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Saturday, August 12, 2023

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CONFUSED ABOUT BOYFRIEND


I don't understand why my boyfriend always uses things we discuss to joke with me about it. Like i told him I have fibroid and am on a herbal medication. I use a particular pot to cook the medicine, each time he visits and enters my kitchen he will be saying you are still drinking this your roots in a mocking way.

 I told him about some things about my mom, one day we had an argument he said i have a loose mouth like my mother.

I shared our dad's burial plans with him and only for him to tell me when we are chatting that all the money we are gathering for his burial we should have given him Nlike 1.5m the man would have remained alive. That we should do and lay the man to rest. 

He knows that we plan to do that towards October cos of too much rain. The topic we were chatting was on the high increase in flight tickets but he choose to bring up that issue. I feel he always wants to make me and my family feel less or he is using my challenge to mock me.

We have talked about him using words i told him about me, I don't like it but he keeps on doing the same thing. I have decided never to share anything about my health or family with him again. I will die with any challenge i face in the future without letting him know. Since i cannot share anything with him and he will not use it to joke with me........

Hmmm even husband that you marry, its not everything they tell them ooooooo..if this your boyfriend has this kind of basketmouth, plase just take him like a toyboy ooooo...definitely not a marriage material... loose mouth.

69 comments:

  1. I have to ask why he is still your boyfriend when he has no respect for you. It sounds like he doesn’t even like you sef

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    1. Thank you for this question. I don't know what is wrong with ladies of today. Drop that guy like it's hot.

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    2. The guy seems to be the sarcastic type and it has become part of him. It doesn't necessarily mean he is a bad person, but it is his way of blowing off steam. However him hitting you at sensitive spots all the time will affect your emotional and even mental health, if care is not taken. You seem to be the quiet type and not the fire for fire type poster. Talk about it earnestly with him again. If there is no change, then you have to opt out for your peace of mind.

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    3. 16:19 saying loose mouth like your mom is not sarcastic
      It’s rude and a sign of no joke training

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    4. An 16:19 what kind of sarcasm is that? She has fibroid! How can he be so daft and see what he is saying on the burial plans. He is an insensitive and self absolved

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    5. Sarcasm doesnt mean, rude, cruel and senseless.
      It's better to understand the meaning of a word before bas-tar-dizi-ng it to fit any context.

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    6. You are dating an insensitive jerk. He lacks the intelligence to differentiate subjects that should not be joked with. He lacks boundaries. I repeat he is a jerk. By the time you are done dating him, your self-esteem will be on track zero after he is done touching all your sensitive buttons.

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    7. What's the need marrying someone you can't open up to? What exactly is the color of your problem ehn?
      Is that the only man in the country you reside at?
      Keep suffering and smiling ehn.

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    8. 18:01 you can pass your point across without being unnecessarily vicious. And for your info, sarcasm can be mean, cruel, rude and senseless, depending on the context.

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  2. Future: gonna get worse girl, coz he ain't changing.

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  3. Lady T /worth more than a thousand dollars12 August 2023 at 15:05

    Why are you still with him? Its not going to change.

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    1. Aunty you are dating yourself cut off from the emotional abuser, it will get worse

      Stop managing nonsense, you deserve better
      He will destroy your self esteem,he doesn't like you, he is only managing you till his dream girl comes, don't waste your life with nasty man child

      Nobody hurts what they truly love

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  4. I learned that early in my life, I have nobody I share my life issue with. Nobody has any of my secrets with him/she, maybe because I don't really have any dark secrets sha.

    Know who you're dealing with and act accordingly, I hide most things that's happening in my family from my husband, so stop telling your bf everything that's going on in your life or that of your family.


    *Larry was here*

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    1. Your spouse should be the one person you should be able to trust to a reasonable extent, as you have to do life with them. It is a pity some people are just too careless and porous with people's info. Once I notice this, I begin to withdraw. For a spouse it is unacceptable, but in this life there is someone for everyone.

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    2. Mehn! this is deep .... Even your husband?

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    3. Many men are emotionally unintelligent and talk foolishly

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  5. Stella today your red pen align with my thoughts πŸ‘

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  6. I was shocked at you have a loose mouth like your mother,that was so rude of him....This guy is a man_child and it's not stopping anytime soon.

    Going forward you don't have to tell your boyfriend or husband your family secret or everything that's happening.
    All the best!

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  7. This is no boyfriend,man child,they never grow up πŸ™„πŸ™„

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    1. Aunty leave that deadwood brain child alone

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  8. He has no business knowing that you have fibroid unless you are engaged and about to marry. Some men can be immature, it's not everything that you'll tell them. Don't even tell anything concerning your family or siblings even if you are married.

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  9. I'm always the first to initiate break you. If na me I for don serve am breakfast, no time!

