Hmmm Africans and their beliefs!!!
It is said that some families have inherited marital problems passed from generation to generation and most do not even know that they were gifted.....
Some of these problems may include generational malice/strife, generational barrenness, generational theft from spouse, generational gbenshing up and down, generational poverty in Marriage, generational hatred for spouse, generational divorce..... etc
The list goes on....
Do you have any contribution to make? Did you inherit anything?
Lets gist!
My father married 3 more wives after he married my mother. I got married to a baby daddy but I recently discovered my husband is sleeping with his baby mama. He has apologized but I hope he won’t do it again because this is his last chance.
ReplyDeleteHe will keep sleeping with her. Old firewood dey catch quick
DeleteOstrich this your proverb eehn. Hahahaha
DeleteThe proverb na wa
DeleteThis is gonna be an interesting time to spend in here
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My Fiancee has 7 siblings, they all gave birth to female kids only, no Male child (lol)
ReplyDeleteIts not like, they are worried sha.
Just an observation
They are talking about generational curses and ill luck and you are talking of birthing girls… does that sound like a bad thing to you.
DeleteNawa o
Push up (original)
Imagine what you just said. Great female children oo. You want dem to give birth to useless men?
DeletePush up and Anon, you don't know that in some Nigerian cultures, if you don't birth a male child, it is as good as you don't have any child. Female children are nothing to them. Maybe the anon poster is from such a culture that is why it looks like a curse to her.
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DeleteWhat is the difference between what she wrote and yours?
Have you not seen that female children, take care of their parents more than male children? I beg o. Female children are a lot better. Make person nor come born amu robber or bandit.
DeleteIn my family we are 7 kids from 2 wives and im the last born, i am 38yrs old and single. We all seem to have either delay in marriage or those married are divorced. My eldest brother is 50 and never been married,no kids. I have 3 sisters that are divorced, another brother that is 43 and never been married. The only one with a stable home amongst us is a Pastor based abroad.
ReplyDeleteIf i bring this up with my mother that this is looking like a generational curse, she will tell me to stop saying rubbish, she doesnt believe in that. God will do it at right time. Hmmm
Connect me to your 50 years old brother,am 47 and never been married either and no kids
DeleteAre you sure your mum does not know the genesis of your problems? This one she's not bothered.
DeletePls go for serious prayers
DeleteListen to your mother
DeleteGo to GOD, pray hard
DeleteForget your mother
i am married to a man that has 4 sisters, 3 has been married before while on of the them just got married but the other 1 has never been married. we got married after i had my baby for him and i took several interventions before it happened because he denied my pregnancy onky for me to find out that he has a babymama whom he denied her baby as well
DeleteMy mother has irrational anger and nags a lot. It is usually worse when she is pregnant. I witnessed the episodes as a young kid all through my adolescent years. Unfortunately, my sisters inherited it. Their husbands complain about it. I pity them because I saw hell while growing up. How my dad lives with it still baffles me. I can never do it. It is the first thing I look out for in a woman. Once I detect a whiff of it I am gone. I left one because she cursed me out on phone. I didn't let her finish. I just cut the call and immediately sent her a breakup text. Not me. Never going through that again. Not now that I have options unlike with my mum.
ReplyDeleteIt's the pregnancy hormones, not a curse. Pregnancy affects every woman in different ways.
DeleteNot a curse.
DeletePregnancy hormones for your mom or learned behaviour.
Learned behaviour by your sisters. They saw your mom do it so they assume it is okay whether pregnant or not.
Unbridled and violent anger is mostly learned from one or both parents and can be learned down generations. Then people call it generational curse in a family until a man or woman learn to break it.
I write from personal experience and knowledge.
Bad behavior has nothing to do with pregnancy hormones.. Did you not read where he stated that his Mom did it to his Dad a lot? Once you give birth those hormones disappear. He never stated that his Mom was permanently pregnant. Also, he broke up with a girlfriend for curing him out on the phone. My dear, bad mouth, na bad mouth. e nor de hide.
DeleteYour mum might have suffered from PPD after each child birth. I don't know if this is what it was but on the contrary, pregnancy hormones don't disappear immediately after childbirth. The body goes through lots of changes during and after childbirth. It might help if you have a one on one talk with her. It might very well be a bad character too. Also have a talk with your sisters too as well or even your dad and find out how and why he bore the excesses even after many years.
