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Sunday, November 07, 2021

Sunday In House Gists - Domestic Violence Stories

 Some of you are going through the worst form of Verbal or physical abuse in the hands of those you love....







Are you the one abusing your man/ woman or are you the one being abused? Is it slaps, punches or verbal abuse? 


Have you been picked up before and stoned to the floor or was it you that beat the heck out of your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend and stoned them to the floor?

How long has this abuse been going on? Have you told anyone about it or are you dying in silence?

Let's gist!

103 comments:

  1. My husband is controlling and I know it. It's more prominent because we are not in the same country but I guess it insecurity.Thats the way we have navigated our over 21 years of marriage.
    Most times I don't condone it because It can result into emotional abuse if he continues. Most men are narcissistic in nature not african men alone but the degree is subject to how the lady involved accepts the situation.
    Before a situation reaches DV,it must have started with little controlling patterns.

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    1. You are right sister...but most times, ladies fail to recognize this and term it as love

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    2. So because you have issues with your husband now you are painting 'most men' with the same brush. You get sense like this?

      You chose your husband. Deal with him. And stop kò gbo gbó wá pò. Were most men there when you were choosing him for what he can give you and ignoring the warning signs?

      Mtschew.

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    3. @14.52,I was talking to intelligent individuals who have matured minds for objective discussion not myopic idiots like yourself.
      Did I ask for your input on my marriage. What I wrote is not my experience alone but of other women even as at yesterday having met up with another woman for lunch and encouragement. Eyin melo?
      Did I ask you to save me?
      Have you saved yourself not to talk of someone else.
      Be guided before using your struggling data for stupid comments.
      Oh by the way, I chose wisely.

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    4. Anon 14 52, I was shocked when I read that. Please don't generalize abeg. My dad is not narcissistic, my husband isnt, my friends aren't my friends husbands aren't. Omo. Please don't generalize. Maybe its because he's from the sixties. I guess. Men were badly raised back then. Please raise your boys better

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    5. @anon 17:04 thank you for your comment (I am anonymous 1452).

      Sebi you see how she responded that she was talkking to intelligent individuals.

      Someone claiming she is talking to intelligent individual mentioned 'most men' based ó. Her own experience and experience of one other person she met up yesterday.

      Why won't her husband be narcissistic? Did you see how she turned to insult based on a simple rebuke of incorrect statement she made? Even assuming I have struggling data.

      Starting to broke shame as her next line of defence when she knew she was not being objective.

      Lmao at saying 'save'. Me save you? That's your business not mine.

      By their fruits you shall know them.

      I don talk my own. If you like vex. If you no like...hang.

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    6. Abuse can also happen among siblings. My younger brother beat me up twice within three days, I was shocked, embarrassed and broken. It was over a minor misunderstanding, I didn't think he could ever do that to me, I mean we are adults and even though I'm older, I respected him as a man. This is the first time in more than twenty years that we got separated, that we are staying together and the realization that he's a narcissist and an abuser shocked me to my bones. Within that week he threatened me twice after insulting the hell out of me. I saw hatred, anger and envy in his eyes, it's as if he's been waiting for this moment when I'm most vulnerable and helpless to strike. After the incidents, he wasn't remorseful, instead he promised to be beating me everyday until I'm frustrated and leaves. I knew he meant it because the second time he beat me, I did nothing to him, I mean it was unprovoked. I remembered as I was washing that morning, I heard in my spirit that he will beat me again and this time I shouldn't keep it a secret or be embarrassed to speak up because if I do he will injure permanently and turn around to blame the devil. Behold after washing the clothes, while in the bathroom, I heard him insulting me, calling me all sorts of names, I didn't utter a word. Then he said I must thoroughly wash the container I used for washing otherwise he will beat me to stupor. True to his words, when I came out of the bathroom tying only my towel, he descended on me, slapping and pushing me, I had to hold on to my towel, at the same time steady myself not to slip, he pushed me out and closed the door. I was alone with him at home, I had to go and rinse the already washed container so that he will allow me to at enter the house to get dressed. I knew he was determined to destroy me so I ran to my cousins to report him. He was ashamed and shocked because he didn't expect me to speak out let alone report him to my cousins. They rallied round me, comforted me and gave him a severe warning and threat to deal with him decisively if he ever lay a finger on me. Having realized he has been subdued and his wicked wings clipped, he started apologizing to me. I never looked at him the same way again and things will never go back the same way between us. You can actually be gisting, dining and making plans with the enemy and not know it. I curse him every time I remember the incident, the pain is still fresh. He will regret what he did to me, someone younger than him will disgrace him too and he will be defenseless! That period, I contemplated suicide because he broke my spirit with such wickedness, he will never know peace anywhere he is and especially in my late father's house that he desperately wants to claim as per first son! A shameless, arrogant, entitled and ungrateful bastard! A useless failure blaming everyone for his failures but himself. To think I actually hold him in high esteem and never judged or doubted him! Thank God I spoke out early enough for my cousins to stopped him dead in his tracks!

