I had a female client whose project I was handling.
Every day after work, as I was leaving, she’d say, “Greet madam for me.” Even on phone calls, she’d extend her regards to her.
It’s a bit embarrassing, but I just go along with it. I don’t have the energy to explain and answer all the follow-up questions that would come if I said I’m still single. So I let it be.
When it comes to relationships and marriage, I believe marriage is a beautiful thing instituted by God for companionship. I look forward to it.
I understand that timing matters, but I still hold to this, it’s better to marry right than to marry early and live in regret.
There’s no guarantee that marrying late gives you the perfect partner, but it does open up a better possibility.
Around last month, a friend came to visit and stayed for two weeks while processing a job interview.
Around last month, a friend came to visit and stayed for two weeks while processing a job interview.
A few days before he left, he asked why I’m still single.
It’s a question I don’t like answering. I usually struggle with it.
It’s a question I don’t like answering. I usually struggle with it.
So I asked him, “Why do you want to know?”
He said, “From what I’ve seen in the two weeks I’ve been with you, I think you can keep a family.”
“Why do you say that?” I asked.
He replied, “Because you’re comfortable feeding yourself at home, and you have a craft that’s lucrative and innovative.”
I paused for a few seconds.
He said, “From what I’ve seen in the two weeks I’ve been with you, I think you can keep a family.”
“Why do you say that?” I asked.
He replied, “Because you’re comfortable feeding yourself at home, and you have a craft that’s lucrative and innovative.”
I paused for a few seconds.
When I finally responded, I told him marriage isn’t just about having resources. If it were, we wouldn’t see this many divorces happening almost daily.
Marriage takes the mental strength to understand and navigate its challenges.
I’ve been in relationships that didn’t end well, and one thing about each breakup is that, it sets me back. Sometimes I ask myself, will I ever get married?
The reason is, I don’t ignore red flags. Once I see one, I pull out quickly. Understandably, no one is perfect, but I’d rather be cautious than rush into something that breaks me again.
Sometimes women make it difficult for men to commit. You show interest in a woman, and the next thing you hear is, “Can you take good care of me?”
When you ask, “In what way?” you’re often disappointed. What she means by “taking care” usually comes down to looks, appearance, and a luxurious lifestyle.
Wouldn’t it be better if what she mentioned was career advancement, further education, a business boost, or even support to start something that improves her financially? At least then you’d see you’re dealing with a woman who has vision, the kind of woman you’d want to marry.
Once you’re married, you already know the vision she’s working toward. And you wouldn’t mind supporting it, because you understand the long-term benefits it will bring to the family. But no, most of them prioritize short-term material things over long-term goals. The only future they see with you is your continual extravagant spending on them, not building wealth together or working to improve themselves.
Honestly, as a man, relationships can get tiring sometimes.
Hmmmmmm is there no one here that will marry you? Maybe you should be bold and use your photo as face of in house news..be porud and be bold and see what will happen.....Most people who might wanna marry you here are scared that you are married with kids....
Sometimes women make it difficult for men to commit. You show interest in a woman, and the next thing you hear is, “Can you take good care of me?”
When you ask, “In what way?” you’re often disappointed. What she means by “taking care” usually comes down to looks, appearance, and a luxurious lifestyle.
Wouldn’t it be better if what she mentioned was career advancement, further education, a business boost, or even support to start something that improves her financially? At least then you’d see you’re dealing with a woman who has vision, the kind of woman you’d want to marry.
Once you’re married, you already know the vision she’s working toward. And you wouldn’t mind supporting it, because you understand the long-term benefits it will bring to the family. But no, most of them prioritize short-term material things over long-term goals. The only future they see with you is your continual extravagant spending on them, not building wealth together or working to improve themselves.
Honestly, as a man, relationships can get tiring sometimes.
Hmmmmmm is there no one here that will marry you? Maybe you should be bold and use your photo as face of in house news..be porud and be bold and see what will happen.....Most people who might wanna marry you here are scared that you are married with kids....
You are not married but are you gbenshing? LOL

Once you have come of certain age, there are certain things that society expect to see.
ReplyDeleteThe woman that ask about your madam already assumed that some men in that age bracket are already married . Some will go as far as calling you ' mummy, Daddy '.
It's not bad to do it early, but when it doesn't come as planned,you have no choice than to wait for the right time.
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DeleteYou got this right.
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U are right on this
DeleteTeejay.....any words I put here for you is coming from the place of love ,still you might get hurt. Pick the useful ones and leave the rest.
ReplyDeleteWanting a good spouse is really just wanting a home that feels like peace at the end of the day. But peace doesn’t walk through the door if you haven’t built it inside yourself first.
