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Monday, January 03, 2022

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED OVER AFFAIR WITH MARRIED MAN


All my life, I've never been this confused.

 I'm a good girl and God knows, but please feel free to judge me. I've had failed relationships in the past, they all ended in premium tears. I've been nothing but nice to these men yet they play with me and my feelings.

 What happened recently was that, there's this married man I've been talking to, I met him earlier in 2021, he has been nothing but nice to me. He told me to feel free to ask him for anything and whenever he comes back from his base, I go to meet him. 


He has really been helpful to me financially. I on the other hand, have lost every taste of feelings for men. I can't even date any man as it stands now due to what I went through, my feelings are dead. But I agreed to date this man because he's married and I know I won't develop feelings for him. 


I decided to keep only him for now, since he has been helpful and even wants to open a business for me (I'm a young fresh graduate). He provides for the house, he doesn't like me complaining of money. He's very rich, takes care of his wife so I know his wife lacks nothing. 

A few days back I went to his home town to visit him where he owns a very big hotel. So, there's this young guy that has been asking me out who is also from his side and I know cos the guy told me. 


We live close to each other in the city. He saw me in the hotel when he came to chill with his friends. Ever since then, he has been judging me, cursing me on whatsapp, telling me that I'm cursed and saying all sorts of hurtful words to me.


 I have been feeling soo empty. He said I left a young guy like him to date a married man, he said I'm the worst person on earth. He's making me soo uncomfortable. This particular guy, I don't love him and never planned to date him because he's into internet fraud and he told someone that he wants to deceive me with marriage. Now he has seen me with a married man, I'm just soo tensed because I know he would broadcast it to the world. 


Those who know me as a good girl will start hating me and talking trash about me. I'm crying as I type this now. Few of his friends saw me with the married guy, although he's not an old man.


 This boy has been insulting me since till now. I didn't start dating him with the intentions of hurting some one, he has been the one helping me, I discussed a business plan with him and he accepted to help. I just want him to help get established so I can stop demanding from him, which I've already started achieving since November.


 I'm the first child of my mum and my dad is late. I'm only doing this just to help my family rise, my mum's salary is not enough for us. Now I feel soo worthless and guilty, like I'm the worst person on this planet right now.




Why should you allow someone make you feel so bad?.... why should anyone Judge you? Anyway, let me read comments.

90 comments:

  1. Do you... the world will always adjust.
    That being said, leave the married man and be content with the little you have.

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    1. Stupid girl, dating a married man yet you will say men are scum. are you not also scum for inflicing pains on another woman. Is it not what those men who hurt you did to you by cheating on you. So why hurt another woman. I hate cheats with a passion . Kai. Even that man that insults you too is stupid. Even the married man too is stupid.
      All 3 of you are very stupid.
      Stella post my comment oo pls

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    2. Married man ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

      Come and respond to this chronicle

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    3. What you are doing with the married man is PROSTITUTION; exchanging your body for money. Stop it immediately! Forget about the other guy.

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    4. Mtchewww
      I really want to use one WhatsApp sticker here๐Ÿคฃ

      You have been deceiving everyone forming good girl and now your cover is blown you are shaking.
      If you want to do anything,do it with your full chest.
      Don't use heart break as a reason for dating a married man cus you are breaking another woman's heart.

      About that mumu boy, kindly block him, you don't owe him anything but you need to do better

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    5. ...do it with your full chest..like a push-up bra on a 'size finish' breast.
      #nuffsaid

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    6. Good girl but sleeping with a married man to help yourself and your family. My dear, thank God you are a graduate, get up n look for a job.

      Inukwa Entitlement, want to help my family by sleeping with a married man, was he the one that trained you...no. Why attach your destiny with him to be ruined?
      Secondly, leave married men alone and don't let those things that young man is saying gets to you.

      Real good girls don't misbehave.

      The lady that died inside a tinted car with a married man in Kano(knight House CEO), shebi her father said she was a good girl.

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  2. Hmmmm!!!
    It is well dear..

    Reading mode activated ๐Ÿ˜Ž

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    1. "Say to the righteous, it is well with you" How is dating a married man well?

