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Thursday, December 08, 2022

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WIFE CHEATING WITH LANDLORD



Please I need your advice

My wife went to the market to get some foodstuff but forgot her phone behind and a number called, I tried to know who the caller was to tell the person to call back when she returns from the market and was shocked that it was my landlord who lives in same compound with us that was calling. I did not pick the call.

Not quite long, a text came in that she should meet him at a named guest house... I am still in shock till now and have refused speaking to my wife cos I might end up beating her. 

Is it because I have lost my job that my wife of 7years has suddenly turned herself to a prostitute? No wonder my landlord hasn't been disturbing me for his money since our rent expired in June.

Pls what do I do? I need urgent advice as I am about running mad in my own home.


Hmmmmm,IF SHE IS GUILTY THIS IS SO WRONG but please look for money and move out..... You don't have money now so you are acting like a good husband at home while your wife has been feeding you with runs money...would it make any difference if you did not find out? why didn't you ask her since where she has been getting money to go to the Market and feed you? Please if you find out she is actually guilty, please quietly move out  and don't disgrace her at all, she was feeding you and landlord no longer disturbs you for house rent.... This is called covering your shame!

Nothing more to say!

72 comments:

  1. I’m sorry for laughing but bills have to be paid somehow.

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    1. these comments are heart-breaking. A man llost his job and his wife was allegedly frolicking with the landlord and people are laughing??? How callous can we all be? Is this a womens blog or are we now anti-men?
      A man literally opened up and people are pushing the dagger deeper and deeper into his heart.
      GOD!
      This is the same thing that happens when a woman is sick and her husband starts sleeping around because she no fit give am sex.
      Poster, see confirm what is happening first. Confirm that they are sleeping together or flirting. Then ask her what was going through her mind.
      Hear her out.If she shows remorse, then thats a goodplace to start from towards the journey to healing. If not, then plan to leave. Face your God and plan your life.

      I pray God comes through for you. Whatever happens, please forgive.

      Mma Nwachukwu.

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    2. Let's assume this is true, you must be a very stu.pid man.
      Someone is sleeping with your landlord so that you will have a roif over your head and the only thing you can think of is you will beat her???
      If your landlord looks anything like mine, omo I even hail her, she might have to even put a pillow over his face to even do it.
      So my dear, go and read WAR ROOM. Do not let an enemy enter your home. Do not let a strange man take away your wife of your youth. The enemy is roaming ,stand firm and keep your home.
      Remember, people are praying for what you have.
      Most importantly, keep looking for a job so you can provide and protect your home.
      That is what 'I am the head's 'Iam the head's should be about, not carrying pen.is.
      It is well with you.

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  2. Please make sure you catch them together for real. He might just be disturbing her and she has been refusing his advances

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    1. Exactly my thoughts. It's possible she hasn't given in to his sexual advances, but have been posting him. Poster, please make sure you get your facts right before taking any action.

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    2. The Original ShugarGirl8 December 2022 at 17:06

      Please use this advise. Can't count the number of times some men after telling them that I don't do married men they will keep giving me gifts and texting come let's hangout here by this or that time (which I end up declining).

      Be sure first b4 you totally lose your family over what could havr been managed. Sorry about your job situation it will end soon. That your landlord is a predator. I dislike men like this. Opportunistic Ogre

      But you need to move out just like Stella said. Don't bother with paying the LandLord when packing out.

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  3. I think marriage is on another level now, so different now. May God help you. Maybe she did what she did when all hope is lost.
    Never say never if you haven't been in a tight situation.
    I am not justifying her actions but try and hustle and do something, things are so so expensive now and even if both parties join hands together, its still not enough not to talk of one person shouldering all the responsibilities'

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  4. So all this while she has been taking care of u and the kids,u didn't ask where the money is coming from..
    What she is doing is very wrong,is she working?or has a business?
    Please don't blame her too much, frustration can lead her to it and cover for u.. have a talk with her.

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    1. Why are you guys and Stella jumping into the conclusion she has been the one feeding them and he did not ask where money is coming from, he did not say so and it is only the rent he mentioned they have not paid.

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  5. Poster pls leave before you kill someone o.No go do Christmas and new year inside jail.Double your hustle and pray to God to help you with a good job.There’s nothing God cannot do.

