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Sunday, May 16, 2021

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE:

FULL OF REGRET


Dear Stella, please keep me anonymous. I am a silent blog visitor. Thank you for this platform.


I got married traditionally in November last year (2020), I moved in with my husband afterwards. Ever since I started living with him i noticed quite a lot. We didn't date for long before getting married and I think we are not compatible at all.


We hardly sit down and discuss like couple, he don't involve me in his plans and he don't seem to be interested in mine. He doesn't listen to my suggestions in the house. I have tried talking to him about the need of communication in marriage but he said he don't have anything to discuss with me. 


He does not believe in savings, he spends his money as they come and his job is on contract basis, the money doesn't come all the time. I am always scared of emergencies, that's why I advised him to be saving as the money doesn't come all the time, but he won't listen to me.


He asked me to stop the little job I am doing, I refused because I was scared of going broke, family intervened and they said I have to obey my husband and resign, I did resign and he don't want me to get another job. 


I am always broke since I stopped work, part of my little saving was used for the wedding. He doesn't give me money for upkeep and shouts on me whenever I ask for money. He does not drop money for me for the house upkeep. He buys the foodstuffs himself, most times there will be yam, Rice, beans, spaghetti but I will need some money to buy the ingredients to make a meal out of it, if I ask for the money he will insult me and ask that I buy them myself that he has bought the major foodstuffs.


 All my remaining savings has finished because I use to buy some of these things without asking him and I don't have a job. He buys clothes, shoes, bags for me when he goes shopping but will not give me money at hand, he says I don't need money for anything.


We live like strangers in the house, he goes out without letting me know when he is leaving and comes home anytime he feels like. Sometimes he comes home by 11pm, 12am, 1am, 2am. 


He won't call to tell me if he will be staying out late. If I call to know what is keeping him out so late, he will shout on me and and cut the call on me. I always ask him calmly because I am worried, God can bear me witness that I have never shouted at him. He has warned me not to call him anytime he is out late. He said there is no law that says he has to come back home early or take my permission before staying out late. He said he hangs out with his friends, I don't have a problem with him hanging out with his friends but my concern is that he comes home on time.


I have stopped talking whenever he comes home late for the sake of peace. What got me angry and made me to write this Chronicle is that he has changed from coming home late to not coming back at all till the next day.

 I tried calling him around 1:30am to know why he is not back yet, he cut the call on me as usual. He came back home around 5am with no form of remorse and I don't intend to ask him about it again. I want to just ignore him.

 The last time he did the same, I tried to ask him when he came back, he said I don't have the right to tell him when to come back to his house, I told him that no responsible man behaves the way he does. He twisted it and said I told him he is irresponsible and that I have insulted him. I ignored him and never mentioned it again, after three days he came and apologized but still never consider his actions as bad, I forgave him for the sake of peace and not up to one week he has done the same thing again. 


When he was leaving he never told me where he was going, not even a simple good bye, he will just open the door and zoom off.


I am tired of the marriage and feel so lonely. I feel we are not meant to be together. No wonder I was not happy at all on my wedding day and I was wondering why.


 I had other suitors when we were dating, they asked me to slow down and think very well before settling with him because we've not known for long and he was rushing to marry me. I wish I listened.


 Out of anger I have threatened several times to leave the marriage, even a month after the marriage but he keeps begging anytime I say that. I really want to leave this marriage now cause it doesn't seem normal to me, I Know I made a big mistake, I don't want to live the rest of my life like this, there is no pregnancy yet, and I feel things will not get better between us. I am presently looking for a job right now without his knowledge and I wish anybody can help me with job right now.

 Once I can get something doing I will pack and leave. We don't even sit down together in one place in the house not to talk of gisting and laughing together. If he is in the sitting room and I go there to sit with him, next thing he will stand and go to the room, if I go back to the room to meet him, next seconds he is off to the sitting room. 


Our sex life is 0% we can sleep on the same bed for up to four weeks and he won't touch. Sometimes if I try to initiate sex he will tell me he is tired. If we try to do it he won't even cum, he will be panting that he is tired. He hardly release sperm during sex, he may be on top of me for more than 5 minutes pounding and still not release sperm. I don't know if it's a medical condition.


