BV's WIFE HAS A SIDE BOO
My wife has a side boo.....
She left the marriage with our 2 boys. We reside in same city.
The surprising thing is that we are both BVs and we always read and discuss the day's chronicles for several years.
The truth is that life has taught me anything and everything is possible. You can even be a marriage counselor and fall into TEMPTATION. That is why we have to guide our hearts with all diligence...
Chai!!!!!:The day i saw this comment i wept for you and the hurt you feel but the truth is that a woman only leaves when she is mistreated...No one see a good man and walks away.... so while you are lamenting, if you want her back, try to find out the things you did wrong and try to woo her back......
As for the side boo, something must have pushed her to him, women just dont go into relationships....I am not a Judge, so i wont judge her or you..I wish you all the best.
I am of same view with Stella.
ReplyDeleteBut there are few exceptions yhough. - greedy, insatiable and selfish women
It's well with you both.
Some women 'Leave' for the sole reason that the wish to ensure their despicably dirty secrets remain hidden.
DeleteI think we men are to blame for this kind of wack mindset our ladies have, we don't come out to talk. This people are never accountable, more like accountability is strange to them. How can Stella say women don't leave good men, what kind of take is that.
DeleteSo every marriages that breaks up or women that cheat is due to the men being bad. How can someone even have that kind of reasoning.
It's so painful sometimes when you watch or listen to this people talk. You as a man should not bring your marital issue to this place, they have a way of watering it down and push the blame on you.
By the way, please don't even have the mindset of taking that woman back please, I wish you all the best in your future endeavors but stay far away from that cheat.
Women don't leave good men my foot.
Since your wife is BV,let her reply dis chronicle
ReplyDeleteSorry about your ordeal bro, our input would have been more feasible if you narrated what lead to the separation. Wetin you don do eh?
ReplyDeleteI wish healing for your family. I only hope that domestic violence is not the reason that she walked away.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I feel like telling you Ntoor??
ReplyDeleteHa 😂😂😂
DeleteThis your comment is not fair. I think the wife should reply since she is a BV.
DeleteThis was sad to read. I can feel your disappointment from here. Take heart and do as Aunty Stelly has said. But Aunty Stelly how do you read all the plenty comments on your blog? Olodo me after reading just 5 to 6 comments, I'm running to the next post
ReplyDeleteHmmm 🤔🤔🤔
ReplyDeleteSince you brought it here, why not say what really happened so she can also say her own side of the story? I hope you both are able to settle your issues. It is well.
ReplyDeleteEh? Side gini?
ReplyDeleteOP, This temptation you speak of, who first fell into it? It sounds like you fell and your wife in a bid to get back at you, found herself a side piece. That's rough. Not saying that's what happened sha.
I won't advise you to try to get her back. Dem no dey collect woman back wey another man don mount. There's a lot of fresh meat lying around. Find yourself one and drown in it.
Get yourself together and do all you can to be present in the lives of your boys. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
So sorry.Talk to her to know what happened to both of you.
ReplyDeletePoster it's well with you
ReplyDeleteNo reply for now since she is a BV let's hear from her too beacause I believe there is cause every action yes,certain🤏
ReplyDeleteThis lack of accountability has to be genetic for the female gender. Stella doh! You try well well with you prejudiced insight.
ReplyDeleteDid he provide details so that accountability can be dispensed? Let him go into his war room and pray for his marriage and family reunification.
DeleteStella I do not agree with you at all.
ReplyDeleteI’m a woman and I have seen wicked people of both genders.
There are narcissistic females just that men are more in number. There are also females with Bipolar personality disorder and dealing with them is almost like dealing with a narcissist. They are both under Cluster B mental disorders.
There are women than misbehave without any prompting from the man
Don't live life with a scarcity mindset @Poster.there would always be someone better if you come with lots of value as a man or woman..
ReplyDeleteIf you check yourself and you were a good husband and a father,and she left for her own greed or selfishness;then the best you can do for yourself and your mental health is too succeed and marry another wife,then send her monthly upkeep for your kids if you both have kids already before she left.
Because you would hold no single value to her if she went to another man,and you were a good husband,yet begging her to return..
Build yourself well;financially(very important) mentally and emotionally,it's very rare for a woman to leave a husband who offers lots of value to her and the children,even greedy ones.
Hope this helps.
@MARTINS
Stella, please I disagree.
ReplyDeleteIf your theory was sound then why the rate of paternity fraud cases, especially with the first child in a high number of the cases?
