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She said;
''So I was reflecting on life. You know, new year na, you want to reflect and see what you can correct. Anyway, I now remember that few years ago. Do you know? I cut off from a few of my friends. I don't know if i overreacted. If i over reacted tell me in the comment section. And do you know why I did that?. Three of them.
Number one.... We are friends. When we talk about women things, the next day she was now telling me That thing that we discussed, I told my husband. You tell your husband? how? why?. I told my husband and my husband said it is okay. When she cut call, since that day till now i don't think i pick her call again. Because Why would you go and tell your husband what me and you were talking about. Do I know your husband? Is it not you I met and became friends. I don't want those kind of friends, and if she's watching this video, that’s why I don’t talk to you again.
The second person. I am your friend. Why will your husband be telling me that i'm in London, Oh when will you come. I just arrived America. Did i send you to America?. Why are you telling me you are in America, I am your wife's friend, I do not want to be your friend. Don't test me, I'm not comfortable With it. Not everybody is comfortable With something like that, me I just don’t Like It.
And the third person, why I cut her off, You've been In marriage for twenty years and you are still calling me and telling Me that (Speak Yoruba). Do You know What he did? He didn't pay for That money or do you want me to go and beat him where he is?. Marriage that You've endured one year, two years, three years, so what do you want me to say? Why do you want to drain me mentally? Why do you want to drain me?
So that is why I cut those friends off, but till today. they don't even know why.''
Hmmmmm, this is a No nonsense woman, All points very valid......
That first friend eh, why will you be discussing your friend with your man? Second one na gbensh e dey find so, tomorrow you will hear that he gbenshed you..
The third one na also red flag....
My only problem with this is how it is communicated on the social media to them......You should have told them privately....This is a also a red flag behaviour and your new friends should be careful....
I'm telling you Stella, she sef too do. Her current friends should be careful with her.
ReplyDeleteIf you are married to a good, friendly spouse, you will open up to them about what you discuss with your friends. There is this bond you share with your spouse that allows you share almost everything so?
ReplyDeleteThat everything you share shouldn't include things about your friends told in confidence,na amebo you and your hubby dey find,gossip about other things
DeleteNow, you just said almost everything, not everything so?
DeleteI'm telling my husband...... maybe, but I'm not coming back to give my friend feedbacks of what me and hubby discussed.
DeleteYimu. Na male centeredness dey worry Una. If u don’t have sth tangible to talk to your partner about than another persons gist, maybe you both don’t have as much in common as u think. No use another person gist patch relationship or force bonding with man wey him eyes dey outside
DeleteStella, you summarized my submission as regards her actions. She and her ex friends are red flags.
ReplyDeleteShe should have pointed out her pet peeves to them before ghosting them.
I feel like she didn't really value their friendship, hence why it was so easy for her to cut them off that way.
I will also avoid her as a friend. One can't be free to talk around her easily.
ReplyDeleteThat's the thing, you can't be free with her without over thinking things cos you don't want to offend her. Who get time for stress na?
DeleteShe get her own for body abeg.
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't she tell them all these years? She gives a bossy friend vibe.
Exactly.
DeleteThank You Jaweee
DeleteHer Friend Too Has Loud Mouth By Telling Her I Told My Husband ..
Abeg All Her friend And She Too Do.
Since you called them friends, you should have at least let them know that you're not cool with what they were doing and if they refused to change, then you can stay away.
ReplyDeleteAt least they are aware of why you left them. This is somehow sha, it's her decision all the same.
Yeah, not just cut them off like that.
DeleteFirst and second reasons are valid to me,when I tell you things as a friend,I don't expect you and hubby to watch late night movie with my gist.The third one seems somehow:sometimes,people don't want you to go beat their hubby,they just want a safe space to vent and if you're not comfortable with it,you can simply tell them than cutting them off because of that.
ReplyDeleteYou're a friend of particular concern ma because what are friends for,if they can't inconvenience you once in a while with their problems?
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DeleteI once had a friend that discussed my gist with her twin brother. Twin brother oo. No na, I left sharpally.
ReplyDeleteThe one I don’t like ehn. this babe , me and you are discussing woman things n relationship stuff. Next thing you know she’s like I told my close male friend to know his opinion. Omo na once I learned to close my mouth around her cus God knows the one she will pick next and use as conversation between her and the guy. I feel she likes the guy but doesn’t want admit . Which is fine but just don’t use my gist as excuse to get close to man esp kind of man I cannot trust with that info. You just open mouth waaaa. Omo God forbid o. When it comes to male stuff alot of women default to being pick me and cannot be trusted.
DeleteThis one go deh quick vex
ReplyDeleteAbeg shift. Like your friendship pays bills. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteExactly.
DeleteMay GOD forbid your type around me!! Imagine me walking on an eggshells each time you come around me,why are we friends???
ReplyDeleteA little harmless gossip,harmless chitchats , lots of laughter...that's whats friendship is all about.
They will discuss your own matter like film series for night too. Since u wanna be a pick me
DeleteAs if having access to money is everything, reasons I don't force relationships with some folks.
ReplyDeleteShe's beautiful
ReplyDeleteWhat ever you don’t want your friends to tell anyone, always let them know. Not everything is gossip, they might just be having a conversation with someone and that your story will be added.
ReplyDeleteYou dey mind her.
DeletePick me. Common sense is not common when you’re so male centered. Do you have to be told not to discuss someone’s private gist with another party. But no desperation to cling to a man that doesn’t want you no go let you hear word
DeleteValid point. But u ma too do. Oversabi dey worry you. I believe cos u think you relevant today . Try dey calm down
ReplyDeleteMilf.
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