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  3. Na real wa o! Why is he so salty? He doesn't deserve you at all and it be nice you keep your head high up

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    1. My dear sister cheating on a woman like yourself with a married man, Own your shit and raise your head high . You are not a good girl. You're dating a married man hello?. Get that into your head. Make peace with it and move on. You're lucky it wasnt the wife that came to make a scene in your church , street or workplace. Abeg. Save us the small talk. As for the guy, deny deny and deny . Tell him your man friend is a family friend and nothing more. Step 2, Break up with that man cos it's his wife that's coming next, step 3, you mean you've not gotten something doing since yall been dating?. What a waste of sin. Na caesar fit una.
      Step 4. : repent , go and sin no more

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    2. Thank you o Anon Dee, baby girl, you be bad bish, own it with your full chest and stop wallowing in tears.
      You are dating a married man for fun and you think it will end well? Okay. I have no advise for you.

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  4. So your happiness actually depends on what an irrelevant person say about you? You never see anything then.

    However, your action of dating a married man is way out of point, but this is your life, you have to own up to your actions and damm what people say. If you really want to help yourself and not fell bad, forget about what that young man or anyone else thinks about you and focus on your like. Good luck.

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    1. Jesus,I had to go read again.I never saw where she said she was dating the married man at first.Biko leave the married man alone

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  5. Ignore him and let him do his worst

    Who good geh epp, se good girl will feed your family

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    1. You see as you hid under anonymous to advise her to keep dating a married man? Will this be your advice if it is your or your sister's husband?

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    2. That guy is your nemesis. I wish I could buy him airtime to continue tormenting you. Good girl kor.

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    3. Ms. Sapphire, I love you walai.

      A lot of Nigerian girls will date married men and still feel like good girls.

      You ain't seen nothing yet.

      You are causing another woman pain, if you dont see anything wrong with it, no wahala, same shall befall you

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    4. She didn't want to date the single guy because he is into internet fraud but is dating a married man ๐Ÿ˜‚. Stopit girl! You funny much. Both of them are bad for you. As the good girl you claim to be, please move on and stop justifying your rubbish with helping your family and what not. What stops you from looking for a job as a fresh graduate? So if this man doesn't set up a business for you, what will you do? Didn't you read the story of the air hostess that left the east to come hustle for a job in Lagos and landed a job she gate crashed the job test? I feel you were at the point of your breakthrough but you let the devil get the best of you by agreeing to this nonsense relationship. Retrace your steps please.

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  6. Why will I judge you? Abeg, focused on whatever you know how to d best or whatever that makes you happy and forget about that yeye guy.

    He is pained because he hasn't gotten a taste of you and not because he is serious or something..Don't succumb to his nasty threats and if you notice it's getting too much then get him arrested.. simple.

    Note: arresting him will also expose everything you don't want people to know. So,sit back, think properly.


    Though I'm not in support of you dating a married man because it might later affect you so much.you just need to rewrite your story,this is new year and I know that God will send you a better man that is meant for u

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    1. Yall have used God's name to joke too much, did you read the writeup where she is causing someone immense pain by sleeping with her husband and breaking the commandment.

      Yes, im judging.

      You all are the ones that will advise chronicle writers to deal with their cheating husband's but here saying bladderdash. Omo

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    2. Pinky what stops you from calling a spade a spade?

      Hmmmm

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  7. So there's no other way to make money apart from dating a married man?
    As for the young man,you no fit block am?

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    1. Are the young men willing to give?

      Poster since he promised to establish you take whate you can and leave in peace

      Yes am a woman

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    2. Are the young men willing to give? Is that your purpose instead? To keep receiving from where you didn't work.

      So bedmatics is your J.D.

      Shut up and go and work hard.

      Yes, I'm a woman

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    3. 18:32 ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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    4. 17:48 Of course you're a woman. Who else will utter the nonsense you did and still try to justify it?

      This my gender sef. Entitled bunch!

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  8. sacrifices we do 4 FAMILY... Don't let anyone or anything get to you by using "Emotional Blackmail". I won't judge you but make it clear to everyone that you don't give a F*ck of what they think of you.... do what you need to be done and let both guys go.

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  9. U blame you for making the relationship open, why cant you be coded and get what you want from the man. You can still it shaa , I mean deny everything and keep your game to yourself alone.

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  10. Ignore the moron. Block him on all social media platforms.

    Also, leave the married man alone. That you're young and in need for financial support is no excuse to be close to a married man

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  11. I'm not to judge. Ignore this young boy. Do not allow his hurtful words get to you. Cut all any means of communication with him. BLOVK HIM. If he uses a new number to call you, block that number as well. And pls, do away with the married man, and focus on yourself.