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  6. May God give you wisdom to handle this.

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  7. It is wrong.She shouldn't have turned herself to a slut just because she wants to cover shame.

    If it's true that bricklayers earn decent money why can't you do it
    if you are healthy? If you can't do it in your area ,you can go to somewhere far. Abeg don't stay idle. Move out of the house to a smaller apartment you can afford.

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  8. Eeya, what a good woman. She doesn't want you to go homeless, she did what she has to do. Its the wicked landlord that prey on her vulnerability.πŸ˜πŸ™„

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  9. Pls watch warroom fast and drink coconut oyel it is well with you

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  10. Watch war room pls. Fast and pray as well. Don't let the devil ruin ur home. Dyu have pot belly, pls start going to the gym and maybe she will change

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    1. But that's what he should do. Men should start accepting cheating wives same way we accept them.

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    2. 17:20
      Thank you. There is no sarcasm here. Most women have always supported wives cheating on broke husbands. Some women also support wives cheating on husbands so long as the cheating partner is not their husbands or boyfriends.

      This is why some Bvs always accuse some vocal Bvs of hypocrisy when they sermonize about cheating husbands and support revenge paternity fraud.

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  11. poster i feel your pain right now but your wife did not do well at all. Yes she was feeding the family with her runs money but she can feed the family with clean work and not sleeping with your landlord.

    please find a way to discuss about this so that you can find closure or you can set her up with your landlord to find out the truth. You may confront her now and she will say everything is all lies. Your wife may turn everything around to blame you or something different will come out of it. Please use wisdom to handle this matter.

    Poster if your wife is sleeping with the landlord please walk away before you beat her up and kill her. Say no to DV.

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    1. A call can be to convince her to give in

      She may not have done so yet

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  12. Lmao🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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    1. Why laughing at someone’s misfortune. Nawa for you o

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  13. What a coincidence. I’m driving and this same topic is being discussed on radio.
    Women go through a lot to put food on the table for their families sometimes through “not so good” means.
    Oga, clam down. Hear her out, forgive her and move out of that compound.

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    1. Women live in a men's world and have to live by the rules men create. Many married women throughout history have had to make harsh choices to survive, this case is not extreme. Most women will make huge sacrifices for their children's survival. Not everyone has family in this world so they have to do with the best situation they have.

      Things must have gotten really bad for them for it to reach this place. Was there threats of eviction, were they going hungry most days, were school fees piling up? Sometimes men don't know how bad it really is because the woman will try to cover their pride, or don't want to stress them out. But when you have a family you just cannot linger until a job falls into your lap. You better go hustle no matter what.

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  14. Lmao@ covering your shame abeg I'm in the spirit now,as Shiloh anointing full my body,poster I will be praying for you ehhn,the Lord is your muscle.

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  15. Be sure it's not wrongly sent to her phone before you decide anything

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    1. Abegi, leave that matter of wrong number.

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    2. Legit truly it is foolish to jump to conclusions

      Poster take a deep breath and confirm FIRST!

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  16. Kindly confront her with all the evidence if you have any. Good luck to you.

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  17. πŸ˜†πŸ€£πŸ˜‚
    She's really covering his shame o.
    The landlord took advantage of the fact that you lost and has been running fhingz with your darling wife.
    Pele!

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  18. This got me tearyπŸ₯²
    The sacrifices your wife laid for you is mind-blowing;the torture of having to tolerate the disgusting landlord's touches and penetration,the burden of carrying the home and the children all alone,the loneliness,the midnight tears and prayers just to see you back on your feet is nothing short of LOVE.
    I totally understand your grievances, but draw your wife closer and show your gratitude.Talk to her about your discovery but never blame her.God will definitely come through for you two.

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    1. CC: @BBM @Chike Teflon

      Come and join me to read this wise comment.. wow,. What a comment full of wisdom..

      Omo some girls are just so blessed with lots of sense..
      The comment also got me teary.. God AbegπŸ™

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    2. Dante, na sarcasm.

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    3. Lmao @BOSS DANTE.
      Na today you know say her "wisdom" is beyond that of Solomon.
      Nothing about her comment baffles me anymore...

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    4. Lol.. @Chike my Gee..

