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ADVICE NEEDED URGENTLY
I need some tips. I dropped a comment before on women married to divorced men. So I am one.
I need some tips. I dropped a comment before on women married to divorced men. So I am one.
Well, my husband of 4 years doesn't want more kids, and I need 2, we have 1 together, he has 3 with his ex wife. And spends upto 6 hours or more per visit.
He visits 5 times a week after work and comes home very late or doesn't return at all. I have complained to no avail.
I have the ex number and if I call to enquire if my husband is at her place, she does not pick, onfact she doesn't pick my calls, but if her kids visit on some weekends, she will call to ask of their welfare and I pick. Now what do I do make my husband feel at home and spend more time with us?
He is always with them. And I am feeling a bit insecure.
The ex wife does not care about my home, coz I feel she should quel the visits somehow, reduce it and advice him to lessen the visit. The children can come to my house, instead of him going there every time. Plus how do I make him give me another baby?
He uses protection to avoid me getting pregnant again, and he can afford to cater for even 10 kids. I don't know hot tackle these issues without creating problems.
I have endured these excesses a lot. I am not leaving the marriage but is this what I'd endure till his kids are all grown? Because when I raise the topic, he gave a me strong warning never to attempt stopping him from visiting his kids again....
Wait.. are you sure he is divorced? Or they are divorced but still together? Or she divorced him and became the side chic? It seems your husband is still in love with his ex..Five times in a week? HA!!!!
Wait.. are you sure he is divorced? Or they are divorced but still together? Or she divorced him and became the side chic? It seems your husband is still in love with his ex..Five times in a week? HA!!!!
Before I even read the last paragraph I knew your marriage is suffering from power imbalance. He gave you a stern warning not to raise a topic and that’s it. You can’t do anything because you know what the imbalance is. My friend doesn’t want more children. The lady married him for reasons they both know. Her fertility clock is ticking while she patiently waits for him to change his mind. She needed and needs the marriage for her own reasons and this is one thing he refuses to give her.
ReplyDeleteYou have to decide if this life is okay for you. Once you decide it’s okay, you’ll actually have peace. You’ll enjoy his money as long as you don’t speak against what he’s doing. Then one day if the lord has mercy and a condom breaks or you get some live Sperm from it and put it inside you at the exact right time or your H finally decides you’ve been obedient and submissive enough, you may get a child.
If you really want to charge things up, one day take your child over there after work so he can hang out with dad and sibs. Tell H the chil kept asking so you brought him over .....and stop calling the lady. If she calls you, don’t answer
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DeleteSorry for laughing but it’s like your husband has gone back home o
Did you guys discuss the number of kids you were going to have, cus I can reason with him…especially this present economy.
Kindly sit him down and ask him what is really going on. If he wants to go back he should come out plain and stop making you look stupid.
I have heard several exes getting back together, I am not saying that’s your situation but have an open discussion with him.
About her not picking your calls, I think you should talk to her about it, if she doesn’t change, don’t pick hers either.
You can also snoop if they aren’t ready to tell you the truth.
when a woman gets suspicious is mostly because there’s something to suspect
Push up (original)
Just reading where you said he can afford 10kids.
DeleteI don’t think he is actually interested in more kids, don’t trap him or he may hate you.
Just have that discussion and make him understand you are okay with whatever he tells you.
Push up (original)
Your husband is still inlove with his ex and might be hoping to get back with her,that's why he doesn't want to have more kids with you,so as not to complicate things further.
DeleteYou need to have this talk with him and let him know that your concern is not with him visiting his kids but the ex.
In the meantime, if you haven't already, start siphoning money and establish yourself oh cos you'll never know,plus it's obvious you like the man's money
Nigerian women who do una? Just reading these comments, i can see why Nigerian women are always suffering and smiling in marriage. Can the man have a reason other than he doesn't want more kids? Many people who are divorced, men and women, prefer not to complicate issues and be tied with children in a second marriage, more practicable these days, nothing to do with attachment with first wife or wanting to go back to her. Maybe he just doesn't want to share the time with his kids with the first wife, maybe he just had one with you just to reassure you of a wife position, many reasons....
