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Recently, a friend called me from USA(note: I never knew he has traveled out because it's been long we spoke).
He said his family is based in ibadan and he wanted me to help buy and go install a smart tv for them which i gave him the cost price but added 40k to it as my own gain and stress(Note: not the mall price but company price).
He asked me to send account details and I did and later the wife called to inform me that, I should come to help them fix a tv . I was surprised and confused, it was later i knew the wife had gone to get it herself.
On getting to their place i saw the receipt and they bought it for 170k(bought from shops and not even mall cuz mall price is higher) extra the amount i gave them which I wasn't moved and didn't feel bad about.
I tried switching on but the tv wasn't coming up. Did my best but na lie. She messaged her husband and she was told to return it. Not long, the husband called me to follow her there but I instantly told him no because I wasn't there when she bought it and I don't know what the negotiation was. He was mad at me and immediately hung up and blocked me.
Now, my reason for not going is, the tv I wanted to get wasn't what the wife bought, the said tv looks like a refurbished one and lots more. But going with her will make me a bad person. What if I get there and she starts asking me to cover her and at the end, husband and wife go settle and me go become bad person.
I tried switching on but the tv wasn't coming up. Did my best but na lie. She messaged her husband and she was told to return it. Not long, the husband called me to follow her there but I instantly told him no because I wasn't there when she bought it and I don't know what the negotiation was. He was mad at me and immediately hung up and blocked me.
Now, my reason for not going is, the tv I wanted to get wasn't what the wife bought, the said tv looks like a refurbished one and lots more. But going with her will make me a bad person. What if I get there and she starts asking me to cover her and at the end, husband and wife go settle and me go become bad person.
Not because he didn't send me the money but I was trying to be careful. See ehn, once we get there and may be magomago dey dia l, I would have no choice than to cover her secret. Again, what is the assurance that the price written on the receipt is the original price?. I thought about a lot of things before saying no.
Now, baba don block me, which I'm not even bothered about because my integrity matters a lot. I have bought tv from same company and at company price for different people without issue and also without adding anything because I dey always think say, if issue or kasala burst, how I go take defend myself, but this one, I added something because,leaving my shop a whole day and this person no be person wey dey appreciate something, i just dey manage the guy since undergrad level.
If I'm right or wrong, please let me know because we learn everyday.
Now, baba don block me, which I'm not even bothered about because my integrity matters a lot. I have bought tv from same company and at company price for different people without issue and also without adding anything because I dey always think say, if issue or kasala burst, how I go take defend myself, but this one, I added something because,leaving my shop a whole day and this person no be person wey dey appreciate something, i just dey manage the guy since undergrad level.
If I'm right or wrong, please let me know because we learn everyday.
You did the perfect thing. If I were you I'd do same biko. Prevention is better than cure
ReplyDeleteThe problem with you which everyone here has said repeatedly is you’re a people’s pleaser !
ReplyDeleteBecause per your narration up there, why are you even feeling bad ?
1. The so called friend travelled without informing you and you got to know because he needed you
2.they didn’t buy the tv from you which would have been cheaper but went to buy a more expensive one
Why be concerned if the user of a friend has blocked you? It’s good riddance to bad rubbish , keep it moving .
Also start adding markup to the goods you buy from the company . You’re not in this world to be goody two shoes forever , you’re a businessman, add a markup, not high just reasonable markup
I don't think you were wrong Pinky. The TV wasn't bought through you. You owe them absolutely nothing beyond courtesy and that you already did by even going to help her mount the telly in the first place. Asking you to go back the wife up would have been asking too much.
ReplyDeleteThey should sort themselves out.
Pinky you did the right thing by not going with his wife to the dealership, to me I sense trust issue from the both partners so just free them jare
ReplyDeleteIf he happens to unblock you and make contact for other business do charge wella with condition and deliver quality, cause to me I no dey reject even my enemy money 🤑
Your mental.health matters. You didn't offend them
ReplyDeleteYou didn't do any wrongs
ReplyDeleteDon't feel bad at all.
ReplyDeleteYou're in your rights but please next time try to separate friendship from business cos you have bills to pay.
Seems the husband and wife get trust issues sef
Abeg you did the right thing, after negotiation with you they went behind you to buy it, now the TV is not working they want you to follow her to go and return it..as for the blocking ignore him jare
ReplyDeleteYou didn't do anything wrong.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly are you going there to do? were you the one that bought it or is the wife a baby?
ReplyDeleteThis is a clear case of cunny man die cunny man bury am
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Why are you even bothered about a user using and blocking you because you refused to be used again?what concerns you with returning a TV you didn't buy?what if you get there and the seller turns it to Police case and they arrest you,what will you say or do?Abeg,face front and don't even beat yourself because of the money you added to yours which he didn't pay,you're a family man with responsibilities, anyone that will take you out of your shop for a whole day should pay for your time except you decide otherwise
ReplyDeleteForget them , they didn't do the right thing and they want you to do right by them. They are both users forget them
ReplyDeleteThe moment I picked up a husband disturbing a distant friend to buy a TV for a wife who is not disabled on another continent, I know things were heading south. For him not to trust the price quoted by the wife or just pay to Jumia/Konga/slot problem been day before.