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    1. Cut the benefactor off
      Cash for benefits is called what?

      It is good you had nothing to do with the immature, lousy sore loser

      Block till block industry form

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  12. I don't see where you did anything wrong.Why will you allow someone have this strong hold on you?Abeg ignore him;do you and let the world adjust,people will always have something to say.

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  13. Why are u crying? You are earning money on your back and when someone points it out, you cry. Have u seen where an ashewo dey vex say dey call her ashewo? Abegi. Lemme see road.

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    1. I sha like your comment today. As long as you sleep with a married man for monetary gains, forgerrit you be ashy!

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    2. Nne own your hoeness. You are not a good girl, once you tell yourself the truth nobody can hurt u with it. You are living in denial and that's why the truth hurt you. So you either stop living the life you are ashamed of or embrace it with your full chest

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  14. "I know his wife lacks nothing", you claim. That is not true! She lacks a faithful husband!!!

    You claim to be a good girl/person...yet have no issue sleeping with a married man, nor causing his wife the same pain and anguish, that you suffered under the hands of your exes!

    According to you...men made you cry premium tears, so you in turn started sleeping with a married man, so that his wife will also cry those premium tears. Does that logic sound right to you?

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    1. Abi, it's wrong every way

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    2. Sensible comment! Thank you SMH๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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    3. Osino good girl? My dear you are not a good girl you hear?

      As for that young man insulting you, ignore him

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    4. Thank you SMH.. Very sensisible comment. Some of you bv's are just unbelievable I swear. Awon band wagon commenters. See the way they are encouraging someone to continue dating a married man instead of telling her the bitter truth!later some of you will condemn our celebrities for sleeping with married men! Hypocrites everywhere.. You lot can judge toke makinwa but you cannot judge this one???? Lol
      Dear poster, whatever you do with another woman's husband will be done to you as well.. You better start looking up to your maker for help. That path that you've chosen will no lead you anywhere!!!

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    5. Dont mind her, she doesnt lack anything as if youre her accountability officer. Taar gerrout. You need more than mockery. You never cry, better leave that man and repent. Could be God fighting for the lady thru that man, you may never know. You deserve to be exposed to the world. Gosh...

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  15. So why do you date a married man? You are worried about what people will say or are saying about you and never bother to think about what or how the wife of this man feels? If you have a husband and he is establishing businesses for another woman and lodging her in hotels and keeping her in a house etc. how will you feel? How does God feel about it all? The truth is bitter but here it is, as long as you are with this married man in adultery, you will not have peace of mind. Cut him off and begin afresh; seek God who gives husbands and he will give you your own husband.

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  16. A fraudsters judging a young lady for dating a married man? very hilarious. Not that what you are doing is justified or right but he has no moral standing to judge you in the first place. If someone is going to make you feel guilty then he is the last person on earth who should have that influence over you. He is just butthurt you don't want him and trying to get back at you for turning him down. Who knows he might even have a sugar mummy.

    However I can tell he is really not your cup of tea but the fact that he would broadcast it to the world and your good girl image would be tarnished. You care about what people think of you? Please grow a bone! If the guy cares about your opinion and that of the whole world would he be a yahoo boy without shame? The only person whose opinion should matter to you is your creator. How do you think God sees you? What image do you have in his eyes?

    The deed has been done, don't stress yourself further. True, There are a lot of reasons why you should feel guilty based on your story but the fact that the guy is harassing you is not one of them.

    However, You should leave the married man alone. You are a young graduate so no matter how much you claim to have zero feelings for men you will eventually get married in the future. Would you like a young lady to be sleeping with your husband in the future under the excuse of being from a poor home. You strike me as someone without contentment. You said the man does not like you complaining about being broke which obviously means he has been doling out enough cash for you to do little business with but you are still waiting for the huge business he wants to people for you. After he opens the huge business you won't leave him because he would then promise you a car then you would wait for the car after the car then maybe you would be waiting for a house....you would keep dating him because of one promise or the other when you could have left a long time ago.

    Because you were heartbroken is not an excuse to avoid men and be a heartbreaker to another woman's home. You get hurt so you hurt another what does that make you? no matter what, your excuse is not valid. I am sure the guys who broke your heart also have their own excuses. In life, there is always an excuse to do something. You have been with that man close to a year now. I am sure the wife suspects he is cheating and I wonder what she is going through thanks to you. Yea! he made the vows to stay fistful to his wife butyou can't deny you are a fellow abettor in the disintegration of that vow.