      She and her bestie.. special breed of ladies.. na them Asake sing that 'over-wise' song for,. Their wisdom is top notch. Calm ladies with poise 😁

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  19. Landlord has not been disturbing you for rent that expired since June and you have been living there comfortably. Chopping food you don’t know where it came from.
    Funny but sad.
    I’m so sorry you lost your job but pls just know your wife is just trying her best to keep things together and also give you some peace of mind because if the landlord had thrown your family out I’m sure you won’t be in a good state mentally at all.
    Pls take Stella’s advice. Let her know your findings, if you can’t forgive her kindly move out and reach an agreement on co-parenting. No need disgracing her or plotting evil against her or the landlord, it’s not worth it at all.

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    1. The Original ShugarGirl8 December 2022 at 17:20

      I don't see anything funny about this chronicle. I am shocked to see some comments with laughing images or sarcasm. It is weird you know.

      This man rn feels like his heart has been ripped out of his chest and we have nor to say but mock him? 😷😷

      We need to let men breathe and be vulnerable too sometimes. This is too much for one person to deal with upon loss of job and the harsh economy.

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    2. Exactly
      As a man, how are you not bothered by the fact that your landlord hasn’t bothered you. How do you get meals to eat?

      I am not saying you deserved to be cheated on, but most men believe as long as they are fully providing they can bring in a second wife if they please.
      Poster, just first speak to your wife to find out if the deed has even been done before concluding. Also please get something doing, I know how may body peppers me when I don’t have money let alone a whole “provider”


      Push up (original)

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  20. Omo! Poster, Stella's ink made sense oo. In as much as she is very wrong for cheating,but it seems like she has been the one carrying the load of the home's expenses. Imagine! Even to the point of negotiating your rent with her body. Oga, you have also failed your home. Please tell her you want a divorce and let her go. Don't lay a finger on that woman. It's because you know you will starve that's why you haven't confronted her. Allow her go abeg.

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  21. Thank you Stella. This your response is from a wisdom that only comes during Christmas season. I call it year end wisdom and no be every body Dey catch am.

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  22. This Stella advice sef...get as e be. I mean maybe she has a job

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  23. Pls leave that woman alone. You are jobless, where do you expect her to get money to feed you and the kids?
    Get your ass up and go and hustle like a man so your wife won't he tempted to sleep with your landlord.

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  24. I feel for you poster.there are alot of men like you out there who do not care about the income of their wives,as long as they can get food to eat all the time,then they are fine.
    Have a conversation with your wife and make her know you saw the sms from the landlord.this is shameful cos she's married.you can forgive her and act as if you saw nothing if you can.but if not, pls move out of the apartment for your sanity sake.

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  25. Wow. This is a very complex issue. Cheating is wrong and an act that cause terrible pain. But I wish there was more details and background on your marriage to help get an idea of the situation.

    If this is where life has taken her to survive it is very unfortunate, you don't have to partake of it though. You don't have job to bring in and she is using her body to prevent homelessness and maybe feed the family, this is a very sad place for two ppl to reach in life. Earth life put ppl under too much tests at times. I really hope your family can heal from this unfortunate experience. And if you can't then you can both peacefully go your own way.

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  26. Lol..

    I'm not understanding the comments I'm reading oh,. My Gee, if you listen to these people mouth, you'll die a million types while still alive..

    1. He lost his job. Life happens. Are wives not meant to be supportive? What's the whole talk about him sitting his ass down and eating her food? I didn't see anywhere he made mention of that, and even though, are you guys no longer partners like y'all claim to be here?

    2. She's working. How is he supposed to know she's sleeping around for money? His he monitoring her sales in the market or what?

    3. The landlord wasn't disturbing. The landlord knows he lost his job, he must have been paying up when he was employed. So he'll believe the landlord was understanding and would really appreciate it. How was he to know he was banging his wife?

    It's, just park your luggage and leave that house before they kill you.. make sure you tell everyone what she did also, if you don't, she'll still find a way to kill you to protect the secret, revealing it is what would save you.

    She wasn't protecting you anything, she's a home.. when we advise you guys not to wife a hoe, Una no dey hear word.. you better Goan conduct DNA test on those kids when you get money, it's the same people that get mad when DNA test is discussed here that are advising you to be calm, make out of this what you want .. you see how they're blaming you instead of blaming the cheat right?

    I don talk my own finish..