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  10. That your boyfriend is a basket mouth that is dealing with insecurity. A friend is supposed to be someone you share your feelings with and feel safe. He wants to put you down in order to boost his own ego why he talks down on you.
    How are you doing ? or what are doing about it? ... That's a friend that cares. Love is kind.

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  11. That your boyfriend is a basket mouth that is dealing with insecurity. A friend is supposed to be someone you share your feelings with and feel safe. He wants to put you down in order to boost his own ego why he talks down on you.
    How are you doing ? or what are you doing about it? ... That's a friend that cares. Love is kind.

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  12. What are you doing with someone who doesn't respect you or your family? is love that scarce that people take anyhow person into their corner and to think this guy will be tagged 'nice and ticked all boxes'.
    See the way he spoke about your mum, later you'll complain that he doesn't respect your mum when you get married.
    I doubt if he'll change because you've corrected him more than once, this is not the matter of sharing sensitive information with him, he will continue to take a swap at you with anything.

    Felicity

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    1. Just an annoying somebody. And this trait in a man is so off putting.

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    2. @17:22
      Is the trait "on-putting" in a woman?

      We manize or genderise issues too much.

      A bad habit is a bad habit no matter how has it.

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    3. I myself don't understand the by force relationship she is forging with the guy.

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  13. Yes you have a loose mouth. Learn to keep somethings to yourself. Humans are not to be trusted. Even in marriage, there is a limit to what you tell your spouse especially when it concerns your family.
    On another note. Kindly throw away those herbs you are taking. Don't go and cause more harm to your organs. Save money and do surgery if you can

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    1. Herbs work

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    2. Nne, some Herbs work.

      No be everything be surgery. Many have gone through surgery.😞

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  14. He has no respect for you or your family. Definitely not going to marry you but, if you go ahead and he married you with all this red flags πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„. You never see something

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  15. Aunty you never see boyfriend o, in fact you are very single.

    Give other guys a chance and dump this loud mouth like a pack of cards, let the dumping be dramatic, don't forget to give us the gist you hear

    Ngwanu take care

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    1. Throw away this toxic man before he destroys your self esteem and give you depression

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  16. When I wanted to do my fibriod operation I did not tell him anything I mean my boyfriend till the main day..I dont discuss somethings with him to avoid I had know in future , from now onwards stop telling him everything that is if you still want to continue with the relationship..

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    1. Don't continue in that relationship,he no get sense and refuses to get sense. Throw him away and heal from the nastiness

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    2. Don't continue in that relationship,he no get sense and refuses to get sense. Throw him away and heal from the nastiness

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  17. Poster is not even worth the pepper dem stuff you want to do. He has done this one too many times and you are still sharing like bluetooth. You are with a Peter Pan.

    Why not dump his arse instead of this petty revenge you want to carry out. Mehn you are funny, somebody you should drop like it's hot potatoes. Save your energy for better things..

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  18. Boyfriends are scares. Better hold him tight. Do you want to be begging God to provide you with a spouse at 35? No man is perfect. Manage him like that. I dislike people that recommend breaking up at any slight occurrence.

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    1. Which I could unread what I just read. 😳😳😳

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    2. Natasha ,give this ur unsolicited advice to urself how can u tell her to manage?pls she's not desperate,abi mk she send u d guy number mk u sef manage am on her behalf?

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    3. Natasha,
      Poster may choose to stay with him. But it should not be because boyfriends are scare. Marriage partners are never scarce.

      Poster is already not happy with a part of relationship that is important to her. She is already planning on being very secretive even to the death in in marriage. Who does that? So what is the purpose of marrying a person if you cannot share challenges with the person. Well, except the marriage is for solid money.

      Poster's plan to suddenly turn secretive would or may also cause problem in the marriage as soon as the boyfriend then husband notice that his once talking partner has become reticent on her personal matters.

      To the main point, Poster has not found the man that suits her heart sought marriage lifestyle.

      But if all other boxes are ticked by the man except his loquaciousness, Poster may choose to stay.

      By the way, I am a male (I don learn here say male different from man 😁).

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    4. You say?
      What did I just read?
      Coming form a woman, your reasoning has to be studied, your type will rather die in the name of marriage Erase that mentality sharp s
      harp

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  19. You are still with this toxic red flag instead of dropping him like it’s hot ASAP. You guys will now marry and start disturbing us with back to back chronicles like the husband and wife of yesterday chronicles πŸ˜’

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  20. This ur bf na cruise
    No seriousness.
    Stop telling him things and even the next man that will come, it's not every family matter or private stuff you tell ur bf. Atleast you will have to know his real character first before discussing sensitive issues with bf.
    It is well.
    Better start positioning for another bf cos this one doesn't look like "it"

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  21. He is a very insensitive person and I hope you think long and hard about your future together. This is the type you will be in pains pregnant and will start his "jokes"

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  22. First of all, that man is not mature.

