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I ended a brief relationship with a married man. I did it because my conscience won’t let me be.
We did everything couples do except gbensh. Two months of being with him made it seem I had known him forever.
Being with him made me feel far from God. I’ve blocked him but deep down I still miss him.
How can I get him off my head completely? Please don’t judge me
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TIPS NEEDED
I ended a brief relationship with a married man. I did it because my conscience won’t let me be.
We did everything couples do except gbensh. Two months of being with him made it seem I had known him forever.
Being with him made me feel far from God. I’ve blocked him but deep down I still miss him.
How can I get him off my head completely? Please don’t judge me
First off, I must commend you for ending it when you did
Just let him stay blocked until you're totally over him and dont go back oh.....
Some of your people in the comment section will give you better tips...
Thank God you obeyed your conscience. Keep close to God and the spirit will lead you right.
ReplyDelete"Two months of being with him made it seem I had known him forever."
ReplyDeleteYou will be shocked his wife at home won't feel this way he made you feel. If is a loving man who made his wife feel this same way, he wouldn't have messed around with you in the first place. He
wouldn't have stepped out on her. Whatever he made you feel is an illusion. You don't really know the real him. His wife at home does.
This is all you need poster!!! This is everything!!!
DeleteKpakam
DeleteGbasibe, this is it👌
DeleteAnon
DeleteYou said it all
Only a Wife knows her Hubby
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DeleteWeldone, it takes a lot of strength. The truth about married men is that they are usually the sweetest humans u’d ever meet. But their true color? Ask his wife in the house or wait till u marry him and the ‘forbidden fruit’ phenomenon wears off. I wish u more strength but deep dwn u n i know u are soo going back. U don’t sound like u r done done! Any little push from him, u’d fall again. Another trait they have is persistence. If u want to test what i’m telling u, dump this married man and get another one, he wud hav same qualities. Extremely lovey dovey, listening, caring and persistence. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteLet him remain blocked and get busy with your mind or occupy yourself with other things .
ReplyDeleteAsk him to divorce his wife. Hahaha. You think you’re special. Most if them are just catching fun
DeletePoster if you were the one in his house you will understand. I am sure his wife felt the way you felt at some point but look what what he did behind her back
ReplyDeleteAnd please avoid fornication till you get married.. If you were a lady who do not fornicate and we're keeping chaste till marriage, there is no how you would have found yourself in that position.
It is normal for you to miss him. Even the neighbors you fight with, the day you hear they are moving out of the neighborhood you would miss them, be it a little. So it's normal.
Whenever the thoughts of him try to awaken just imagine your husband with a single girl doing everything you did with that man then imagine how you will feel.
The man who isn't faithful with his wife is nothing special if you were the one at home you will be in his wife shoes right now so kill the feeling and move close to your Creator.
You missing him because you think you are something special to him. But you are after all, he is just a married man who cheats, If not with you wh will with another and another and another...
ReplyDeleteHe is nothing special. Knowing this will help you quickly forget him.
Each time you miss him, thank God for giving the courage to walk away and you are not the woman his wife is praying dangerous prayers at midnight and other prayer platforms for.
ReplyDeleteEnding a relationship with a married man is generally considered a responsible and ethical choice, as it involves respecting the sanctity of marriage and the commitments made by the involved parties.
ReplyDeleteA married man may be physically “available” but he is not emotionally “available” for a relationship.
See him sneaking behind his wife's back just to be with you.
You will never be his first priority and I'm sure that’s not what you want for your life. SOMEONE’S SECRET.
Moving on will take time but know you deserve more than a man that would tell lies just to be with you.
His wife will always be there hovering above you!
As to how you move on? It is a bit like stopping smoking - you need willpower and time.
First off, admit that he is not yours but someone else’s.
Don’t decide to compromise yourself by looking after him.
Place your priorities right. Remind yourself that you deserve the best and stay positive.
Don’t be afraid of the unknown. You deserve love and will love again, having the person all to yourself.
Please heal yourself and be strong! Be patient. Forgive yourself and learn…
I must commend you for ending things with the said married man, however remember that something must entice us to commit sin, only you know what is enticing you to this man, identify the whatever it is and replace that with something more valuable an what your time
ReplyDelete@Anonymous 15:17, I hear where you’re coming from, and I totally respect your opinion in this paragraph; "You will be shocked his wife at home won't feel this way he made you feel. If he was a loving man who made his wife feel this same way, he wouldn't have messed around with you in the first place. He wouldn't have stepped out on her. Whatever he made you feel is an illusion."
