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Thursday, August 12, 2021

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CHEATING HUSBAND

 
Dear Stella...

I have been married for 8 years and blessed with 3 kids..

I married at 26 years immediately after my first degree. My husband has always been a night crawler even before I got married to him which I had always known.

 When I was pregnant with my first child, he would normally leave me at home to drink with his friends, he is usually home at most 10 pm , when I complain even to both families ,they (my mum during omugwo)would all admonished him and he will promise to be a changed man but all to no avail. 


At some point I took my mind off it for my sanity believing that he was only drinking not knowing that he was womanising as well.

 The crux of the matter now Is that my husband sleeps with anything in skirt, i see his hotels receipts and transfers he does to these ladies, there is this particular married woman (5 kids)whose husband is based in Germany that I have always had my suspicion about them for about three years now but he will always deny. About two months ago, I intercepted his voice audios on his phone and heard the worst things I never imagined .


He invited this particular woman home when I travelled with my kids to my in-laws and they made out in my home. I confronted him and since then, its been a tug of war, he now isolates himself because I insisted on no s#x for now pending when we go for HIV test. 


Stella do you know that he is still seeing that married woman? I really wish I can get a hold of her husband's number In Germany so that i can forward every evidence of his wife cheating to him as I have begged her several times to leave my marriage alone.

 Recently he hit me for the first time and I just feel that this is the limit I can go in this sham of a marriage. We will be having a family meeting before the month runs out. I really want to walk away as the emotional abuse is always making me angry and I am now a shadow of myself but I feel that will be to harsh for my kids. 


BVS, please I need mature advice on what to do as I am really tired of everything, I don't feel anything for him, I feel betrayed by one I have given my everything to, I have had the worst pregnancy complications you can think of, I survived only by God's grace. 


My pillow is soaked with tears everyday and night, wish I can turn back the hands of time. I am lonely and bored. He no longer eats at home saying that I will kill him, he now accuses me of sleeping around too knowing fully well that its a big lie. He isn't even remorseful.





*Hmmmm..
First and foremost, please know that you have no business with the other woman.. Face the one you married that is cheating on you...

If your mental health is at risk then i suggest you remove yourself from that Environment for the time being until things are sorted out or you both decide to part ways...Of what use is staying in a union that is like this?
If you can go back to your parents for some time, please do until you can get your emotions in check.
If you work, please spend more time on your Job, if not then concentrate more on your kids.

76 comments:

  1. Women ehn... how can u be making your fellow woman cry? Why? Na wa o. If you know her relatives, tell them to warn her... its not fair.

    Cos they ain't stopping anytime soon.

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    1. Your husband has gone far. Only God can redeem him from this lifestyle..
      Just live for yourself and kids.

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    2. Very shameless woman... How I wish you can get hold of her husband’s contact ..

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    3. Poster please follow Stella's advice.

      Your husband is the one after the married woman. The married woman is lonely and needs a man to warm her and scratch her itches. So your randy horseband made his dk available.
      Who knows if the husband in Germany is not sleeping with someone else in over there.
      Adultery jamboree.

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    4. I am so sorry for your predicament, just leave for your own sanity but wait until you have the meeting.

      He is eating his cake and having it, you also deserve happiness, so do what makes you happy.

      Reporting to that woman's husband may also not have an effect because he may have another family in germany as well. Do not confront her anymore because you are giving her power over you.

      When you are away don't forget to pray about it all and do whatever gives you peace (even if it's walking away)

      I hope you have your own money to stand on your own if things go left?
      It's not easy but where there's life there's hope and you will overcome.

      Dear ladies, never accept whatever you don't like, I have never liked night crawling, I told my hubby from day one and argued it out. Most night crawlers have other agendas than just drinking.

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    5. Maybe he is even the father to some of her kids.
      He may even be her ex boyfriend, one she wasn't allowed to marry.

      Just do what will give you peace

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    6. Chaiii the last thing I'll ever do is carry my phone to call the other woman, even to the extent of begging her to live my marriage.. for what?

      I'll advise you to just lock up oh maka hbpe.. get a sweet cute that will take your mind off your cheating horseband and enjoy your life, time no too dey

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    7. Nawao, things dey happen,so he left his young wife to sleep with a woman with 5 kids, hope he knows the curse that comes with laying with another man's wife?

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    8. Sisterly, you don't sound like you want to leave!

      Truth is nothing anyone say here will make this pain lesser. Betrayal feels like poison in your veins.

