marry a mad man,this man supposed to be in a psychiatrist hospital. You are lucky that he didn't strangle you.

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    1. I swear. Shes very lucky. I was even busy here making excuses for her , that maybe she couldn't run away cos the guy locked the door. Until I got to the part you said you went to see his people. Huh. You actually stepped outside and didnt go to the park from th here to your house. Tufiakwa. What manner of self hatred is this?. You dont even have a sense of self preservation???
      You no fear for your life???.
      Haaa!

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    2. 16:02, nothing to add again,you said it all.My God! I can't believe this poster doesn't understand that the guy is mentally unstable.How can you not see it? He was staring at you with hatred and you sat down in his house for 1month.God have mercy! Do you want to die? His type can strangle you in your sleep.His mother knows and that's why she is nice so you will marry him.please,just value your life small.Kai!

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    3. I kid you not.
      Zero sense of self preservation.

      Please dear girl, it is not worth it.

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  33. full blown narcissists

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  34. Lady, you are dealing with a NARCISSIST. it's not just a psychological problem but a spiritually demonic one. This man HATES you and will not rest until he KILLS you. the signs of abuse and manipulaton were there.

    First he tested you by being the opposite of what he claimed to be. You failed the test by staying and this showed him that he can continue to do and say whatever to YOU without consequences

    Second he distanced you from close relatives - clear sign of emotional abuse
    Third - Gaslighting (him doing or saying things right in front of you then denying it seconds later) He is messing with you and making you question your sanity

    All these are ways for him to break you emotionally. Soon, he will want to start beating you because he has weakened you emotionally and made you his puppet. How old r you pls. get away from this man. He is a predator and a psycho

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  35. Baba God abeg, I de in my knees, give all the girls wen he desire husband, their husband quick quick b4 desperation go make babe de consider to marry kolo amen

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  36. Poster you didn't just dodge a bullet but a specialized nuclear weapon!! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE and thank God for his mercies. Give yourself time to heal that man will never change!!!! Your God ordained spouse will locate you in Jesus name. That man is a controlling, manipulating snake! Crying in front of people after he raped and abused you sexually and emotionally. Pray and talk to the Lord to guide you continuously. You will be fine.

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  37. Only desperation to answer somebody's wife will make a woman take this kind of abuse. Tufiakwa!!! You have no shame poster! No single shame. I won't even waste any advice on you because no point, you will go back to him. I pity you.

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  38. Only desperation to answer somebody's wife will make a woman take this kind of abuse. Tufiakwa!!! You have no shame poster! No single shame. I won't even waste any advice on you because no point, you will go back to him. I pity you.

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  39. How come u had to put up with such a being after that first day or after subsequent abuses? Na wa for some women o. Do u even have to pack ur bag to leave while he was around and still tell him u want to leave knowing the kind of person he is... You casued everything that happened to u for staying a day longer after that first day.

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  40. You dont have sense honestly. Who took your self esteen and threw it into a dirty gutter? You are a queen so why let a man treat you like trash. Why are you acting dumb like this na. Someone give me pillow abeg make I sleep, this lady be giving me headache.

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  41. Mschew!!!!

    Poster, at your age you don't have sense abi? You must be really desperate!

    A man had sex with you without your consent, shouts on you and keeps malice and you still remained in his house? Some of you women deserve what you get

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  42. I did not finish reading.
    Please poster, whatever you do, break up with him. Hian

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  43. He came to the hotel to beg you. You told him the hotel you were at after everything he had done you? To crown it all, you went back to his house, you allowed him introduce you to his mum, and he wants to come and pay your bride price. Jesus Christ!!!! Who made you some like this??? You are making excuses for him? If this is not Stockholm syndrome, I don't know what it is. You, poster need to go see a psychiatrist. You are more damaged than the man. All these just to get married and answer Mrs somebody. Smh. She even has the gut to say she's devastated instead of thanking God for saving her life. Smh.

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  44. His mother is nice to you...hahahahhahahahahahaha poor woman knows the kind of devil she has as a son and wants him to get married by all means. Go and become their prey. She loves you my ass.

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  45. Poster are you ugly? As in very ugly...cos I don't understand the desperation that made u go back after running out n managed to stay in a hotel!
    His dick game is tight baa? Since he is a chronic womanizer, if u dare go back, he will infect you with diseases this time, and I wish he does if u go back so you will have COMMON SENSE and cry more. I feel like slapping u.

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    1. So ugly is synonymous to desperation? Her physical appearance should never be a ratio for that. Anybody can be desperate, pretty or ugly.

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  46. It's obvious you hate yourself so much. I mean, you were raped on your first visit and you didn't deem it fit to leave. You managed to check into an hotel, you still went back to an abuser because he was begging you. Na wa for you! You story is so annoying to read.

    Please love yourself and give yourself a good treat cos you deserve better! Never allow anyone to take your peace from you cos it's priceless!

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  47. Poster take that man swear make you no go near am for this life......
    Since you are too weak to stay away from an abuser and a liar and pretender.
    You need to be checked into a mental facility to ascertain if this guy hasn't infected you with his madness cos obviously that guy is siccckkkkkkkkkkkkk!!

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  48. Lol this one na deranged narcissist,you made a mistake by not leaving the next day

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  49. Poster, sorry to say this, but you sound like the one who has issues. Someone touches you without your consent, he gave neighbors the impression that you were going mad and you are still making excuses for him. Just try and fix your self before you meet someone else and PLEASE, STOP receiving his calls

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  50. Nawa oo..They swear for you.abi was the dick too good u couldn't leave it.Or u had housing issues and needed a place to hold your head for 1 month??jeez where is your self esteem, Woman.How can a mere being treat you like some piece of shit and you haven't block the useless fool and his family outta your life???even if u are the world's most ugliest and loneliest human.. You should have done better than this...tueh.receive divine sense biko.This should be your 2021 prayer point.Please take it very serious...Jesus..