ReplyDeleteEverything about emotions and feelings is rarely that simple. As humans, we are layered - more in unspeakable ways. That's why we do the unthinkable, times and times again. A man can love his wife and still betray her - not because he’s incapable of loving her the exact way he would for a side chic or the way she wants to be loved, but because he’s selfish, undisciplined, unprincipled, or emotionally reckless.
The worldliness in humans, could make the most loving of all men yet cheat on his loving wife with reckless abandonment. What this poster felt with him was real to her; it wasn’t some made-up illusion - at least to her. And it may or may not also be what the wife feels - we don't have that report, nor is social experience defined. The assumption that he may have failed someone else doesn’t automatically mean he lied to the poster. As humans, we aren’t either good or bad - we are woven in happenstance, sometimes messy, rigid, flexible, insecure, and, sometimes, so are the feelings we stir in others.
Back to the post itself. Poster, you touched fire and pulled back before it burned you to ashes - kudos. What you miss isn’t him; it’s the borrowed fantasy you sold to yourselves, dressed in the skin of intimacy. Particularly for you, poster, it's the loneliness you dressed in borrowed robes. Delete the obsessing illusion, not just the number. Guilt is your inner compass - follow it, but don’t let it shame you into silence. Throw the key to this greed far into the lagoon, and build a life so rich he fades into irrelevance. While emotional detox isn’t easy, it's necessary for spiritual hygiene. Heal, grow, and remember: emotional crumbs aren’t a meal.
First of all, i want to commend you for ending that relationship.That was a difficult but brave decision. Listening to your conscience and choosing integrity over fleeting comfort is something many struggle to do, but you did it.
ReplyDeleteNow,as hard as ut may be, try not to romanticize what you left behind. Missing him is natural, you're human, and emotional bonds don’t vanish overnight. But keep reminding yourself of the reasons you walked away, the feeling of being distant from God, the weight on your conscience, and the truth that this connection, however emotionally intense, wasn’t meant for you.
You deserve a love that brings you peace, not guilt. Take this experience as a lesson and a reminder never to settle for anything that compromises your worth or your relationship with God.
Just give yourself time, you'll definitely heal ,the first and hardest step has already been taken.
And let me also add, that man ain't all that, na so dem dey appear all nice and sweet when still chasing. No nice and honourable man/woman cheat. Take care dear.
I do not commend you
ReplyDeleteI do not agree with all the other posters praising you
He didn’t marry today
You met him married
You saw him married
You saw his ring or knew he went back home to his wife every single night.
You didn’t gbensh but you did everything
Upeh ,is anybody a child here
Did you or did you not come Aunty?
What did you discover?
Did you realize he wouldn’t leave his wife
Abi he asked for a huge sacrifice
When people do what they should’ve done since and seek validation and praise
We will send dispatch rider to come and collect your phone so that you GET OVER him
Bvs will mount Cctv camera so that you go to kiss him
Shebi we should men to pick him up and relocate him
Shebi your eyes were tied before
My friend come and complete this story let’s know the advice to give you
Welldone you left a married man
Is today you know he is married
What’s your reason gangan
The wife catch you
Abi she don Dey suspect
The man randy abi
You Dey fear infection
You shaa know that all these hailing and praise never solve your problem
Thank You!!!
DeleteThank You!!!
I owe You a Drink of Your Choice.
Marie
DeleteChilled abeg with soft peppered dry meat
My throat dry this poster just vex me
Which kain corner corner chronicles she send bvs so
We small for her eye?
Exactly .
DeleteToh!!!!
DeleteIt is natural to miss someone you had a close connection to, that is fine. However, you know that you did the right thing, so do not look back. Involve yourself with things that make you feel good about yourself and that have a positive influence on your life.
ReplyDeleteYou for no date am in the first place. Thank God you’ve come back to ur senses. Remain with this particular sense abeg
ReplyDeleteSincerely, I applaud u for the courage to end things with him
ReplyDeleteWell done babe. Keep moving. If you're tempted to go back, remember it will only end in pains for you.
ReplyDeleteYou can't get off him if you don't delete his phone contact from your phone. Why block him without deleting his number? Blocking alone with not help you my dear.
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