My first labour room experience was pleasant, there was no nurse giving me attitude because of my status, even the nurse on duty was even praying I deliver on her shift. May God bless that woman for me.
Though, in the early days of my diagnosis, I was scared and I mentioned it to the Dr attending to me, instead of the man assuring me or giving me words of encouragement, he just went cold and told me if I'm scared I should terminate the baby, that the choice is mine.
Thank God I spoke to another person, who told me my baby will come out negative if I follow all the instructions, that they hardly have hiv positive babies in that hospital, as long as the mother is on medication.
Back to my main gist, my last labour room experience wasn't so good. I didn't know that there's a particular bed they usually give to hiv patients in labour, I thought it's a mere coincidence that I gave birth to all my children on that bed. I think it's to subtly alert the nurse on duty to be extra careful when attending to the patient for their own safety.
When I was in labour,the nurse on duty show me shege anytime I asked her to come and check me, she'll complain that she can't just be putting her hand inside me anyhow o, even when baby was coming she was reluctant but thank God for an elderly consultant, a woman who was also in the labour room that day, she pushed the nurse aside and quickly used the long gloves to deliver me.
After delivery, I was happy that the worse had gone, only for me to notice I'm bleeding, by then the consultant had left, as the nurse was cleaning my womb to stop the bleeding, she was just lamenting and talking to me anyhow, I just kept quiet cos I was at her mercy.
How I got to know that the bed I was given is for positive mother, hmmm, I had a neighbour who was a nurse in that hospital, she came to check me in the ward and she got to see me in that bed and she even did little chit chat with the nurse...
When I was in labour,the nurse on duty show me shege anytime I asked her to come and check me, she'll complain that she can't just be putting her hand inside me anyhow o, even when baby was coming she was reluctant but thank God for an elderly consultant, a woman who was also in the labour room that day, she pushed the nurse aside and quickly used the long gloves to deliver me.
After delivery, I was happy that the worse had gone, only for me to notice I'm bleeding, by then the consultant had left, as the nurse was cleaning my womb to stop the bleeding, she was just lamenting and talking to me anyhow, I just kept quiet cos I was at her mercy.
How I got to know that the bed I was given is for positive mother, hmmm, I had a neighbour who was a nurse in that hospital, she came to check me in the ward and she got to see me in that bed and she even did little chit chat with the nurse...
I didn't hear what they were saying until I had a fallout with my neighbour's compound bestie and she stylishly used that thing against me, that thank God she doesn't have to be put on special delivery bed on hospital because she no get disease for body unlike some people. I just shock.
Till I left that area, I just maintain my lane cos I don't know how far they would carry my gist, but God eventually showed the woman...
Till I left that area, I just maintain my lane cos I don't know how far they would carry my gist, but God eventually showed the woman...
She even used to come to my house to collect foodstuffs and my childrens used clothes until I moved from the area and I stopped relating with her.
Thank God for you.
ReplyDeleteI hear that hiv patient cannot give birth naturally except by CS section. And they can't breastfeed their baby . It's true?
I heard that they can breastfeed o, don't know about birthing vaginally though
Deleteespecially if the viral load is very low
DeleteNot entirely true. You can birth naturally and breastfeed if the virus is undetectable. Else you do CS
DeleteSorry about your sad experience
ReplyDeleteYour stories are enlightening and interesting. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteIts well
ReplyDeleteWith new drugs and medication, you can deliver vaginally and still breastfeed. The key is to be undetectable and have a good viral load. 3 of my children were born when i was HIV positive. They are all negative. In my time, breastfeeding was not allowed . I had them vaginally ( though at that time, the recommendation was CS to , according to the doctors, avoid too much contact of the child with blood and fluids whilst passing through the birth canal) . In all 3 cases i was given a drug which the nurses had to administer to the babies within X hours ( cant remember the exact hours now) of their birth. They never told us what the drug was. It was written on the prescription sheet or whatever they called the sheet. My own was to pay for it. All my children are graduates( one is married) healthy, negative and living their lives. They say ignorance is a disease . Truly it is. Another thing is to have money. It is a defense. I also noticed that the nurses kind of treat you "funny". In one hospital i paid for a 3 room bed and they ended up putting me in a single room saying that there were no more shared rooms. At least i was not asked to pay extra. One of the sanitary items i used, they dashed me and said i could keep it. I guess they didnt want anyone else to use it after me. I always had my children in hospitals far away from my locality to avoid what the poster said about jamming people you may know. Its amazing how even medical staff who are supposed to be discreet and confidential are the worst gossips. everybody wants to have hot gist to pass around. Shebi that is how that DELSU nursing student was rusticated for ticktocking about her fellow student who died from abortion
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for your input ma .
DeleteThat nurse is not fit to be a one. Thank God for your life, you're a strong woman
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