Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narrative - RIGHT OF REPLY

 Hmmm... This is shocking!

 

Check the original story HERE

''Hi Stella,
I am writing to dispute the fact as put out by my ex with regard to the post as presented. 

While I cannot deny most of the content of her narratives, which I rated at 65%. The sad part was that she omitted the remaining 35%, which would have invalidated most of her claims. My attention was drawn to it by my wife, we just married last weekend. It was shifted further, because the gubernatorial election was shifted to our previous date. Forgive me in advance because it is going to be a long read.

My ex was the one who introduced me to your blog, and did encouraged me to follow it when I have the time. That's how I got to know about the single and mingles, which I only participated once after the breakup with my ex, and where I met my wife. From the comments I could see my most of the blog visitors don't make it out successfully, from the single and mingles. They are too, sentimental and narrow with the way they see some of the men. 

How easy it was for them to come to conclusion without good logic, shows how sad and aggrieved their narrow mind has shaped their sense of reasoning. Could be the men they had come across or living with, have not being good to them. I respect the few who are objective with their comments.

Back to the matter, after I read the link my wife forwarded to me. I had to go over copies of my account e-statement. To actually see how much this ex assisted me with over time, and tallied it to be N289,750 thousand. But she didn't say what I did for her. We met in April, 2018 as friends and started dating a year and a month later. By November 2019 I lost my job, thst was when my father was scheduled for surgery, I was the one that took care of that. I am the first son, second child. 

Then covid lockdown happened to all of us. All these while s#x was not even in the mix, then 2 months before covid lockdown was lifted, she moved in with me, the excuse was that she doesn’t have enough to feed herself and her family (mother and two sisters lived with her, her father and her brother was with her elder brother). She had wanted to move in with me as soon as the lockdown was announced, I resisted because I had two of my male siblings with me, in my room and parlour mini-flat. But I squeezed myself to send her 10k every month until she moved in with me, that was after my 2 siblings managed to go back to the village, that's where they school (university) they were my responsibility. 

For those two month she stayed with me, I bought her toiletries, fed and recharged her phone (call card and data). By the time the lock down was lifted, I was financially drained. Luckily I had sorted out my younger siblings tuitions and some monies to manage for the semester, it was upon them how they would survive school afterwards. Because here I was broke. 

Don't forget, I already lost my job. And during lock down I was practicing programming and coding, that period ushered in more free materials online, cousera, future learn, and it likes.

Post lock down she resumed work, I was out and broke, and she helped me with subscription money for my WiFi. We broke up April 2021, only because of the problem we have always had - another man. 

She is very controlling and domineering, the 2 months of lock down showed that side of her better. Then she said, "I should be lucky that I was dating an independent lady who is able to carter for herself, her family and her man. That if she follow family pressure she would dump my broke self and date one of the rich men disturbing her for marriage." 

Those were her exact words. I told her that if there was any serious person asking her to marry him, she could go ahead. Because as it is I am still sorting myself and until I am financially stable the way I should be, marriage cannot be actualized because her type can drain the happiness in a marriage with the way she was behaving. That was what broke the camels back, then she opened up to a lot I cannot write here for her sake.

 Yes she loved me, and I did too. But there was a fiancé somewhere, who had actually done introduction. He was from the UK. What a bombshell, so I was the side.... then? That was how she broke up with me and moved on.

I continued with my self-taught IT (backend), this was something I have been learning and practicing a year before our paths crossed. From receipts from my e-statements of account, as at when we broke up, the amount of transfers I had made to her was N402,108 thousand. If it is a lie, let her refute it with her receipts and I will send you conformable receipts. Although most of that came when I was working. That excludes gift items. The highest thing she gave me were a pack of quality briefs and a quality perfume. I on the other hand had bought her quality female hand bags, sets of inners, changed her phone twice, the present one she is using was a gift to me by a former boss who came back from Japan ( a samsung). 

I met my wife from the next edition of Stella's singles mingle, she wasn't as financially strong as my ex, but she has everything my ex never cared to improve on. I was staying with her when I got a local job that gambled on me. My rent had expired and I couldn't come up with money to renew. I called my ex to know if she could loan me some, she told me not to ever call her again that my usefulness had expired and blocked me. For days I called her but it didn't go through. She got married so I heard, ending of the year we broke off.

Only for me to receive a call from her last week Tuesday, honestly I was glad she did call. And thankfully it was in the evening and I was with my wife, so it was on speaker. She embarrassed the excitement I had, and started cursing me, my family, my wife and our unborn child. My wife who was by my side, just held my other hand and used her other hand to tao me on the shoulder to relax. When I was lost for curse, I asked to send me her account number and cut her off. She should please mind her business, I was at no time bad to her. And didn't offend her to warrant all those curses. 

My wife was the one that sent her, N750,000 last Thursday. That is a bitter human, no wonder her marriage didn't work out, so I have heard. And those of your blog visitors that said nasty things about someone they knew nothing about bitterly, it goes to show how much hurt you all are carrying about.

 We are all different, and if the people you have met in life still leaves you feeling this much hurt, then you probably have to check yourselves. Yes there are bad people everywhere even in our families, but I am not one, neither is my wife nor was my ex in a way. She could be hurting from a problem to which I was not its cause.

Stella please, bear with me for the long reply and telling truth to some of your blog visitors. Most of them need counselling, they are walking with so much hurt. Probably from people that didn't even hurt them, but their own conspiracies. 

I needed to reply with my private email.

WOW....So this is a fracas between two BVs`?? OMG, and you married from Stellas singles mingle? una plenty wey dey marry and una no dey inform me, the last time i checked the count of those who married from stella's singles mingle was over 100...You said your wife sent her SEVEN HUNDRED AND FIFTY THOUSAND NAIRA? Meaning she sent you her account to you to send her money back and then came to send a chronicle? I rest my case...

Happy married life to you and your wife°