TUESDAY IN HOUSE NEWS

Tuesday Tremendous hailings.....

IN HOUSE NEWS.....

I salute everybody ooooooh...

I just finised having a Mother to Children talks with my Bambinos especially the one that just became an adult recently. I was about to prepare the remaining names for the giveaway but there was no time to compile it....It was a wonderful discussion and we sorted out some stuff.... This parenthood thing is not a day job and is not childs play at all..

I will post it hopefully by Wednesday....

Wetin dey happen?

Enjoy the day please, its raining here and i am in my rain mood...LOL

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD.

It’s customary in my place to stay indoors after the birth of a baby for forty to forty one days, the first major outing apart from immunisation visit is usually a church dedication for the Christians of which I am one.

With previous birth experiences, I usually stay indoors too but this time around I had made up my mind not to. I experienced post partum baby blues in the first two births and I was going to do everything to alleviate the symptoms this time.

So I informed everyone I wasn’t staying indoors and I did my best to go out at least once a week to clear my head and it worked for me.
Post partum baby blues is a mood disturbance that happens after child birth,(some women experience it during pregnancy) it has been stated that between fifty to eighty five percent of women go through it.

Symptoms are mood swings, anxiety, crying, sadness, irritability, feeling overwhelmed, trouble sleeping, reduced concentration etc.

It can last from two hours after birth to two weeks, when it’s more than two weeks it’s considered to be post partum depression and when this is not checked it can lead to post partum psychosis. (Post partum psychosis can happen on its own).
Being open to my family about my struggles and asking for help has really helped a lot. Almost every mom around me has experienced this to varying degrees.
Please always speak out and get help if you find yourself going through any of this (see a doctor if you are not getting better). Your mental health matters.

Kai a womans life is not easy

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GIST

A man came to my shop to buy gala and cold drink, I gave him but he decided to sit down and have it, my little girl was with my phone,  so she dropped the phone on the long bench and left to play, this man quickly picked my phone ooo, I saw him, told him immediately to give me my phone,  he said he thought it was his own, but he's on call with his phone, he quickly apologised,  I let it slide.

Suddenly he asked me if I knew anywhere he can deposit money as he's having a lot of cash in his bag (he came with a backpack), he  even saw my immediate neighbour who is a pos operator but still came to ask me, I told him that I don't know anyone,  he said  "Ahh how can I be walking around in this strange city with over 3million naira, he kept lamenting so I called the pos operator for him, she told him that she doesn't have upto 300k in her wallet,  he hissed and continued eating his snacks, 

The pos woman left,  he turned to me and said  "Madam, you're a good woman and I have seen you heart, you're a kind person and I will like to help you, you see this money am carrying here, there's more from whence that one came, just do anything I instruct you to do and today will be your lucky day.

I bent closer to him, whispered into his ear, Oga stand up and leave my shop now, else I will scream and you may not survive it, your charms has failed and I will never fall a victim of something like this,  you know why? I am not greedy, I'm very contented with whatever I have,  before I even finished talking,  Oga got up and walked away.

What if it was a younger person,  alone in that shop? Hmmmmm may God save us ooo, things are happening 

Na wah oh.....I was almost a victim of this kind of scam one time i was broke oooo,they collected my necklance and my gold watch that was a gift ,,,e pain me even till now

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SATURDAY CHRONICLE POSTER WRITES IN

''Thank you for the post. This my update is long ooo, but I think it will help for a better understanding.
Thank you Stella and all the BV's that shared their opinions. I also saw some of the questions that was raised in the comment section and I would like to buttress a little bit.

I and my siblings are orphans (we lost our parents quite young, our last born was 8 years old when our dad died, mum died few years after). Life really took a toll on us, messed us up but we stuck together through it all and God has been faithful.
I am a free spirited, loving and easy going person, I have always prayed that any of my siblings spouses is automatically "OUR own" and will get all the love and support needed. I have always carried my siblings on my shoulder both the younger and older, I am their everyday go to person ( mother of the house) and my brother is my No. 1 supporter.

When my brother wanted to get married, we were all excited and it was a beautiful ceremony. At the wedding, I was more or less the mother of the groom, I represented well and represented our late parents (though we had other extended family members that attended but it was "our wedding"). My brother's joy that day was seeing me by his side, even when something almost annoyed him that day, his wife ( sister-in-law) asked them to call me to calm him down ( so you know the kind of bond we share). After the wedding, we all went back to our different place of residence.

Few months after the wedding, it was my sister-in-law's birthday and been the first birthday in our home, I sent her money to celebrate her birthday, she thanked me and my brother also thanked me too. However, few months after, it was my birthday she didn't call nor text to wish me happy birthday despite that my brother ( her husband) and my younger siblings flooded their whatzapp status with my pictures. Well, I gave her benefit of doubt as to probably something came up and I didn't get offended at her. I always initiate the calls and texts just to check on her and how her business is doing etc.

On the question as to why I want to spend Christmas with them.

Since our parents demise, life took us to different states to seek greener pasture and we get to unite at our parent's house every Christmas and new year to spend it together as a family ( that has been our tradition for close to 10 years now).
Last year Christmas, I couldn't go home because of the wedding expenses, it really drained me financially and I had to save to plan for the coming year plus house rent to pay and other things to sort so I stayed back and spent Christmas alone but my younger siblings, my brother and his wife went to our parent's house for the festive period ( as per family house) and we communicated on phone ( that was the first Christmas I spent without my siblings).

The reason why I want to spend Christmas with them this year is because they just had a baby and it's ideal for them to spend Christmas in their own home with their bundle of joy as a family so I and my younger siblings plan to spend Christmas with them, see the baby (so I can also perform omugwo duties as per "grandma") and we leave like on the 27th to spend Christmas at our parent's while they stay back in their own house.

I am already saving towards buying her gifts and also for the baby too. My younger ones are the coolest and sweetest, our parents trained us well and we have so much love to give so we don't even have any problem at all, our life is easy.

Few things I noticed about my sister-in-law is that whenever I call her by her name her spirit dampens and she gives me this fake smile vibes, sometimes when I am talking to my brother via video call, I ask to give her the phone so I say hello to her she will collect the phone but carry her face one side and I have no choice than to end the conversation. All I do is ask after her from my brother and that's all
I also noticed she would rather want to relate with me in English just to avoid using "E" for me in our native language. I am not even asking for all these high and mighty respect but its just common sense that even if you weren't married to my brother, if we were to meet on a normal circumstance outside, age wise, you address me properly.

I remember vividly that after the civil wedding, I told her to feel free and feel at home that she is now one of us.
I am not desperate for her love or attention (never), infact I told myself to give her time to relax and blend well into the family, not everyone opens up immediately like that right?
I am yet to raise this issue with my brother because my brother worries alot and has HBP, I do not want to aggravate any worries in him especially when it has to do with his wife so I will just keep being the matured one and manage the situation ( thank God we live in different states and get to see once or twice in a year). May God continue to keep us all.

P.S my sister-in-law's mother calls me from time to time to check on me. She is a cool woman and accords me with respect as I do to her.
Someone also asked whether I am married or not no I am not but that doesn't warrant any yamayama attitude from her.

I just needed to hear from people who have had experience with in-laws palava so I don't appear to be over doing and know when to maintain my lane. Thank you.


Na wah, all these Ladies that will carry ish into a family to cause katakata without even looking back...Please ignore this behaviour and focus on the love and Unity between you and your siblings... Try to treat her fuck up nicely without involving your brother cos that would be forcing him to take sides and wont end well...


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