Hmmmm......
ONE BABY MAMA; TWO BABY DADDIES
My story is a crazy one.
Years ago I got a lady pregnant and I was overjoyed when she informed me. Immediately I began footing the hospital bills, naming ceremony and all but it was all done in absentia (we lived in different locations because of work after I had met her family).
I didn't inform my family members immediately until later.
She posted pictures of the whole day wearing some of the stuff I bought for her and all during the preparation period. I never got to see videos of the main ceremony anyway and just left it at that.
I kept up with the upkeep and also kept in touch, after a few years, without informing her I now travelled down to take up my role as baby daddy to my so called daughter and got the shock of my life when I got to her parents house.
They asked who the hell i thought I was and that the real baby daddy was right at the naming ceremony and they didn't understand what was going on.
I showed them pictures she had sent me during the naming ceremony, messages she had been sending me right from when i had impregnated her, all the upkeep money and everything till date.
I even informed them I had personally sent a friend down to the hospital to clear the child delivery bill and returned back to work in a nearby country after I visited them.
I told them it was even the girl and her aunt who convinced me not to turn up for the ceremony sighting infuriating circumstances that arose because she got pregnant out of wedlock and their church was displeased etc so I decided to listen.
That day I did will forever remain in my memory. They even called the person that took the shine on that day and has been standing in as the baby daddy and that was it for me.
I stood up immediately and left only for her to start calling me later that I'm the real baby daddy and she wanted me to "please stand up to my right and take responsibility".
I just decided to ignore them all and returned to base knowing fully well that the truth will be revealed one day when the time is right.
At the time I visited, the girl was 9 years old and I wasn't even allowed to set my eyes on her, and deliberately I didn't insist due to the whole drama, whilst my baby mama has tried all forms of emotional blackmail to make me bothered but it is what it is.
I only speak to my "daughter" occasionally on the phone and have sent a representative thrice or twice to sort the school fees out and I send upkeep whenever I feel the need to.
I have decided that I will do a DNA when she's 15 and also informed her mother because I will be around for it. By then I will discuss full responsibilities but for now let the baby mama continue playing baby daddy too.
She tried making me foot bills fully for school fees and all but I didn't buy the idea so now I think she's resorted to doing whatever she can to take care of the bills which serves her right.
Although I have since moved on, but my daughter will be 15 in a few months, I still don't know how to navigate the whole messy situation and warm up to her if she's truly mine.
WOW.....She was playing two babies Daddies? Meaning she was sleeping with both of you and not sure who the real Father is...............Have you not seen the babys photo till now to see if there is any resemblance?..Please by all means do a DNA to ascertain if she is yours or not..
Don't worry about warming up to her. blood is thicker and always knows its own....whatever happened is not your fault and hers , so once there is no blame hanging between you both, warming up will be easy!
Goodluck with the DNA...
Please do a DNA test. It's possible the other man is also footing the bill.
ReplyDeleteDNA, the right thing to do
DeleteMao Akuh
Haven’t you seen a picture of your “daughter” in her fifteen years of life????
ReplyDeleteDo DNA nowwwwww!!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't wait till she is 15! If she is yours, take her away from that oloshi ahewo baby mama before she spoils that child with her stinking desperate character.
I know someone like that, the men plenty wey she dey claim as baby boy papa, collecting money from different men, very useless girl! One is waiting for the baby to clock one year so he can do DNA and if the baby is not his he threatened to sue her lying stewpid ass. The other one on the next street have started to avoid her, I don't see him sneak into her house anymore, he has a wife and two boys! Useless man!!
Another alleged baby daddy have told her to come and swear before juju, if the baby is his before he takes responsibility for the baby.
This yeye woman is my neighbour, her husband left her and ran for his life due to stinking attitude before she turn olosho
Female Maradona
ReplyDeleteGood move!! DNA must be done.
ReplyDeleteAs for warming up to her, when you get to that bridge, you'll definitely cross it.
She can blackmail you all she wants, I like that you are not falling for any of it.
So you mean let a child that might be yours suffer for 6 years
ReplyDeleteWhy didn’t you do dna since
You were away for 9years?
ReplyDeleteYou didn't have any female relative to check up on your daughter or pave way smoothly for you.
This is so complicated and messed up.
Let me look for approximate words to describe her.
I dey come.
Na was for some of my gender sha.
For years she was acting. This is really disturbing.
Do a DNA test immediately to ascertain if she’s ur child! This way you won’t feel guilty if it turns out positive. Cos if it’s positive and you realize you didn’t take care of her all those years, you may start to have regrets!
ReplyDeleteAs for the mother, no words can describe appropriately how evil she is
I wonder if she had that man stand in to remove shame because of the culture. Some ppl can complicate simple things though. Everybody thinking they need to scam someone, what is so hard about living honestly and truthfully.
ReplyDeleteif you cant keep your dicks in check then you get anything....you think just sending money and keeping in check is enough....obvious you guys just had a fling and she knew you were not serious so was easy for her to play you..she will obviously claim the person she sees...do a DNA and get moving
ReplyDeleteMehhn, some women are terrible o kai.
ReplyDeleteStory of my step brother who is now a grandfather begging my dad to accept him as his son again because the mother lie to him about his paternity , the so call father the mother told him is his father denied him in old age
ReplyDeleteThis story is confusing. You didn’t set eyes on your child for 9 years, even though you reside in a nearby country?
ReplyDeleteNow you want to wait till the child is 15 before you do a DNA?
Does all this sound alright to you?
Anyway na you and your baby mama sabi.
Mr. Chronicler, it reads that you were unserious generally about the pregnancy and still nonchalant now about the child.
ReplyDeleteNo vex.
It is only her poverty and the poverty of the other man, that would make a woman allow you to do DNA test on a child after 15 years of your absence from the child's life.
Please do not overthink it. I am an adult male.
Exactly.
DeleteHim and the baby's mother are same. I pity the young girl
Atassa atassa atassa
ReplyDeletePlease don't forget to update us after the DNA test
ReplyDeleteGbese
ReplyDeleteMao akuh
Poster said his daughter will be 15 in a few months. So he's likely looking for suggestions on how to go about it with the baby mama.
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