You read some stories and just hiss because how can??????? how???????
We got to the Ado Ekiti New Iyin Road park where we can get Ibadan bus for 5k instead of paying 8k at the new park built just like Oshodi terminal. We were there for over 2hours, no bus, the ones we saw were going to Osogbo, Ife, etc. We had no choice than to wait since going back to the normal park will cost us another money. We were there with some other people. Shortly, we began to communicate and discussed about life till the discussion changed to family issues.
There is a man who is in his mid 60s amidst us all. He began to advise us men and said, some men are the architect of their own problems which i concur with based on the instance he gave. He said, he was once married but when life was difficult, he went to lagos to hustle and God really helped him, he was making money and was busy sending money to ekiti to his wife and children but failed to go check on them. He was in lagos for 20 years without going to ekiti to check on his family because he has had someone he was dating and he thought he was enjoying until he used his nonchalant attitude to destroy his home.
He said, his wife began to follow friends and one good day, the wife came to lagos with the info of one of his friends and met him living with a lady while he lied that, he was staying in a boys quarter where his boss gave him. That was how his wife left for good but he tried begging but it was too late.
A year after the wife left him, everything changed for him and the one staying with him in lagos ran away but thank God he has a building of his own. He said till this moment (i.e the day he was narrating this) he still misses his wife and is still trying to apologise because his children have refused to forgive him stating that, until their mum forgives him.
Men, should learn that, money isn't everything, physical communication and heartfelt gestures. Just like my wife, she cherishes more of my time with her than a gift and she is always calling me to correct me whenever she reads chronicles in here which i so much appreciate. Men should learn not to be their own problem though, there are several men who are upright but their wives are seriously frustrating them. We will come back to that later.
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Men, should learn that, money isn't everything, physical communication and heartfelt gestures. Just like my wife, she cherishes more of my time with her than a gift and she is always calling me to correct me whenever she reads chronicles in here which i so much appreciate. Men should learn not to be their own problem though, there are several men who are upright but their wives are seriously frustrating them. We will come back to that later.
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20 years???????? He didnt go to see his family for 20 years????? left his wife taking care of the kids alone for 20 years? 20 years????? or you meant to say 20 months??????
For 20 years!! In the same country o. The man no try at all and the woman sef did not even try to pay him a visit?? Na wah
ReplyDeleteA Fabulous story
ReplyDeleteWhy do You think its a Lie??
DeleteMost of You are so Myopic.
Things Happen Sir/Ma.
Nkò bè.
Life is a Mystery.
nkan mbe
DeleteThis is so difficult and sad to read.
ReplyDeleteBut Stella it is very possible, many Nigerian men even amongst the educated ones believe that being a father is all about provision.
As long as they pay school fees, house rent and anything money can take care of they believe they have discharged their responsibilities.
And time really flies when one is having fun like the oga in this story was using his boss to make excuses.
Sadly, we still have many men repeating this error over and over again.
I hate it when you leave your spouse because of cheating or your spouse leaves you because of cheating, and because someone you're cheating with leaves you, or something turns difficult for you, you're now coming back to beg me to accept you.
ReplyDeleteI don't forgive that kind of sin, I would rather keep on moving or stay single for the rest of my life.
Especially someone I don't enjoy his youthful age will now come to beg me when he's of age, oga abeg dey go, no attraction again.
I hate it when you leave your spouse because of cheating or your spouse leaves you because of cheating, and because someone you're cheating with leaves you, or something turns difficult for you, you're now coming back to beg me to accept you.
ReplyDeleteI don't forgive that kind of sin, I would rather keep on moving or stay single for the rest of my life.
Especially someone I don't enjoy his youthful age will now come to beg me when he's of age, oga abeg dey go, no attraction again.
20 years is way too much to stay away from your family haba that man no try at all
ReplyDelete20 years???!that man deserves serious beating,haba
ReplyDeleteWow, the man learnt in a bitter way
ReplyDeleteThe story of abandoned wives/families is as old as time.
ReplyDeleteSee Stella. At least, he was kind enough to give her twenty years to be ready and able enough to leave. Others will make her a carer to their relatives then derail any plans she has for her progress with pregnancy every 4 years. The moment she doesn't sound desperate for money on the phone, they cook up tales to borrow from her and never pay back then because she is financially dependent, they will even drop children from other women for them to raise.
ReplyDeleteMama is in peace and alive, Baba has the opportunity to apologise and children have given their condition for reconciliation. No need to gbenu si mic.
A whole 20 years? That's so bad of him.
ReplyDeleteTwenty years!!! Haa! that's was too much.The man kept deceiving her for twenty years.She should forgive him for the sake of her kids.
ReplyDelete20 solid years.
ReplyDeleteIt's well...
Na wah oooo
ReplyDelete20 yrs chai!!
The kind of lies the man would have told his wife in order not to come to Lagos for twenty years ehn, e reach make the woman leave.
ReplyDeleteNo conscience
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