STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BIG EMBARRASSMENT
I'm and introvert who minds my business to the core. I greet my neighbours and enter my house. I NEVER OVERSOCIALIZE.
I met a girl as i moved into in my new compound. We got close (unlike me o).
We both decided that from time to time, we'd save up money and go to a luxury restaurant and try out new food.
The time came. We looked up the menu online and chose what we were going to eat. The total cost of the platter was 80k. We were supposed to split the bill equally. I was expecting some money that didn't come on time so what I saved up was like 5k short and this babe offered to pay then I'd reimburse her.
When they brought the seafood platter, I was like let's share it equally so no one feels cheated. That's how she basically flared up in the restaurant and embarrassed me. Was saying I'm so petty and stingy.
She said a lot of things and started laughing while talking. Basically mocking me.
I just kept quiet.
In the evening of that day, the money I was expecting came through so I transferred the 5k to her. After that incidence, i just withdrew from her. About a week later, I went out to get stuff. Some neighbours were sitting by my window so I greeted them and passed. Then I bought what I wanted and entered my house through my back door because I decided to pack my clothes at the backyard.
They didn't know I had come back home. I heard these guys talking about me. How I didnt even have money to pay for food and I was busy trying to control it. How I'm broke and arrogant.
They said a whole lot.
I was pained. Later that night I called her and asked her about it. This girl changed it for me. Saying that they could have picked the information from anywhere why do I assume that it's from her.
She said did they lie? is she not the one that completed the money? Was I not trying to control the food? Then she said if I dont have anything important to say I should please get off her phone for important calls to enter. Then she ended the call.
Stella I was shocked! I want to ask, was i wrong to have asked that we share the food equally? I'm so confused. Do I deserve this level of embarrassment?
CHAI......I am so confused that i dont know what to advice!!!
How can you go out with a Lady when you dont have enough money and want to share food so that no one feels cheated? The statement is somehow...what did you actually mean?..And then calling her to ask if she gossiped about you is also petty as a man....You would have just ignored her and all of them
When you heard those guys talking about you, you should have said hello to them and laughed out loud......She obviously told them!
Please just ignore them or look for money to move out...its a toxic environment already!
Platter of 80k and you came up with 5k is the 5k for eba abi na for ewedu? Oga abeg go warm eba chop
ReplyDeleteShort of 5k
DeleteUna no understand english.English.. she meant she had 5k short from what she was suppose to contribute..not like she contributed only 5k
DeleteHis own share was short by 5k. Read to understand nau!
DeleteThe money was short of 5k
DeleteThats what she typed.
Fan, 5k short means He had 35k, but saying let them share it equally sound somehow, no need saying it out loud.
DeleteHe came with 35k not 5k. And he later reimbursed the lady. Knowing that he will pay back, he asked for the food to be shared.
DeleteRead very well
DeleteFan, read the question again, the poster share of the money is 5k less, not what you think.
DeleteYou're so daft where did you read in the chronicles that it's only 5k she dropped? Read Read Read and understand!!!
DeleteNo, he had 35k, he was 5k short of his half.
DeleteMehn true true, na 1 digit IQ you still migrated with to 2026??🤦🏼♀️
DeleteSome body you should explain this to her in pidgin or her local language.
Easy guys easy o Choi
DeleteFan ,u no read well u Don dey yab him already? Short of 5k,as in he went there with 35k to balance 5k asap and that was the agreement
DeletePoster, saying that " let's share the ordered meal equally was some how, if na me, I go just look u and say in my mind that hnmm this guy is stingy ohh, but I won't embarass u. Your utterances there has created a -ve impression about u and l made my tentacles to wake up as per future outings.
DeleteJust ignore the babe henceforth and face front,it was not nice of her to embarrass u there at all, she ain't classy ,,pls avoid her like a plague ,if u see her,greet her and keep it moving
E don do oooo
DeleteOmo. You should have stayed back knowing your money wasn't complete. It is good you sha called her to let her know you heard what she said, whether she agreed or not. Now, block and delete her stinky a&&. Dey your lane, and continue to mind your business.
