Are there Lawyers in the house or anyone who understand court Marriage and its concept?
Why is the woman told to guide and guard the Marriage certificate with her life after a court wedding?
What are the advantages and disadvantages of both parties keeping the certificate?
Is there any risk for the wife if she allows her husband keep the marriage certificate?
I will be reading comments..we learn everyday.
ReplyDeleteSame here
DeleteThe wife should guard it dearly
ReplyDeleteAll i know is that they always give it to the wife to keep
ReplyDeleteI guess court wedding generally favours the woman counterpart
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't matter who keeps it the original. You can always get a certified true copy from the marriage registry or church where the marriage was celebrated.
ReplyDeleteThank you. Very simple.
DeleteExactly. People make it seem like the original copy is the be all and end all
DeleteIn the UK, you get two original copies. One for the husband and one for the wife.
ReplyDeletePeriodt
DeleteWell , I don’t know really so I’ll sit this one one out a bit .
ReplyDeleteWhen our marriage certificate came back in the 📫 after getting it signed by the judge etc . My husband had it with him then gave it to me for keeps ..plus I get to use it to apply for certain things etc . Personally I feel anyone can keep the certificate doesn’t matter .
It doesn't mean anything.. just people being cultural because society believes that it is the woman's job to keep the marriage. It doesn't matter who keeps it. But it is an important document to have for the times of travelling, jobs and even death of a spouse as per will. So dear women if you haven't done court and you're forming married. you better pressure bobo and get it down o.
ReplyDeleteI just think it’s tradition to give the marriage certificate to the woman but both husband and wife are entitled to a copy so it’s best to give it to a solicitor.
ReplyDeleteIn Nigeria, I guess its given to the woman to protect the rights of women in marriage. With the certificate, should anything happen to the man, the woman wouldn't have to start battling with relatives for property.
ReplyDeleteI guess it stems from the fact that the woman may be at the receiving end if the marriage crashes...
ReplyDeleteOur marriage certificate is with my husband. He is more organized and knows how to keep those type of things. Ask about it in months to come and it will still be looking brand new. So he kept it. And it's safe. It doesn't matter who keeps it. So far married dey intact lol
ReplyDeleteWe're both disorganized. I dont know where that thing is currently 😭
DeleteHaha anon 16.31 it is well oh. I'm keeping all certificates, marriage/births,passports.
DeleteThe best thing is small fireproof safe
DeleteAll certificates, passports and important documents go into it for safekeeping
Came to learn, let the comments keep rolling in 😁
ReplyDeleteStella, the wife keeping the marriage certificate stems from the history of when men go to war and leave a prized possession for the wife to be able to take care of the family in case he doesn't return. The marriage certificate is that prized possession that proves the woman is legally married to the wife and as such has some degree of possession in the man's name...it's something like that sha
ReplyDeleteOurs is among other certificates in a folder and it's inside the drawer
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteShey i can laminate mine and hang on the wall when i get married?
Never laminate it.
DeleteYes u can laminate it to avoid tearing
Delete@lagos mainland girl it's advisable not to laminate your documents.
DeletePlease why should documents not be laminated? I want to learn. thanks for your response.
Delete22.05, some organizations reject laminated documents. Some embassies as well state it that don't submit laminated docs. Maybe they want to really ascertain the originality 🤷🤷
DeleteWell the marriage working or not lies in the hands of woman, she is a better Keeper than the man and also it helps her prove her marriage if the man decide to misbehave 🦋
ReplyDeleteWell the marriage working or not lies in the hands of woman, she is a better Keeper than the man and also it helps her prove her marriage if the man decide to misbehave 🦋
ReplyDeleteThank you Stella for posting you are simply the best. My husband took ours from me and no I am not a careless person.
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to be enlightened
Either the wife or husband can keep the certificate. However, "SOME" men tend to give their wives to keep because they believe women are more organized and have good memories of things/events.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, the certificate symbolizes they are legally married under the law and either of the parties can go to court when issues arises.
It doesn't favor any one precisely, it only does when either the husband or wife has a good cause of action.
There is no risk if either the husband or wife keeps it, if issues should arise that requires going to court and you need the certificate and your spouse is denying you a copy, you can apply for a certified true copy of the certificate.
Wow! I'm learning
DeleteIn addition, marriage under the law (statutory marriage - is a union of one man and one woman to the exclusion of others)
DeleteHence,the man cannot marry another woman also the woman cannot marry another man EXCEPT they divorce in a competent court, then they can move on to whoever they choose.
Just that getting certified true copies (CTC) of documents in Nigeria can be very very difficult and costly at times, if not most times. And the older the document, the more difficult and costly a CTC of it.
DeleteGenerally, the belief is that registry marriage enhances a woman's right to matrimonial property on divorce or death of the husband. So, the registry staff who are mostly women, hand it to the woman to ease proof of the marriage if needed.
Times are, however, changing. Some women have as much as or even more than their husbands before marriage, and some wives are the major sources of the matrimonial property during marriage. So who collects and keep the certificate depends on factors other than marital rights and inheritance.
Some men do not care over who keeps the certificate. What some women do is that they collect it from the registry staff, and hand it over to their husbands. What happens after should be decided in love.
When a marriage is working, who keeps the certificate should be determined by who is more care/safety conscious and organised.
Marriage is an agreement. All agreements are kept and held together by the hearts of parties to the agreement, not by the agreement papers.
But any man or woman in a troubled marriage and foreseeing a contested divorce can make a photocopy. It is easier to get a CTC if you have a photocopy. And if a CTC is impossible to get, the photocopy can be ingeniously used to achieve same purpose as a CTC or the original.
I heard is only ikoyi registry that is recognized anywhere,so what happened to those of us that did ours in our local government?
ReplyDeleteif u intend using it for very important documentation maybe outside that environment u got married,most persons are sent back to go get a recognized marriage certificate even when they have the local govt cert with them.
DeleteEither of them can keep it. No biggy! I'm the one keeping ours.
ReplyDeleteOurs is with me
ReplyDeleteIt's kept together with our original certificate
ReplyDeleteLike all our documents, our marriage certificate is placed in the drawer. The only restriction is the key to the drawer which is placed at different spots in the house for easy access
ReplyDeleteBeautiful woman. Befitting wedding gown. Fine wedding picture(s).
ReplyDeleteCongratulation. God blessings on your marriage.
Madam Stella, please post. Thanks.
My wife keeps ours, and no biggie about it.
ReplyDeleteBesides the court gave us a code that enables us to access it on the internet should we misplaced it.
Anyone from any registry is allowed. Wetin be ikoyi? Myth
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