 During my fertile period he always claim to be tired and if he manages to do anything he will stay for so long on top of me nothing will come out. I can count how many times that I saw his sperm, and he won't listen to me if I ask that we go see a doctor. I am sincerely tired of the marriage and want to count my losses and move on with my life.


I want to know if this is enough reason to leave the marriage or to get the opinion of anyone who has been in my shoes.


Thank you Stella.




What a mess!!

He is not into women but men and married you to cover up........

95 comments:

  1. You married a very dishonest man. He has no feelings for you!
    This one no be marriage. You are married but single.

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    1. I am one for making your marriage work but you see this one,poster please leave the sham. This is not marriage.

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    2. Closet gay man!

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    3. Shebi it is traditional marriage right? Simple find a way to convince your family members to return your bride price and keep it moving. Don't bother trying to drag this out, You've not found a husband my dear.

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    4. Totally agreed with stellakoko on this one. This is not marriage..

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    5. This man is into rituals pls

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    6. POSTER LEAVE, I have nothing else to tell you cos it will only get worse, you will be advised to get pregnant and have children that it will help you bond but believe me children don’t keep marriages.
      I know she is a factor or rather was a factor for you marrying this man but trust me “life goes on, married or not”
      You married a useless, cheating, egocentric, proud and arrogant man. He will never change, u will only be in a marriage of endurance

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    7. Nne, I hv been there. Though, i thank God I didn't move in with him cos I was able to convince my dad not to release me to him after the traditional wedding. Why? Because I had doubts and I was sad in my spirit just like you. When we got back to Abuja, even though I was still in my own house, more of his colours came out as per "I have paid bride price".

      By the time I took stock and was convinced that the marriage was going to be my doom, I convinced my dad to return his bride price biko.


      See ehn, traditional marriage is legal and binding but the easiest to annul. Just tell you family to return his bride price and that is the end. Thank God no pregnancy or baby yet. If you think you have to wait to get a job b4 leaving, you are a joker because it will never happen and there, my friend, is a life time of misery and regrets. DO NOT WAIT TO COMPLICATE YOUR CONDITION WITH KIDS. LEAVE NOW.

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    8. The rush to answer Mrs. Na una go mock single women. Is it not better to be alone than in this terrible bondage wearing ring like handcuff?

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    9. 🏃 🏃 Screamiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiing. 🏃
      You are not married.
      . Na homo be this

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  2. Babe you enter one chance. It's either your man is a gay or he musturbate, take this to the bank. The earlier you leave the better. I wish luck in your job hunting.

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    1. This is beyond masturbation, the man's got no human feelings.

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    2. If you ask me enh, God is even saving you
      Thank God you haven't even given birth yet, or else you'd be forced to stay.

      Even if he is gay why force you to resign? Why make your life so miserable? What did you ever do to offend him?

      Please don't even wait until you get something else, just pack and leave.

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    3. I don't think he is a homo but he's not into her. Why e dey do like say them beg am to marry?

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  3. Stella you ve release the shocker and it's correct. Poster, you married a gay man. So sad

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    1. I thought I was the one that wrote this chronicle. The only difference is that we are yet to do our wedding. My husband character has turned me into aggressive woman, always unhappy since since November Last year we did traditional. Lord help me.

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    2. And you still want to marry that man anon??

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    3. Dainty , someone that it is already saying 'husband', wetin remain again?

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  4. Wait, so with all these going on in your marriage, you were trying to get pregnant even to the point of initiating sex with him? You’re not serious yet because if you are you’ll make a clean break from that farce you call a marriage. Leave before you get a job because if he gets any inkling that you want to leave, he will try to impregnate you thereby making it harder for you to leave.

    I will never ever give up my job just to remain in a marriage. NEVER. I can give it up out of my own choice or children but to remain married, no freaking way.

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    1. Leave her let her be asking questions. My dear you're a slave in that marriage. Leave that marriage now. Don't wait for a job cos there's no difference. Just carry your bag, walk away and never return.

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    2. She is still asking the JAMB question because she has NOTHING. A supposedly educated woman after years of education went to sit down at home with no source of income. And you are still troubling the man for sex. To born a child into this type of severe calamity.

      Let me just believe you are 18/19 and an orphan which is why you dived head first into a shallow pool.