      All I can advise is to try and pull yourself together and rediscover yourself.

      Do things that make you happy & totally have an I don't care attitude towards him for now. Because the more you fuss over him, the more he sees the other lady as a better option that needs saving and all the love in the world.

      Act like they don't exist! Pray & go have fun. If he was your all and all; well you can now see he didn't take you as such.

      Reconnect with old friends. Just be happy! When he sees you moving on (but praying lowkey); he'll realise he's not all that.

      These cheats do the most when you are worried about their moves. It's like an elixir. They keep digging in!

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    9. That no sex is ok for now. Report that woman to her in laws if you can get their addresses.
      Na wa for some women o.

      May God help and strengthen you.

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  2. Hmmm! This sham of a marriage is irredeemably over and it be nice you look for a way to so move on,ma'am

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    1. The things you say though(and the way you say it)..... Aaaaarrrrggghhh

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  3. Only God Almighty can change someone. Madam for your sanity leave the marriage because it has been broken. When a man carries another woman into his matrimonial home, just know it will never be the same.

    Stop sleeping on that adultery bed. That woman has a strong hold on your hirseband.

    Look at the mirror and tell yourself no more crying. Make Jesus Christ your All and move on

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  4. I quite empathize with you about the things happening in your marriage.
    See, sending "evidence to the other woman's husband" won't heal your marriage or your pain.
    Someone will heal you of this pain and that person is Jesus. As you take you mind off from the pain, give your heart to Jesus, read the Word of God,
    pray, fast and keep hope alive.
    Stop this fire for fire, tit for tat approach as you can see that it is not
    working. Rather it is deepening his adultery with the married woman.
    When you experience the Love of Jesus, the joy of salvation that he gives, which does not depend on
    how well your marriage pans out or how much is in your account, you will
    be able to love your sinful husband. Yes, Jesus loved us while we were sinners. He died for us to give us a
    new life. You can see that neither marriage, nor fights can change a person. Jesus changes lives.
    Shalom. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸŒΉ

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    1. Why can't you ever be realistic? Which one be Jesus for here again

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    2. Shooter
      Please bear with me if talking about Jesus make you angry
      I can't stop talking about my Saviour; the repaired of broken lives and marriages. He gave wretched me a brand new life😘😘

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    3. It's not talking about Jesus that angers people, its your approach. Through out the Bible Jesus was compassionate and had empathy. You obviously lack this. Hence people's anger towards you.

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    4. I don't understand why some people are so miffed when Jesus is mentioned. I had to read through the entire comment above to see what the problem was and I did not see one. @19:08, even when she used the word "I empathize with you..." you still found fault in there. It's a pity.

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    5. Don't mind Shooter Gyal and Anon 19:08.

      There's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG with the comment by 15:09.

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    6. Anon 15:09 & 20:58, you said you empathize with her but your tone of voice (comment in this case) is mean and not empathetic at alll. You’re a very mean (not nice) Christian.

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  5. Whatever costs you your peace of mind is too expensive to be kept..

    A wounded Dog alive is better than a Dead lion..

    @MARTINS

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    1. @martins don’t bother they rather die there than leave. See her using her kids as excuse kids she’s damaging by staying in a toxic marriage. Smh

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    2. Madam watch your BP pls. Take a break and while at it, visit the hospital. Monitor your sugar level and BP because the sleeplessness and heart palpitations that's as a result of this your marital problems can only and easily lead to one thing.

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  6. "My husband has always been a night crawler even before I got married to him which I had always known."

    When I read this line, I wondered why you were complaining about his night crawling and drinking friends.
    Like Jesus said, people do not gather grapes from thorns
    You see, you do not go to a yam farm to harvest peppers. If you are a lady that goes to night clubs, you will meet a night club husband. If you are in strip clubs, you will meet a strip club husband.
    If you are in Bible studies, you will meet a husband that lives by the principles of that Bible; if you live by it yourself.
    I am not talking about those who go to Bible studies or church to find husbands or wife. Those ones will meet their matches. Knowing Jesus on a personal level, as a personal Savior is the way forward to eternal life and more so, life in abundance on this earth. Note that life in abundance is a life of peace and not
    necessarily material abundance that people chant about in many places that God is supposedly being worshiped.
    So, you have to be patient with your husband and trust God to save him from the gully he is in.

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    1. @Saint****, while she waits patiently for God to change her husband, what do you advice? Keep sleeping with the man, stay put, or what?

