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HUSBAND WITH FAKE BABY MAMA
He hid it from me for 3 years, even all the family are aware about it but they never told me about it. There was a dispute among his siblings just to spike him his younger sister went to inform my mum about it anf to my surprise his mum was supporting him.
To God be the glory i found out from the lady's family member that my husband is not the father of the child, that she wants to use my husband to build herself and her daughter. i will not inform my husband about, i want him to feel the pain and embarrassment i felt.
Madam tell your husband about your findings instead of allowing him waste money that can be used to something else...
I dont believe what the family member told you though, you were told that so that you dont cause any trouble with her...
Be smart and stop aiming for revenge cos he hurt you.....
Good luck
Only a DNA can prove the paternity of the child. Tell your husband what you know and settle it from there.
ReplyDeleteYou better confront him with everything now and move on once and for all. From your writing you have no intention of leaving your marriage so why not tell him so he can cut ties with the lady once and for all? What if she decides to give him a 2nd child which then becomes legally his? I know you are hurt, but you have to protect your family.
DeleteThat's just it. With a DNA test, the paternity of the child will be revealed.
DeleteTell your husband about it.
DeleteAlso tell him that you want a dna test, after that give him condition. Yeye man
DeleteThat is your husband’s child madam, which family member will give out such information to you on a platter of gold and hav not reached out to your husband since. You are the one being played here and I feel for you.
ReplyDeleteI would tell her. Remember she’s not a complete stranger to her husbands family and some people are good people
Delete15:49 the lady’s family member informed the wife of paternity fraud not his own family member. Comprehension is 🔑
DeleteNa yourself and children go still suffer am
ReplyDeleteNo they won’t. Let him squirm s bit. She didn’t say the money he’s spending on them is killing her. Somethings are more important than money
DeleteThings dey happen.
DeleteBook dna test by yourself
ReplyDeleteStella your advice doesn't follow. Poster do your wish! That money he's spending he must spend it and regret later! Poster follow your own mind. Evil man and family
ReplyDeleteI told him to carry out DNA test he refused. the reason i want this revenge badly because the pain i have went through when he was messing around. we build what we have now and grow together. i have an eighteen years old son who is in three hundred level in the university, what if my son get himself entangled in this type of mess, how will he scold him. my husband doesn't show remorse for what he done. i am evening finding it hard to forgive him, each time i try its so difficult for me, a lot has happen that i cannot share online. ............... madam Stella, thank you for your advice my mind is made up, i want him to suffer the pain and humiliation we suffered too. the source of my information 100 percentage sure no doubt
DeleteYou better tell your husband otherwise the truth will soon come out after much troubles which may even send your of your matrimonial home
ReplyDeleteWhy will it send her out of her marriage if the truth comes out? Is it her biz who the baby belongs to if her band has decided to claim it without proper investigations?Please poster don't let no one trouble you about telling your band about the paternity of the child.Before them set u up say make you bring proof,and also he didn't tell you before he got someone pregnant wetin concern you with the paternity?
DeleteHahaha of course after he cheats, he sends her out
DeleteIf he does, what’s there to cry about
Good riddance to nonsense
Send her out of her matrimonial home - I don't understand? How?
DeletePoster you are probably being lied too so you don't make trouble with her.
I suggest you treat the matter as you would if the child is your husband's. Seek counsel with your parent and handle the matter with wisdom.
Matrimonial home wey no be better one before? Good riddance.
DeleteThis Chronicle is deep and like to read news such as this.
ReplyDeleteWhen the LORD turned again the captivity of Zion, We were like them that dream. Then was our mouth filled with laughter, And our tongue with singing: Then said they among the heathen, The LORD hath done great things for them. The LORD hath done great things for us; Whereof we are glad. Turn again our captivity, O LORD, As the streams in the south. They that sow in tears Shall reap in joy. He that goeth forth and weepeth, bearing precious seed, Shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, bringing his sheaves with him.
The wife should be very watchful and guide her heart very well.
Are the sure the family member is saying the truth,the person might be diverting your attention.
ReplyDeletePlease inform your husband about it,he need to know before it's too late.
I wonder why the human race keep roping itself in series of conflict. With self control, self respect and love for oneself and spouse, all these family disorders we keep hearing or that keep happening within our family would be reduced to the barest minimum.
ReplyDeleteWhy would responsible (or assumed responsible)adults keep making decisions without thinking of the repercussions? Just cos of few minutes of pleasure, we potentially jeopardize a generation. We sometimes forget that the littlest wrong decision could lead to a lifetime regret.
We keep churning out substandard humans to the society due to the kind of troubled family they are raised in and which could be avoided. I feel so bad reading same stories everyday by different patsies. These are the parents of the next generation and we can't risk doing worse than our parents.
They prolly lying to you about the paternity so you won't make problems. Brace up, it's a long way ahead.
ReplyDeleteI think you should tell your husband what you heard from her family member,he should do DNA Asap so that he can know how to handle the issue from there,it is painful hearing it from your mum,that is quite insensitive,he should have gathered the courage to confess to you,it is well
ReplyDeleteThe way these types of stories irritate me eh. How do you continue to stay married to someone you are aware has unprotected s€x with other people. Can’t even gv any advice.