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    1. First thing while you are planning your leave.. GET ON BIRTH CONTROL. Only one spermatozoa is needed to get you pregnant.. look for a job, and make your decision from there.

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    2. Take this advice poster, go on contraceptives while you are planning ur exit, once pregnancy enters, it will get even more complicated

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  6. Stella is very right. You are what is called a beard. But here is what I saw in ur post. You spent ur savings for the wedding? I guess you really wanted to marry so you married yourself. Pele o .

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  7. Call upon me in the days of trouble and I will answer you says the Lord. Psalm 50:15.
    Even if you are planning to leave, still call upon Jesus. He can work out this mistake for your good as long as you love him and he has saved your soul. Your soul is more important than your marriage.
    Focus on God and not on this marriage. Pray, fast and study the Bible.
    Do not be surprised, he might also reveal to you the things that are wrong with
    this man and why he is behaving this way.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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    1. I am a Christian to but messages like this irk me, why are fund of using religion to replace common sense, she should pray maybe God will reveal what is wrong with him as as how, because the man is a ghost or he cant pray by himself to revelation, dear poster plan you escape if it even means asking for job here please do an targey a day when he travels or does one of his late night waka.

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  8. My sister if you want to leave, please leave now. From what you have narrated, it doesn't seem like you are married, and it is such a dangerous way to start. Don't even think of adding kids to this mess because it won't fix anything, except maybe a little loneliness. Starting afresh is not easy, but most times you will end up being happy you did. Best of luck.

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  9. But noo. Nigerian men are wicked! God please give this lady peace and direct her path. Amen.

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  10. You married a gay armed robber.

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    1. 🤣😂😂😂this comment though , no be small armed robber

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    2. Which one be gay armed robber again🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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  11. Stella,you echoed my thoughts. Poster,your husband is GAY!!! And you better leave that job hunting and leave that man's house before pregnancy happens or else OYO,OGUN,OSUN will be your case o. A word is enough

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  12. This one is one chance marriage,i pray God gives you the strength to do what's right for you. Marriage and wahala 😡

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  13. Madam get a job and leave that house one day when he is not home don’t even drop him a note!!

    I hate rubbish

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    1. This is it. Just walk away. He'll get the message.
      Nonsense and marriage.

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  14. Stella enh u no go kill person. Which one is into men? 🤣🤣🤣

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  15. This is shocking!!! 😲😮😯

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  16. It is better you leave the marriage. You definitely cannot be happy in this type of marriage.

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  17. Exactly what I have in mind Stella!

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  18. Hmmmmm my sister you are on a long thing oooo use your tongue count your teeth

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  19. My dear the deed has already been done... Dust yourself up and live that sham called marriage, it's obvious he's not into you, but married you just for marrying sake..

    I really wonder why men do this tho, they'll know they don't love someone but marry then and turn around to abuse them..

    Please make up your mind to pack and go now that a child is not involved.. if a man is treating me this way, sex will be the last thing on my mind sef, talkless of going to I initiate it with him.. una dey try sha!

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  20. Chai, my dear, if only you know what the future of that marriage is and what it will eventually do you, you will thank God for making him show you the part 1 now.
    Get out of that hell before the part 2 go start.
    Don't wait around for him to change, he won't change. Leave now.

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  21. Hmmmmmm...
    First of all my dear, I was upset with you while reading this but on a second thought, I felt sad for you.
    My dear sister u are married to urself.
    That man is selfish, wicked, self centered and very cruel.
    Baby girl you have made a mistake but don't stay in the place of emotional turmoil in the name of marriage. No don't.... do not stay in the place of self condemnation.
    Dust urself, get a job and move out of that hell you call a marriage.
    That man has succeeded in taking ur job so that u will be be �� dependent on him and thereafter make living with him miserable.
    Baby girl, I have been married for 15 years and what u described above is NOT marriage.

    Please leave him, get a job and move on. Thank God that you have not had a child for him. Dust urself and move on. Another better man that will love you will find u.

    E hugs Sis, please leave that evil, man who most likely is gay.

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  22. Whilts reading the first thing that came to my mine was that he was gay,his mind is not with you,that's he does not come.pls walk away before Belle go enter

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  23. Big Advice, women never quit your job for anybody whether husband or family member except you decide on your own.

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  24. Quitting your job was the biggest mistake you make or any newly married woman can make in the name of obeying husband.