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    2. As you lay your bed ..you are lying on it and crying.

      You will leave good men out there in the name of 'they are boring' and marry a bad guy because they are 'fun' and then start disturbing us that all men are cheat.

      Where all the men there when you started dating and marrying a night crawler?

      Madam....it's your cross ..bear the consequences of your bad decision.

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    3. @16:34. E don do. Drop your mic. You have said it all. Madam, live with your husband. He married you with the understanding, you were aware and accepted his faults. Y d cries and chronicles??

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  7. My dear life happens. I will not advice you to leave because most women will NEVER leave even if they see death staring at them in marriage. They will tell you they don't want to raise their children alone. Whatever you do. Remember that children raised in toxic environment grow up replicating what they experienced as infants. Being alive and healthy should be your priority. Marriage is only for the living. Get your heart together. Leave if you can. Give him the ignore attitude if you cannot leave. Treat him as if he is not existing in your life. Let only greetings join you and him. Take care of yourself and your children. Laugh out loud. Get neater. Visit friends and relatives once in a while and spend days with them. Hold on to a career and give it your all. Pray. Pray and pray. It is well with you

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  8. This 'achievement' called Marriage...it is well with you poster.

    I'm glad you stood your ground about the HIV tests. If you have a job and can afford it, get another apartment and move with your kids or make arrangements to leave the country.

    Either way like Stella said, you need to leave that environment to clear your head or you will lose it and that's not good for your kids.

    You need to breathe...to think on the way forward...your future.

    Your story is similar to an old friend of mine, she is dead now cos she didn't leave that situation plus she got infected with HIV and it destroyed her mental state. Her body couldn't fight anymore and that was how it got to full blown Aids.

    I hope you truly find a way out cos the truth is, family can only do so much and they will go home to their own lives eventually so it's really up to you.

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  9. You knew he was an arabanco man. You still married him.

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    1. Well in the hope that God will change him.. By the way I ain't the poster...

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  10. My dear,henceforth tell yourself that ur happiness is not tie to ur husband, make conscious effort to make yourself happy by going out with the kids more,sometimes go out more with friends n have fun but dont talk too much about ur marriage with friends,choose to be happy because if anything happens to u,God forbid,that man will not think twice to remarry.try to be Looking good, payless attention to him even those it's not easy.when he realised that u don't send him anymore,he might change. Above all be prayerful if u really want your marriage cos there is nothing prayer cannot change.if after doing ur best, he refuses to change, my dear u know what's best for u, do it and don't look back.my policy in marriage is that No MAN is worth giving me BP or worth making me UNhappy.

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  11. Until he catches one disease, he will remember home. You need to try and take off your mind from it for your well being,

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  12. MY DEAR SISTER START A VIGIL, SHE IS A STRANGE WOMAN HOLD YOUR SELF THE SEVENTY DAYS PRAYING AND FASTING PROGRAM IN MFM CHURCH HAS STARTED KEY INTO IT WATCH MOUNT ZION FILMS AND LASTLY TRY TO BE NICE TO HIM SO GOD WILL DELIVER HIM FROM STRANGE WOMEN TELL YOUR MOTHER TO JOIN YOU IN PRAYERS

    LOVE YOU SISTER

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    1. Ahhhhh, who dey born and train these men that always fall for strange women?? Dem no dey watch and pray for themselves... Biko who raises these types of men, that will make their wives do seventy day fast to deliver them from strange women?

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    2. wahala dey this country oh, hahahahahaahahhaaha poster i am sure this is the advice you are looking for hahahahha ever asked your innocent mother to join you to fast for 70days hahahahahhaha

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    3. Isi Gini??? 70 days fast!!! poster no take this adviceooo, was it not here we read some month's back of a woman that died while dasting in a church for the husband to come back to her.inukwa advice, 70 days fast. There are so many good advices her to consider, plan yourself and leave the marriage or learn to completely ignore him. Close your legs firmly, let him not infect you with std

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    4. You people will just be shouting without knowing the facts. The 70 days fast breaks by 2pm each day except fridays 5pm.

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  13. Poster, do you have a source of income?? Coz a man like that will likely stop taking care of you and the children once you leave. Unfortunately he is not going to change but I need you to plan your exit well so poverty doesn’t make you go back to him. Get a secret account, start saving infact since you have access to his phone find a way to transfer money from him to you without his knowledge. Find a way to bill him without him knowing so when you leave you will need comfortable and able to take care of your children. Do not approach any woman, and learn a lesson from this.. men who go out by heart at night are mostly womanizers..

