FRIDAY In House News....

 Hailings and Happy Weekend...........

IN HOUSE MEMO

Hey oh, you dont want what was promised or what? I just dey wait for your akant since....

Wait oh..... BV DRoyalty how far nah.... Last i heard of you ,you have more than one kid now... How are the kids? Chei you worry me inbox sha i no go lie.... I wish you all the best.... I remembered you today cos someone chatted with me on whatsapp and laughed  ''kikikikikikiki'' and i though of you.... God bless!

Anyway how are the rest of you keeping up with the Friday hustle and bustle? I love Fridays and Mondays well well....

In house news will be back on Monday by Gods Grace........

Fish stew and Rice with plantain and corn salad on my mind

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD




One of the most competitive people I've ever met in my life are parents. I never knew how strong the competition could be until I had kids myself. Right from birth or even pregnancy the competition starts.

One of the first sentences I heard was a question about my baby’s birth weight at the post natal clinic and the bragging and comparison started.

Questions like when did your baby start sitting, crawling, walking and talking? would lead to hours of comparing and all manner everywhere mothers are gathered. A lot of mommy shaming, baby shaming would go on. Putting unnecessary pressure on the moms.

I thought it would get better as the kids grow but it’s not true. I still see and hear the “my child can recite 1-100 can your child do so” . If your answer is no, one would get a lot of shaming and advises about changing schools, extra lessons etc from the other parents.

I am tired of hearing my child is this, my child is that. To be truthful a lot of this conversations are not spiteful, just parents who love and are proud of their kids trying to show it but a lot of times it’s comes off has bragging. I used to do this a lot too but I learnt my lessons the day my child was having a melt down in church because he couldn’t take the loud noise anymore.

I have a routine I use to calm him down, learnt from a specialist. The first thing is to try to get him out of there and when I can’t I have a series of activities targeted at calming him down. Before I could say Jack, I had four women sweeping in trying to help, trying to touch my child and that only scared him more.

I know their intentions were good but boundaries have to be respected, I wasn’t happy with the situation at all and as if that wasn’t enough they went on and on about how they handled their kids at that stage. A lot of the conversations were just bragging about how they are better moms and they were condescending too. From insinuations that I was raising a mommy’s boy, to how I needed to pray more for my kids.

No matter what I said, they wouldn’t just leave me alone, as one person was leaving another “older mom" was coming to advise me. What would have taken about twenty minutes to calm my child down ended up in a two hours debacle. All because a child kept begging to go home.

One person even called the pastor to come and pray for my children. She claimed that children with social anxiety disorders actually needed deliverance, my sister was with me in all this and I could see the rage on her face. I just had to keep my calm because I knew the strings she would have pulled to get the pastor to leave the ton of work he had to do immediately after service to come and pray for my kids. The poor man was exhausted and flustered. I couldn’t walk out on him.

My sister kept asking how I managed to keep my cool and I told her the angrier I got, the more I remembered times I had given unsolicited advise, jumped in on helping others with their kids without permission and instead of going crazy, I am determined to never ever forget how I was made to feel at that moment and ensure I never do the same to someone else.





Nice one.. This teaches more than just motherhood...  Can someone tell us what this writeup teaches apart from Motherhood stuff?.... The best will get Data....My PA will choose, make i test her motherhood skills too..Hahahahhahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha








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PINKYS CORNER

IN TIME LIKE THESE


Note: Don't correct my THESE for THIS until you read and comprehend.


The issue in this life we are now, is so much and by the time I'm done with THESE, the only question that will need an answer is What do we do?


FEAR and AGE walks in opposite direction, more reason you see that, old people get scared easily than the young ones(if you know you know). The problems in time like these has made so many individuals to be so calm and also made the calm ones to be wild.


You wake up in the morning, you drive out to your office and a Keke or Okada rider will just over-take you in order to cause accident and will still tell you "se ya wayre ni"?(meaning, are you mad) being a Lagos person, I'm sure you know what I mean. then the spirit will come into you and tell you to drive ahead of the okada man to show him that you are mad truly without thinking twice but the consequences of your actions will then open your blindfolded eyes.


In time like these, you hear and see husband, using his wife for ritual, wife killing her husband and also selling her kids all because of money. In time like these, your children which you thought you have kept the fear of God in them becomes wayward and left you with no options than to cry. In time like these, depression becomes the new diseases and leads to suicide.


In time like this, some individual lives a fake life to deceive you and make you think your effort is worthless but these same people becomes sick everyday and the best doctor in the world can never have solutions to their problem why? because each time you live a fake life, you die every minute with a disease called FEAR of the UNKNOWN.


In time like these, the scripture is not scripted for you to understand without you needing God to interpret and break down his words to you, more reason you see people twist his words to their own selfishness. Read 2Timothy from verse one to the end(let this be read from a simpler version so that you can digest what it means).


In times like these, hunger, poverty, greed to mention but few has taken over the whole place which has led so many individuals into wrong doings and leading some astray but God has always made his mercy and grace available for us in order for us not to be a victim of circumstances.


My question is WHAT DO WE DO?


**Have faith in God..(Hebrew 12v2)


**You must have an Anchor.(someone reliable)luke 22 v 31-32


**Make a new friend everyday and delete the bad ones.( This is a Chinese proverb)


**prayer : this is a key to open all doors that leads to breakthrough and closes doors that leads to problems.


**live a life of holiness: Don't be wicked, love your neighbors, appreciate the little help from people.


**Fear God..Eccl 12v13-14


NOTE: The word I detest is my life is "Heaven helps those who helps themselves"


for the above, you might have a different explanation but wait a bit.....Heaven only help the helpless and not those who has solutions to their problems. God can help you when you allow him fight for you and you make him understand that, you can't do it all alone. How do you expect a father to help someone who has already helped himself? Heaven helps the helpless and that's why the bible said, he didn't come for those of you who believes you are born again and righteous but he came for me and any other individuals who are not righteous and also a sinner like me.


I pray his grace continue to lead us through in Jesus name.

Oga Pinky nice writeup.... The THESE you used fits perfectly so why you dey been wan argue from the beginning?

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FROM A CONCERNED BV -  Security tips for your sim card.

If you or your loved one are leaving the country for a long period of time; go to your bank and tell them to remove the number linked to your account and use your email instead.

Reason being that networks recycle sims so if you abandon your sim card it would be recycled and sold to another individual, if that sim is still linked to your bank account, the user of the sim would be getting all the alerts and can easily buy recharge cards or do whatever they like with your money.

I've attended to a customer who came to complain that by the time he came into the country his account was almost empty, someone was just busy buying recharge card from his account and carrying out other transactions from his account.

You can call your network provider to activate KEEP MY NUMBER if you still want to retain the number while abroad.

Wait oh... how would the person that gets the number have the password to the account? Or the phone number is enough access?

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