DeleteNow just see how most of you advising her to temper with the condom and have a child with a man who doesn't want, just like many of you think pregnancy can make a man commit to you, love you or change. Like, how do you women think? This is a second marriage, she is not even sure of and the man doesn't seem interested or should i say ready to go back to his wife, this woman has not told us if she is a housewife or not, but you want her to bring another human being in this kind of situation then what? When the man leave, she will have a battalion of kids which she might even resent when she can't move on with another man? Children when the man die, she might not even have the means to care for? He is very committed to his first family, and those kids come first as you can all see, and you think a child is the solution? I don't see a Nigerian woman coming out of this rationality and this mindset, it is so sad to read most of the comments, like, your lives revolve around a man and the only way to keep him is to have a child. Kai!
Poster, you can't force a man to be a father or a husband, he needs and has to want it. If you so much desire a child, divorce him and go get you a child with another man but if you want to remain there as you implied, be open about your desire or wait until he agrees to it. You tempering with the condoms is so low and desperate, you are not a concubine but a wife, imagine him using condoms on you, don't you feel so low? Why have a child with someone like that? Why? A man who obviously is not choosing you as a first option, spend less time with the child you have together, why do you want to bring another human being into the mess? Like how?
He is still sleeping with her. They all do . Lay your hands on all his condoms and pierce the centrr once with a needle . He can never eat his cake n have 'em. When u get preggs dont tell 'em gal
ReplyDeleteSorry o, he is still in love with his ex. I am sure when he had issues with the first wife he quickly moved on to the next available person. Some people don't wait to see if they could work things out. In the end when they move on they start regretting and that is the state your husband is in . It has downed on him that the both of them are still in love. Had I known comes at last.
DeletePoor laddy. Try and use this opportunity to build yourself so that you won't lose anything if you eventually leave him. Save to start off a better life when you leave him. Don't start any business now until you leave so that he won't know your plans because I see from your write up that he is a tyrant
I can't imagine being in a marriage where I don't have a say in how my husband runs his life,to the extent of him warning me to stay off..No no!
ReplyDeletePoster,No two ways about it!
He is still gbenshing his "real" wife and she is enjoying the attention.
Since you said you ain't leaving to find yourself real happiness, Manage him like that nau.
Even if you succeed in making him get you pregnant,He might ask you to abort it which will most definitely cause more problems that will chase him away completely.
Kritq, abeg make I perch here.
DeletePoster, there is no rational approach anyone can advise you that can get you the outcome you desire since leaving him is not an option but guess what, I can tell you how to channel your prayers and get the exact outcome you want by yourself. See, you need to start praying for that woman and tell God to bless her so much that she will not "need" your husband. I know I sound stupid but I promise you, it will get you the result you want. Pray that she finds martial settlement where she is so deeply in love and loved in return that she will stop desiring her vomit. You need to work on and with your mind in other to get the desired result. And in working with your mind, it means you must rid yourself of any anger or I'll feelings towards her and channel as much genuine love at her as possible.
Trust me.
I am sure this woman left her husband because of infidelity and here she is.
Ms Saphire, how are you? I understand your advice, however let me contribute; while she prays for the other woman, let her also pray for the "man" wisdom is important, having a good relationship with the Holy Spirit is key, Empathy is important as well. Stella has already said all I had in mind when reading her chronicle...She needs to be certain "the man" doesn't still love his "first wife" and how much love and respect he has for her the poster. The kids too should learn to come to their Father's house and bond with their step mom. Let me stop here. Poster Pray for direction.
DeleteI am fine Diamond.
DeletePoster, the trick is to direct as much love as you can to everything to gives you problem. Let me disect it a little for you: God is Love and anything you direct Him at has no choice but to conform to your favour. What is that thing or person? Direct as much undiluted Love as you can to them, wishing them well, speaking about them with kindness and fairness, recognising their issues and praying for them...see, the outcome is as sure as sunrise and sunset.