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    7. It’s better you leave before he kills you your brother is mentally disturbed. So sorry for what he did to you. Sometimes siblings can be worst enemies. Pls even if it’s a bush park out from there ASAP

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  2. My Ex friend was a bully
    She started from slapping the husband to hitting him with different things.She has anger issues and kept hurting the man.Until one day she hit him and he returned the favour,beat her blue black and left the marriage.

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    1. My husband did same to me one fateful day he did it my head turn 360 degrees I beat the hell out of him since that day he looks at me with side eyes 🤣🤣what you guys don’t know is that some of us women are fighters but out of love and respect as husbands we keep our Jackie chan skills away

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    2. God's masterpiece7 November 2021 at 17:14

      Lobatan! Quite a number of men experience DV also,but they hardly talk about it,I guess because of shame

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    3. @13:54
      There is nothing to laugh about in your (one sided) narration. You are in a mutually abusive marriage. You can still get your husband to behave without resorting to violence.

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    4. Wait for the two sided narration amebo

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  3. This is a serious case and should not be taken likely with anyone.


    I have this elder sister of mine who stays at Ogun state with her husband. The husband looks so calm and organized but you won't believe he beat his wife like a slave.

    My sister had never said anything to me since she has been experiencing this but the day the husband injured her with his car(that was last year). The neighbors called me and I pretended as if I didn't hear anything until she sent me a message on Whatsapp and sent some pictures while in the hospital bed.

    I traveled all the way from Lagos to Ogun state, when the man heard I was around, he didn't come home for almost a week because I was fully ready for me . I planned to use him for training since it's been a while have gone to NT for training.

    Since then, he has stopped that nonsense.


    I posted something about a man who used cutlass in beating his wife some weeks ago or two months ago.. you won't believe the man went missing since then and have never come back home

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    1. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

      It would have been sweet had it been you beat the crap outta him.

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    2. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣, why is he running away. He can't take what he give.

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    3. How did you know he has stopped? Do you live with them? They hardly stop except the woman becomes stronger than them and starts beating them up like I read below.
      Your sister might be silent like she was before the car incident, I pray you don't receive news of her death next time.
      Imagine hitting her with his car! What if she had died? And she is still there with him. Some women are foolishly stupid.

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    4. Wait...he beat his wife and went missing for over a month or 2? Somebody must have handdled his fu-kup. Cutlass lohun lohun!

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    5. Ms Sapphire, he has gone to live with one of his side chicks. Pinky mark my words, na woman he dey with

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  4. Im pregnant and I still get slaps and blows here and there.

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    1. Oh my God...you are trying oooo

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    2. 😮😮😮 Don't you have relatives to run to.

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    3. What are you still waiting for?🤔

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    4. So what the hell are you still doing there? Is it until life goes out of you? Seems you don't live yourself.

      Run 440

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    5. I pity you not. Awon "I must remain in the marriage and make it work". I look away whenever I see a man or woman that is being abused physically. My husband only threatened to hit me and I reported him straight in alausa. By the time he went and came back, his eyes cleared. No be every wife or husband dem dey beat.

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    6. She is trying or foolish (permit me to use that word)
      You better get your self out and stay somewhere else until you give birth
      You can then decide if you want to go back for more beating or not

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    7. He was beating you and you remained there and got pregnant? Now you are still receiving beatings in your condition. Do you know you are at a higher risk of dying if you keep recieving beatings while pregnant? A pregnant woman is very vulnerable because she is carrying another human inside of her. You don't love your life? Some pregnant women who die after suffering from premature labour is as a result of domestic violence. Some die during delivery, others die after childbirth when their husbands beat them. But the families will not say the real cause of death. The continuous blows will accumulate in Your system and cause complications. You truly hate your life and that of your unborn child to still remain in that marriage.

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    8. I remember sending my cousin money to get an abortion 10years ago so she can leave a marriage that looks like what you just discribed.