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  25. Please, walk away for your sanity sake once you get a job and little savings. It's good enough you're not pregnant yet. You are married to yourself

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  26. I agree with you 100% Stella. That’s why it’s not good to rush into marriage! See your life now!

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  27. This is serious!I'm lost for words.

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  28. Madam run. Don’t tell him before you escape. Is he a doctor in Owerri?

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  29. Why are you waiting till you have a job? Leave now that you can and go and survive with your family. This is the advice I'll give someone I know.

    It will be painful to have kids in this kind of environment.

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    1. We read chronicles here everyday, yet some people don’t learn anything.

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  30. Your supposed husband is gay. Please leave that marriage as fast as possible.

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  31. I feel i know your husband. Is he from Rivers State, Onelga precisely? Does he live in Abuja? Is he in his late 40s? If he is who i think he is, you are his third wedded wife with strings of broken engagements. Run if you love yourself, don't let him use pastors to manipulate you to stay.

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  32. He has you exactly where he wants you? HELPLESS!!!!!!

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  33. Sister this one no be marriage o!
    First of all you go stop to dey regret. Begin find way forward.
    For me o, I get two options wey I wan give you.
    No 1 be say you need prayers, make inquiry from God ,make you take know whether this kind man fit change im ways. You need serious fasting and prayer,find genuine prophet to join you for this prayer, make u for know which way to follow o.
    Because this your situation na slavery o and e go only take God to deliver you either to draw you commot for the marriage or make your husband become a changed person.
    This one as you dey make enquiry,dey pray, dey cabash, tell that your husband say you wan find job, infact begin find the job, go interview,start business if you see money, atleast if things go turn around for the good of your marriage e go begin show small small.
    Option no 2 be say, if you no send this your husband man shishi, like zero love or care no dey anytime wen you think of am ,the only solution na to cary your kaya comot for that house go carry divorce paper kiakia to avoid stories that touch. If you no get support from family for divorce just escape from the house, run go anywhere wey you see support, find job, hustle, get money, support ya self until you fit stand come do proper divorce.
    Na so I go talk reach because this your marriage na slavery. This man wan work on ya mind and esteem, e wan put you down completely make you fit no stand again, or know ya self. But you need to fight am with all ya strengt and anything wey you believe.
    Doh, e go better for you.

    THE LIFTED

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  34. I am seriously lost for words. YOUR HUSBAND IS GAY!!!! I sensed it from the beginning. But what I don't understand is the maltreatment, does he not have human feelings at all?. To entrap someone in a loveless marriage, at least care for her, to think he married her to cover his shame and having the audacity to shut her off like that, that's really heartless and inhumane of him.

    Gosh, I am so fucking pissed!! Let me tell you something poster, since he is not always around like you said ehn, just get a job, it could be online or something just focus on yourself and save up to leave that useless man, cos trust me he is waiting for that big disgrace on you. God forbid he harms you. Play the game of ignorance, just ignore him, don't nah him oo.. I wish there is a way to have evidence on him about his activities because if he married you to cover his sexuality,allow him to lose guard around you so you can easily trail him cos leaving him is no going to be easy. God help you, just focus on yourself first and secretly look for a job.

    I read some comments and I just want to say that is it the same family that ask her to leave her job and obey her husband that is going to believe her without evidence?
    Men are smart especially manipulative one like him, once he sniffs a whiff of her trying to leave him, he is going to make her life a living hell. She shouldn't react on impulse oo, let her find a reason first than gather evidence enough for her to leave.

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  35. I would advice you leave that sham of a marriage.






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  36. The man is not gay - he has other women of interest. He married her and may have found out they are not compatible or something off about her - she too should check out herself. I have a friend that had a similar experience - didn't get to know his ex wife well and they got married. Found out her kpekus smells badly and she is not active on bed, so love making was uninteresting. Marriage broke up within 8months. Until you hear the other side of the story, let's not jump to wrong conclusions.

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    1. Tara gbafuo there. What is wrong with communication. If he loves her they'll work through it together. I guess you're just looking for a way to console yourself. Oshisco.

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    2. Baseless argument. So, the man is buhari that cannot communicate with his wife??

      Then the man should let her go instead of begging her...