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  14. Poster, do you have a source of income?? Coz a man like that will likely stop taking care of you and the children once you leave. Unfortunately he is not going to change but I need you to plan your exit well so poverty doesn’t make you go back to him. Get a secret account, start saving infact since you have access to his phone find a way to transfer money from him to you without his knowledge. Find a way to bill him without him knowing so when you leave you will need comfortable and able to take care of your children. Do not approach any woman, and learn a lesson from this.. men who go out by heart at night are mostly womanizers..

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  15. Even being a wounded dog is still bad. Poster kindly read yesterday's chronicles update. It will do you a lot of good.. Martins also shared the previous post.


    Lovelace

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  16. Go to God in Prayers. With God all things are posible. Remove divorce out of your mind. Begin to picture a blissful marital life and with Prayer of faith, you will have your heart desires. Don't forget to genuinely give your life to Jesus first.

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  17. I'm team face the man and leave the side chick alone. However in this case, if you ever find the husband of that married woman, please don't hesitate to forward all evidence to him. Don't listen to "the woman is not your business". She and her husband became your business the minute she slept with your husband.

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  18. Oooo God what is this again???...a married woman having an affair with a married man..

    please poster do whatever gives you peace of mind, your health matters alot..

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  19. Leave that marriage. God permits divorcing an adulterous spouse.

    But you see the other lady? Find out how to reach her husband and expose her! Yes, doing so wouldn't save your marriage (why you would want to say it sef) but expose that woman. I don't subscribe to that "face the man you married" shit. If you can, during the divorce proceedings, sue the woman to court too! Make sure you keep all the evidence!

    Anyone who says that my advice is bad is also guilty of this sin. Nonsense!

    The more we call out evil behavior and make sure the doers face the consequences, the better people would behave themselves.

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  20. Please for the sake of ur sanity, leave that environment temporarily. No man is worth dying for.

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  21. Only a man who wants to be kept will keep himself. How did you meet him? How long did you date and when you found out his lifestyle before marriage, why didnt you address this before getting married to him? You have no business with the other woman or her husband at all. Have asked yourself why your horseband is like that? Have you privately asked him why he lives a reckless life? Just inform both families politely, leave the environment and insist if he does not change you'll no longer build a home with him and let your family know that should you return and he continues, you'll leave the marriage. But the thing is, such men can be so wicked and kill if you leave. Just pray, go inside yourself and plot your exit with your child in mind.

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  22. My dear my story is somehow similar. All I will say is that it never gets better except by divine intervention. Mine never did anyway. So plan accordingly.

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  23. Most times, the purpose of and what most union offer is just sex and children which can be so boring and unfulfilling. Women, no rush, please take your time and prayerfully choose a life time partner. It's very difficult to change adults, especially damaged ones, how much more a man. Men have a mind of their own rooted in their ego. How do men risk their life and that of their wife, the mother of their children just because of 5 mins pleasure, especially with a married woman.

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    1. First purpose of marriage is companionship so get that straight πŸ™„

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    2. I'll tell you why .. the man she married was a night crawler. Have you ever seen a night crawler who is not exposed to sexual vices?

      She made a choice to marry him. She should bear the consequences of her choices.

      Women need to learn to stop putting blame on others and bear consequences of their choices. Oshi ati iranu.

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  24. Thank God you said you knew he was a night crawler before you accepted to marry him, so you thought you'll change him?, well, let me use this opportunity and advice single ladies hoping to get married, just know that you are an egg/asset in the eyes of the man that wants to marry you because he hasn't gotten or married you yet, once he marries you and you are living together (no distance), my dear, there will always be some kind of changes especially if you the woman is fully dependent on him financially. Please don't accept any behavior before marriage thinking you will change him after marriage, he'll only get worse (remember he is the man, lol) Please courtship is very good and marrying your best friend is the key. What I mean by your best friend is, you have courted for a long time, you know and accept him and his flaws. well, let me stop here before I over yarn. Poster, may God give you the wisdom to handle your marriage.

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  25. BITCHandSLUT.com12 August 2021 at 16:17

    I never wanted to comment but Stella, please, stop that you have no business with the other woman line you people always use here.

    Stop it already.

    She's got a big business with a whorish wife whoring with her ashawo husband.

    A shameless married woman and mother she is.

    If being caught today, she'll call and blame the devil for it.

