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DATING A BABY DADDY
Please I need help in making a decision.
Have had sleepless night cos of this, and I can't discuss with anyone, cos I love keeping some things private .
I met this guy, wonderful and very caring person. But my issue is, he has a 10 year old daughter, and dated the said baby mama for 12 years before they broke up, according to him.
He said when we see, we will talk more on that. No, they weren't married, just living together, which didn't work out I brought up, the no s#x relationship thing to him, and he accepted to wait, and have it the right way .
I'm a very peaceful person and I love peace a lot.
Had always wanted to marry a man, with no baby mama wahala, one big family.
I was thinking, since the child is a girl, can any issues arise tomorrow? And the amount of years he lived with the baby mama without doing the right thing.
He said, he is ready to give me, any info I need, so I can investigate about him. That he just likes me, I'm a very loving and peaceful person.
Please advise me
*I dont understand.
On what terms did you agree to date him? Is it a relationship headed somewhere or just dating? No s#x until when ? I am asking these questions cos if you dont take time you will become another baby mama. his liking does not change anything oh...
On the child involved, i dont know anything about such relationships so let me give those who know a chance to explain it to you
Don't get involved.
ReplyDeleteGbam! Asin run with ur two legs touching the back of ur head! Except u hear God clearly telling u to indulge. Especially if d breakup is recent , run girl run
DeleteIf not for say today na my birthday, I for tell this lady say she no get sense. But I won't.
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DeleteI remember when a man posted a similar story about his fears on marrying a baby mama. All of you used mouth to finish the poster.
Today the tables are turned, and all of a sudden, being a baby daddy is now the worst sin ever.
Your hypocrisy stinks to the heavens! You dont even try to pretend about it.
@noc-turnal, A 12 years relationship is not a child's play; 12 YEARS LIVE-IN RELATIONSHIP. Poster, know that you will always come THIRD in that relationship. The child is Number 1, baby mama is Number 2 and you are Number 3. If you can live with that then go ahead. You will never know that man as much as his baby-mama does and the lovely Child will always be used as a pawn to control the man. If you are truly a peaceful person, RUN but if you self na dagbana choco, you can fight for the rest of your life.
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DeleteWHEN IT COMES TO THE MEN IS SO DIFFERENT AND MORE DIFFICULT
Is the baby mama married? If no, don't get involved. Can still remember the gist of a lady who married a baby daddy, even brokered peace between baby daddy and baby mama for the sake of the child, only for them to begin sleeping with each other behind and back and baby mama got pregnant for him. Na so marriage crash.
ReplyDeleteI'll never advise a lady to marry a baby daddy when baby mama is still single.
Poster don't get involve cause issues will definitely araise later
DeleteGbam! If the baby mama is still single, don't get involved. If she didn't leave him for another man, then she probably ran from "something". She could also be hoping he'd miss her and come back begging but if she now hears there's another woman, hmmmm. Every baby mama that didn't marry their baby daddy has a story to tell and it's usually not a pleasant one except the lady never expected marriage from the outset.
DeleteIf you are truly as peace-loving as you say, then leave drama for Netflix o!
And they dated for way too long.12 whole years!!!The relationship must have started in University or secondary school.They were living together and they had a baby!! Girl!! This arrangement is going to be disastrous.The bond between them will never break neither will the fire completely quench.Cheating on you with the lady is unavoidable.I wouldn't advice you to pursue it please.
DeleteBut listen to his story and follow you6 guts and instinct.
Men with a baggage is a no no!...
ReplyDeleteThe baby mama will always be a thorn in your flesh!..
Well,accept him if he is rich!..
Money concurs all
Boss lady, I dey hail o
DeleteWhat about women with baggages?
DeleteYes yes? Or are you saying no one deserves a second chance if he or she has a baggage? 🤔
@Q/B
DeleteBoth your reasoning and grammar are wrong. Look at your last sentence again.
Very wrong reasoning @Queen & Boss.
