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Saturday, December 24, 2022

Beauty Influencer Diadem Recalls How She Was Heavily Pregnant And Beaten Up + Celeb Insult Made Her Leave Make Up Biz

Beauty Influencer, Adeola ‘Diadem’ Adeyemi sits with Chude Jideonwo, on #WithChude to discuss being with an abusive fiancĂ©, having an absent mother and the celebrity who made her leave makeup.

 


On dealing with abuse she said, “Before I got pregnant, I started seeing the signs, the way he would talk to his maids, the way he would shout at people. I saw the signs, but I felt he loved me so much he won’t do that to me. I’m very spoilt when I’m in a relationship, I like to be ‘babied’. When I got pregnant, the whole thing just changed. Two weeks to my introduction, I knew in my heart that I wasn’t going to marry him. I proceeded because the world has seen my baby bump, and they’ll judge me for it.

Diadem also shared how the relationship got toxic and made her decide against the wedding, “his father wanted us to do a court wedding once and for all, but I insisted on giving birth first. I had to use the pregnancy to stall them because I already knew in my mind that I would not marry him. I knew what I went through; it was not a joke. Even after I left, the people that saw me knew what I went through. I had to pretend to faint to stop being beaten.

 I had to leave because of my daughter. My daughter was two weeks old and at that time, I was still bleeding from childbirth when it happened. The beating had started when I was six weeks pregnant; I was just guiding my tummy because I didn’t want to lose the baby. ‘Even if I want to cheat on you, will I cheat on you with a big belly?, how is that even possible? He would hack into my WhatsApp trying to know whom I was talking to”

On the incident that made her leave makeup

“That story, anytime I tell it, it breaks my heart. My first vision was to be a make-up artist, I trained to be a makeup artist in 2013. A few months after I trained, I went out with a friend that had a shoot. On getting to the location, the make-up artist they called was not available, I think she disappointed them. So, they were looking for an urgent makeup artist that could do something quickly. He came to me, and he said, ‘since you just trained, come and do this thing’.

Diadem mentioned that although she was scared, her friend met the director, showing the director her instructor's work. She later met with the celebrity who later embarrassed her because she was in a hurry to go somewhere, “I had not started before she started slapping my hands, she embarrassed me in front of everybody. After she left, I cried my eyes out, I was so down. That was when I decided that I wasn’t doing makeup anymore. For every time I tried to do makeup, that scene just flashes back, I just couldn’t”.

“I was just starting, the littlest thing you could have just done was to encourage me. Even where I am today, I work with a lot of makeup artist, I will rather help them improve their crafts than bring them down”, she added.


She also mentioned growing up without her mum

 “I started fending for myself since I was 14. I didn’t grow up with my mom, I didn’t know my mom till I was 13. My dad is a man of many wives, many children, all man for himself. There was a time that my sister almost took her life. The first time I went to Ibadan was when I ran away from home. I went to sell pure water under the bridge.”

“Till date, I don't know what happened between my mom and dad, because when I had my daughter, I wanted to speak to my mother to know what really went wrong, so I started looking for her. I told my dad to go and look for her for me.

 He went there and said he could not find her. A friend of mine on Snapchat, who was asking me out, asked where I was from. I told him I’m an Igbo girl, but I don't know my mother's side. He asked a picture, and I sent him the picture I had then.’ This guy printed flyers for me and pasted it around Oguta. One way or the other, somebody found her. When they called me that they had found her, I insisted it was impossible. Unfortunately, she was already down with stroke. They brought her down to Lagos, but she couldn’t talk. She was with us for a while, and we did everything, but it was not easy. I had to tell them to take her back and one year later, she passed. It’s life. Sometimes, I get jealous of my friend because she is really close to her mum. When I see the kind of bond that they share, I am just like why can’t I have that? And when I had my daughter, the way I love my child I can’t even leave her for a second”, she shared.

21 comments:

  1. Wow sorry about your Mother... My dear is better to stay alive and healthy then living in an Abusive relationship or marriage..

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  2. Wow sorry about your Mother... My dear is better to stay alive and healthy then living in an Abusive relationship or marriage..

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  3. sorry dear , just be strong for your self .

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    1. If some young people in the entertainment industry tell you their personal experiences with some 'celebs' your mouth will be open for days. There are the good ones who treat crew members with utmost regard and respect. Just not as many as the rotten ones.

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  4. She's been through a lot. I hope she heals from all that.

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  5. I really felt for her after reading through this interview. Imagine pretending to faint just to stop being beaten. He was even beating her with pregnancy. I wonder what goes through the mind of these men that beat their spouses. Nawaa oo.

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    1. You imagine they have minds, they are thrash masquerading as human beings

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  6. Sorry about what you to go through dear. It's painful to know your mum is alive but not in your life especially when you both didn't have issues.
    Thank God you left the nons?nse man.

    I never knew she's an Igbo girl, thought she's my Yoruba sis.

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  7. The part of her mum is emotional

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  8. Lol. Everyone be granting an interview giving sob story. Diadem wen I know abi which one?

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    1. This is how you want to round up this year?

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    2. You may think you know someone but you can never know everything about them. For instance, a lot of people may think they know me, but there are some things that I have passed through that I never talk about. So they are completely clueless about such things. People only see what I want to share.

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  9. It is well Dear. you turned your unpleasant experience to beauty. Kudos!!!

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  10. She turned out better that others with same circumstances. Thank God she turned her life around.

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  11. Sorry about your mom

    You did the right thing by walking away from that abusive relationship. Some would have continued just to answer MRS but will die inside it. Someday love will find you.

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  12. Ooh dear, she really had a tough childhood I must say, glad that she's doing great for herself.
    Better to be a single parent then being in a horrible horrific relationship/marriage.

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  13. Such an emotional interview.

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  14. I watch the interview. Her story was so touching. Thank GOD we don't look like what we have BB through.

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  15. Deola Diadem. I knew you'd issues with your upbringing, glad you survived the domestic violence.
    Merry Christmas all BVs from the one and only Gbogbo Bigz Girlz of MM.

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  16. The signs are always there. Ladies should stop dating deadbeat guys and giving stupid excuses like I thought he loved me, he would never raise his hand, he would change etc. You can preserve yourself from future headaches.

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