WEDNESDAY IN HOUSE NEWS:

 I salute you!

IN HOUSE MEMO.


Hey guys whats up? 

The gift for the July face of in house news competition has been given out and will be sent by Martins .....I am sure he has done that already. Martins please do not indicate the recipient oooooh.... 

From August , the winner will get some cash cos i cannot be running after the winners to contact me.. If i find out that you are not a BV or not even a regular but that someone called you to participate, you wont get the money.. Dont worry i know how to find out.....


Some Anonymous BVs even enter the competition with their friends photos and these people contact me later to say they heard i used their photos and want to know why........


Angel Pee pinged me today and said the alert will come in like a thief in the night.... I will use the old list from the Angel Koof giveaway to select recipients so please no one should indicate or litter the comment section with pleas.

Amount to be given and the recipients will be announced lie a thief in the night.........

Enjoy the rest of the day and make sure you stay cool....

I am off now to buy another cooling system for my room, cant feel any cold air from the one i have again, probably over worked and heating..

Please those of you in Nigeria complaining of cold, send some down to us here, I have never seen this kind of heat before.. Those Ladies bleaching like their life depends on it, how will you survive an environment with heat? wot the skin weak from bleaching cook up like boiled meat? Please someone should disabuse my mind cos this is my fear for cream rubbers.

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD.





I noticed my son was always cranky and would scream his lungs out non stop when we go out in crowded and noisy places such as churches, market and malls as early as nine months old. He would even develop a fever and start wheezing if he wasn’t taken out of the place.

This made me start reading up about children with social anxiety disorders and learning disabilities and I realised that there isn’t much awareness about learning disabilities and other behavioural disabilities in children here in Nigeria.

A lot of kids a termed weird, anti social, too stubborn, dullards etc and made to feel like they aren’t good enough when they are simply just struggling themselves.

This one of the reasons I believe the educational system needs a complete overhaul and things need to be put in place to help kids that have learning disabilities.

Most learning disabilities are present from birth, but most people don’t find out till their kids have missed a mile stone or have difficulty learning in school. It can be hereditary or caused by complications during child birth and so many other factors.

The common ones I read about are ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder).

Children with ADHD have trouble paying attention and focusing on a single task. They are easily distracted and very hyperactive.

ADD( Attention Deficit Disorder (is similar or almost the same with ADHD but in this case the children are not hyperactive nor struggle with impulsiveness.

Dyslexia is a language-based learning disability that affects the processing of spoken and written words. Children with dyslexia usually have difficulty reading accurately and fluently. There are around 3 categories of this.

Dyscalculia children with this struggle with learning mathematical concepts and understanding numbers and how it works.

Dysgraphia this disorder affects the physical act of writing holding pencil etc. This leads to grammar and punctuation issue.

Dyspraxia affects movement, coordination, language and speech. There are so many other social, behavioral and neurological disabilities that children have.

Getting help or diagnosis has been difficult for people I know with kids that fall under any of the spectrum. We have very few pediatric specialists in this areas in the country.

Please before you label your child please seek the opinion of an expert (pediatrician) . Some kids are just taking their time and there is nothing wrong with them.





Errrrr did we post this before? I am not so sure!



Sometimes even an expert does not know more than the mother knows....
Please mothers study your kid well enough to know that there is a problem even before the expert tells you so.....

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MEMO FOR TUESDAY CHRONICLE POSTER



Stella this is for IHN for the chronicle poster of yesterday (Tuesday)

 I was in your shoes before. Miss independent, contributing a large part to everything including our wedding and CS bill. Houserent, school fees, name it. I didn't even take good care of my mum and I had the money. 

Then I lost my job and hubby showed me pepper. I would ask him for money to buy even sanitary pads as he doesn't give me one Kobo and I didn't have any relative to give me money, they were all struggling. When I ask, he would flare up and say hurtful words to me. I wept, I became a shadow of myself.

 Then God blessed me with another job. I borrowed myself brain. He didn't know my salary cos we were not close anymore, he has become a small god in the house. I just told him one amount like that. Even if he knew the salary, I was also paid some hidden allowances too. I started saving to take of myself and my mum, I didn't contribute much to the house anymore like before. 

There is no foodstuff and he is broke? I will buy noodles and eggs and cook for everybody that one time, finish! Or I buy bread and tea let everybody be dipping the bread inside the tea and eat and drink water if they are not ok. If it was before, I would go and stock up the house with my money. He is the one taking care of the food, school fees, houserent, etc. Sebi he is lord of the house, let him continue taking care of the bills. I only add little amount if he gives me money for foodstuff and I need to buy more stuff for my kids or myself like milk and cereals or clothes. 

Also, if he is broke and we need to pay house rent or school fees, if he asks me for money, I will just bring out 15k or 20k, tell him that is what I have. Now, I have money in savings(I opened a new account without bank alerts and no bank app on my phone, I check my balance using USDD). 

My kids and myself look good, my mum is not suffering. Hubby is now looking for ways to win me back like when we started. I don't tell tell him things about my job or what I do for my family anymore. He doesn't know my financial worth. 

I have learnt

Na wah oh.. where do you see these kind of men to marry sef? Or is it that you spoil them so much that when it is time to man up, they cant?

I hold my own side but i cannot deal with a stingy man, I CANNOT!!!

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