There are bad women, and good women, just like we have bad men and good men.
Not all marry for love, but some do for provision, age is ticking, etc.
Some women, and some men have left marriages because, they saw something they'd always longed for, but had settled for their marital partners for the reasons I mentioned.
It might be love, sex, more money, power, looks, etc that the boo has.
Not all women are good, not all men are goif..
Being bad isn't gender specific. Just like being a narcissist isn't gender specific.
If a woman had sent this in, many won't say "a man won't just leave..."
Dear poster, my empathy is with you. Learn what you will from what happened, grieve, be honest with yourself, but don't stay blaming yourself, find a way to see your kids, provide for them and be present. Please move on, grow, learn, heal and give love another chance in the future.
You'll be fine.
P. S: if you've done your assessment and this wasn't hundred percent your fault, she never told you anything was wrong, suggested counselling or anything to save your marriage before cheating on you, biko don't take her back if she returns. She'd only do that if her boo turns into a bee.
I wish you all the best. E-hugs 🤗!
Let's hear from the wife before passing judgement. 😏
ReplyDeleteIt must be deeply painful that your wife left with the children, especially since you both shared a long history and even bonded over something as personal as reading and discussing chronicles together. Still, your ability to take this as a life lesson instead of pure betrayal speaks volumes about your maturity and emotional intelligence.
ReplyDeleteThe heart must be guarded. People often forget that emotional drift doesn’t happen overnight; it starts subtly, and if left unchecked, it can destroy homes.
Please, don’t take her back as your wife. She didn’t just make a mistake — she had an affair and chose someone else over you and her marriage. That was her decision. It wasn’t about you, or anything you did or didn’t do. So don’t take her back as your wife. If you still want to have her around as a fling or a side piece, that’s your call, but don’t let her back into your life as your wife.
ReplyDeleteStella, you've passed judgement but said you don't want to judge.
ReplyDeleteThe wife should have her right of reply so we can judge well,since she's a bv.
You don't want to judge but you already assume he his not a good man. Your gender cheat even if not more than men, they can cheat because of anything.
ReplyDeleteIt baffles me when we say men cheat, are they cheating with men, is it not women they cheat with, majority of time married women. How can someone even say women don't leave good men, what kind of thinking is that.
SDK 🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteLet me switch this around for fun: what did you do that made her leave? Did you maltreat her? Did you satisfy her sexually? Pray and fast, if you love her, otherwise move on, but fight for the custody of your kids...while at it. watch war room
ReplyDeleteHello Poster,
ReplyDeleteThis one cuts deep - not just because a marriage fell apart, but because it reveals how fragile trust truly is, even between two people who once shared laughter over the same blog posts. Poster, I like that your tone carries quiet pain, not the usual rage, which makes it even more haunting.
I can tell you’re still trying to make sense of it - how your ex-wife, who once mirrored your thoughts, could now mirror someone else’s. But let’s be honest: every broken marriage has wounds within wounds - yours inclusive. It’s too easy to say, “She must have been mistreated,” or “He must have failed her.” Or to assume, no one walks away from a good marriage.
Sometimes, there’s no clean line between the villain and the victim. People drift. Unconscious habits impact peace and respect. Desire wanders. Familiarity becomes exhaustion. A “side boo” is often just a symptom, not the cause - a sign that something unspoken had been dying long before anyone noticed.
The problem I noticed with your narration is that you did not account for your part in this debacle. And at no time did you leave a thought for the impact this would have on your children. It highlights the likelihood of the order of your priorities.
But what I respect about you is your restraint. No name-calling, no bitter words - just reflection. That’s not something you see often with people who do not take accountability. Most would weaponise their pain, but you seem to understand that love, even when broken, teaches humility more than anything else.
I will implore you to guard your heart, yes. But also guard your effort. Love isn’t sustained by emotion alone; it survives through deliberate work from both sides. When one stops trying, or often gets lost trying, the other soon learns to stop hoping.
One thing life taught me early is never to believe betrayal can’t happen under your own roof. It doesn’t always come dressed as a stranger - sometimes it looks like the comfort you’ve been craving, or the familiar face you’ve longed to see smiling back at you in the mirror.
What is wrong with Stella's advice? after all, when a woman is the victim,she is asked similar questions...remember 'a man can not just get up and leave...' oya now same applies here, oga poster wetin you do that woman? And how did she get sole custody of your boys! Until I hear her side of the story I wont judge...story no complete!
ReplyDeleteI always say this. In a world where there is scarcity of good men? Women will hardly leave a good man
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