    Secondly, na mumu Dey tell man everything, even the man wey marry me keep for house, I never tell am everything.

    Now don’t get me wrong, I am not asking you to keep things away from your man, but if it doesn’t concern your relationship then it’s not his business.

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    1. But these are very basic things she told him
      If they’re having sex, he might be able to feel the fibroids so his will she hide it
      Her father died and they are making plans . That one is not a secret

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  23. If you feel he is belittling you and your family then that is a major red flag. Even if you and your family were cave dwellers for centuries that’s your kin and they mean something to you. You boyfriend is one of those know it all people who has an opinion and loves to share it whether invited or not.

    Remember any flaw someone has while dating gets amplified in marriage. If he is the last chance for you then manage by not sharing anything beyond the ordinary with him. If you have options out there then end it and go find someone less annoying to make a life with. He sounds annoying and exhausting as hell. Whew

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    1. Abeg, wetin be last chance?
      If Dem marry today will she treat him in marriage as her last chance husband?
      Women take and do things before marriage that they know they cannot accept in marriage. After, they complain that their husbands changed.
      How would a man not change when he finds out he was lured into the marriage?
      She should accept his disagreeable behavior now and start keeping silent and secrets over important issues in marriage?

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  24. This man does not like you. Run ohhhhh

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    1. E fit be manchild!
      Loose mouth plenty for men now.

      It's a Tufiakwa something.🀒

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    2. Apple, no mind the man. He does not know only some women are allowed to do what he is doing.

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  25. What are you doing with someone as useless as that? Is your self esteem so bottom barrel low?

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  26. How you people date immature boys is what I don't understand. As for the herbs you are taken pls stop, it does not work. That's how I spent so much money for y wife taken those herbs at the end she did surgery cause the herbs was just a waste of funds

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  27. Stop those destructive herds because it doesn't cure it but destroys. Please take note & go for a surgery.
    The most complex B

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    1. Poster google castor oil and hot water bottle

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  28. How can a man who is suppose to be more mature than his woman act in this way?haba! this is wrong.
    Poster,I know this hurt.pls discuss with him and if he does it again,then you can take a decision of walking away.your mental health is more important to you.

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  29. You actually have loose mouth to discuss those with him.

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  30. That your boyfriend is insecure, he has low self esteem, I'm sure he has lots of skeletons inside his cupboard and he lacks respect.

    Poster end this relationship yesterday!!

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  31. Poster pls kam jukene gi ajuju a ( I want to ask you this question) you mean you re still planning to be with him or end up with him , you re standing on emotional grenade. It's better that you re alone than been with this your boyfriend, like you ll have the tiniest of burden you can't confide in him without him regretting why you open up.
    Nne gbawa door , run and don't look back he's ain't gonna stop soon

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  32. Pls poster save up and go for surgery, if not for anything for your kidney and. Liver, most cases those herbs worse the issues may God come through for you Amen.
    With what you re handling the least you need in your life is this type of time bomb called boyfriend

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  33. “Don’t place what you cannot/won’t eat close to your nostrils” is an African proverb. I always tell young adults to “date with purpose & date only who they will not mind ending up married to”Why are you with a man that treats you this way? Money? S*x? Start to appreciate the value God put on you as a woman. You are more than “pleasure tools”! I like the part of the Bible where God says “ye sold yourself for nothing” but he redeemed us with the blood of Jesus. Why are young ladies selling themselves for “nothing”? I know times are hard & some guys help ladies financially but at what cost is it to your mental health assuming that’s what it is.

    Every time we endure this sort of verbal abuse, something valuable depreciates inside of us! You need to be in relationships that improve your intrinsic worth as a young lady, you can’t allow a man abuse your pain & dishonor your mom. Fibroids is a serious medical condition & your mom is not his “toothpick” to joke with!

    If he is joking about fibroid & your mom now what will happen if God forbid you end up with him. These are bold RED FLAGS some choose to ignore that are leading to the increasing divorce rates. He isn’t kind if he uses your pain & your loved ones as a butt of his jokes, it’s not sarcasm it’s tone deaf insensitivity! Fibroid is not funny, my sister battled it for years!

    Of what value is this relationship to your self esteem, mental health & future? Do some ladies always have to be in a relationship even with an obtuse man to feel complete? Be with a man that VALUES you, loves you and is kind to you. Never let a man talk down at your pain & those you value, it will get worse after marriage, if it happens. Poster, I don’t get a sense of a love relationship in your write up, he doesn’t show you love as love. Love is kind, are his words kind? Wait for your own man & you will be fine.

    The journey of life & marriage is very long & can be intense. It seemed like yesterday that I married but 3 decades went by so fast. Be intentional about who you date in case you end up together. I don’t like advising people to leave partners but since he is not even your fiancΓ©e, he is just depreciating you mentally & physically without any benefits to you. Leave & wait for your own man✌🏾

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