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    3. So it is because of her kpekus is smelling. He ensured she resigned from her job and doesn't give her cash abi.. Una go justify wickedness

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  37. You have nothing to lose! Leave ASAP and Ask your folks to return the bride price .

    Don’t be foolish to the point of getting pregnant!

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  38. wetin i read now??? that marriage is a scam,he married you to cover up something.. please don't get pregnant ooo

    But sis ehnn i can't live with a man that treats me this way.i pray God gives you wisdom to handle this...

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  39. 1. It's either he's gay, has a medical condition or he's just plain wicked!!
    2. Get a job!!
    3. Leave the yeye marriage. One chance.

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  40. He can't cum cos he doesn't enjoy sex with women.
    He has a partner he spends time with.
    But why he is telling you not to work or give you money is what I don't understand.

    As you take explain to us here, make you explain to your family members and his own. If you no fit explain or if you'll miss some points when talking, write it like this and send it to them.
    Na time waster.

    I wish you goodluck in your job hunt.


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  41. I didn't bother reading it all. Half way I know I would leave that marriage. Better to leave now than later. You have years ahead to make a happy and great future for yourself. Ignore all those that will tell you all men are the same. It is a lie from the pit of hell. This is my second marriage and I still can't believe 'perfect' men exists.

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  42. I think she has to make the decision. No be her people tell her to quit her job first time. Na to leave husband dem go support am? Poster please just leave him. He is a narcissist with sociopath tendencies. Abeg just leave and never look back. Very wicked man.

    Listen to your intuition, your instincts they never never lie. That is one part of us women that never fails. Once something does not sound good to you, please don't do it. Sorry dear. May God grant you a job soonest

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  43. Don't ever initiate sex again
    Move out and drop a note that you've got a job in another state. Dont you have siblings u can squat with?
    How can a man have sex multiple times and not cum for once? He is GAY GAY GAY!
    You are practically single, dont care about what any old school people say but your heart. Love u for you.
    Hold your breast and dive from that Babylon of a marriage

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  44. Religion has really done us bad. Obey your husband and quit your job? So everything you have been reading here has gone in through one ear and left through the other. Take this advice from someone who knows, your husband is gay. And he is those conc ones. Don't confront him oo or ask him, he might harm you. He is in love with his gay partner thst is why he can't stand you. Please back your bags and varicose. No open ya mouth accuse am or tell anybody. I caught mine in bed red handed , if I had not acted fast, I for dey six feet today. Find your level. A word is enough for the wise.

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    1. Obey your husband and quit your job is a sign of respect to them. Kai.
      If she doesn’t move now, she’ll suffer.

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  45. My dear Look at yourself in the mirror again and compare yourself before and after marriage to this man. You will notice that alot has changed within this year. You are no more the sweet and beautiful lady you used to be. Imagine being in this marriage for another 5years. Your mates will start calling you aunty because you will have grown so old and unkept out of worry and frausturation. He knows what he is doing. He asked you to resign to make you helpless. I wish you will listen and RUN. It will not be easy at first but trust me you will be fine. Give yourself a little time and you will smile again. Marriage is for the living. Dead women don't marry. Forget what people will say. People have not stopped talking about Adam and Eve so they will not stop talking. You are stronger than you think. You have been surviving before you met him and you will definitely survive better without him. Don't listen to anyone that ask you to endure. Be it parents or pastor. This man will never change. He will only get worst. See you see express. Depression is very real. You don't need a job to escape. All you need is determination.

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    1. St Elsewhere Phoenix16 May 2021 at 19:26

      Listen to this. This one na gaskiya! Poster follow this 💯💯

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    2. Loves this!

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  46. This is not a marriage at all. You are basically little more than a live-in househelp.

    One good thing you have going for you, no children. You can literally pack your things and walk away today. Please consult a charity or women focused NGO for some help since you have no money at hand. Start looking for work right this moment. Get moving and get out of that mess. Remember to never be desperate for anything, desperation always lead to disappointment.

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  47. Leave now!! Either Gay or not, just leave! If you can get or borrow money from your parents, please do. You don't even have to tell them that you are leaving if you know they will discourage you from leaving. Try and see if you can get your old job back. If not, look for another. It's easier when no child is not yet involved. Don't miss this chance

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  48. This is so sad,please leave that man.u aren’t married.