Take these words to the bank.
Why not pray for herself to be so successful and rich that she wouldn't need him to take care of her kid(s) if he chooses not to stay? That warning indicates that he is more financially stable than her and believes she can't do without him.
DeleteThey're still sleeping together, probably regretting the separation. He's still invested emotionally, financially, time and otherwise in his ex (?). Unfortunately, this is what you will endure till the kids are grown or something big or strong happens before he changes . Quite a pity.
ReplyDeleteI think they are still together from what you wrote. He gave you a stern warning? Visits 5 times a week? Something is definitely going on, please ask questions.
ReplyDeleteFive times per week ti poju...And 6 hours or more per visit?Please don't call your rival to ask of una husband again,call your husband instead,he has phone abi?
ReplyDeletePoster, were you seeing your now husband when he was still married to his ex? It looks like you are the side chic in this equation.
ReplyDeleteTell your husband you will go on birth control so you both can go raw. Then after sometime, go off the birth control without him knowing and get pregnant then pin it on the birth control failing. He's probably told the ex he's no more sleeping with you and you both are in the process of divorce but when the ex sees your long stomach, her brain will reset.
You too sabi
DeleteI dint just want to say it
He is and has always been inlove with his ex
Sometimes some people share a top notch chemistry that nothing can actually make them stop having sex.
If the poster traps him with pregnancy he will be very angry and may chase you.
It’s not just okay to say you can endure it until your kids are grown, what happens when she gives him an ultimatum and you get kicked out.
I think you should stop bothering them, whatever got them separated in the first place will stick it’s head up again especially when they don’t have a common enemy “you”
Push up (original)
Anon push up original, you seem to be contradicting yourself. Are you agreeing to the poster getting pregnant or not?
DeleteI am not in support of getting pregnant
DeleteI am agreeing with the fact that his ex told him not not sleep with her hence him using protection.
She has decided to remain there so my advice is to have a talk with him or snoop and get her answers, or mind her business until he falls for her again but most importantly save a lot of money cus he can decide to chase her out.
Push up (original)
What she needs is a fake pregnancy stomach and make sure the first wife sees it.
DeleteI completely agree with Sdk. I believe if there was a divorce, he acted hastily by divorcing and marrying you. I'm sure if you were not there they will probably reconcile. Pls stop calling his ex to find out if he is with her. Don't ask.
ReplyDeletePoster your husband is still much married to that woman, both are using your head to drink garri. How can he visit his ex wife 5 times in a week because of his children, no way that man is still in love with his wife and he place her above you. Your husband’s ex might have told him not yo get you pregnant again and he may agree just to show he is loyal to her while they both enjoy themselves leaving you to suffer.
ReplyDeleteYou are the side chick oh just forget the whole story. Ask for the divorce papers and find out for yourself if they did the needful. Whenever his kids are in your house please do not also pick her calls to balance the equation. That woman want to get back at you that is why she is drawing his attention to her to make you feel bitter
You may be the reason why he spend more time with her than you cos you have been nagging him into staying home daily, you have been talking to him about making more babies, you have been mounting pressure on the man. Men don’t need pressure or stress especially when they have children.
I will tell you to give him some space, behave like you don’t care about having another baby. Make him believe you have given up on having babies just to win his trust and heart back then you make him have Sex with you without protection. Don’t let small issues to destroy your happiness, that woman is out there to make you feel terrible.
Lastly, you can have a heart to heart discussion with your husband the reason you want another baby atleast one more cos of your baby. I am sure that your baby must be lonely having no one to play with or to fight over food. Calm down and talk to your husband to see reasons why you need another baby and you can take the medication to have twins so that you will not go over this stress again
Please above all just try and allow peace to be between you, your husband and his ex.
The ex wife is now the side chick simple.
ReplyDeleteAfter 3 to 4 kids,pls what were you expecting,you sound like Annie idibia.