    You can chose to be a SIMP and do otherwise tho✌️

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    1. You have made a lot of assumptions here, Dante. Sorry if I missed this but where did you read that the wife is working? If she’s working, then fair enough. If she’s a housewife, I would like to know if he asked her where she was getting the money to foot the household bills. He also didn’t state how long he has been out of work. Finally, you have assumed that the landlord knows he is out of work. I didn’t read that anywhere. It’s been 6 months since his rent was due and he didn’t wonder why the landlord hadn’t asked any questions? I can’t really comment on the situation as there are way too many gaps. I am not condoning the wife if she cheated but turning a blind eye to a situation in the hope that it is nothing dodgy isn’t great either. I grew up in a similar situation but thankfully my mom who was a housewife didn’t resort to such measures. Instead she went from place to place begging family members and close friends. My father just pretended like the rent, school fees and household bills miraculously paid for themselves. My mom started a small business but it wasn’t doing well enough to look after us so had to keep asking relatives for help. She was so embarrassed but my father acted oblivious for most of my teenage years. I saw how desperate and haggard my mom became struggling to look after a man and so many children on her own while my father relaxed under the guise of “I have been trying but there just aren’t any jobs”. So until I know more about the situation, I can’t judge. Many women have done desperate things to keep their families off the streets. Although prostitution is really terrible, it’s better than rituals or robbery with violence.

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    2. Dante, calm downn, calm down, make the comments no put you for lockdown.

      The comments are sarcasm, revenge sarcasm.

      But truth be told it sounds like expressions of the secret thoughts of the hearts.

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    3. 19.12
      You that's talking about assumptions,.
      Where in the post did he say the woman provided anything in the house that made y'all conclude that he didn't ask her where she got the money from?

      Stop importing facts and bringing your growing up experience into this, they're not the same.. THE MAN DIDN'T SAY THE WOMAN HAS BEEN the one FEEDING THE HOME..

      It's so unfortunate he married a Home, the best he can do now is to treat her like the how that she is..

      Never forgive a woman for cheating, never ever,. She'll punish you for it..

      But if you like, do otherwise✌️

      19.14
      Please don't come and explain what is not to me. I'm not a child ok.. People are being manipulative, and refusing to let the woman be accountable for her actions playing fake victims here everyday and you're telling me it's sarcasm..

      Don't be silly please

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    4. Most of the comments here are also based on assumptions.
      1. That the wife has no job or trade. 2. She is actually cheating. And both could be wrong.
      But the rigmarole in not wanting to call out the woman IF she is cheating and is clear in your comment. If one woman can stand without cheating another can. That is the standard some bvs who praise their husbands here hold up.

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    5. Anon 23:05, I don’t really understand your comment but if you mean that I think the man shouldn’t call the woman out for cheating, then you are wrong. I don’t condone cheating in any shape or form but I can understand why a person cheated. For example, if a person is starving and steals food, I think stealing is wrong no matter the circumstances but I can understand the rationale for stealing in those particular circumstances. This doesn’t necessarily mean that I agree with it. In the poster’s scenario, he knows his family’s exact circumstances. Regardless, he needs to raise and discuss the issue with his wife. If she truly cheated, it is up to him to decide whether to stay or walk away. He can understand the reasons for her actions and still decide to walk away. In summary, the point I am trying to make, although long winded, is that a person can do a terrible thing for a good reason. So until I know the exact circumstances, I can’t say with confidence that’s she’s evil, nasty or a lady of easy virtue, even though she may well be.

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  27. Pls don't beat her.confront her with evidence.

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    1. No evidence to confront her with.

      Poster don't waste your time. The result of such confronting will so sap you that later you will say it would have been better you spent your time and energy looking for a job or doing a menial job.

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  28. Jewelu well done ooo,πŸ™„,at covering your shame. Poster,continue to pray for her 😒.

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    1. Don't they deserve cheating men as well? Tells me the kind of marriages/ relationships they have. Quite chaotic.

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    2. Like! It's so hard being a man cos what!! Ha

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    3. 16:25
      Even Bvs who excoriate cheating husbands and boyfriends here.