So let’s talk plain.
First, check your own house before you invite someone in. The way you handle anger when someone cuts you off in traffic, the way you manage money when no one’s watching, the way you keep your word when it’s inconvenient. Not the version you post online. Work on that version. A good wife won’t fix your flaws. She’ll just live with them. So make them fewer.
Second, stop hunting for THE ONE, and start becoming THE ONE. The women worth keeping can spot desperation a mile away. They’re drawn to purpose, not pressure. Get your life ordered. Know what you believe, what you won’t compromise, what kind of family you want. When you’re clear, you won’t waste years on someone who was never going to fit. And please, watch your ways. The little lie(if any), the temper,etc. Marriage doesn’t heal you. It exposes you. So deal with the stuff now.
Look for a teammate, not a trophy. Beauty is nice, chemistry is fun, but when life gets hard and it will, you’ll need someone who can pray with you, plan with you, and stay when it’s ugly. Choose character over curves. Choose respect over attention. Choose a woman whose “no” means no and whose “yes” means yes.
Pray, yes. But also show up where good women are. You won’t find a Proverbs 31 woman at 2am in a club. You’ll find her serving, building, learning, growing. Be there too. And the hardest part, If you’re looking for a wife to cure your loneliness, you’ll love her wrong. If you’re trying to prove something to your past, you’ll pick wrong. Wholeness attracts wholeness. Brokenness attracts drama. Do the inner work. Therapy, prayer, honest friends. Whatever it takes.
When you stop chasing a wife and start preparing to be a husband, the right woman stops being hard to find.
Love u bro
Stella I support you 💯 on this.
ReplyDeleteHe should post his pictures here for ihn, hiding yourself over 8years is a RED FLAG for me & reason while they accused you" chika and gloryo obviouslycleared to us now. You have to be confidence and man up, never can tell you might meet your match here finally.if our intentions are clean then we have nothing to hide. Same with Dante coming here to sell book as anonymous without people knowing you or place a face might give you turn down even with juju.
People needed to know WHO YOU ARE BEFORE CONSUMING YOUR MATERIAL. Even the president of America get bash than more you guys.
You’ll wait till eternity.
DeleteDid I say I must marry someone from the blog? Are you even okay?
Put out my picture for what purpose exactly? So you can continue your foolishness and ridicule me, right? Is it the same women I read in the comments here supporting infidelity and paternity fraud that I should post my pics for because I need a wife?
This must be a new joke on this blog.
©️ TEEJAY
You right stella and I hope he doesn't go under anonymous to post damage control typing excuses.
ReplyDelete👇 lol
DeleteStella,
ReplyDeleteNo one here thinks I’m married except one person. And that person knows I’m not. She does it intentionally to create distrust in me.
No, I won’t use my photo to prove anything. I have an image and privacy to protect, especially in a place I'm being hated and ridiculed this much. I’m not desperate for marriage. If I ever was, it was a couple of years ago. I stopped being desperate.
Right now, I’m doing fine in my singlehood. I’m not missing anything. Marriage will come when it’s time, and to the right woman. But like I wrote in my piece, I won’t settle for less. The stress and trouble women who have nothing to offer give their partners is worrisome.
All I need is an intentional woman. I haven’t been lucky with one yet. That’s the truth. I don’t chase perfection in a woman, I chase clarity.
©️ TEEJAY
Ignore red flags today in a hurry and tomorrow they'll become your biggest worry. People need to understand that a good marriage needs more than money in hand. It needs maturity, patience and understanding to stand. Wishing you the best Teejay
ReplyDeleteThanks dearest,
DeleteI'll definitely get it right. I'm taking my time but it won't be that long.
©️ TEEJAY
I like @Teejay, he sounds intelligent sometimes but other times, he sounds off with his beliefs. He's not consistent that's why I can't say he's my spec. I like a man's mind and heart but I've been impressed and also disappointed in Teejay's stance on different issues so i'll pass. I hope and pray you find your missing rib soon. A little advise for you Teejay is please stay in one place, so we can know your stand. Its confusing and not encouraging.
ReplyDeleteYour comment cracks me up 😄
DeleteI’ll really appreciate it if, whenever my comment confuses you, you engage me politely. If possible, drop a superior rejoinder and make your point. I’m always open to learning and corrections, provided it’s done right. That’s exactly how I’ve improved tremendously on my writing here.
©️ TEEJAY
You will surely get married Tee, keep praying for the one God has designed for you.
ReplyDeleteKeep building yourself while waiting and before you know it, that moment will hit you unbelievably.
Don't post your picture o.