      She remarried 4years later to a man who treats her like an egg. She has 2 sets of twins now and also doing well financially. The first husband refused her working to keep her psychologically in a space where she can receive his beatings and ill treatments without question.

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    9. Madam give your husband some space till you put to birth then you can decide of you still need that man as a husband. Women will take and drink shit just in the name of marriage.

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    10. Excited courtesy and others, she did not indicate that she was even married to the he-goat. They may just be cohabiting as a result of the unwanted pregnancy and she has no where to run to and no job or business of her own. They may have rejected her in her family for getting pregnant out of wedlock too. This is the only explanation for this epic foolishness.

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  5. I have a married neighbor that trolled other women and lacks zero self respect that you will imagine how he treats his wife.
    Same man will complain of being in an unhappy marriage.
    I have no respect for him that I dare him not to cross his boundary cos I don't take shit.
    I have no respect for such men but I have 100 % respect for real men.

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  6. I have a married neighbor that troll other women and lacks zero self respect that you will imagine how he treats his wife.
    Same man will complain of being in an unhappy marriage.
    I have no respect for him that I dare him not to cross his boundary cos I don't take shit.
    I have no respect for such men but I have 100 % respect for real men.

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  7. I am currently legally separated from my abuser.
    Domestic violence is very prevalent in Nigerian marriages. More than you can imagine. Things are happening behind close doors.

    I kept it secret but when I opened up, alot of people opened up about their secret struggle with DV.

    The silence culture is what is making DV to fester.

    Will you believe that despite all the pictures and gory stories I shared, Nigerian people are still begging me to go back. Saying that God hates divorces and that have I considered what it means to raise a child in a broken home bla bla.

    I am currently seeing a psychologists and praying to God to give me the strength to complete the divorce process despite the pressure.

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    1. Reminds me of mine . I was an undergraduate and had this bf then , he’d beat me at the slightest provocation anytime I leave his friends will come begging even my room mate too cos she was dating his friend. Finally I moved to a new hostel and he tried that shit omo my hostel boys beat the hell out of him as they were beating him they were abusing me fine girl like you de stay with man wey de beat am. That was the head reset I needed , he was banned from coming close to my hostel and I left his sorry ass and those friends I made while with him. Today no man will try that shit with me o, one day my colleague threatened to slap me, I called my brother and he showed up with mobile police men who arrested him for threatening violence, they were wowed in the office and I was suspended for two weeks but he was made to sign an undertaking never to even raise his voice at me. After my suspension I resigned sha but I’m just saying I’m no weakling anymore , I can fight my battles or get someone to do so for me.

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    2. These are the issues I remember when my father used to get physical with my mum and she eventually left with Us,it was my mum's relative that was begging my mom to accept my father because funny enough my mom was the breadwinner.
      I don't just understand,why relatives will be the one begging. After they eventually came back together we the children became her guard anytime he tried to raise his hand at her we are standing as her guard,he then resulted to verbal abuse and curses even to the children,and when you see my father outside you won't believe he is capable of such, people sometimes feels we are exaggerate.

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    3. Strength to you Queen, you're doing great. As for those haters parading themselves as 'concerned' about you that are giving you a devilish advise, tell them to go live with him.

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  8. Emotional neglect is the worst of it all. It kills gradual cos no one knows it or realise you r going through it
    Wat people discus most is emotional abuse and domestic violence
    My mum suffered emotional neglect and dv
    She stayed in d marriage all in d name of she doesnt want people to say "she no get husband head"
    One day we are children gathered round her and asked why she was still in d marriage. She said cos we r girls bla bla bla, yen yen yen
    That's how we changed it for her not to think like that anymore, that no b by force make he carry us enter church cos he dey threaten my mum dat he wont take us enter church on our wedding day n we tell her no b by force mk he carry ys enter church. (Funny enough, na he first dey church entrance dey wait for my sis make them enter church tigether on her wedding day)
    Unknown to us that my mum get madness she just dey hide am.
    She completed her own buildin and that of popsie, and pack all of us go her own house..
    When popsie came back from his station, she tell am.say his room no dey d house
    Popman think say na joke
    Like play, like joke
    Na so dem dey their seperate places until now
    Popman family beg mumsie tire,she no gree
    Since them don separate, na so mumsie dey shine up n down
    Dem even make am part of marriage committe for village

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    1. 🙌🙌 mumcy na strong woman abeg 😂😂

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    2. Kisses to your mummy! I stsn a strong woman.
      Thank God she lived to see a better life.
      Many don't.