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  49. ...It would even be better if he is gay. This one that he is always ticked off about you knowing his nocturnal movements, hopefully he is not a gentleman of the night.

    ... This is no marriage. Hurry up and leave this unfavorable arrangement. This life is too short, to live it miserably, because of another human being.

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  50. So sorry for your plight, but your husband is GAY.

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  51. my dear get a job save some money and move out he is not ur husband on no account should u get pregnant for him he could even be gay and he just married u to cover up ,and next time date for a long time before marriage it is very important stop asking him abt his movement so he no go one day beat u up and if he tries it leave before it happens again. the Lord is ur strength

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  52. Story of my life before before, my dear I left the sham of a marriage with the full support of my family after telling them what I was going thru. I'm single and so happy. I pray God's will be done in my life. Good luck on whatever action you decide to take. Life is too short to be a living dead being.

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  53. Annoying chronicle. How do some of you resign from your jobs when it’s not life threatening?
    Na sign of respect be that?
    Poster, do yourself a favor and walk. The nonsense some of you have to go through all in the name of marriage though.

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  54. I want to believe I dyed him for two months, else u would have an idea he was like this, anyway I have to leave this marriage cos it won’t work no matter how u patch it or how parents beg u to stay , this is a no no, u can see even over religious blog visitors are even advising u to leave , that’s to show that it’s a bad situation u are in, even if u decide to work on it, it’s just a matter of time nd u would still leave ! He married u for a reason nd definitely not love as he doesn’t even care for u, leave nd get your life back dear

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  55. Read through the comments and the Hypocrisy of women is just annoying. So, Nobody could tell her to her face to swallow the Eba she prepared for herself. She obviously rushed into a marriage with someone well to do, leaving someone who begged her to stays as she admitted. She's tired on one hand but still trying to get pregnant on the other... Okay. He sleeps with you but can't cumm, and you think the problem is with him, not you??? Not that sex with you DOESN'T GET HIM OFF?? Sometimes, y'all should tell yourselves the truth. Sick and tired of people like the poster insulting the marriage institution with their bad decisions and coming to cry and make mockery of it...#nuffsaid

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    1. Well to do?
      Where did you get this assumption from?
      Someone that used up her own money for their wedding?
      A well to do man would have paid for it all.

      I don't know why she picked him but it sure has nothing to do with being "well to do"

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  56. In just 6month, your chronicle is long like this..
    How on earth will on advice this God, this is too early, war room by now.
    Me am speechless o, before I miss heaven on top advice.

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  57. This look exactly like my story. I waited 2 years in the marriage to get my papers but some few months for the papers to be finalised. He called immigration that we are no longer together. He is gay, low sperm count, cheater with men in the marriage plus a narcissist on top. Me and the gay partner we both know ourselves. He married me to cover up as well as have kids. I left in 2019, he has a child through surrogate and is with his gay partner.

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  58. Nne please leave, you haven't gone far in the marriage. Leave oh.

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  59. Surprised nobody mentioned erectile dysfunction. What if it's not gay, just erectile dysfunction and it's led to his very low self esteem that makes him want to be in control. Regardless he is very unkind cos no matter what his issue is, it's not his wife's fault and shouldn't be put on her. Nawa, some people no get joy. I really don't like advising married peeps cos na only you know where shoe dey pain. But in catholic church, if you have strong evidence of dishonesty (gay, ED) the marriage can be annulled. I wish you could hire a private investigator to follow him at night to solve this mystery. Me for one don't like dating men I can't predict. At least 70% of the time, I need to be able to read you. I won't feel safe if I can't read my husband. Trust is the most important ingredient to me.

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  60. In all this crap, you are trying to bring in a child ? You must be a very selfish woman

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  61. Please receive sense and walk away. It will never get better from here any time soon. Just look for a job and move out. Don't even bother him or his family again. Let them come and carry their gay son. My friend got married to one like that. He was even a pastor. Those gay men had the guts to carry him from the wedding reception and returned him one week later. The girl left the marriage and started life afresh.

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  62. He doesn't love you. He doesn't care about you. He doesn't have feelings for you. There's absolutely no reason why you should remain in that situation. Leave!

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  63. He doesn't love you. He doesn't care about you. He doesn't have feelings for you. There's absolutely no reason why you should remain in that situation. Leave!

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