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  26. Some women are very wicked sha, if she wants to cheat on her 'Germany' husband, why can't she find a single guy or a widower, may God judge her.

    Please your mental health is very important, take care of yourself first and remember it's not too good to raise children in a toxic marriage.

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    1. Sinning with a conscience:)

      Married ppl who want to cheat somehow tend to locate another like soul. I suppose they can complain about their spouses to each other and not feel so bad about what they are doing because someone else is doing it too.

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  27. Na the same tin wey we dey yarn everyday na. You see pesin say him be "night crawler" you still chook head. What did you think a night crawler does? Sing hymns and recite bible passages. Who did you think he was fraternizing with at night? The pope and his cardinals?

    Women, we are our own problem. Next, you will say is that "but he wasn't womanizing then". I put it to you that you brought your problem to yourself. You saw the kind of person that he is and felt a miracle will happen for him to change. Of course he changed - he got worse!

    As it stands now, the only option you have is to take your marriage to God in prayer. Only Him can salvage what you have left in your marriage. Nothing else will work. Not family meeting, not retaliation, nothing.

    If you still want the marriage, go on your knees and cry out your heart to the one who made you and made your husband. He is the one that instituted marriage, he is the one that gave you to your husband. He alone can change and rewrite your marital story in such a way that what the devil meant for shame, will become a global testimony.

    Pray for your husband. Speak positive words (especially from scripture) daily into his life. Give God time. These things take time. God is not a magician. Maintain a positive and cheerful disposition while you wait for a change. Never despair because that's the actual goal of Satan. Sing praises when you feel down (you will). It will lift you. If the tears come, let them flow. It strengths you and helps you heal. But sing thereafter. Get very busy with work, kids and life goals. Make the bible your best friend, therein lies answers to questions of life. Whenever you feel or sense anything, sit down and tell the Holy Spirit, just the way you'd tell a friend. He's 24 hours beside you.

    Call all the vices he is indulging in by their names one by one and ask them to leave your husband. Use his picture whenever you pray. Speak the very things you want into the picture. It will work. It does. Also, send thunder to that woman. Scatter whatever your husband has with her or any other lady.

    Don't give up. With man, this is impossible, but with God ALL things are possible.

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  28. My dear so sorry for all you are going through right now, please be strong for your kids ok? Please focus now on your kids and your self. It's good you blocked your hubby sexually. Please don't ever sleep with him unless you do an HIV test in a credible hospital where he has no access to manipulate the results. Train your children in the fear of God, get close to God too. Find time to study at least five verses of the Bible and ask God to speak to you personally and write it down. You can also take a break by moving to your parents house. Build yourself spiritually for now and physically too. Put in your best in your work or business. You can ask God to change your husband but please build yourself up. May the Lord give you peace of mind in Jesus name Amen

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  29. Nothing is guaranteed in life, not good health, wealth, faithful spouse or happy marriage.

    Stella has provided solid advice. Happiness and peace of mind is not something that happens to you, it is something you have to create for yourself. Of course you want your home life to be joyful because you are thinking like a mother and the three children who are also part of this mess. But trust me they know, they pick up on the energy of disharmony in the household. They know that the dwelling place is just a structure not a home. And you have only been married eight years so these are young children, all under the age of 8 most likely.

    Have you tried marriage counselling? Would he be willing to participate? You can try that route as a last ditch attempt to get things back on track. But if he does not want to do the counselling then go do the trial separation like Stella advised. See how it feels to be on your own and away from the drama. Before you do this you may want to setup some security cameras particularly in your bedroom and the living room just to have some evidence if you decide to go the divorce route; however, do not setup these cameras if you cannot handle what may potentially show up.

    I wish you all the best. Your chronicle is helping as it highlights that even small signs in the beginning of a relationship are worthy of review. Sometimes dealing with a haunted house/ghosts seem way easier than some of the tings ppl are passing through in their marital lives.

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  30. I used to be in these shoes till I gave myself brains. I worked on my weight and my appearance, right now, I don’t give 2 fu*ks about him, I dress anyway I want and do anything I want, I go out and have so much fun, sometimes I even leave our son at home for him to care for while I have a girls night out lolzzz.
    My in laws now call me onye high way and I totally careless. Sex is no go area as I satisfy myself with my dildo and porn.
    I am so happy right now and I don’t gunk I can go back to loving him anymore.
    I cannot kill myself biko. If cunny man die, cunny man go bury am hahahaahaha.