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    3. The Original ShugarGirl7 November 2021 at 20:35

      🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

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    4. @my mum's
      Tnk u all
      We are all happily married now
      She is also happy too
      God bless u all

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    5. I'm glad she left but why would she build him a house when she can have two and rent one out?

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    6. @Anony 23:02
      He was sending money home to build house for him
      While mumcy started her own building b4 him

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  9. My ex boyfriend was emotionally, physically and verbally abusive, each time I tried to leave him, he would come begging and promising to change, he never did, even after he was physical with me when I was almost 5 weeks pregnant. I eventually left him, best decision ever! He didn't see it coming. He started harassing me and sending me threatening messages, even sent threatening messages to my younger sister, after that he came begging again, I refused this time, I had made up my mind to leave, he started insulting and threatening me again. I had to report him to NAPTIP and he was made to sign an undertaking not to come close to me.
    I'm in a healthy relationship now with a more empathic and emotionally mature individual.
    My advice: Leave after the first sign, they will promise heaven and earth to change but they never do. NARCISSISTS

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    1. Pls what happened to your child? Does he co-parent?

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    2. @Anonymous 15:12 and your pregnacy, what happened to it?

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    3. See the vultures waiting to hear if she kept the baby or not! Ignore them anon 15.12

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    4. He probably beat her till she had a miscarriage. Foolish girls everywhere

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    5. 😄😄😄😄 18:34, I tire oh.

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    6. 18:34, I see nothing wrong in asking for the baby. You must be one of the ladies whose boyfriends or horsebands beat like thieves, the beatings have affected your brain and you now reason like a mentally deranged woman. That is why you call your relatives vultures for asking about the baby.

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    7. Womb watchers looking for who they'll quote the Bible to. Anon, I'm glad you left his sorry ass.

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    8. 22.58, it is you and the members of your family that are vultures!!! You're the one who has a husband that beats you mercilessly. Stop projecting your failure unto others. Now, run along.

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  10. Hmmmm....
    He stopped hitting me some years back.
    Now ehn, the emotional and verbal abuse is something else.I ignore sometimes,but I will be shedding tears inside me.
    Nothing pleases him.He complains all the time.I am presently, planning to divorce.I can't come and kill myself on top of marriage.

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  11. One was always fighting with his wife. To think that this two are financially stable, so sometimes
    money doesn't quarantee a happy marriage. One day in one of their usual fights, his wife kicked him hard on his manhood, he fell.

    The woman was scared, thinking he was going to kill her when he gets up. She ran to the kitchen and took a kitchen knife for defense. But before she came back he wasn't there anymore. She was confused and started calling family members, confessing what she did to her hubby and how he's missing.

    Unknown to her while she ran to get knife from the kitchen for defense, her hubby who pretended to be unconscious immediately called his brother who took him away through the back door, he too was scared, thinking his wife was going to stab him.

    How two people who professed love to each other andade vows before God and men will turn out abusing themselves baffles me. What happened to the love. One lady told us how she woke up in the middle of the night, it was as if something took her to the kitchen where she took a knife, walked back to the room and almost stabbed her husband who was deeply asleep, not knowing what was happening. May God help marriages/relationships

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  12. Got slaps yesterday cos i asked for money to buy baby things...am 8 months gone...

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    1. You say what 😮😮😮😮, where una dey see this type of horseband. My sister run for your life.



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    2. Did he just start slapping you? Most probably NO!
      You women being abused act stupidly most times. He would beat you blue black and sleep with you, you cannot take pills to prevent pregnancy since you don't want to leave, you want to die there, instead you will get pregnant over and over again for the useless thing. And keep bringing innocent kids into your toxic union.

      In your own case, you don't have money and yet you are receiving beatings and falling pregnant.

      Your mumu no get grade. Remain there and keep chopping slaps since you don't have sense.

      I pray for my daughter to have sense in Jesus name. Amen

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    3. Na wa o. Baby that he placed inside you and that's going to answer his name..he slapped you for asking for money to buy things for his baby? Someone that's supposed to be pampering you. Jeez!!!

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    4. How do you guys end up with such abominable excuses of men? I can't place a hand on it. Didn't you guys at least date for some time before marriage? May God help the both of you.

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    5. 18.25
      You don't have to be so harsh.

