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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE...
CONFUSED
I want people from my beloved blog to advice me on this issue.
There is this male friend that I have, we are dating but marriage is not part of the agreement, he has someone he wants to settle down with.
We have not had s#x, and we have been friends for like 6 months now.
He gave me something to be managing for him. Its my money I use for this, and he does refund me back. But most times, if I ask for refund, it causes issues between us because, he will want to do it at his own convenience.
One of such times, he got angry and said I should not handle it for him again. He took the project to another woman.. He claimed I offended him, ordinarily I would not have begged him, but there was a time he said I see myself as someone who doesn't make mistakes, I had to swallow my pride and begged. But he hardly acknowledged my chats or messages again. I have begged him for like 3 days now but he refused.
I am really confused.
*What are you confused about? He has ended the relationship and you need to move on.... I dont think you did anything wrong by asking for your money....
You said the relationship was heading nowhere so please move on....
STOP BEGGING HIM BEFORE HE USES THIS OPPORTUNITY TO COME BACK AND SLEEP WITH YOU AND THEN VANISH FINALLY:
Mtsheeeew. Imagine investing so much unnecessary energy on relationship that is going nowhere. You will now be begging and apologising on top ur own money again? Ur mumu never do?
ReplyDeleteDear Poster
DeleteIt’s like your brain is leaking o
He obviously does not send you, you use your money to run the project… please what interest do you make on it? (I hope it’s up to 10 percent?)
I hope it’s not for free too, because of one “Mumu” complement you have decided to beg him.
He has a girlfriend and is keeping you around because of what he is gaining from you, there should be no problem in you asking for your money, it’s business.
I hope he never responds to you that you will grow wiser.
Push up (original)
Dear Poster
DeleteIt’s like your brain is leaking o
He obviously does not send you, you use your money to run the project… please what interest do you make on it? (I hope it’s up to 10 percent?)
I hope it’s not for free too, because of one “Mumu” complement you have decided to beg him.
He has a girlfriend and is keeping you around because of what he is gaining from you, there should be no problem in you asking for your money, it’s business.
I hope he never responds to you that you will grow wiser.
Push up (original)
I recognise a lie when i see one. The trend on the chronicle is now, we are dating but we haven't had sex...is a lie cooked up so you won't be bashed. Woman, you have sex with him, you guys are friends with benefits and you are attached to him because sex is involved. Why will you date someone who is in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage? What does he offer you? Chats and what? You even use your money for the business so what are you talking about?
DeleteMove on and find purpose in your life!
16:32 answer the chronicle as written
DeleteAnon 16:32, I know right... I really don't get it when an adult can't own up to their shit. No sex blah blah blah. Confused side chick!
Delete@poster, a friends with benefits relationship is usually about sex... If he was planning to marry you then he may be patient but who dey enter bus with no destination? Please don't insult our intelligence 😉
DeleteSome men are just evil. How did he expect you to survive? The earlier women reduce trusting.men the better.
ReplyDeleteHow is the man in this narrative evil? He has a fiancee and he told the poster who continued to date him and use her money to do business with him while begging him. Let us women take responsibility when we mess up abeg.
DeleteHow is he evil? Is he committed to her? No he is not. She cannot survive without him?
DeleteMore like some women are so foolish
DeleteSometimes we ask God for signs and even when He is slapping us with the signs we refuse to get brain, later you call for karma.
Haven’t you heard that people only treat you how you allow them to treat you, what you don’t accommodate will never happen.
Push up (original)
The poster as no self worth for hanging on to a man who doesn't need her. It is clear to her they have future together so what is confusing her than just wanting call someone her boyfriend even boyfriend even if she she not wanted. Iranu.
DeleteI don't even understand sef...why are you begging to do biz with someone,when you actually use your money for the said biz.And to top it up you guys are going out,I don't understand what you need advice for.Sha sleep with him so that you guys can get it over and done with.
ReplyDelete"We are dating but marriage is not part of the agreement".... So what is the agreement? Waste of time?
ReplyDeletePoster, please pick up your self esteem and keep moving.
The guy has no plans for you.
Any sex between you 2 should not be transactional but mutual.
Why are you 'dating' someone that already has someone he wants to marry? And taking it further, using your money to do business with another woman's fiance? How won't you be confused when you already brought confusion into your life?