ReplyDeletePoster I guess your intentions were harmless, but let me just advise you for free because I don't see you as a bad person. When dealing with the opposite gender, please be a gentleman. You came off really petty insisting that the food should be split 50-50. Are you a kid? Also if you cannot afford certain things, politely excuse yourself. Poster do you know that there is a way you will behave to that same lady, she can even offer to pay for everything so you both have fun? Just try to learn how to be friends with the opposite gender. She is even direct. Some will not say anything but gossip about you behind your back. You need to be more socially savvy.
DeleteShe’s supposedly his gee before this whole cast.
ReplyDeletePoster there’s more than this because you lagging on 5k can’t be the reason for this outburst.
Either you are telling all you know or you aren’t.
For her to flare up
Diss you
Gist others
Then others came to your window to yab you
You ask her she circles on the topic
We’ll just be grateful
You found out
Good thing you bridged the gap and refunded her
Stay on your lane
I don’t like see finish
I don’t befriend people in my Compund or around
Wahala po ju
Emabinu
Rara my dear
Nothing Dey this life
She may or may not need you in the future
We are not waiting on karma
All well & good
Move on
Ignore the life out of her
No beef
Just greeting and be on your way
Kpele my dear
So from this writeup you deduced it's a man . Wow some of you are so stewpid gosh
DeleteWhy abuse someone by calling the person stupid for commenting when the poster didn't indicate gender? You sound stupid.
DeleteHow do you share food equally in a restaurant! I mean a food platter…
ReplyDeleteIs it thst you are not okay or I am just over thinking. Even if the person was your sibling. How do you go to a restaurant and decide to start sharing food equally! What kind of embarrassment is that?
Yog for kukuma carry plate go na and tell them to put your portion there that you split the bill.
Koromoto man Mtcheeewwww
Maybe it’s a jumbo platter. They sound like young ppl who are foodies and trying to create experiences and learn the good spots in town on their budget. There is nothing embarrassing about that to me.
DeleteI share food equally with my friends
DeleteThis way she would not say she didn’t eat enough
Please poster. Learn from this painful experience and move on. Never go on a date,when you don't have money. Very irresponsible.
ReplyDeleteLol.
ReplyDeleteThank God woman no be man, because men for suffer well well for daughters of Eve hand.
Egbon Pele.
I'm trying to wrap my head around going to a restaurant to spend 80k on food. Was God the one that cooked it? It is worse that the poster actually emptied all his account to pay for food in a restaurant. A cascade of bad decisions really.
ReplyDeleteCome on Dog, it really is not that much for an average spot. Something fancy would cost 150k per person, but that would be a special occasion. I don’t even mind spending that on myself, cause I can’t take the money with me. For a seafood platter that can feed two ppl the 80k is very affordable, truth!
DeleteTake the wife out to something nice like this one of these days. Unless you know she will cuss you out after for spending all that, but surprise her with something a little more pricey than usual. Isn’t she worth more than gold?
@dog
DeleteI understand that 80k must be like 800k to you, but what about those who spend 300k on their meals?
So many factors come into play
Let's not just act bush because of crass ignorance.
Mama Sunbos Amala spot and Eric Kayser are not the same.
People can spend whatever they want on what ever they want. I would rather spend 80k on food that 80k on asoebi to look like sheep.
And I wonder why people assume this is a HE???
Well,you were kinda wrong asking to share the platter equally! Firstly your money wasn't complete (even if it's 1 naira to balance) Secondly, why even talk about sharing equally, y'all just start eating, whoever is the glutton amongst y'all wins 😆, Thirdly, why do you even care what people say? So far they aren't feeding or whatnot, do your thing!...
ReplyDeleteKelvin Dat Edo Boi....
It's not that deep.Keep minding your business and dey your dey.
ReplyDeleteEven if you move,there's no guarantee that the neighbors there are any better.
Why is there an assumption the poster is a guy?
ReplyDeleteI tire o
DeleteBeats me! sounds more like a Lady!...
DeleteKelvin Dat Edo Boi...
Why not? The poster should have clarified.
DeleteThe poster doesn't need to clarify. That's why them say go school una go gree
DeleteIf the poster does not need to clarify then the poster should not be bothered by being referred to as either gender. You wey go school suppose know dat at least. Going round calling people stupid.
DeleteWhy would you want to share food equally at a restaurant, as in you would carry plates and spoons and start counting how many spoons you would put on each plate 🤣🤣🤣, honestly you're all what the girl said you are .
ReplyDeleteWho went on a date with a woman without complete money, and even wanted to share the food equally because you didn't want your date to cheat you, I think you're still in your early twenties, you sound naive.