      A lot of these men do not start to hit you until they see that you're vulnerable. Pregnancy is a very vulnerable state. I was in a relationship and the first time he hit me was three years into the relationship at the most vulnerable period of my life. I had had two major surgeries in less than six months. Before then I could have sworn he would never dream of doing that. If I didn't already have solid boundaries before then and a strong support system, it would have been difficult to leave.

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  13. I've met girls who say that being beaten by their partners is a sign of love

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    1. I met some during my service year, about 5 of them said it was a sign of love o and called me a stubborn girl for not agreeing with them

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    2. The Original ShugarGirl7 November 2021 at 20:56

      MENT dey do them.
      I have never been in such becz i am quite sensitive and I pull off the plug in time

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  14. My first ever boyfriend hit me once. I made up my mind never to marry him that day. Although i hit him back and threatened him with a knife,he never tried it again with me. He is still unmarried until now

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    1. LADIES PLS DONT EVER PICK UP A KNIFE OR ANY WEAPON TO "THREATEN" AN ANGRY MAN WHO IS BEATING YOU.
      I had to shout so that you will hear well. It is very dangerous. He may collect the weapon and injure or kill you or you may end up injuring or killing him with the weapon. You don't have to go to jail because of one goat, if you don't want to leave him, pls keep receiving your beatings peacefully until you slump and die one day, don't pick up any weapon.

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  15. With all these I read, Lord you know your baby girl loves happiness and enjoyment, nothing will put asunder.
    I have never encountered ill mannered humans or dating any. All the time is to laugh and play.
    Dating mature mind that has conscience and understanding gives me peace.
    God fix the broken homes.

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    1. As in, I too love myself.
      Even raising your voice at me is a NO, because I wasn't brought up to bark like a raving dog.
      I will not tolerate it from anyone.
      My self esteem is 💯.
      How much more one idiot saying he wants to beat me.
      Me?
      ME???
      How?
      YOU will taste your anus with your tounge.
      IDIOT.

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  16. I left a narcissistic ex after suffering all forms of abuses from him. I told him to go and collect the bride price he paid on me and I moved on. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

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    1. Real spirit of Samson 🤣🤣🤣

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    2. Why do you girls fall pregnant for a woman beater? Then you go ahead and move in with him or marry him? You dont value your lives?

      Before I married hubby, I told him any day he raises his hands on me , I will leave the marriage. I meant and still mean it. He never touched me all through our dating period and now, ten years being married, he has not touched me before, he nags once in a while and I put him in his place and that is all. I will never tolerate any beating of any form from any man, never! My last ex only said some curse words to me in anger on phone and I left him. Some of you, your boyfriends will be cursing you and your generation and shouting on you, you will stupidly remain with him until he will start hitting you. *Long Hiss*
      I have started training my daughters that a man is not supposed to beat or abuse his woman in any form, he is supposed to love, protect and care for her. I told them they should not allow any man to treat them like trash. They should leave him at any sign of abuse.

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    3. Anon 18:42, madam chief wife of a saint. Wehdone oo, hiding under Anon to show ur miserable life. Must u come under me to yarn opata. Mrs perfect life,carry yaa sef dey go. Yeye dey smell.

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    4. Must u sound so insensitive? Pls allow good people talk without judging them. Shame

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    5. Madam Anon, see yaa life. Yen yen yen

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    6. It's not just about man man man.
      Any form of abuse from friends, colleagues, distant relatives, neighbours, church/mosque/shrine members, they need go firmly immediately put that person in his or her place.
      It starts from now.
      Building healthy self esteem and self respect do they dont end up giant size foot mats like many ladies have turned themselves to.

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  18. The guy I slapped you know why?
    How can a guy leaves him room and space dey 'shook ' eye for a lady's corner all the time. Someone that doesn't know you not like I have business with him or talk with him.
    I didn 't regret slapping him.
    Warning isn't enough.

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    1. Where is the beginning of this story

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    2. That's wrong.
      As long as he didnt touch you, you had no right slapping him.
      If he had slapped you then you can remove his eyes with a fork.
      Me I carry razor, pocket knife and stun spray. You do anyhow you see anyhow.

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  19. 18:29 be slapping up and down. One day you will meet your doom. How can you slap a man?

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  20. I have not gotten over the physical abuse I received in the 2nd year of my marriage. He promised it won't happen again and blamed it on intense pressure at work... He's never done it again or even suggested it in action or words. He was terribly ashamed of it and begged not to tell. I decided to give him a second chance.