ReplyDeleteYou will soon hear she is pregnant,it's either you leave or endure since you can't leave cos the handwriting is clear.
He still loves her and will not let go.
Stop calling her, obviously he is rich and the type you can't talk to cos you worship the ground he walks upon.
The greed and Covetousness of a very selfish man doing divide and rule , eating his cake and having it
DeleteMadam, you are the second wife and second option. Your husband doesn't love you again. Just be there for money since you said you are not leaving the marriage.
ReplyDeleteHmmm.Uneasy lies the head that wears a crown o abi weti una want make i talk?
ReplyDeleteUna see why I dey fear divorced people most especially the men,they hardly move on from their ex wife..chai nne ndo
ReplyDeleteThey do move on pls
DeleteBut if there are kids involved, your mind no go rest till the ex marries
Men are scumbags I swear.
DeleteNo married woman will go back to her ex especially if he’s in another relationship but men will be married and still be ducking their ex without considering the emotional trauma they’re giving their partner.
Poster anytime you’re ovulating,make love with him and immediately he dispose the condom,pick it and empty inside you. Keep doing it anytime you’re ovulating till there’s good news. Keep the good news to yourself till you start showing by then nobody will cajole you into doing abortion. Continue doing like that till you have the number of kids you want. Don’t ever call that woman again and if she call you ignore her call.
@fan, that man will kick her out if she ends up pregnant. She better save as much money now and jejely leave
DeleteSomeone close to me is exactly in your position. She deceieved the man and got pregnant for the second child and the man told her to either abort the baby or leave his house. She aborted the baby. Few months later the man's ex wife delivered a baby for the man. She is still with the man because of his money. According to her, she is not leaving the house for the first wife. Who am I to.advice her otherwise. The few times I spoke to her about her emotional happiness,she avoided me for weeks and refused my calls.
ReplyDelete@poster that man is still in love with his ex wife. They are still an item doing everything husband and wife do. It is not only about his children, he enjoys her company and might bring her back to his house if she wants. Most men find it difficult to.let go of their first wives.
You have complained, worried, cried and nothing has changed. All you got was a warning. Start saving as much money as you can incase of tomorrow. Increase your financial demands. Make new friends, hang out and do alot of investment. Above all don't do anything that will make him kick you out of his house because anything can happen with this kind of men
were you the reason for their divorce?
ReplyDeleteMay be you were the chic side chick that destroyed the marriage.
ReplyDeleteGuessmeey
This is so unbelievably disrespectful, so so disrespectful.
ReplyDeleteAnd why do you answer the ex wife’s call when she doesn’t extend the same courtesy and doesn’t rate you ? Are you that desperate for acceptance?
Since you won’t leave that marriage because the money or benefits is that good on top disrespect, stay there .
Mtchewww
Madam, you are not facing realities at all. You expect the woman to curtail her "husband's" visit, are you kidding me?
ReplyDeleteYou did not discuss the number of kids you will have with him before you married him?
I tire oo. As in her own husband oo not someone else.
DeleteA divorced man has a baggage already,
ReplyDeleteA divorced man with kids, has a check in luggage in addition.
As in, their own type of baggage...
DeleteEspecially the ones who have been married multiple times.
You will see a guy not up to 45 already married and divorced TWICE with children still looking for wife number THREE and still ping ponging between ex wives or not even showing that he has learnt any lessons in his FAILED MARRIAGES.
Must be mental.
Fairly used and overused with a touch of ment.
Wawu! Sometimes he sleep over??omo they are still gbenshing each other and the man is still in love with her.
ReplyDeletePlease put fear aside and have a heart to heart talk with him.
I wish you all the best.