Stella please, this chronicle should be among the funniest chronicles, because I can't stop laughing as I'm reading it, and I'm even sitting among strangers, hope they won't be thinking that I'm not normal.
You are not introverted poster, an introvert wouldn't say they should share food equally, especially when she was helping you top up. I don't agree with her outburst at the restaurant but you seriously need some manners. And yes you are petty for emphasising that the food should be shared equally. Were you thinking she will cheat you or it's your 1st time eating that particular food?
ReplyDeleteI don't know, but I think this poster could be on the spectrum, I don't think his request came from a place of pettiness, just from lack of tact and sensitivity.
DeletePoster, I'm sorry for the reaction you got, it wasn't necessary, however, just as you have the right to make your request, the lady is within her right to react as well, even though she took it too far.
Just be more sensitive and socially aware going forward.
Not necessarily on the spectrum. Social skills and socialization could be it. An introvert may be less clued in, as well they could be one of those honest persons who is also innocent of spirit. These folks still exist, very innocent and honest, almost pure. Folks don’t know what to do with them when they meet them, they end up getting abused or exploited almost all the time.
DeleteThis is how they abuse ppl for no reason. If that woman ever makes it to a high position in life that is how she would treat ppl she perceives to be lower than her. Imagine policing what someone eats over a measly 5k and embarrassing them publicly. Money and power will show you the truth of who someone really is. That beech abused you for $3.50, I have paid more in tips to Uber drivers. That’s what your self-respect was worth, not even $4. Block her azz and move on. That ole cow will get hers one day. I hope karma fixes her well.
ReplyDeleteChances are she is the one that broadcasted it. She is not a good person, keep away from her. Hi and bye is all she requires as far as words are concerned nothing more. The only other way that could have come out is that when she made the blow up someone was around who knew you both and tell everyone, unlikely but possible.
Move from that place if you can when your lease is up and change your number so she has no means of being in contact with you
Correct me if I’m wrong but there was no part of the story that indicated that the poster is male!
ReplyDeletePoster, you were planning with ur enemy and not your friend! I would have gladly shared things equally with you even if I had to complete ur own share!
Personally, I will not let negative news about me stand. If I were you, I’d approach at least one of those guys talking about the issue and let her know I overheard their conversation and then say ur own part! Then she will share the news for you!
Don’t let them live with a lie of about u!
I think i assumed so...you for just mention me na, why u come dey shade me codedly..lol
DeleteI read it as him being a male because he said “this babe” and the way the guys were talking sounded like they were dissing a man. I don’t usually call other women this babe.
DeletePoster, are you a male?
Stella, I wasn’t shading oh, I was just noting and also asking for correction incase I missed something. And it wasn’t just you that referred to the person as a male that was why I couldn’t be specific
DeleteStella I assumed like you it was a male from the tone. If it's not, poster can't blame anyone. Why not state your gender?
DeleteYou brought the disrespect on yourself the moment you made her know your true financial status.
ReplyDeleteNobody generally needs that specific information about you,because you live in a country where the respect given to you by many is based on your financial status which they know or assume(especially with material things you own).
1) You shouldn't have gone on that date and letting her know you are 5k short;because that is where the rating(disrespect) started.
Whether you have money or not;learn,breathe and live contentment;that way nobody knows whether you are very rich or very poor,they only guess/assume.
2) You shouldn't have talked about sharing the food equally,that's the words of a stingy person who doesn't want their penny to go to another person(in the sense of abeg na 35k I dey bring,so I must eat my money's worth exactly or more,but nothing lesser)
Hope you get?
3) Live within your means;it's an advice.
Heaven won't fall if you have used that 35k to respectfully cook something good in your home,then take yourself out with friends when there is a little to spare.
You don't live luxury on a budget;and going to buy a food of 80k when you are 5k short is a financial error,but that same amount would have given you luxury in the comfort of your home..
There is no finish line in life,and don't be in a hurry to live above your Tax bracket next time,to avoid seeing finish and disrespect like this.
Hope this helps.
@MARTINS
Good,poster you caused it ohhh
DeleteBlessed are you.