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    1. I agree. You see eh, the fraudster judging her is the most Nigerian thing in her story. Country of premium hypocrisy. He obviously wants to guilt trip her into sleeping with him too, or so he can get the married man's details and defraud him as well. He doesn't care about her one bit. Block and avoid him poster, but also leave the married man and return to God. He does not condemn you.

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    2. What if that guy wasn't a fraudster? May be she wants us to divert the attention to d guy while claming a good girl.

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  17. Who is he to judge you.. block his contact and move on with your life.. Although, you need to retrace your steps.

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  18. Someone says 'Nobody can make you feel small without your permission'

    This guy insulting you and doing all sort, is he so important in your life? Why does his opinion count so much? Can't you block him on all front.

    Yes, it is bad to date a married man but I've learnt never to judge someone again without walking in his or her shoes.

    Can you handle this relationship without having your fingers burnt? Are you sure that you'll not fall in love with him along the line? Are you that strategic.

    Be carefull so that it doesn't help in premium tears for you.

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  19. Do to others as you want it to be done to you..

    You are dating a married man;that should be your worry first and not what the guy says or said..

    Yours is action;the said guys own is words..

    Now how does his wife feel? You have any idea?

    It's nothing compared to how you feel for "mere words" said to you..

    And No I'm not judging you;just stating the fact that you are the one hurting a fellow woman more and just receiving quarter of the repercussions yet complaining...

    Worst sin is when you are doing something bad and still acting ignorant..

    Blaming a fellow sinner just for sinning differently..

    @MARTINS

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    1. You are a wise man.

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    2. When you ask people like these what kind of man they want to marry,they will say they want a God fearing man. But they date other people's husbands and give reasons why they did. You are raving mad!! All of you.

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    3. Thank you!...No Loyalty in these streets๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

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    4. God bless you Martins. She is hurt because she has already judged herself and found herself wanting.

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    5. Aswear, you're wise. She's just bothered about words, but is not bothered about her actions that is causing pain to another, very pathetic.

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  20. He may be sent by God to stop you from SLEEPING WITH A MARRIED MAN,think about it. run to God,repent before its too late.

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  21. What is bad is bad.stop dating that married man. From your write up, you are a naive no-liver girl. Imagine when the man's wife catches you. You can't even stand an ex boyfriend's heat. Can you stand the wife's heat and problems? Must you depend on a man to pay your bills? Aunty, go and get a job. Believe you can do it. Stop selling your body. Have some decency and think about your future.

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  22. So some girls here (going by your comments) have resolved to string married men along in adultery; is that you new year resolutions? I am trembling o.

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    1. I have read all the comments here. No where anyone encouraged her to date the married man.

      Poster,. Leave the married man alone and face your job or business.

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  23. What exactly do you want us to tell you?

    Please stop with all the excuses and get your act together. Some have it worse than you yet they don't sleep with other people's husbands.

    As for the small boy shouting up and down, ignore him and if he broadcasts what he saw, well its the truth so you have to find a way to leave with it, it will surely pass

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  24. Who am I to judge you, but nne first of all leave the married man alone, the man is using you,and will finally dump you when he's done,an I pray he doesn't deposit something bad inside you before dropping your sorry ass

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  25. Not judging you poster,but your not a good girl like you claim,good girls don't date people's husbands...Good girls are content with what their family has and look for better ways to help their family..you say you're the first child,what example are you setting for your siblings.To me the fraud guy isn't an issue, you are as bad as him,if he didn't find you in a nasty mess as such he wouldn't have the guts to judge you,una dey the same whatsapp group.
    Good girl have you bothered to find out how the wife of the man really feels? What if you were her,will you say your lacking nothing?What if another woman was doing this thing your doing to your mother?If you can answer these questions sincerely, then it's OK...There is nothing like judging or not...What is bad is bad..Lets learn to always speak the truth.xoxo

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    1. You couldn't have said it better. I single-handedly trained myself in school without prostitution, worked 4 years post WAEC in order to save money. You must not sell your body.

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  26. Good girl that sleeps with a married man......lol.
    Just do you and pay no attention to the young man.