ReplyDeleteI think you are missing out on a legitimate, even moral source of income because of a lack of understanding. You are also opening up yourself to arifin/ see finish.
A labourer is due his wages. You are providing a service and should take pride in charging for it. You're not doing anything different from an importer, retailer , ware house owner, wholesaler, retailer or drop shipper so you are due your commission for plugging the company, installation, transport,, calls, time cost etc. for such
When people pay, they pay attention. Note how the wife went to spend more on people who charged and the husband blocked you like a beggar because you didn't place a prize on your time and effort. Had you digitized your receipt and given a price cheaper than market but high enough to make him respect your plug, his wife won't have double crossed you and reduced you to "radionics" and a garage t0ut that will go and fight for her. . When it came to approach the most expensive option, they were looking for support staff.
When people go to a more expensive restaurant, they dress up, act civil and tip better but when the same amala is sold for cheap, most customers act cheap. Compare barbing salons also. Maybe the broken window theory can be borrowed here.
Have a set percentage for all your goods and services and have it stated as a supplier for that company so your customers already know. That's what builds integrity, not acquiring the reputation of a man who's shop is usually unmanned and his prices not stable which is what penny pinchers will read you as. People who are penny wise and pound foolish will always fear they are dealing with unscrupulous beings like themselves. They will go out of their way to malign your name and even look down on the service for how "cheap" it is.
Another good one, Pinky. You were wise to stay away from the greedy wife's problems and they seem a perfect match for marriage. Iru iro no iborun.
Pinky,please, read this
DeleteYou did the right thing and don't feel bad about it. Your reasons for not going with her are valid, let her go and sort herself out.
ReplyDeleteYou're a good person and I pray your goodness continue to open doors of blessings for you.
The part i don’t get is when you have him the price plus 40j, how much did he send you
ReplyDeleteDid he send you the 40k? Did he also send you the amount to buy the tv from your side?
If the 40k added was to buy from that place, are you now going to return money as you’re not going there again?
Anonymous 16:34
DeleteThe man didn’t send Pinky the money
He and his wife decided that the woman should go and buy it herself
She did not even go to the place Pinky would have bought it from
She went to a weird place and got scammed
Thank you 17:46
DeleteMe I would still help them
I’m not quick to fight with money
Just ask them y send the money and you carry out the task
Pinky no vex u dey do NGO. I do business and I add my upfront whether in repairing or doing after sales. It won't hurt you just be credible and reliable. God where bring bread know say butter dey . U can't go tr
DeleteAnonymous 18:32
DeleteYou still don’t get it, do you?
Did we read the same thing?
Pinky should just ask them to send which money for him to carry out which task?
Where did you read in the story that the man is ready to now send Pinky the money to buy the original TV he recommended to them?
They are no longer buying the TV through him
They have already gone to buy another one at a shady establishment and it turned out to be faulty
The man wants Pinky to follow his wife to the one chance place she bought the TV from as per bodyguard to go and quarrel with the people to either refund the money or exchange the faulty TV with a functioning one
If it were you, would you go?
Would you risk your life on such a foolish dangerous expedition?
The woman went behind Pinky’s back to buy a refurbished TV at a questionable place and now they want him to follow her there to go and back and support her
Had they bought it from him as first agreed, would this have happened?
As always inside life with Pinky. There’s something almost predictable about this entire story, not because of the TV, but because of how the human pattern beneath it played out. People often want cheap access, a premium service, which isn’t bad, but with zero accountability.
ReplyDeleteThey want you to be convenient, available, and invisible at the same time. And when their own shortcuts catch fire, suddenly the nearest “responsible” person becomes the extinguisher. That’s what you would have been used for.
What caught my attention was the casual expectation that you should inherit someone else’s
consequences simply because you were once helpful. That’s how people turn goodwill into liability.
And please don't beat yourself up over whether you were right or wrong. I'm glad you didn’t let them outsource simple decisions to you as a third party and then blame you when the cracks widen. That’s what adults do when they somehow betray trust between themselves ignorantly inside their own home.
This situation didn’t need your presence; it needed them to account for their choices, so they don't use you as the shock absorbers for their mistake.
You protected your integrity, and more importantly, you protected your name. In a society where people can drag your reputation into their personal mistakes without blinking.
Stories like this don’t require a verdict. Because it simply reveals the landscape of people’s choices. And this one is a map of how distrust, entitlement, and poor communication turn a simple favour into unnecessary drama.
Boundaries saved you here. Going forward, emulate embolding them and keep them sharp for your sake. You did well.
Why this man come and disturb your peace. You didn't seek him out, you didn't even know what corner of the world he was existing in and he found his way to contact you to drop troubles in your lap. Why disturb someone you don't even trust, what is wrong with ppl? You gave them the price and they thought you were trying to scam them so they go pay double for junk, then they still want to bother you. Please consider the block a Christmas blessing. That man is no friend to you, none.
ReplyDeleteIf a man in the abroad cannot trust a friend to have his wife's back and do right by that friend then what the hell kind of man is he? They say a good friend is better than pocket money. Let them deal with their 170k hunk of junk and sip your zobo in peace.
You added a whole 40k to the price. I see why he didnt trust you.
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