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Friday, February 04, 2022

Singer Onyeka Onwenu Says If She Didn't End Her Marriage It Would Have Killed Her...

In an interview with media personality Kikilomo Atanda-Owo published on Thursday, 70-year-old Singer Onyeka Onwenu stated that she did not want her marriage to end.






She said: “I went through it, it was difficult because I really didn’t want my marriage to end but I couldn’t take it anymore, it would have killed me. I always say that is the truth and it was not good for the children to live in that kind of environment where the mother is depressed, the mother is carrying the weight of the whole family.


“I raised my children from kindergarten to master’s degree. My husband didn’t pay school fees for one day, didn’t buy clothes, didn’t pay for holidays, didn’t give me housekeeping money but he was a nice and kind and generous man and basically, there was control where if you didn’t do the things he wanted, ‘well I’m not going to help you, I’m not going to give you money and I would like to say this to Nigerians, any man who has children, has a family and decides not to take care of them, you’ll have to answer to God.”

Onyeka is mother of Tijani Charles and Abraham.


from Global Times Nigeria

76 comments:

  1. You were the headache to that poor man, I thanked God for him.

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    1. Do you know frustration can bring the worse out In Any human

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    2. Hian,what do u mean she was his headache anon?

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    3. Onyeka is an arrogant woman.
      Forget shes a public figure.

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    4. If Mercy wasnt a celeb for us to see her "female philandering" ways, she'd come out 2mr and paint herself the saint and victim, with proof that she raised her son all alone, forget these women.

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    5. Inukwa, husband, was she married?

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    6. Very arrogant. She did something to my sister one day and I still remember until today. Na clothes dey cover most of us. What most humans carry under those beautiful clothes is like that box that has got all the diseases in the world.

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    7. Co-ask @Lyndy.I never knew she was married

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    8. She was married o. To Chief Ogundele, "a Yoruba Muslim", if you understand the quotation marks,you understand Onyeka's frustration.

      Lagos marriages end in Lagos,be wise adanne,be wise.

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    9. I read the part "if you didn't do the things he wanted"

      Maybe the man wanted her to stop singing which was not possible on her part or she was stubborn and the man punished her by refusing to do his responsibilities, which is bad.
      Anyway, we thank God that she and her kids are fine.

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    10. was he not a married Yoruba man ..

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    11. She was such a headache and so arrogant that a foen adult refused to feed or fund his children for over two decades. You guys are just...

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  2. Stella, who was her husband?

    Marriage is a huge unpredictable journey. You can either enjoy or endure.

    But peace and love in marriage is the best.

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  3. So many deadbeat parents out there, I am happy you left and made something of your life.

    But I must be living in a cave oo, cos I didn't know she was ever married not to talk of having kids sef

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    1. She was married to a married man hence the need to hide him.

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    2. She was married to a Yoruba Muslim. I will not judge the man based on Onyeka's side of the story. I would like to hear the man's own too.

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    3. It was just rumors here and there then,alot of people didn't really know her marital status cos she didn't disclose it, moreover SM wasn't available then! It was Hearts,Hints, Encomium and the rest we make do of then

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    1. She had children for a married man what does she except

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    2. Ok na, small small gist don de come out

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  5. This control of a thing is so true. I know someone whose man wanted cohabitation rather than marriage or risked being homeless with a toddler.

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    1. Playing into the hands of a selfish and manipulative man is a terrible thing

      Add pregnancy, child or children, no mind of your own and low self esteem ........

      Lord have mercy

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    2. Since Christ Okotie jilted her at Enugu law shool she vowed not to marry.

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    3. @ Jet li , why do you have a personal vendetta against men? Did they hurt you so bad?

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    4. @Anon9.45,are you absolutely sure of what you're saying or it's hearsay?She's 70 and Chris is 63,what is the connection?

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    5. Jet Li is just fine.......... One of the most objective and straight to the point Bvs I know.

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    6. Anon, from her comments, Jet li only has issues with irresponsible ungodly men, unlike the other "all Nigerian men are evil" anon.