Are you sure you did not use the pregnancy of your first child to trap him? Or maybe you were the reason he divorced his wife..just say thou
ReplyDeleteAhhh,dear poster,you need to wake up and smell the coffee. Stop complaining and develop yourself. You see because you are nagging so much they can figure you out but the moment you stop complaining no one will know what you are up to.Start saving money for the rainy day because it will definitely come. If possible don't even bother your husband for sex again. If he comes for sex give him willingly so that when you get pregnant😉, it will come as a surprise to you both and be the will of God 😁. Live your life to the fullest ,be happy and stop picking the ex wife's calls.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is still married to or fucking his ex, did you see the divorce papers
ReplyDeleteHe is still sleeping with his ex. Don't be surprised if she pops up pregnant with his child. I suggest you start putting away money for when you're forced out of the marriage. And ordinarily I would never give this advice, but in this case your husband is acting in bad faith so here goes. Poke holes in the condom and get pregnant, when you do hide it until you're in your 2nd trimester and act surprised. He wants to waste your prime child bearing years and give you a fake marriage. Have your second child abeg.
ReplyDeleteAhhh this comment no follow!!! He will end up hating her! And that’s going against what the man wants!! Poster should save as much as she can quickly and leave quietly so she can meet her own husband and not someone else’s!!!
DeleteOne thing I have learnt in most stories is good to hear both sides to get better understanding of the situation. For poster to say ,she can't leave the marriage looks like to me ooo someone wey enter through back door and know the shame wey go follow should she bow out. How can she say the man can train 10 children? She is looking at how rich the man is not caring if the man is mentally ready for more.
ReplyDeleteYou are on a long thing, that man will definitely go back to his wife
ReplyDeletePoster you are in a polygamous marriage simple and you know it. He sleeps over sometimes? What else do you need us to tell you?
ReplyDeleteYea
DeleteShe is now the second wife.
Goes there 5 days and sleeps there sometimes.
Why are you calling the ex wife to know where your husband is? Why don't you call your husband to know where he is?
And pls why don't you want to leave the marriage?
Is it not obvious that he doesn't love you?
I did wonder why she would call the woman about her husband. He is not one of the kids.
DeleteStella I did not see my comment 😅
ReplyDelete@poster if you take in as others are suggesting for this man. Be ready to either abort the child or leave his house. Don't also be surprise when you hear his ex wife is pregnant for another child. Open your eyes. Na money carry you enter that marriage. Pack as much as you can and leave love alone because you might not get it from him. Equip yourself financially against the unexpected. All the best
Gbam. Sincere and straightforward comment. Thank you
DeleteWith the look of things now, I think you are the man's side chick turned wife. Maybe you used charm on the man to leave his wife and kids to marry you and now everything has turned against you. I maybe wrong but this is what I think, but if not so may God restore your marriage and give you happiness and peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteStop adding God to this equation abeg. She’s blocking this man from reconciling with his first wife. This is why I frown on marrying a divorcee. She’s literally blocking him from making things right with his first wife and kids.
DeleteSome of us are neglecting the draw of the kids
ReplyDeleteThe man may just feel guilty about leaving his children and goes there to play with them
Or he may playing both of you and actually going to another side chic
Problem with I can never divorce stance is some spouses take full advantage
You see man with 3 pikin dey form divorce you still chook head. What else do you want to born for him in this economy when he’s not Ned Nwoko . Any man or woman with more than three kids from previous marriage don’t need another marriage for kids. Maybe for other reasons certainly not kids.