    What happened was that a friend/school mate (male) was in town and wanted to see my new baby and I gave him my address. When I told my husband, he refused him coming and insisted I call him back and cancel, which I found embarrassing. His reason is that the guy is a mutual friend with my ex. The ex and I dated (platonic) in school for less than 2 months before we graduated. The mutual friend eventually came and immediately he left, the blows came.

    Something died in me that day, all the love I had for him died. Nine years and 3 more kids later, I've been trying to feel something for him to no avail. I've become more frigid and progressively loveless. I'm just humane and force myself to get down with him.

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    1. It was an error on his part and he's repented. Please, I beg you, find the heart to forgive him and let go completely. It's been 9 years, God would not hold your sins against you for so long, please extend that same grace to him and let healing take place in your marriage 🙏

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  21. I have not gotten over the physical abuse I received in the 2nd year of my marriage. He promised it won't happen again and blamed it on intense pressure at work... He's never done it again or even suggested it in action or words. He was terribly ashamed of it and begged not to tell. I decided to give him a second chance.

    What happened was that a friend/school mate (male) was in town and wanted to see my new baby and I gave him my address. When I told my husband, he refused him coming and insisted I call him back and cancel, which I found embarrassing. His reason is that the guy is a mutual friend with my ex. The ex and I dated (platonic) in school for less than 2 months before we graduated. The mutual friend eventually came and immediately he left, the blows came.

    Something died in me that day, all the love I had for him died. Nine years and 3 more kids later, I've been trying to feel something for him to no avail. I've become more frigid and progressively loveless. I'm just humane and force myself to get down with him.

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    1. Taa gbafuogi there you no love am but you born three kids for am nine yrs later you better tell yourself the truth

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    2. 1.23 hope you realise there can be sex without love?

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    3. 1.23 I bu onye apari, simply displaying your ignorance.

      You think I should have left right? When all he's done those years was hustle hard and be a faithful supportive husband and father. I've forgiven him, but the cloud of bitter swings it gives has had me struggle to return his love all these years. One moment, I am happy with him and some other day, it's a rough patch.
      I may see a therapist if it continues.

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    4. I think if you want to remain in the marriage and enjoy it, you have to work with him to erase the hurt. That is if the marriage is worth it and from your comment it seems to be worth it.

      There is no need depriving yourself the joy of loving your husband and receiving his love.
      See a therapist individually and together.
      God help you.

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  22. My dad just woke me up now from a sound sleep sister and husband fighting. I have severe insomnia sleep is luxury for me. This sibling can kill and die for a man. They have 3 young children they’re always fighting we’re all tired. Called police anonymously those idiots are dragging their feet attending the property. If one of them dies life will go on

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  23. I am the abuser. I beat my d..k every night. I hope that counts. Beating na beating

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  24. When I was dating my hubby, he never beats me but when we got married ,any small expression from me over what he did I don't like, I will hear Tai as in hot slap, and won't talk about it again. I met one Edo woman ,a pastor's wife ,I told her about it, she asked me if he has always been like that I said No, she told me ok cos he has me wholesale now. She taught me not take it again from him. I watched Naomi the wrestler fight and some moves. On beautiful Thursday morning in the year 2010, as he was going to work, he did it again , I just dragged him back and returned the favour, he got mad and pounce on me, I fought back with everything in me,at the end of the fight, we both sat down ,breathing heavily, he asked me Chi ,where did you get the strength , I replied, where you got yours. He has to call his office to plead that he will come late. Since then till now, he dare not try it cos he already knows he has Naomi the wrestler as a wife.

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    1. 🤣🤣🤣Naomi Abeg no kill me with laughter

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    2. 😂😂😂😂😂

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    3. Na craze dey cure craze sometimes. Happy he has stopped.

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    4. @1.23, when you don't understand the dynamics of a topic, it's best to shut up and learn.

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    5. Anon@11.49, true, if you can't walk away from an abuser, learn to fight back and disarm them. If you don't return their favour back to them, they can't feel what you are feeling. If you keep crying ,complaining and not reacting, you are giving them power

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    6. Yes, some men wait until they feel they have tied you down with marriage and you can't go anywhere, then they start to exhibit useless characters.
      Or when you have a life situation that makes you vulnerable and stuck, maybe pregnancy, child loss, job loss, loss of a loved one.

      That's why I'm pissed when ignorant people opine that a woman MUST have seen the signs so she is weak or stupid for staying wig her abyser

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