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  51. And while at it,endure you are not pregnant, go for HIV and other stds tests..A rapist, paedophile, pathological liar, abuser and all things bad is the only person u saw to date..welldone

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  52. Have you done an STD/STI test since you returned?

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  53. This guys has a psychotic disorder!!! Run for your life and even drop his name. He will kill you!

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  54. Sorry to say, but poster you well so???after all these you stayed for one month and still have the mind to go back?????you need deliverance

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  55. What's the title of this Nollywood movie?!

    Woman, watch your back. You're not safe, honestly.

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  56. This chronicle is annoying.. Like why didn't you leave earlier. Infact, you ought to have blocked him after you left his place.

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  57. I feel like knocking you on your head. If you're overweight please try to lose weight. If it is your teeth, fix it. Invest in your femininity and spirituality so that you will be able to pick high value men.

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  58. As of I should slap u...he raped you on day 2 and you still spent tour leave there; were you desperate? He locked door, window no de? Better block he and his mother from contacting you.

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  59. Jesus Christ!
    Why do you allow yourself to go through this emotional truma even if you don't really like yourself,why not be responsible with your decisions cause of your loved ones.
    I don't even understand why you are still talking to him and his mum. Please I beg you in the name of God never end up with this guy or any other guy with is kind of personality.

    The man you discribed up there is sick, it's better to be singularly single than ending up with him. I don't even know why you are still heartbroken or maybe because of your stupidity.

    HaaΓ Γ a!
    What an act of foolishness!

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  60. Please ladies reading this,never give any man control over your life like this.

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  61. Somebody turned you to a cleaner as soon as as your arrived his house and you stayed? After raping you oh....Kai you need to be flogged. A friend of mine went to visit her boyfriend then he arranged clothes for her to wash the next day she packed her bags and left immediately. How can someone be angry at you 24/7 and you still stayed. Them tie your placenta for there? Ladies when a man shows you who he is, believe him!! You like suffer sha. After all that emotional and psychological torture, small cry and you moved back to his house. Pls don’t allow him to blackmail you emotionally

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  62. What can I possibly write that has not been written? After the rape, you should have exited his life forever and the only thing that could have brought you two face to face should have been law enforcement and the courts. Mehn! I always pray for people who can't stand being single to get their partners because desperation tends to set in. Every devil begins to look like an angel. That guy will kill you if you marry him their is no way to colour it. Huge red flag was went the woman told you women leave him. No girl leaves a good guy na to die put. See, just put some value on yourself I beg you. Delete that guy from your life. His mum? Only looking for who to offload her troubles on and get one or two grandchildren out of it. Be warned oo...

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  63. What can I possibly write that has not been written? After the rape, you should have exited his life forever and the only thing that could have brought you two face to face should have been law enforcement and the courts. Mehn! I always pray for people who can't stand being single to get their partners because desperation tends to set in. Every devil begins to look like an angel. That guy will kill you if you marry him their is no way to colour it. Huge red flag was when the woman told you women leave him. No girl leaves a good guy na to die put. See, just put some value on yourself I beg you. Delete that guy from your life. His mum? Only looking for who to offload her troubles on and get one or two grandchildren out of it. Be warned oo...

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  64. Poster please for the love of God cut all ties with that man, stop entertaining his calls forget about him. It is better to be single and happy than to be married and depressed because you'll fall into depression f you marry that man.

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  65. This one no be relationship, but keep looking forward.

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  66. This is idiocy in its purest form...was waiting for stella to give her a dirty slap to reset her brain

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  67. This story reminds me so much of mine...only that I'm married to him. Visited him twice while we were courting, and during the first visit, he forced himself on me. Second visit, noticed a red flag about him flaring up about an issue that shouldn't have warranted such. However, still went ahead to accept his proposal as there was parental pressure on me to marry then...mostly from my mum.
    Fast forward to today, I have constantly regretted the day I accepted his proposal. As you would expect, he become worst literally right after the wedding - I'm talking physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse you name it...also a pathological liar - twisting events to appear like he is the victim (oh...btw they play that card very well), and easily runs to my family to tell more lies in tarnishing the image I have left. We have a daughter and frankly only God knows how much I can take before I find my escape route out.
    Poster please...leave this guy. He has clearly shown you that he is mentally unstable and unfortunately my husband is on this boat as well. These people don't change, they pretend very well, have a knack for cheating and breaking marital vows. You'd be left emotionally drained and feel like you married to yourself every now and then. They also very immature emotionally and invalidate your feelings no matter how much you try to explain it to them. Only wish I already had a son. So I know I have had all my kids.

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    1. I don't think you've learnt anything. You still want to have another baby for the man. Isn't it easier to walk away with one child? Good luck with your suffering.

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    2. He is so bed yet you want to have a son by him? Are you really thinking straight?

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  68. All I see are very wise and good advice that will go to waste. This poster will still marry this man should we bet? Congratulations poster on your wedding and marriage of misery in advance. I have no advice for you. I said you will marry this man. Oh you will!

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    1. The fact that she is still picking his calls, she hasn't blocked him anywhere. You are so right.

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  69. Narcissist much.love yourself dear.

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  70. I can not believe what I just read. You mean he came to the hotel and begged you to come back and you did? Do you really love yourself? Hmmmm... You've left me wondering biko

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