DeleteGod bless you
DeleteI too , from the use of words, got the impression that the poster is a man e.g. this babe, we got close , the other guys in the compound making mockery of the poster would likely not have behaved like that if it was a lady. Be that as it may, the neighbour took it over the top with the insults and dragging. Maybe the "sharing formula'" upset her because she planned to "out eat" you. Last, last go back to your stance of maintaining your lane.
ReplyDeleteOga oga or babe food 80k u nur serious at all. U nur get work. Avoid see finish shikena
ReplyDeletePlease, how did y'all know that the poster was a man? I feel the poster is a lady, especially when I saw making plans to go to posh restaurants and split the bills.
ReplyDeleteWhat guy would agree to that or even make such plans?
I do this with my girls.
She had 35k and not that she only had 5k for payment.
Good day guys. I'm the poster of this chronicle and I'd like to clarify some things.
ReplyDelete1) I'm a guy
2) It wasn't a date.
3)We got close not like we had any intimacy. Just like normal buddies. NO STRINGS ATTACHED. She is normally a playful jovial person. You know those kinda people that you can be yourself around and not be unnecessarily conscious of yourself. That's her.
4) The outing was an agreement. We just wanted to do something fun and try different delicacies. Nothing romantic. She suggested it because she said I'm too focused on work and I should learn to make memories.
5) I felt I could open up and be free with her since we had been relating almost like siblings. That's why i felt relaxed telling her i had 35k. She even kept telling me it's not an issue and that i shouldn't bother refunding. I didn't think it'd turn into embarrassment.
6) I said we should share the food equally not from a place of stinginess or pettiness but because I felt I'm a guy, I have the tendency to eat more. I felt if we share it equally I won't overeat and leave her with little considering we brought the same amount. In hindsight, maybe I should have explained my motive behind the statement clearly but to be honest, she didn't give me the opportunity. By the time she was done finishing me with her mouth, I didn't even know how to respond. I just remained quiet till the end of the meal while she was busy taking videos and pictures of the food and restaurant like nothing happened. Even trying to make small talk.
Seeing the comments have opened my eyes to a lot. The outing was a bad idea. The embarrassment was my punishment for trying to be who I'm not. It was my mistake and i take full responsibility. I have gone back to factory setting. This morning she sent me an Instagram reel of a Chinese restaurant and just typed "we should check this place out." Just like that o. Like nothing happened. I just read the message and ignored. Affliction cannot arise a second time!
Thank God you don learn
DeleteThe first thing a man learns about women is that most of them are insincere in their posturing. Only very, very few women see a man as a friend, or lover, or partner, or spouse to share with at a mutually beneficial level - not equal level sef O - just mutually beneficial too hard for them.
A woman is only likely to give a man mutual benefit if he is a worker she cannot do without or who she believes is invaluable to her success till she gets a cheaper replacement or master his art for herself.
I deliberately refused to read comments on this one yesterday. I started reading this morning from the bottom and God made you write this in. And man will stop here.
By the way, go buy Broda D's book at the least to equip you in enjoying your life outside your factory setting, and still protect yourself against this type of embarrassing headaches in the future. After all, to be forewarned is to be forearmed.
Welcome to the world of unreal men. Lol
Thank God you clarified it, and to that miserable frustrated anon calling people stupid up and down because people assumed that the poster is a guy, you can actually see that you're the real stupid one, you will just be jumping under people's comments to abuse them every time because of their comments, your IQ is lower than 0.00%.
DeleteMaybe you should go and see therapist because it's obvious something is working you up, and miserable you, will not come out with your full chest by using your ID so that people will recognize you and give you distance, any day you come under my comment be ready for thunder that will fire you.
Instead of coiling into your shells, you need to socialise more. You lack social skills. You could have just watched how you ate instead of uttering those words. And you could have made the guys know you heard them. These are skills you pick up while socialising.
DeleteI don't mean go out with her again; she was totally out of line but make new friends, especially those that are educated, exposed and have good character and manners.
The fact that you are a guy even make the whole thing worse. Forget all the "kings" talks on social media, there's a way you behave as a gentleman when you are with a lady. Either you are dating her or not and you didn't bring that on board. Socialise and learn before you embarrass yourself one day when you put in a high class society.
Poster youre now aware of the saying "experience is the best teacher". Sorry about your experience.
ReplyDeleteThat girl is not a kinda girl to associate with,
ReplyDeleteBlock her, work hard and let her see God's hand in your life.
Even if she apologises later, forgive but don't associate or be friend with her