ReplyDeleteMadam there’s a third woman. Eating his cake and having it with all of you is now a norm to him. Do not impose any baby no 2 on him o, he doesn’t even have time for the one with him under his roof now. So this is what you’ll do. It’s obvious all of you are after his money. The divorced one has seen that it isn’t easy without her ex she has spiced up life making her place feel at home for him, if her wants to go home one child will start sulking, another one will engage in an interesting conversation another will be busy running around playing with daddy asking him what he bought for them and when next he’ll take them out before you know it are family members or one of his friends or her neighbor will be gisting football making it seem he’s missing something homely and special, as for madam she’ll open her bedroom for him to see her bed 🛌 nicely laid, she’ll be on the phone laughing with different phone call like she’s the next good thing after cake. Na she dey vex pass. She’ll dress nice quickly drive out asking him to help her watch her kids that she’ll be back in a few minutes. Na lie o she’ll come back smelling nicely of a man’s expensive cologne apologizing for coming back late rushing to the toilet to flush and clean up like she just had sex with the hottest young guy in town. With all these if he eventually wants a taste of her she’ll act like it’s a dangerous forbidden love affair. Not closing the doors, acting like they can be caught by the kids taking In behind the door or kitchen or they put the kids to bed and have a quickie in the living room or while walking him to the car that can do it in his car. She’s blowing his mind, she has upgraded her attention skills, she has graduated with PhD with sexual styles do not forget she knows him way more than you. So she knows what he love. You on the other hand will be nagging and squeezing face when he gets back he will just be looking on how run back to them. Don’t jeopardize your child’s life o, that baby needs his dad not you planning for another one. All you need now is a squad who’s his favorite sibling or couple friends, make them always visit make your 3 days with him turn into 2 weeks. Read more on how to spice up relationships forget about another baby for now. Moan loudly whenever he fucks you don’t be that log of wood, assist him to buy more condoms enough to last 6 months make sure he sees it still sealed do not tamper with it o, exercise more make yourself beautiful change your undies to badass make sure your character is good o, don’t nag or call unnecessarily as for calling that madam I laugh don’t you ever call her again! Whenever her kids comes by switch off your phone or mute it 2 can play the game she might complain apologize to him when she does like you’re shocked. Show her kids around infact name plates, spoons, cups, bed, rooms after them. Don’t be stingy make sure their father see you running from pillar to post that his kids her coming over asking him which each one might love. Don’t you know how to spoil kids? If I handle them them go dey cry say dem no dey go their mama house again. Too much to tell you but I don’t tire to type. You don’t need a tip of advice you need schooling
ReplyDeleteNa wa! All this to gain a man's love and attention?
DeleteThank God some of us no get this kind time/energy at all.
@Poster, this is a good advice oo, however if you don't have strength please leave that sham of a marriage and go forge a way for yourself and your baby.
Enough said...
Na real wah! Ewwww.
DeleteNo wa here! She said no to leaving. So she must work her talk. The options are clear.
DeleteIn fact, some (in fact most) female bvs in solid monogamous marriages who come here to say my husband sweet, my husband is the best do more than the poster has been adviced to do. Marriage na work except for the exceptionally blessed favoured with extremely good spouses.
Poster poster !! I will tell you this story and I may post this story for Stella soon.
ReplyDeleteMy first cousin is in this exact situation just that hers have gone extremely complicated. First of all please I'm begging you .... don't get pregnant oh!! Don't try it. Pregnancy cannot excite a man of 4 kids at this stage! He may be irritated for life ! Are u considering his own mental state right now? Do you think bringing an innocent child into all of this is worth it?
Now..My cousin is the most beautiful light skinned lady I know with green eyes even. Sigh how she settled for this type of situation is what I don't know .
She met a married man one time, we begged her ...what did mummy not do . She later decided to shenk us and started doing pepper pepper body online with the married man. Soon enough we heard She got pregnant. Later on First wife and husband separated and eventually we heard they got divorced. After awhile she lost that pregnancy. 3 years later .... she got married to the man in a very simple ceremony and she gave birth to a baby boy .
Immediately after delivery,husband started keeping late nights lieing that he was spending time with his kids from the first wife . One day she stormed that one's house (first wifes house)and got a "welcome to the club" kind of conversation from that one ... she didn't shout back or give too much details ....she successfully calmed my cousin down but her CCTV voice enabled captured everything from how my cousin was banging her door at 10pm like a mad woman to how she entered and shouted "where is he" bla bla bla .
Well...... the husband heard she stormed the first wife's house .... he was livid and stayed out for 2 weeks . She begged and begged till he returned home . When he returned sef , he was like a lost soul. I remember going to visit them on her birthday ...and he got in around 11.59pm ... greeted us well and went straight to bed. She was even the one jumpy and excited to see him .I was shocked when I saw beautiful birthday pictures with him laughing and all smiles on IG the second day !! Like is it within the 5minutes she don take all those happy pictures ...to make it look like all was fine .