ReplyDeleteYou just typed exactly what I wanted to say. I had to read the chronicle again, may eye dey pain me. What sort of nonsense confusion is this
DeleteHer self esteem is zero walahi
DeleteI guess you need more more from him, that's the reason you are begging.
ReplyDeleteOn top your money and no future together.
Just say you love him already.
It’s not love. It’s survival
DeleteShe’s using her money to run a standing business that he owns but she doesn’t have the capital to create.
Pick up your self esteem from wherever you dropped it. What's this?
ReplyDeleteNa wa o so this kain maga still dey
ReplyDeleteThe handwriting is written on the wall already. Shake yourself and move on dear
ReplyDeleteSeems you are lonely and desperately needs a company. Free this guy for a better person will locate you. Please look at yourself in the mirror and see how beautiful you are. You worth more than you think. You are better alone than with this guy. He has no iota of value for you. Even if you give him sex. Believe me he will still not value you.
ReplyDeletePoster read this very well.
DeleteBegging ontop your own money. Go pick your self esteem from whom you sold it to.
ReplyDeleteNo she’s begging on top his money actually
DeleteHe has someone to settle down with, so what are you still doing there? Sometimes, we create our own problems by ourselves. From what you wrote, you are his business manager and he has fired you. Move on with your dignity pls.
ReplyDeleteExactly.
DeleteConfused about what exactly my sister??? I think the man is through using you. He saw you as an unwise person. Just forget about him and use your brain next time
ReplyDeleteTruth
DeleteHian! Hianer!! Hianest!!!
ReplyDeleteThis our sister is a prodigal sombori🤦. Waste time, waste money, waste emotions, waste begging, waste cookie (if I hear say una never n#ck since 6 months🙄). Bros don chop clean mouth unto the next. You are embarrassing the sisterhood. Biko, borrow sense na. This is 2,022 years after the death of Christ. Your mumu don do nne.
Poster why are you begging him?
ReplyDeleteThis is making me angry 😡
Is it because of the profit you get from the business or another thing that you have not mentioned?
Pls pick up your self esteem where you dumped it and move the hell on .
Just negodu this poster.
My dear you are hoping that maybe they will breakup and you now become the main babe. Stop wasting your time dear Some men are users and baggers. Just collect your money with style and scram. He ain't got nothing in store for you.
ReplyDelete...MadeNew...
Poster your mumu don do, please move on.
ReplyDeleteYour confusion: you are interested in the man but he is in a relationship and doesn't want out. Simple. You are not even dating him. What you are referring to as dating is maybe you had sex few times then your mind is now muddled up and you are now confused. And as you know, we women get attached easily when sexi is involved. That's why when he brought up your supposed flaw, you had to bend so he'll see that you are a good gal.
ReplyDeleteNne, he won't marry you. Stop hoping for that. Look for money and start that same business since you are good at it, so that you can cut off completely from him. Cut off totally. You are wasting your time. Some men will not tell you of their relationship and use you. But this man has the boldness to tell you he has someone. Please leave him alone and don't let him chop you for free. Face your life, hope and pray for your own man.
Seems like what really happened.
DeleteWhat exactly is your problem?
ReplyDeleteAs in.. what do you actually want poster? Na wao
DeleteCook beans and eat it with igbo garri thereafter, ur brain go reset.
ReplyDeleteWhat's ur problem?
Move on and face ur life
Some of the attitude adults display boils down to the psychological trauma faced as a child, poster maybe u have daddy issue, or u grew up as a maid, if not why would u be comfy being a sidechick to a man that u know is engaged. U really need counselling dear poster.
ReplyDeletePoster what are you confused on or what do you expect us to tell you about an idiot who doesn’t value you or feel you are important to him.
ReplyDeleteMust you die if you stay away from this dude, will heaven fall if you stop business with him. Is obvious you like this dude and want to date him else his attitude already said you both are done
I wont even abuse you now eh...sigh..that is how I stupidly fell in love with my own married man friend
ReplyDeleteOne of the worst things that can happen to anyone is falling for the wrong person. That is what happened to this poster, causing her to feel confused. Don't worry with time you will be fine. Feel free to cry and relieve yourself or be angry or whatever emotions you will feel. But always remind yourself he was not good for you and why. Then pick up the pieces and move on.
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