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    1. You better leave that situationship

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    2. Anon 18:39, chop kiss jaree

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    3. Chop which kiss? She is not happy. Na superficial drama

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    4. @ anon 18:39, I sincerely appreciate your approach, I was going to give nearly same advice.
      I'm a married man with younger sisters who are also married, I wont stand any of their husbands treating them like a piece of sh*t.
      Dear poster I sincerely empathise with you. My other advice for you is to detach yourself and your happiness from your husband, work on yourself, put your happiness first, if you've got money buy new clothing and shoes, new hairs, start dressing well for yourself, go out more without informing him, cook nice meal for yourself with good wines, let him see some positive changes in your lifestyle and your pursuits independent of him. You need to be strong and stop showing your weakness and vulnerability, though I know it's not easy. Your weakness will not change anything but your strength and independence can. He's done the worst he could by disrespecting you and disregarding your happiness by frolicking around and hurting your feelings.
      I dont know what you are as a wife, good or not, but I know that some men are like shadows, we take our good wives for granted and start frolicking around. It's quite unfortunate.
      Please poster, do anything that you think will make you happy.

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  31. Anon 18:39, chop kiss jaree

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  32. If our mothers left our fathers because of infidelity believe me most of us would have been brought up in broken homes. Men will always cheat except a few good ones, if you can't put up with it you leave, but once you leave another woman will shamelessly come in.I wish you can just turn a blind eye and live like flatmates. Stay in home, by the way why can't he be the one to leave?

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    1. No wonder why a lot of people are messed up! You think it’s easy living like roommates?? Husband and wife??? The cycle continues huh? Smh.

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  33. How sad..I blame your husband in all these

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  34. Poster you knew this about him yet you married him. Talk about desperation to get married! Madam I must get married by force. Now see what you’re going through. Asante is right, start saving ASAP. As much as you can save. Have a target time on when to leave for your own sanity.(God Frowns on divorce but separation is allowed). It may be six months or a year or two years so that way, you have enough time to save aggressively. For now, if you can find a temporary arrangement to leave that house for some time, please do. Or schedule a time with him where you’ll leave the house, away from him and the kids and have “mommy time” so you can take care of your mental health and healing. He needs to see you less often in that house. Tune out what he does with his own life because he obviously doesn’t give a damn about you anymore so why should you? He has defiled your bed, disrespected your union, brought a strange woman into your matrimonial bed/home. So what else is left? If you’re unable to make arrangements with him on taking some time to yourself, reach out to trustworthy friends, or your siblings and parents to help watch the kids so you can seriously take some time to yourself and work on yourself. Also find a marriage counselor or individual therapist if you can afford it. Therapy plus prayers works wonders and helps you heal much faster. If you do this, I can guarantee you, you’ll start to get your self respect back. He’ll start to notice the changes in you. But please note, you’re doing this for yourself and not him! It’s all about you and your healing process which will take some time as you waited too long to act and take charge of your life! But it’s not to late sha. You’ll look back and just shake your head and tell yourself why and how did I get myself into this mess. You need this time desperately. Start exercising as exercise helps improve mood and sleep a lot. Lose weight if you’re overweight, fix your hair nicely, buy few new cloths for yourself and remember you’re doing this for you and not to pepper anyone or make him notice you. I’m afraid if you continue this way, you might develop a serious high blood pressure and God forbid, you won’t die young. You will be the one to raise your kids in Jesus name. Your kids need you. And please, 3 kids is more than enough. No more kids and you’re right, no sex for now until further notice. He needs to get tested! Get on family planning just in case you slip back (there will be days where you might relapse to your old ways but please get back up). This man is just a flesh and blood just like you for Gods sake. He eats, shits, showers just like you. Only difference is gender. So why the heck did you give him this much power over you?? It’s time to take charge of your life and don’t let your emotions, lack of self esteem control you. Be the one in charge.Again, separation is allowed! Especially a man who disrespects you right in your face. Habaaaa poster, e don do. Please the time is now. And don’t forget to pray for yourself first! You come first! Pray for Gods healing and Gods plan for your life and everything else will follow. After all is said and done, you’ll be the one to decide if you want to continue this marriage because this marriage might never be the same again. I said might because God is able to turn things around in your favor. We won’t be the one to decide for you. Wishing you all the best. And please update us! Stella please post. πŸ’•

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  35. Get a man for yourself and thank me later.Sorry this is coming late.

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