DeleteThe fact that you are the way you are shows that you may be even worse than your mum and sisters. Just saying. Your issues seems to be deeper and more pronounced than theirs
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ReplyDeleteThat's why it's good to listen to parents who have done their investigation, but you can't advise a man/woman in love, very few of them listen.
ReplyDeleteThe female in my family from my father’s side hardly get married.me I have refused to bow oo.i will get married and it will be blissful in Jesus Name.Amen
ReplyDeleteMy mother had a friend, she is late now, May God rest her soul. She gisted my mom, that their mother never let their dad marry a second wife, even the one he married, didn’t see peace, she kept sabotaging his marriages. Eventually, that my mother’s friend and all her siblings reaped the bad fruit of their mother’s evil deeds. None of them stayed married, at some point other women chased them out of their homes too. Her siblings are now in their 50s but none of them is married. All divorced.
ReplyDeleteAs if divorce is a crime
DeleteI'm not saying the woman is a good woman cos I don't know her but why would anyone be okay with their husband getting another wife?🤷
DeleteMe I won't o
Fidel, the story shock u too ba
DeleteDid she go diabolical to do it? If yes, the devil does not give a free gift.
DeleteAnon it is not a crime, but it is a very unfortunate and sad situation. If in doubt, ask divorcees. Even the oyinbos u guys look up to, will tell you it is a very difficult phase for anybody involved. Heck some of them end up in therapy after it, some end up homeless after it, some become depressed and commit suicide. One even defined it as pulling out ur heart thru ur wallet.
Delete20:35 how oyibos feel about divorce is not same as his Nigerians feel
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ReplyDeleteFew months back in our family prayers, our eldest sister was giving prayer points and she made mentioned that in our kingdrate abi how do the spell it. That wive tend to feed their wife than men taking the family on their head.
ReplyDeleteShe started giving examples from those who are old and dead till our father till our uncles till she got to our first son. That was when all of us started thinking on that direction.
My brother was in so much money but after some years of marriage is the wife that is taking care of the family. He has try so much things still no show but he is helping out in the wife's business.
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DeleteSo true. That is why we need to pray and address these generational patterns in marriage. It is not a joke. I know a pastor that divorced his wife cos she was an illiterate. The chc come blow and went international and suddenly the woman did not fit him again. He got a new wife. Very educated and tush. But he set a pattern. All his children are unsuccessful in marriage. His daughter inlaw just ran away with another man.
ReplyDeleteIf you have children or plan to have. You must be VERY CAREFUL how you live your life, make curses no begin follow you to generations unborn
DeleteI no believe in all these. All man are the architect of their destiny. However one should move closer to God or anything he/she holds in high esteem
ReplyDeleteKeep trying so hard to sound woke. You go soon learn
DeleteWhether we believe or not they do exist but whether they are responsible for our woes is another thing ,I pray that whatever we are suffering from that is not the will of God Jesus will break all bondages in our lives in Jesus name
ReplyDeleteThere are generational blessings and curses. The first born of God - Adam was cursed, first son of Adam- Cain was cursed, first son of Noah was placed under the second, first born of Abraham was sent away, first born of Isaac received a curse, first born of Jacob was cursed, Manasseh was placed under Ephraim. First born were under curse until Jesus. Apply the Cross to generational curses and claim generational blessings.
ReplyDeleteAll the women in my father's house are divorcees, in my mum's house, all the women were married twice as well, including my mum. My mum was my dad's first and only wife while he was my mum's second husband. She gave birth to six of us and they got separated. Our first born is in her 4th marriage while our second born just left her second marriage to be single. I'm 35 and single not becos I have no one in my life but scared that I might ended like my sisters. I just want to be married to one man for the rest of my life but the emotional abuse I endure from my fiance keeps me in doubt of our being together forever.I DON'T WANT TO MAKE MISTAKE THAT MIGHT AFFECT MY UNBORN CHILDREN!
ReplyDeleteMy sister, pls leave that relationship. The signs are already there, you said he abused you emotionally.
DeleteDont give up, focus on what God says and HE will honor you.