Hmmmmm........
BECOMING A SECOND WIFE OR WAITING TO MARRY A SINGLE MAN
Honestly, I don't really know what's wrong with me. My relationships with single men end up breaking my heart, and a few want to make me a baby mama. But you see, let one married man come near me now , love will fill everywhere from his end......
Honestly, I don't really know what's wrong with me. My relationships with single men end up breaking my heart, and a few want to make me a baby mama. But you see, let one married man come near me now , love will fill everywhere from his end......
I'm not going to marry a married man because it's not me that will break my fellow woman's household.
It's more like I'm destined to be a second wife ooh, cos if i go into a relationship with a single person before you know it, the relationship will go south but if a married man loves me here, aaah, it will last like tomorrow no dey. At the end, I'm the one who will use my hand to say I’m not doing again and remind him with “don’t forget you have a wife.”
Secondly, while I wait for my forever, the deal is to make myself financially stable because I don't want a situation where, if I want to buy perfume of 10k, if my husband doesn't buy it, I won't have it.
Again, I need practical life examples to handle my situation because I would rather upgrade to a confirmed second wife, which is traditionally accepted by our customs and traditions, than be a certified side chick to a married man from time to time, or a bitter baby mama. It's exhausting. By the way, I'm 38 years old.
Hmmmmmm you sound confused...Do you mean that you would only marry as second wife if he is rich or if you have worked hard enough to be able to buy whatever you want for yourself?Age is also not on your side if you are planning to make babies....Since you really want to get married, consider the second wife option since your custom and tradition allows it
I am sure you will get enough practical life examples from those who know better...
It's more like I'm destined to be a second wife ooh, cos if i go into a relationship with a single person before you know it, the relationship will go south but if a married man loves me here, aaah, it will last like tomorrow no dey. At the end, I'm the one who will use my hand to say I’m not doing again and remind him with “don’t forget you have a wife.”
Secondly, while I wait for my forever, the deal is to make myself financially stable because I don't want a situation where, if I want to buy perfume of 10k, if my husband doesn't buy it, I won't have it.
Again, I need practical life examples to handle my situation because I would rather upgrade to a confirmed second wife, which is traditionally accepted by our customs and traditions, than be a certified side chick to a married man from time to time, or a bitter baby mama. It's exhausting. By the way, I'm 38 years old.
Hmmmmmm you sound confused...Do you mean that you would only marry as second wife if he is rich or if you have worked hard enough to be able to buy whatever you want for yourself?Age is also not on your side if you are planning to make babies....Since you really want to get married, consider the second wife option since your custom and tradition allows it
I am sure you will get enough practical life examples from those who know better...
You are not going to marry a married man, but on the other hand, you'd rather upgrade to a confirmed second wife. You really do not know what you want. 🙄
ReplyDeleteThe moment you started dating a married man, you have already broken his home. And your writeup indicates you have been doing so with many married men.
ReplyDeleteHmmm. #walksaway
Thank you. Before dem go shout Mrs. Pik Me. I be man.
DeleteBVs, should we tell her?
ReplyDeleteOP, those married men wey their love dey shack you so, wait until one of them put you for house before you go know wetin dey sup.
No Man who is capable of truly loving you will cheat on his wife in the first place. But since you say your culture and tradition permits you being a second wife, go ahead.
But here's the thing, you are dating another woman's husband and yet you want to marry a single man. How does that work? As you date another person own dem go date your own. Simple!
You can't eat your cake and still have it.
Are you a Christian? So I can know how to advice you? Naturally, I am not meant to ask this question because the Bible says by their fruits you will know them, but some of today's supposed Christians are one of a kind. So when I say are you a Christian? I am only talking about your religious affiliation and not your spiritual walk...
ReplyDeleteGod can get you married at any age to his boys, but are you the kind of woman God would want to give to his boys?
Your age did not even move me nor shock me , because if you walk uprightly with God and you keep working on yourself then you will know you have no issue and the delay is just divine timing waiting to connect you and the person he has for you at the right time.
See ehn, he who comes to equity must come with clean hands. Which one are you doing really? You are doing both sides and wondering why it's not really working out. As long as you date married men , You will always compare and have unrealistic expectations and this will always affect your relationship with single men. Single men will always see some of the things you do that those lustful men overlook since you aren't their wives, as excesses.
You will have unrealistic expectations, won't understand how to navigate your relationship dynamics since you are using your dealings with those men showing you fake love as a template against the single guys.
The love the married men are showing you is rubbish if they have love in their hearts they wouldn't notice you exist in the first place because they will be lavishing it upon their wives or do you think they pray their daughters finds themselves in your shoes in the future, being used to satisfy the immoral desires of people's husbands? These men don't love you because they don't and can't love anyone but themselves. Most of the time, they have more than two side chicks sef and you think it's only you. Even if you become second wife you will be replaced and God wants better for you.
Some of them even use jazz and take harvest the energy and glories of the ladies they sleep with and it starts affecting those ladies in one area or the other except you get really close to God and flee from that demonic entrapment.
Give your life to Christ first, decide to be in a relationship with him and flee from fornication. You can do it too. Those who were fornicating, then later became celibate are not better than you and God loves you all equally. Be so lost in God and take marriage off your mind for now. Focus on self-development, date yourself too and give yourself one year to improve on these areas because I noticed your spiritual life and financial life seems a bit unclear from your write-up.
you are 38 so what? is it not God that made you 38 years old, Be for him and see him move for you.
Your relationship with single is not going well, because you have sown the seed by dating other women's husbands. For all the time that the men's attention, care maybe even finances was lacking in the marriage or in the lives of the wives or children of the men you dated, you had sown a seed. Your future is in God's hand. Seek wisdom from Him.
ReplyDeleteKeep comparing the single men who want a wife to the married men who want Come bucket.
ReplyDeleteSensible single men searching for wives, judge women by whether they can co-build with the women.
The other group of single men generally treat women anyhow.
Which group of single men do you search for or allow into your space
Wise married men judge women by how well they can relieve them of the stress of their marriage or lust, and they pay well when they find a woman that meets their checklist
Is the payment from married men what you call love everywhere like no tomorrow especially as, it appears, your single suitors do not pay at the same rate?
Is greed the real issue?
You need a good side hustle that will give you more money than you can spend and the men will come queing up,leave men matter alone and start fighting poverty out of your bloodline.Talking from experience
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