DeleteThe only question mark is he lived together with baby mama for TWELVE YEARS before they parted ways❗
Poster, carry out your own INDEPENDENT investigations.
Okay , what about baby mama getting married to single men?
DeleteWhat do you mean by since the child is a girl? Your energy is off abeg.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind the Gold digger. Instead of her to go and pitch her tent with a single man. I'm a baby mama of 2 been with this idiot for over a decade. I pity any unfortunate girl that sees him as hot cake. 🔥 yeye dey smell
DeleteYou are a baby mama of 2 and you have big mouth, no wonder the guy hasnt married you. 1 child is fine cos life happens but you still open your legs for another one. May God bless your wonderful kids and give them more sense than you have displayed. That man will not marry you, he is enjoying wife benefit at baby mama price. Someone that has more werey than you will marry him and hopefully he does right by his 2 children with you.
DeleteYou like still waters and you are seeing a raging storm and asking whether to dive in?
ReplyDeleteBaby mama drama is for strong with men that know how to easily switch and go street. You sound very calm and even naive.
12yrs is not 12months. You will likely be the outsider in that situationship.
Keep moving and find your own man for yourself with no baggage.
Women* not with men*
DeleteVery true Poster just forget it. The peace you seem to see is a facade. Why did he not marry his babymama. Please create the habit of always asking questions to a man that approaches you. Learn to be sharp and dont play omomo card. If not dem go chop you easily
DeleteIf na man post this, all of una go dey shout different thing... poster follow your heart but remember to do it in the right way (MARRIAGE) ...
ReplyDeleteIf a man posted that the woman he is with presently was with her baby daddy for 12 years, I will still tell him to do his investigations first. 12 years is not 2 years!
DeleteIf you love him, hear him out and ask critical questions that you may have. Nothing wrong in dating/marrying him if he's the one for you.
ReplyDeleteHow old is his daughter? Apart from the Electra complex that may arise between you and his daughter, which of course she will outgrow once she becomes an adult, you can navigate your way around it and have an amazing mother/daughter relation/friendship.
Why she dated for 10 years or so with his ex and not married her? I guess that's one of the questions you should ask but I don't see any big deal about it. I once was in a relationship with someone for close to that number of years but we couldn't marry - Our vision for our future and how we wanted our family to be, changed, and we parted ways amicably. So, when visions no longer align, you MOVE.
Is the baby mama married or still single???
ReplyDeleteBut wait ooo to live with someone for 12 years 🤔
@ I am queen and boss!don't be so careless!!! What do you mean by "accept him if he is rich"? You better receive sense o cos money is not worth losing your peace. @ " money conquers all"! Lol.. Go and ask Regina how far.. Dear poster all you need to do is to pray about it and check your peace as well, but before then you need to be sure what he wants from you, that is if he wants something serious. About him giving you whatever info you need? Odiegwu! He won't tell you everything o! So better do a background research o. Please be careful so you don't become baby mama no2. God will help you sweety! Pray!!!!
ReplyDelete@"you need to be sure what he wants from you..."
DeleteHe might want her "money" if she's rich and he's a gigolo.
Poster find out who was living with who for those 12 years and all you can about him and his baby mama.
It could be she kicked him out. 🤔
Scott baby you must be new here to not know Queen and boss.
DeleteBetter press ignore and don't stress yourself.
Let him go pay your bride price if he's that serious. He dated for 12 years with a daughter to show for it and never married her. Let one of the questions be why did he not marry her and after his answers, ask him when he's going to pay your bride price?
ReplyDeleteThat man don see women finish
ReplyDeleteHe is already set in his ways because he has been enabled for 12 years.
He likes you because you are loving and peaceful #yimu
He is looking for another enabler to date for 20 years.
If the baby mama was the problem in the relationship, he would be singing her faults like a song to you every day.
Abeg run from him, the woman that has cleaved with him for the past 12 years would cleave with him for the next 12 years.
She is going no where!
There are ALWAYS two sides to a story. While you're doing your investigations, make sure you get the baby mama's side as well.