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  27. Hey sister, I pray u see my comment. pls ignore that stupid boy, u have to learn how to ignore people bcos they will always talk. forget good girl status. Good girl doesn't pay anybody. Continue dating the married guy until he establishes u. make sure you don't leave him until u are settled. Ignore what people say, u are not d first and u will never be d last. I dated a married man some time ago, he later got a good paying job that I'm using to survive today. I left him and married a young man after some time. don't bother yourself about karma bcos even girls that married as virgins their husbands cheat on them too. just do what you have to do and settle your life. Only very few Nigerian men don't cheat, very very very few.

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    1. ๐Ÿ‘Œ those telling her to leave the marriedman like they'd feed and take care of her. polygamy is not a sin,most of them once dated marriedmen before marriage but re now saints.to think it is the same married bvs that sleep around with small guys.

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    2. @Anon 18:46, The fact you're doing something doesn't mean every other person is doing, some of us still have morals and still respect the institution called marriage. I was once married to a cheat, and I never for once dated a married man when I was single and even though we are separated, the last thing I will do is to cause another woman the kind of pain I went through.
      There are more honourable ways of taking care of her family without being on her back.

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    3. Well still wait for your own karma na… e never reach you yet.

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    4. 18:46 keep lying to yourself that polygamy is not a sin.

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  28. Dear poster,how can you let another persons opinion of you make you feel this bad? he saw you and so? are his eyes not meant for seeing things. the guy in question is a low life basket mouth and you should not give him the avenue to rain insults or curses on you. BLOCK HE IDIOT. that being said my sister if that man has good intentions for you as he claims he would not have to date you or sleep with you. DATING A MARRIED MAN IS ALL SHED OF WRONG. i am in the same situation as you just not dating him. he helps me financially too (I'm an orphan and also the first of 3 kids) and he is married i know his wife and I'm very fond of his kids.i accord him respect so he know i don't want the extra "PACKAGE" .I have a job and I'm also a make up artist but of course money is never enough. he gives me whenever he remembers me and I'm always grateful for every penny honesty. but see en the day this man said he feelings for me i jappa o. i cant do it. why this i type this much? 1. TO TELL YOU YOU CAN DO WITHOUT HIM 2. TO TELL YOU HE DOES NOT NEED TO DATE OR SLEEP WITH YOU BEFORE HE HELPS YOU. 3. RETREAT AND PRAY YOUR RIGHT MAN WILL FIND YOU. plenty hugs and kisses o and sorry for the typo error.

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    1. God bless you.

      Poster do you hear? He does not need to date or sleep with you to help you.

      Even if it is sales girl, cleaner, hairdresser, tailor, housekeeper, teacher, etc you can do all these honourably until you can stand on your feet.

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  29. Interesting the young guy is cursing you so. Please delete his contact and face your life, that person will never be a friend to you. He is pained because you are getting easily what he may have to spend time in prison for. He sees that you do not need him for anything and he could never provide for you with what you have become used to. So the only way he can feel better about himself is to lash out at you.

    Now, you make a lot of excuses for why you are dating the married man. You say he is very rich so you know his wife wants for nothing. Please, never speak for a wife when you are the mistress. His wife may indeed lack for nothing material, but your entanglement makes you a thief in her life. No matter what situation a married couple is facing they always have the possibility of working it out and getting back on track, but with you in the midst of their relationship you are a hindrance to healing. So you are young now you only see money and you think of money, emotions and spirituality are at the bottom of your list. And you feel that you being emotionless and thinking of this transactional affair of yours based on just dollars and cents somehow absolves you of the toxic part you are playing in these ppl's lives. Just be aware that who you are today may not necessarily be who you are tomorrow. You think you don't want love and will not desire anyone of your own. But there will come a day of days when you will likely meet someone who you desire to make a life with and your past may come right back to bite you. And if that man who you hunger for and crave should marry you and have an affair with a young new graduate when you are no longer young anymore remember not to shed any tears or get angry because you sowed those seeds in your youth. Just cry into your plush pillows and comfortable mattress and take it like you gave it. Remember that the graduate also needs a helping hand and if you future spouse is the charity foundation that reaches out to uplift her then cheer him on for his big warm heart of gold. And if those sorrows should bypass you and fall on your daughters just do the same and hug their husbands for having a heart of gold helping a poor destitute graduate to fulfill her dreams. I hope you got my sarcasm. Your desires and needs do not negate from the fact that you are crossing a spiritual line and being an interloper in the lives of ppl who took a sacred vow before God and man. Build your foundation on sand and it will go the only way a house on sand goes.