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    4. As in ehn...So because the man is jobless for now and because some men cheat this man deserves this, bah? But when the table turns we read another comments here, yeah? We call that hypocrisy. No matter what I don't think anybody deserve that. It's a shame. We do call the men out, it won't be bad if we apply same pressure here. He was once a 'provider'

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  30. Don't beat her pls, kindly give her some space, make sure confront her over the phone, before u turn to a murderer, look out for a place u can stay for one month, while desperately looking for work or smtin to do, i pray u find work soon, but try and forgive ur wife, lack of funds pushed her into this

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  31. Why is your first instinct to beat her? Is that what you have been doing previously?

    Take time to calm down and act reasonably. If she is cheating, remember that it is the work of the devil and don't let him win by dividing your home. Forgiveness is key.

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      Beating her should not cross your mind, it is not an option,don't be an insecure animal

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  32. Sorry sir. Enter war room

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  33. Hmmm bad as e be I still follow Madam Stella advice you the same o...
    She fed you & the kids with those same money, una no pay rent dem no disturb una.
    She save una from hunger and stress only that she did it the wrong way.
    If you must leave pls do it quietly. Don't beat or disgrace her.

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    1. Please read the post again. Nowhere is it written that she has no work or no trade.
      Where did this she fed you with the money come from?
      Indirectly, you have accepted that the woman is cheating and justifying it for her.

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  34. Pls move out or find somewhere to stay for now before you kill person pikin

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  35. Did you see any evidence that she's cheating on you? What if the man has been disturbing her and she has been refusing to respond, and she didn't tell you so you don't take laws into your hands? Don't destroy your marriage with an innocent woman o

    See how everyone condemned the woman. To think that most of you are women. Na wa o!

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  36. Poster, please make your findings before reaching your conclusion.
    There is something called "communication" in marriage. Talk. Ask questions. If you had noticed all these (the landlord not asking for rent, etc) earlier, communication would have long sorted this issue out.

    Abeg, don't do anything rash out of anger.

    And please, don't allow the mockery and laughter from the comment section get to you.

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  37. Dear Poster,
    Sorry about your loss of job. Please do all you can to get another job. Get any legal job that is not risky to your body and health.

    From experience, it is not wise to stay in any uncomfortable position for long because you may become easily adapted to it. Loss of job, owing of rent, and depending on wife for food is like walking from under the sun into a dark room. At first you do not see clearly. But the longer you stay in the dark room, the easier it becomes for you to see. Once you get adapted to not having a job, to owing rent, etc. it becomes difficult to find another job or to work, or to pick bills. I have seen this happen to debtor tenants and others. I write from what I know.

    If your wife is not employed or having a trade, please call her and ask how she gets the money she goes to the market with. In my side of Nigeria, if you do not ask, it means you are the person who sent her on the alleged errand of cheating. If your wife does not have a trade or job, please by all means stop eating at home if she cannot explain the source of the food. Go do daily manual or any job to feed yourself.

    Remember that God made this world and man for the woman. If you doubt, look at the sequence of creation. Almost all women who feed themslves and family complain even if they can do so easily by working lesser than their husband. Almost every woman does not respect a man who does not feed her or cannot feed her unless the man has the capacity to do certain things that she cannot ordinarily get with money or s3x. Disrespect is the root of cheating by men and women. A woman who disrespect her husband will cheat or make the home a furnace for her husband.

    Work and income will get you back your respect. But if your wife is cheating as you suspect, please note that she is not likely to stop when you start working. A cheating partner (man or woman) rarely stops. In such case, your income will only afford you the opportunity to move on.

    Do not waste your time trying to find out if your wife is cheating or not. Put that effort into looking for creative solutions to your lack of job. If your wife is cheating, it will be exposed in due course. Know that the woman denies extramarital affairs with the whole of the earth unless she is caught and recorded the way that Zambia man caught/recorded his wife in that viral video. Even women caught with the men inside have been known to scream ra.pe or give other alibis. Proverbially, it is said such women claim that is the new method of eating corn.

    However, keep your senses about you. The more a cheat is not monitored, the more the cheat gets assured and begins to be careless with evidence. Keep calm. If your wife is cheating, she will soon give the concrete evidence herself. Please start relating with her as normal. If you did not delete the call and message, she knows already that you are suspecting her. Once she suspects, you will find it almost impossible to catch her red-handed until she wants to leave the marriage, and decides to set you up as being the reason she left the marriage

    Take heart.

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  38. Take heart and pray that God will change her

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