ReplyDeleteVery important.
Thank you very much
DeleteHmmm poster..a man lived with a lady for that long and they both have a kid together, you still wan shuk head. Now what exactly are you coming to do in this man's life? To born a Messiah for him abi your own pussy is gold plated. Marry that guy at your peril. Meanwhile female kids are close to their dad, that 10 year of girl will do you shege especially if her mum is single.
ReplyDelete12 years is not 2 years. There is more to this
DeleteFlavor style.. get them pregnant but do not marry them..
ReplyDeleteyou want to know if he is a good man. check with evidence if he is responsible for his child. not all women want their childs father back. for the record..
ReplyDeleteMy case is similar to yours. Although the baby mama is married but the son stays with his Dad. He is 21( Dad had him as a teenager). My advise is that you should not marry him. I have the best man but the boy just hates me for no reason. I wish I knew early but I am now regretting marrying this man because of all these issues. Imagine, just this afternoon, I and his dad were watching a movie and laughing, this boy came to tell us we were talking too loud. Chai. His father just apologized. I just dey vex since but I can't talk. Please marry a single man with no baggage abeg.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oooo. 21 acting like a 12 year old.
DeleteHahahahhaha it's funny dear anon 15:43
DeleteBut 21 yrs old boy shouldn't be talking to you like that except you are at home 24/7
Delete@ anonymous 15:43 receive sense, you hear, not because you are in love with his father gives him the right to talk to you anyhow, what insolence, you are talking too loud, in the house he pays the bill, if he can’t deal, he should move out or he is old enough to go get his own apartment, all because I must marry will I allow someone insult me
DeleteYou all are speaking from the 2 sides of your mouth. Don't get involved, Man with a baggage is a no no. You think your single brothers will make a better husband? Are you discouraging her because she used the "baby mama" name? He is a single dad. The same way there are single mums whether they had the child in marriage or not. My dear, do your investigation and follow your heart. Their is no future teller on this blog. Go and pray and seek your God.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong but he needs to come out and explain why he never married her and stay put for 12yrs.
DeleteIf you dated a man for 12 (wasted) years and produced a daughter with him,
ReplyDeletewill you like to fold hands and watch while another woman gets married to him?
If you marry him, won't the baby mama be supplying him with adulteries, even as
she is probably doing now (in the guise of "no sex" -which is a good and noble thing anyway)?
Women let's think like adults!
He "likes you" but does not necessarily "love" you. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Hahaha...poster is a learner...when he's done with his baby mama's pussy proper...he will come for hers.
DeleteHe is ready to give you any information that you need. Sanu Minister of information.
ReplyDelete12 years? Thats a little more than a decade. People don't just wake up and call a relationship of more than a decade off. That woman will always be in his life. What do you mean by since the child is a girl? She is his child, girl or not. I suggest you do more investigations tho. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteBefore you advise make sure if it was a man that wrote this chronicle you will give the same advice. Poster I will advise you snoop and be sure no be the guy just dump her and the guy is the type that stick to his words, very important
ReplyDeletePoster you sound naive & the man want's to play u, how can am man live with a woman for 12 solid years and also have a child together without doing the necessary thing that woman sure have his mumu button & will come back when ever she wishes. You going to loose In d end my dear take a walk. Men like these can be unpredictable.
ReplyDeleteYou are jumping before the gun, that man is not thinking of you that deep. Telling you, you can ask any questions is one of those things players say to get you relaxed. This man dated a woman for 10 years, had a baby but now they've broken up and he's not getting constant pu*sy. Don't be deceived by he saying yes to no sex. You are catching feelings too early, relax a little. Visit him few times yo know if he will even stay true to that promise and not attempt to remove your pant then you can come back and ask us if a child and the mama situation is ok to enter. For now my free advise to you is don't rush, else you regret.
ReplyDeleteDante!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteCome out oooo
You need to bite these people
Yes ge won he bi aja
If you are rich run, he's a gigolo and still with his babymama
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