ReplyDeleteAs in ehn...beyond disgusting.
DeleteOnce vow has been broken that's it.
Don't come and transfer diseases to me. Let them stay between you and any other fellow dog you are banging.
As in ehn...beyond disgusting.
DeleteOnce vow has been broken that's it.
Don't come and transfer diseases to me. Let them stay between you and any other fellow dog you are banging.
Serious irritation!!! No single f**king regard for your spouse's physical, mental, emotional health.
DeleteYamayama nonsense.
Confront your husband. His response will determine your next move
ReplyDeletePoster think smart joor.
ReplyDeleteTell your husband to do dna test on that child.
I advise you let your husband know about what you found out. Just take it easy and give yourself peace of mind, you sound very angry and revengeful.
ReplyDeleteAbeg let him spend small money and emotions then break his heart by asking him to do DNA test. If it's his no p, if not you have had your revenge
ReplyDeleteI am in love with my Married friend,never planned but we love ourselves thank God he is Muslim,this life no just balance
ReplyDeleteThey told you what you want to hear. For all this family members to be aware of the child. That is truly his child. Take Stella's advice
ReplyDeleteI don't have any advice to offer, but I do have a few questions to ask.
ReplyDeleteIf the sidechick decides not to tell your husband the "truth" until the child is 18+...do you mean to tell me that you will be patiently waiting, a whole FIFTEEN years, for the revenge to manifest???!!!
What if she decides to continue enjoying the benefits she receives from your husband, and never plans on telling him the truth?! Then what?
Personally, your plan seems futile to me. It just seems like a really long time to put your life on pause, hoping that someone else does something to bring you joy!
DON'T TELL YOUR HUSBAND ANYTHING.
ReplyDeleteThe same way he kept you in the dark with the info, is the sane way you should fold your mouth like envelope and face front.
Do you honestly think that is the only women he is sleeping with?
Are you a toddler?
Better use your energy to build yourself, protect yourself from all manner of physical and spiritual diseases and get a job if you don't have one.
Again, keep quiet and face front.
A street dog deserves no loyalty.
Please tell oga.. funny thing is that if anything happens tomorrow God forbid the man dies,you will see side chick n baby coming to drag property that if your husband didn't include him in his will and even when you tell them that the boy is your husband's son, nobody will believe ..and also, everything seem to be well now, very soon you will oga can't keep up with running two families and Will start cutting from your allowance and that of the kid .Also,since his thought is that the child is his,he will keep up the relationship with side chick which will forward strengthen their bond and before you know it,side chick will really get pregnant for him,,his very fresh n bro
ReplyDeleteDon’t tell your husband shishi…since he refused to tell you about it, just feign ignorance as long as he is taking care of you and yours.
ReplyDeleteDon’t forget to amass your wealth too, since the stranger is doing same thing. I pray for wisdom for you. Don’t loose guard sis.
Women are so naive so you think her family will tell you that the childs belong to your husband. Mtchew use your head they lied to you that child is for your husband and don't even look more stupid in the eyes of your husband but do let him know you are aware of the child and see his reaction
ReplyDeleteBetter tell him. Use it and put confusion between him and baby mama. Leave all these people that want to use their advice to punish ur hubby for what their husbands have done to them.
ReplyDeleteMadam, please know that after a certain age of the child, you would not be able to get your husband to do a dna test on her. After a certain age of the child nobody can force the child to do a dna test.
ReplyDeleteAfter training the girl for 21 years, you expect your husband to agree to dna test? At that age too, nobody can force her to do a dna test except your husband for inheritance purpose. And she may refuse to do it, keep the name for all other purposes apart from inheriting directly from your husband. If the family accept her they can still give her from what your husband is entitled to from them.
God forbids, if your husband goes sooner than, and there is a good estate, she has all full rights under the Nigerian Constitution to share equally with your children as an acknowledged child of your husband.
And by the way, unless a man shows up to claim her as her biological father with verifiable dna proof, her mother cannot force your husband now or at anytime to do dna test to prove he is the father. She is already estopped by her words and conduct from denying him as the father.
Think well before you act.
No go do yourself in revenge.
Act with peace, tact, and wisdom.
Best wishes.
#TheLegalTrainee
Poster you should speak to your husband about your findings and let him carry out DNA first to be sure if the child is his. The best way to do this is to speak to your husband calmly just reassure him that you are standing with him.
ReplyDeleteTell him if the chip is his he should bring her home that you both will train her with the ones you have a your children. Once you show him you are not hurt with what he did the yeye man will open up and do the needful. Don't allow another woman enjoy your husband's money that you and your children should enjoy.
To God be the glory bii ti bawo? The fact that the child turned out not to be your husband's own doesn't absolve your husband of his sin.
ReplyDeleteBetter watch your back carefully, your husband and his family members no rate you one bit.
Na one chance husband you get so, expect anything from him in future.