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AN UPDATE WITH MORE ADVICE NEEDED
Hello everyone. Few weeks ago I sent a message about how to deal with jealousy and envy towards my sister. I want to thank you all for your messages and suggestions. I have been praying and doing the work on myself to detach from what that emotion may be.
This is not the first time she has had successful men treat her right and I have never felt this way( anxious) It down on me that it may not be what I think it is but the person she may be with.
I realize that he is still technically married. According to her, he says he’s legally separated but some details are sketchy to me, like last less than 9months before she met him he hosted a function and he’s wife was there even though she did not look so happy.
He says he did not get married to her traditionally but for someone Igbo, his wife is from this same town, (we are all from the east. She comes home regularly I don’t believe he isn’t traditionally married. Now I don’t know if these things about him that makes me anxious or could it be my “bad belle” which I honestly don’t want. that is why I’m trying to stay away.
The few times I have tried to tell her to not be part it if he’s really not done with he’s wife she shuts me down saying she not stupid and that he showed her document of legal separation and divorce from someone not in the country divorce is not over night or something like that.
She says his wife is dating already and that he even shows her pictures of them Abi she found it online.
Now ,the reason why I’m coming to you guys again is that i think they are getting serious I have decided to stay away. I don’t think she plans to tell other family members the 100 details of her relationship and because of how I feel that my feelings my not be 100 percent genuine I have decided it’s not best for them not to hear it from me.
It may be coming from a place of strife and I don’t want to intentionally or unintentionally “poison” their mind about him.
Am i doing the right thing? God forbid things go wrong later in future will I not be the bad person´?. I just want to pray away whatever negative feelings this may be and hope for the best for her and me.
If there is anything trust God to handle it. I just want to continue being happy for my sisters happiness and not have any negative feelings. Please I would still need advice on how to go about it my Emotions and doing the right thing. I just want to go back to being my sister biggest supporter without this anxiety or whatever feeling this may be
All these are petty things that don't concern you darling you are petty and jealous......mind your business and know that she does not owe anyone but herself any explanation.
Just look at the time and energy you invested in analyzing your sister's business?
ReplyDeleteImagine that you used it well in investing in your own business ( life) you wouldn't even notice what is going on with someone else!
Anty poster, with this your scattered story sef I no understand,please go and amend your life style,focus and always drink water,mind your business
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Mind your business please. Your envy and jealousy is too much.My junior sister acts the same way, she is very jealous and mean to me and I decided to stop speaking with her.
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong with her concern? It's her sister now.
ReplyDeleteMe too. I would never encourage my sister in any sinful life choice. Married is married. The bv’s concern is valid, but if the sister said she is in control and knows what she is doing then I would blank my thoughts to it and not let it concern me again. There is no grace attached to dating a married person, but everyone must learn their own lessons in life.
DeleteI agree: valid concerns intertwined with her emotional issues can lead to confusion and fears of a misstep.
DeletePay no mind to those castigated you. It takes courage to look yourself in the mirror andsee yourself for what you really iareand try to deal with it.
@post tho; your sis isn't a kìd, let hem be and go with the flow
Tell your mother
ReplyDeleteThe devil is trying to get your sister into a bad situation and the first thing is by breaking a line of defense which is you
You are close to her but you’re tainted and can’t help
Don’t agree. Push the nonsense I’m jealous thought away and face this squarely
You are seeing something is not right. Tell your parents and also investigate some more
Don’t leave it to God oh
Don’t ever report her to your mum. You will become a house witch over night. Swallow spit and mind your business
DeleteStay away, she's not a child..
ReplyDeleteIt's not Ur concern to tell anyone about her personal life
Free your sister from your mind so that you will see good in your own life. Leave her relationship alone. She is an adult. Let her make mistakes and learn from it.
ReplyDeleteYes, we have to learn to leave ppl to make their own mistakes in life. At least she spoke to the sister about it so she can never say nobody warned her in the future. Some ppl love to get themselves in shyt then blame others that nobody warned them. BV already spoke to her so she did her duty and can move on and mind her business.
DeleteYou just added to my stress, I don't even understand what I am reading, my head is banging.
ReplyDeleteMay God help all of you
The spirit of Jealousy over this your sister's relationship has refused to leave you alone, can't you focus on your on lane? Haba!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I think you're too invested in your sister's affairs in a way that's not healthy. Yes, as a sister, it's not bad to worry and feel the need to help if you see something wrong about to happen to your sis. But in this case, even you can't tell if this agitation is borne out of jealousy or genuine concern. And sincerely, i can't even see a big problem in all you wrote.You're just all over the place with your emotions.
ReplyDeleteI'll suggest you step back. If truly there's something fishy about the fiance, pray that she sees it herself. Leave her and her relationship alone. And please focus more and take care of yourself, especially emotionally and mentally.
Nne i suggest therapy to findout why you choose people who treat you badly.
ReplyDeleteThen you correct that .
Sure you ll find your soul mate
I feel bad for you, but in a good way..I totally understand you and I pray your own comes soon..I know you're happy for your sister, but you're wondering when your own will come..I pray it comes soon
ReplyDeleteIt seems you don't have a good relationship with your sister. There is no need for this chronicle. Talk it out with her and if she insists,let her b. Why will you be jealous of your sister in the first instance. Na wao.
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