Anyways the story is too long . No girlfriend anywhere ... it's been the first wife playing side chick all thier lives . Whose fault?
We went to church for pastor to scatter the first wife's plan . Guess what!!!!!!!!! My cousin entered another level and started confessing how ...she ignorantly bought one aphrodisiac made with chicken, how she gave the man to eat and how she has always suspected it to be what made the man leave his first wife . I know my cousin ( she most likely eat it believing sex would be mad not to completely to take a whole man away) .
Nobody has told the man of this discovery , she walks on egg shells in his house now . He and his first wife are so inseparable now.... she somehow lurred the man to sleep with her 6 months ago ..... he was soooo mad at her but that hasn't stopped him from sleepjng at his first wife . Infact the first wife knows my cousin is pregnant and hasn't called for once to check on her ..... the husband sleeps outside 24/7 and only comes home to pick few clothes and out. Let me just end here .... this is a man that was worshiping my cousin ... truth be told , my cousin is very beautiful. Also they were already dating on and off before she gave him that chicken kayanmata to eat .... she also said she didn't see any changes at first until gradually the man started sleeping over at her place and was so obsessed with her .
See ehn if u are the reason for thier divorce, better just endure or pack out .
But you and your cousin have guts! Going to church so 'God' can scatter the original wife's plan! Your cousin has not seen anything yet.
Delete00:10 as in the audacity shocked me. As in Original wife ooo. Ahhh some women are damn desperate. And I’m sure her cousin is still not married today. Blocking or self sabotaging her own self from marrying her own husband!!!!
Deletelol all of you asking why she picks the first wife’s calls, she de do nwunye di(and co wife). Madame please don’t get pregnant again o, he will throw you out like trash. Start saving and investing in isolation. Make me friends and hangout but don’t cheap. Stop asking him questions, stop calling to know his whereabout. When he realizes it’s been awhile you inquired or conversed, guilty conscience go make am begin draw conclusions and find your face. In all of these, be very happy, make yourself happy. Holiday is around the corner, Abeg ask him to pay for you and your child to go on vacation in Dubai or US or Maldives 😁 Better still, correct resorts de lagos, go and chill there. Buy correct swimsuits, take pictures but don’t post everything till you get back. Just post once in awhile and it should be maaad😉 Aba say, ara g’agba ndi ara (dem go maddening 😁). Sit back and watch drama display. Finally, no follow that woman talk again even wazzup chat. Good luck 😘
ReplyDeleteSince you cannot leave just manage him like that for now. Gather as much money as you can and leave when you can. Dont force another child on him. You can leave and have more children later
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteMaybe you stop assuming things that isn't there. Your husband desire to spend time with the kids should be respected because they are his kids and you were aware of this before setting with him. However he should not ignore your feelings towards he's unlocking attitude.
My advice is to speak to him respectfully and voice your worries that could trigger a crazy cycle.
This is why Bible tells the truth. As long as the other person is alive, don’t marry a divorcee. Now see the nonsense you’re dealing with. He’s back with his first wife, the one God recognizes. The earlier you know this the better and start making financial plans and find your own husband and have more kids. Right now you’re a single mom with a kid. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteYou guys can like these stories and you push all the success stories out of mind to highlight one that fits your narrative
DeleteMany people are happily enjoying marriage with a divorced guy with kids
You need to study everyone not just think if he’s single no kids he’s a better deal
First of all make him think you don’t want more kids and then Girl you better stick holes through his condoms so it’s not full proof then try to take drugs that boost your fertility and then pray for it to work
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, the man is clearly still with the first wife, for your mental health do not have another baby yet. Why can't you leave this toxic situationship bc its not marraige in my opinion? Seems you are scared of what people will say, but for how long? If you can go with BV Bee's advice above and goodluck to you
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