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  30. ...as long as you are actively dating another woman's husband, you are not a 'good girl' drop the facade and own your acts with your full chest!

    It is in owning your acts with your full chest, that you should not give a damn what the random guy thinks. Truth is you do not give a damn about him, you are worried about your public image.

    How long have you been with this man? How long do you intend to stay? How much money/material things will be enough before you call it quits? Then you'd wake up and 6 years have passed and you're still in this...

    You know better, do better!

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  31. The comments for me- I don't want to judge you bla bla bla...

    As for the poster, you're dating a married man and trying to justify yourself for it. If you're dating a married man- own it, abi you dey shame. The guy man is angry and pissed off. Block him and be ready to face the music from others.

    If you're stepping on feaces,you should be ready to dance with flies..

    Good girl ko, good girl ni... Imagine sleeping with a married man and still trying to claim holier than thou...

    Say to yourself- I am a runs girl and own it...I hope you ain't one of those that cuss and troll other runs girls o...

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  32. Madam own your shit! If you want to be a good girl then be, if you want to be a side chick be proud of it. There is no in between in this for you.
    The reason you are so vexed is because you are everything the guy says you are. You are a very very pretentious person. You want the world to see you as a good person but deep down you are not. What is even the definition of good girl?
    Abeg excuse me.

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  33. I hate it when people don't own their shit with full chest. Poster is not worried of sin she is committing ooo but worried of her perfect picture of a good girl tarnished.Poster you are not contented, don't use family issues as a reason for dating married man abeg. If we look well you hardly support the family sef, devil na real guy man, he arranged the guy with porous mouth to catch you, as you be real pretender.

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  34. Compliments of the season sweetheart! A person's judgment or opinion about you, especially a person who plays no significant role in your life, shouldn't cut like a knife unless a part of you agrees with said opinion. It is evident from your writeup that a part of you knows you're on the wrong path. You felt the need to explain and justify your relationship with the married man. Why do you think that is?

    Darling, we don't need to know if he is young or old, rich or poor, black or white. No elegance of eloquence nor emotion ridden speech can obscure the hard facts. You are dating a married man. Just so you know, that he provides for his wife because he is wealthy, wouldn't cushion the pain his wife would feel if she finds out, so stop window dressing what you're doing and own up to the choices you've made. Only then will you feel less judged.

    I'm a married woman and my man means the world to me. I don't fancy any interloper so I can't tell you it's okay to date a married man. Unless for sociopaths and psychopaths, every person has a moral compass, let yours be your guide.

    As for the juvenile doing the most and acting like a little punk, you have to develop a thicker skin and don't allow a person push your buttons so easily. That being said, take an honest look within and figure out why you're this rattled.

    e-hugs and kisses.

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  35. Block the yahoo boy and leave the married man alone

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  36. No good girl dates a married man... I repeat no good girl dates a married man. I think you are greedy and just using your family as an excuse. So you can't work something out with your brain than to depend on a married man? GREED GREED GREED IS ALL I SEE HERE. GOOD GIRL MY ASS.

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  37. I am the kind of person that takes responsibility for my actions. First off, you are the type that wants people to think you are a good girl when in secret na you bad pass. It's understandable. Just own what you are doing with your chest

    Secondly,no one here will cheer you up for dating a married man,so if that is what you are expecting fashy the thought.
    That man does not like you at all. How old are you that you will date somebody's husband and be walking around with him like say una dey do boyfriend and girlfriend. That man is ruining your chances at getting a single guy after him don sell your face finish. You see them married men,most of them are very stupid and selfish that they will feel entitled to be carrying you about everywhere and you na as you no wan get choice shebi na money you dey find you no go tell am mba,Oga,go for front I go come later.

    You see that thing people normally say that if you wan chop frog chop the one wey carry belle. Why can't you ask him to give you a substantial amount of money to do something for yourself and then you stop. Tell him that you are no longer giving him sexual favors till he gives you the money. If he likes you,he will and then after that,block him everywhere make him go back to his wife that is if he will agree to have sense. You have been sleeping with him for a while yet you can't boast of a good money to set yourself up.


    Think of something to do no matter how small and get the money from him then stop. Manage what you have for the sake of your conscience and God. Life is hard everywhere and we have to survive.

    These married men have experience in their side. They can be so patient and understanding and all because they have used their wives to experiment. The time they meet you you will think they are everything. The disadvantage you are doing to yourself is that you will be comparing eligible single guys with them and giving yourself reasons why you can't date them. That's how you will be wasting away your youth.