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    7. Thank you Anons for the clarification

      Anon 10:07
      We live in a time where many of those who are supposed to be leaders do not even know what leadership is about

      Responsible strong focused Godly men understand that they are not called to a life of "anything goes" They have standards

      They lead by relying on GOD and refusing to downgrade themselves to living small lives, thinking small , playing stupid childish dangerous games, living in denial about their foolishness , blaming everyone else for their bad choices and arrogantly living in reinforced ignorance

      They understand that being a man is not just a gender or an age but a responsibility. They are a treasure and must try to out replicate the aggressive mentoring the feral are on a mission of.

      Married men wasting precious time and money pursuing what is not lost, listening to advice from people more foolish than themselves, too lazy to pray and tend family prayer altars ,incapable of protecting and guiding their wives and children, feeling entitled to respect yet lacking it for themselves, trying to oppress and coerce others (bullying), not mentoring positively deliberating their sons because they themselves lack understanding so continuing a vicious circle of wildness

      Single ones being workshy uncultured, entitled, playing daft games, Russian roulette with their future and mean/selfish justifying it as "sharpness"

      It is appalling that society's breakdown is in fast forward because of arrogant ignorance by those who refuse to step up to the plate and take responsibility for deliberate and consistent change. Yet they are coddled, deceived and made excuses for , while they fail miserably daily. Standards of behavior, carriage, comportment, attitude and lifestyle have downgraded to almost nothing by those who don't even know their self worth. Don't get me started on the crassness and careless flinging of words disguised as "street". Street is not sounding like a tout, street is being smart on your feet, navigating pitfalls and maximizing good opportunities in life to pull yourself by the bootstraps while staying optimistic and resilient trusting GOD.

      The difference between the right ones and the wrong ones is like night and day!

      The good ones are like stars in a dark sky

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    8. Jet Li 😍😍😍

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    9. Wow Jet Li, Wonderful 😍πŸ₯°πŸ˜πŸ₯°πŸ˜

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  6. He didn't give you money for housekeeping and etc but 'he was a nice and kind and generous man...'

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    1. Holes boku for this story. She’s not a saint in this, but a man should provide financially for his kids, non-negotiable.
      Shame on men who deprive their kids to spite/punish their mum.

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    2. Just the way nobody can teach you comprehension, nobody can give you common sense.
      I'm sure you didnt see the 'control' there. Or probably didn't understand that too.
      And obviously... being nice and kind and generous to OTHER people now. People will have to break the most basics things down as if they are talking to toddlers. Pffft!

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    3. That confusion tire me too

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    4. I see how good you are in comprehension, anon 9:15. Where did u read "generous to other people"? You think being generous is all about money?

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    5. Some women will raise the bar so high for the men, schools he cant afford, vacations ke, when the man is struggling to feed... onyeka seems like that kind of woman

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    6. Honestly I don't gerrit!

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    7. 9:38 he could still have done something no matter how small. He could for example open accounts for the kids and save for them till they become adults. No excuse for being deadbeat.

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    8. Poster 8:43, a friend told me she almost left her marriage. Why? People couldn't understand. To outsiders he is nice, kind and speaks well. But to her it was different. She said if she tells people they won't believe. Because his attitude outside is different from his attitude at home. These things happen.

      There are people who know how to take care of people outside than in their homes.

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    9. Completely contradictory. Anyway, the men are usually the castigated ones especially when claims of ' I raised the kids myself' comes up. Maybe the kids should speak up. Al these social media claims are just tiring.
      That it is your truth doesn't make it THE TRUTH.

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  7. Oh wow,growing up, I thought she was never married, or so I heard, that she decided to just have two kids without marriage.

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    1. That was exactly the situation

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    2. That was the impression she gave, she even said marriage wasn't meant for her. There were young and impressionable girls who were deceived. Successful young women are still ranting trash today and like in the past impressionable young girls are mislead. Today, even some married women are talking like idiots , lying about their marital homes and deceiving young girls

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    3. No "celebrity" should be anybody's standard of behavior


      Rather admired aspects

      I like her hairstyling consistency, it suits her
      I like her dress sense quite age appropriate
      Also her not so inordinate thirst (so far) for social media validation aka chasing clout

      Her lifestyle doesn't serve as a yardstick however

      Parents please work on your children's self esteem and awareness of right & wrong

      Work on yourself and lifestyle so you are their role models
      You will give account for how you led them

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  8. Let's hear from the man too first,I've promised not to put mouth on any one sided story

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    1. Go and find the man na.

