MENTALLY UNSTABLE SPOUSE
I have been married to my husband for four years, and we have a child together. Just a year into our marriage, he became mentally unstable and started losing his memory. We took him to several hospitals and treatment centers, hoping for improvement, but nothing seemed to work.
For the past few months, we have been managing him at home. Sometimes he disappears for days or even weeks without anyone knowing where he is. Occasionally, someone who recognizes him calls to inform us of his whereabouts, and we rush there to bring him back home. But sometimes, before we arrive, he has already left again.
This has been my reality for over three years. The major concern now is that it’s been almost a year since anyone has seen or heard from him. He was last seen outside Lagos, and honestly, I don’t know what tomorrow holds for me anymore.
Part of me wants to stay because he is my husband, but another part of me feels tired and wants to move on with my life. His family has abandoned my child and me. I’m considering remarriage, but I’m confused and need advice.
Ah ah ARE YOU OK???So your man is sick and wandering somehwere or even dead na how to marry new man you dey think? What if he is still alive and you remarryß That is bigamy you know?Since you cannot confirm whether he is dead or alive...Goand reutrn his brideprice and make sure you get a divorce on grounds of desertation......Then you can be free to move on the move on that you wanna move on......
Small bad advice....I know say you don dey do thr do somewhere else already so continue to enjoy yasef for now...
Please if anyone is j. A similar situation,make sure you take them to a metal asylum ASAP (Govt). Follow up with the appointments and ensure they take their medications.
ReplyDeleteIf all is done at early stage, it won't escalate to this.
Poster it's obvious you too have given up on him . I pray God heal him wherever he is,if he's still alive.
So make sure you are properly divorced before getting into anything ooo.
But what if he comes back tommorrow after you might have remarried?
Na wa o
ReplyDeleteHmm, poster please go and do a proper annulment of that marriage. Did he just develop the mental problem overnight? Secondly does not work somewhere? May God come to your aid.
ReplyDeleteAh, things dey happen for this life o.
Why didn't you take him to a psychiatrist initially??
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts exactly
DeleteMaybe his family even knows, reason they are unbothered, they have probably had to deal with him for so long and have now dumped him on you.
Ije di!!!!!
His family has abandoned the child with you, you sef abandoned their son for them biko.
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and remarry
ReplyDeleteBut still find him and put him in a hospital
Wishing Him Divine Healing 🙏
ReplyDeleteIt is well 🙏
Hello iya Boys
U even tried for over 3 years taking him everywhere…men won’t even do for 6 months…
ReplyDeleteReturn bride price immediately; & focus on ur child, I’m sure his family knows his condition
I honestly feel bad that this happened to your husband in such a young marriage. This is absolutely sad. Was he reported missing? Even with his illness he should be reported missing. Were attempts made for him to see a psychiatrist? Was his condition ever evaluated?
ReplyDeleteI don’t feel good about you just walking away and moving on like that. We have to stand in other ppl’s shoes and ask if it was us how we would want to be treated. At least try to get him into an institution where he can receive care. Your desire to remarry and move on is fine, but you should do things right in God’s sight. Research psychiatric facilities and speak to someone about him, keep a record of all profess places that you spoke with and which one you decide on. Do this even without you knowing where he is.
Take a good clear unobstructed picture of him to the police, let them know of the information that you have about the last sighting, ask them to put an apb out on him and see what happens. If they locate him then take him to a psychiatric hospital/facility that is low close or free. Pray for him, he is still your husband and the father of your child. Doing the right thing also covers your child in case this is a genetic condition. Please pray deeply for his health, prayer is free and powerful and you made a vow to him. May God help you all. I too will say a prayer for him and the family.
If he is not located within a year then go get an annulment of the marriage and move on. A year is not long in our present age, we are almost in June already, so time moves quickly. Keep praying for him to be safe and healed. Doing things right also protect you in case anyone should ever say you walked away from your marriage without a care. The proof of all you did to locate him and the facilities that you contacted and visited will be there to counter any bad talk.