    As for the Yahoo guy,if it's any consolation,tell yourself that you are both bad people na. One is stealing money,the other dey steal person husband chop. Bone the guy abeg

    Finally,it could also be that one of the reasons you feel God has forgotten you is because He has seen that someone else is helping you na so Baba God come decide to wash him hand commot

    Sorry for the long epistle. Trust me I am not judging you. Just cut that relationship. What's the essence of sinning a sin that's not yielding anything.
    If you continue taking up the man's time that he is supposed to spend with his wife and kids,you sef reason am na. If the woman pray into your way,it will affect you o.
    Kpele

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  38. Uts the audacity of going yo his hometown, no respect for the wife, for the young lad to immediately guess you were dating the owner of the hotel, he must have seen you two in a lovey-dovey moment.
    Come of it leave presence younare not a good girl. This is not me judging you but helping you clear your head by stating that a spade is a spade.
    Baby girl, you can do better.

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  39. Poster you said and I quote ; "Now I feel soo worthless and guilty, like I'm the worst person on this planet right now."

    That is the voice of your conscience talking to you. So if the guy didn't see you, you want to tell us you didn't know that what you were doing is wrong?

    Forget the guy first, you can easily block him on all platforms, but remember God in heaven who see all unhindered. That is who you should be afraid of, not human beings.

    There are many ways to make legitimate money without PROSTITUTION because my dear, that is what you are doing with another person's husband.

    This new year 2022, better set your priorities right and eliminate long throat and greed from your life so that someone will not exchange your destiny with money.

    Better go on your knees and ask God for forgiveness and repent because whatsoever goes around comes around.

    Cheers..

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  40. Where is the chronicle writer that wants single girls from SnM to be chatting with married men for fun? See how this one done enter dance from clap.

    Poster, you shouldn't have agreed to date him. He will steal your youth and ruin your bright future. Focus on getting a job to help your family out. He will string you along till he is tired. Imagine meeting your dream guy in future and he turns out to know the young guy that has been harassing you or even the married man you are dating. Do you think that man will let his friend, brother or relative marry you? Someone I know lost her man after their engagement because of her past waka with a married man.
    The funny thing is that the amount he is giving you may seem like a lot to you now but it's peanuts to him and what you could potentially earn if you truly believe you have a bright future.

    As someone who had offers from married men, from being asked to select any car of choice, to vacations in Bora Bora (this was years ago and I hadn't heard of Bora Bora until he sent pictures of the resort), a house in lekki, to being asked to name any amount as long as I agreed, I will encourage you to retrace your steps and listen to your conscience.
    God is merciful and will make your story beautiful if you genuinely pour your heart out to him and ask him to empower you. I knew how rich some of them were and the way they kept increasing their offer made me realise that it must be temptation from the devil to derail my path. They could get some more beautiful girls for less so why keep trying to get me? I also didn't accept gifts as I always told myself that gifts can indirectly influence me to compromise e.g. like agree to have dinner because they did X y z for me and before you know it.... I made an exception to this rule once. I accepted a phone and lost it exactly 1 month from the day I received it. It was stolen in Church ๐Ÿคฃ. I really liked that phone and I cried like a baby ๐Ÿ˜‚ but I took it as a sign. I was offered a replacement which I turned down and continued using my cheap phone. Take this harassment as a sign.
    I never dated any and God has been more than faithful. Whatever they were trying to lure me with back then, I have and can comfortably get for myself today. While not dating a married man is not a guarantee to success, it's always important to come to equity with clean hands. No do wetin go make you no sleep for night.

    All God wants is a genuinely repentant soul and He will make your story beautiful.
    May the Holy Spirit guide you to make the right decision.

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    1. What an uplifting reflection full of wisdom and victory over the enemy.

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  41. It's funny how you all start with WHO AM I TO JUDGE YOU or I AM NOT JUDGING YOU and then dive right ahead to judge her. Naija logicism is learnt in a different school

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  42. All the comments speak of hurting the wife, going against Gods plan for your life etc. What if the married man is a Moslem and entitled to 4 wives? My dear poster do you and get what you can from him to start your business and be on your way. Do not be greedy waiting for millions. It is not a sin to date a moslem married man and their wives know they could have co wives.
    BLOCK that stupid low life who thinks he can belittle you with insults and threats. He just feels bad as he knows he cannot have you.

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