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    2. Best comment

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    3. U go wait tire.

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    4. That is wisdom Treasures.

      Even the Bible says so:
      Proverbs 18:17 The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him

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    5. Still doesn't mean that if his case is examined his case will automatically hold water. For now, all we have to go on is what Onyeka has to say.

      Na dem sabi, but no matter how Onyeka's real or perceived attitude is, she stood as mother and father and raised her sons. I can never support a deadbeat parent.

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    6. 12.24 no one is claiming it will hold water, all we are saying is it is the fair thing to hear his side.

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  9. You bever know what one is going through until you walk in their shoes. Till then ... Judge no one.

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  10. I am not assuming for one second that she is not telling the truth, but she is 70years old, i am guessing the man might be older. To what use is giving the public this information...doesn't make sense to me....and you went ahead to say he is nice and generous...lets keep certain thing within the family.

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    1. Honestly don't get tye use of this info. I'm sure they have gone their separate ways a long time ago without anybody knowing. It is not like the man was dragging her that she sees the need to defend herself. Certain things are better left unsaid unless their is need for it.

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  11. How was he kind and generous and still not providing for u and the kids? I’m not understanding πŸ˜’

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  12. In her days as a superstar, I was a fan & followed her itineraries. When it was rumored she secretly got married to a rich & influential Yoruba man , (can’t remember again, either married or divorced man) , I was happy for her. She also had her two sons immediately, in quick succession & that was d last I heard of her marriage. Those boys should be in their 20s or early 30s now. Each time she was asked in her interviews about it, she stressed that it wasn’t for public consumption but a private setting. Yes, it’s her life & decision & we gotta accept it d way she desires to let it be. Besides, d privacy helped to avoid d controversy that would have arisen , if there was any. Congratulations , auntie Onyeka for a supposedly fulfilled life. It is well.

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    1. I guess that privacy has expires at 70

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    2. The kids are grown now and doing fine. So she is free to talk now. She looks damn good at 70 though.

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    3. Poster 09:41, I have realized that people in that age group talk alot. The things they had kept in wraps come out that time. Example with my parents.

      That comes with age. However, there are different things that happen to people who are old or in that category. But talking is one of them. Old people just want to talk.

      I call my Mum for a 5mins how are you etc. We always end with 15mins to 20mins. She just goes on. Most times I let her talk.

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    4. Na waoh. I hope she still have her filters though. Cos that is the one that irks me the.most about talkatives, those without filters that open mouth waoh that you will almost want to lock them at home while going out for fear of embarrassment.

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  13. False prophet ®4 February 2022 at 09:25

    I see this statement as a "conundrum".
    "I really didn’t want my marriage to end"... you cant fight to stay in a marriage if it was completely horrendous, there was some ratio of good in it, tell us about it, not just the bad.

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    1. The thing tire me False Prophet. We see it a lot. Even in the chronicles here.

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  14. Emotions manipulation is very bad.

    I have a lot of questions to her but since I am not living with her, let me stay out.

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  15. At the end of the day,what matters is that,you are fine and the children turned out well.Shikena🀷‍♀️

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  16. This woman was very beautiful sha. Very very beautiful! She is still beautiful for her age.

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  17. Never knew she was married o. Tor thank God you came out alive.

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  18. Iyo Koko iyo Koko iyo Koko,Kai je na nke bishop na 5 akuo naπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒ loved this her song then

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  19. She never wanted her marriage to end Eyah
    Some men and the need to control your life once you are married to them. The man thought she won't be able to cater for the children hence the reason he stopped taking care of them.
    Thank God for your life

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    1. Any man who can but refuses to take care of his children despite whatever issues he has with their mother is evil

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    2. And vindictively spiteful

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    3. And vindictively spiteful.

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    4. And vindictively spiteful/mean

      Old age is an eye opener for such men

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  20. I am surprised that she got married i always had the impression that she is a single mother na wah for this kin story

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