Monday In House News....

 Hailings....

IN HOUSE MEMO

Having a good day? I hope so!

Hmmm some of you don't know that you have bad mouth but once they get into a Blog fight, they cant stand the heat and vanish for some time.... Is that a better way to handle things? Oh well, if it works for them, why not?

Instead of vanishing and appearing weak, you can stay on and ignore those fighting you, dem must tire!

Anyway, it is what it is and my comment up there does not target one person only

Enjoy the rest of the day.....

E go be!

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IJEOMAS GIST CORNER

I've been settling matter this Sunday evening. One of my neighbors called me and handed over a tablet. She asked me to help her check it out. I looked at it and saw gynomarc written on it. Naso we ask google and found out what the tablets are for.


I thought she's got an infection before she told me that she found the tablets in her husband's pocket and a pack of condoms too. She was so devastated. Chai, i regretted telling her what i saw on google oh.


She told me how her hubby has been avoiding her for weeks. Not knowing he didn't want her to be infected.


Now that she's in the know, I told her to confront him and let him know she's aware of the whole situation using the tablets and condoms as evidence. Lai lai, she sey she no go confront am, that she'll just remove the condoms from the pack and put them back in his pocket so that he'll know that someone has seen them. I talk tire, she sey she no go confront am oh, sey she go leave him for God. Kai, you have the evidences right in your hands, what stops you from showing them to him?????


To think she was crying that he leaves her and their kids to go elope with small girls each time he went for work and have plenty cash. When money finish, he'll come back to the house to leech on her. Aunty show these things to this man, she said No.

Wahala deeeey...... Leave her to decide if she wants to confront him or not.

Remember that the confrontation and letting him know that she knows is not a solution... besides he probably left it there for her to see and understand he is not OK

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HOT MEMO TO SOME TERRIBLE WIVES:

Good day Stella, this is a long piece, but I want to pour out my heart to some wives who are terrible. Help me post in IHN on Monday. Thank you. God bless you.


Our neighbor whom I wrote about one time " The Deeper Life Church husband who married one of the worst women on earth and has been living in the worst form of domestic abuse" has finally walked out of the marriage.


Women, I tell us today, some of us need to do better. Single ladies about to enter into marriage and the married ones ask God to make you a good woman, a good wife to your husband, a good mother to your kids, and to give you a good husband too. Be prepared to be the woman you want your man to be to you.


We the residents of Area 2, who have been witnesses to the abuse of this man in the name of marriage, we are so happy he has grown some balls and left her.


Yesterday, I heard my mom say, "that man had a good job that the woman should just spread her hands wide and be enjoying his wealth, but no, every day one day one trouble, now she has lost him" 

 She comes out chasing this man around the compound, both on a towel, breaking windscreen, tearing his clothes, flinging their baby into his moving car, carrying pestle, carrying scissors, threatening to destroy him, running to his office to disgrace him, Church where he is a Pastor has watched him disgraced a thousand times, cos he married her.


I guess she thought she was the air behind his life, he could never leave as per the Deeper Life doctrine of no divorce. Every day since this man married her with his money, over 8 years ago, sleep and peace jumped out of the window. Pastors and Church members have counseled her to calm down, no way, block married women, men, friends, and family, no way, she shouts morning to night, she can never be calmed. E don happens finally, the man don waka now.


She is just a mere teacher at a primary school for all this noise, what can the father of her four kids do to her to warrant so much disdain. In fact, when their last baby was born we wondered how come they laid together and made another baby with all the ways she fights this man and the way she announces to the world how terrible a man he is. 

You need to see this man driving home with foodstuff, they don't drink tap water but the dispenser water, his kids Dress well, attend a good private school, she drives a beautiful car that her salary can never afford, he drops them off at school and picks them to work, he got her maids whom she beats almost to the comatose state until they leave cos she claims they are witches or he is sleeping with them.


What more can a wife want? All you need to do is be his peace, when I went to visit the family after childbirth her home was so unkempt, and lacked the touch of a young modern lady, not for lack of good properties but for lack of ideas of where and where things should be, cloths on chairs, pasting writeups everywhere, I said to myself that if this woman puts the energy she uses in making her home a living hell in to cleaning and just telling her husband darling we need ABC, her marriage would have been heaven.


As a woman, if you have a caustic tongue, pray and work on yourself cause you are a walking time bomb. Are you a young lady now, look at yourself ,are you the type no one can advise you to calm down and reason well when you are annoyed? change, don't marry anyone's son cause you are a big danger.


Back to my story, I heard she went to the man's office with yet another drama after the man moved out stating that the man does not care for her and the kids.

 The office set up a committee to look into the matter, and the man had to go to his bank to print out his bank statement, come and see transfer upon transfer to her, she then changed her mouth that she did not see the money, they asked her to provide her own Bank statements, madam did not come back again. She went home took a few clothes and left her kids inside the house. She has been gone for a week now, thank God the man comes daily to see his kids, one time she refused to cook and the man came took warmer and with one of the sons to go buy food, she came out shouting give me my son, neighbours had to intervene, see this man running into his car with the son and he came back with food.


She would lock him out of his home, he would sleep with the mallam that sells stuff in front of his house, a home he paid for with his money . One night, the men outside my block had to come to stay outside with him, they called the police on her, she hit him with a pestle and rushed to carry scissors. She don dash the man 3 slaps for where we see am " as I'm having flashbacks I want to scream, may God punish you ten times" but no. We wondered if he had no family who can come throw her out. 

Police told the man that night to leave the marriage, he still stayed o.


He accused her of taking out the anger on his kids each time they had issues. These kids have witnessed so many fights from their parents I pray it does not affect them. Today, it's over. The man kept on saying it's cos of my kids.


There are many wives out there, that man is with you still cause of his kids and you use them as pawns in every fight hmm! pray he no tire like this man one day.

 The man has finally picked his kids and taken them to his new abode.

After her long waka, she must come back, their rent in our block has 3 months and guess she would have to move to a smaller apartment that her teacher salary can afford. All her friends that have been giving her bad advice, hope they come and take away for her now, guess she would find a better man, that man from heaven, Angel Gabriel that is perfectly molded just for her. The leash on her neck is loosened finally. The useless man is gone, he don file for divorce.


I'm not saying there are no bad men, but some women are blessed to marry someone's good son and you have taken that for granted. You can not come and kill another woman's son you hear, if you know you are damaged stay single. He pays your bride price, brings you into his home and you think your role is to make it hell. God is watching you,

 if I no witness this one I for no know say men dey suffer too. In the end, we thank God that marriage is over, cause we were praying against the day when police would be called to our residence and we would have to go give evidence cause she have killed him finally. Thank God for saving him.


Are you a bad wife? your day is coming. I pray that man recovers and heals from the trauma, and if he eventually decides to remarry, may God give him a good wife that would make him look up and say " wow, na so e dey be, so a home can be quite like this"


Wives, women let us strive to do better, ask God to help you. Don't say women this woman that, This piece is for wives who have good men at home and are misbehaving.




A lot of thoughts crossed my mind while reading this.

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PINKYS CORNER

Don't Hate What You Don't Understand


Animals don't hate and we're supposed to be better than them..Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealously, and envy.


How on earth do you expect yourself to win a race with someone who is free while you are carrying baggage? Are you not tired hating people unnecessarily? You can't hate anyone without hating yourself stylishly. The most wicked tools that destroys man's destiny is willingness and readiness to hate what you don't understand.


Martin Luther King, Jr said, Men often hate each other because they fear each other; they fear each other because they don't know each other; they don't know each other because they can not communicate; they can not communicate because they are separated.


Allow God to come into your life in order to make your life better than ever. Some of us are suffering because of hatred. You hate people without them annoying or offending you. Some of us will continue to pray till eternity and God will tend not to answer our prayers because we have caged some people in our heart(hatred).


You think you know it all, then be yourself and become an island of knowledge. May be by then you will realize that he who think he is wise is the most foolish being on earth. 

Change your mentality and stop the following:

*Stop hatred.
*Don't hate what you don't know.
*Forgive those who sinned against you.
*let love lead.
*live and let live.
*leave and let's leave(If you know you know).




Nice on Pinky.

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FROM FRIDAY NIGHT POST

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