STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
KNEELING DOWN TO PROPOSE BROUHAHA
Helpppp everyone. I need advice.My relationship is at the verge of breaking because of a proposal preference. I like the kneeling down thing but he doesn't want to because it's a "western thing." Mind you, he's a very gooooood mannnnnn.
I've almost been a misandrist and I know a submissive man when I see one. Lol. But he doesn't wanna kneel and I don't wanna lower my standards. Advice me.
If he wont knee down and you cant deal, please call off the relationship now cos i find it crazy that you would wanna force a grown axx man to go on his knees, go against his values just cos you want to show off or so!
End it please..Kneeling down to propose should be a personal choice not a bandwagon decision
For those who do not know ''A misandrist is a person who harbors a deep-seated hatred, contempt, or prejudice against men. The term can also be used as an adjective to describe actions, attitudes, or remarks that display this bias. It is the male-targeted equivalent of a misogynist''.- Merriam webster
Poster. My dear you are not ready to get married.
ReplyDeleteExactly, gbam!!! Abeg shift, make another woman find joy and the man find peace of mind, this is just proposal and it is like this, what of when you are already the madam, what happens and u almost hate men, so pls shift.
DeleteWahala dey oooo
ReplyDeleteI never knelt for my wife
Who ask you that one?
DeleteUr brain needs recovery
DeleteAnon why your sense dey behind your shadow
DeleteWill the marriage be a western marriage or Nigerian? Even some of the ones who knelt to propose kpai the wife. Kneeling doesn’t show or mean anything. How many who knelt still cheated, made outside babies, got second and third wives. Kneeling means nothing and those who let movies and fairytales dictate how things should be are in for a very rude awakening.
ReplyDeleteWhat you seek is submission. You have stated what you are and I hope he reads this chronicle and pack his bags before you traumatize somebody’s son. Go work on your issues, marriage is the last thing you need with your mindset.
You've saved me the stress of typing my own opinion.
DeleteI second your opinion
With all due respect you don’t have sense and if you lose a good man because of this i hope you enjoy the misery .
ReplyDeleteNo mind her,no scense at all
DeleteAnakogheri
Enders shall never wond
ReplyDeleteAunty. I take God beg you. Please don't lower your standards. Quickly call off the relationship and let a woman more deserving of that good man wasting his time with you find him.
ReplyDeleteThey should kneel down for you unto Sango god of thunder that you are abi? Na thunder wey smoke igbo go fire you.
😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteHaba seniorman
You're not serious. metcheeew 🙄
ReplyDeleteVery good advice from Stella. Please end the relationship and move to a man who will kneel or crawl just to give you a ring wey fit dey your hand for another five years before the actual marriage.
ReplyDeleteMy neigbour's younger sister "mistakenly" yabbed the elder sister. She was just yabbing ladies wey be lord of the ring and forgot that her sister is part of the crew. The sister then shouted from inside "you dey abuse me abi"? Laff wan wound me.
Which man sent this in?
ReplyDeleteEka with too much wisdom. Damn, girl, you're smart 🤓. Your IQ is on another level 💯
DeleteE go be man wey be sub to a dom woman wey write this one.
DeleteAgree with sdk
ReplyDeleteI don't understand!!!
ReplyDeleteStella, thanks for the full definition of misandrist. I was taken aback when I got to that part of the chronicle.
ReplyDeleteSometimes when I see people's priorities in relationships, it makes me question if it's more about appearances or actual happiness. This is just ridiculous. You're prioritizing a grand gesture over actual happiness? How does someone proposing on one knee determine your worth? Na wah for una relationship people ooo. Hian! 🤐
If you are a misandrist, what are you doing with a man?
ReplyDeleteIs it the proposal and the ring you want or the kneeling down?
There is no rule that says he must kneel.
Get real and decide what you want? You can't always have everything.
What is the issue here? That he doesn't want to bend the knee? Is that now the criteria to a happy marriage? You know what is good for you, be wise about it.
ReplyDeleteYou dey mind her,upon she use her mouth said he is a good man please leave that good man so he can as well meet a good woman
DeleteNonsense and ingredients 😔
Nne you never ready the relationship should just break so that you can rest, the man will also rest and the kneeling down too will rest.
ReplyDeleteBetween the kneeling and his character which one is more important to you? Inside here you will get your answer.
Kneeling down to propose doesn’t make a man a better Spouse/husband or father;compared to another man who did not kneel to propose..
ReplyDeleteKneeling is a thing of choice;doesn’t necessary mean a man is trying to form macho or doesn’t want to be a simp..
It just doesn’t matter in the Nigerian culture and isn’t a yardstick to judge a good man.
All those serenren doesnt mean you have found true love;but you just want it because it’s your fantasy(which isn’t bad) but an advice is “Don’t major on the minor,thereby forgetting what truly matters”..
Character,Love,Discipline,Kindness,Emotional intelligence etc,does he have these?
It’s okay to have fantasies;but don’t lose a good man because he didn’t meet up to the standard you created for your fantasy.
There are real life issues to be sorted out in marriage;and in my over 10 years here as a BV,I have not seen a female BV who came to state that the current issue in their marriage stemmed from the fact that their husband didn’t propose many years back..
Learn from others past actions;or others will learn from your own experience.
Hope this helps.
@MARTINS
If not that amotekun lawyer is MIA, you would have seen his long epistle bleating like a goat
ReplyDeletePoster better call off the relationship. Someone else might be interested and wouldn't mind whether he kneels down or stands so far he gives her peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteStory for the gods,anty please call off the relationship abi wetin beacause you are not serious at all,see your mouth "I don't wanna lower my standards"
ReplyDeleteStandard my foot,upon you said he is a good man
Please shift from here joor
Next🤚...
Poster don't get married to him or any man at all. Don't suffer any innocent man for nothing please.
ReplyDeleteAunty your village people dey your matter.. Leave the man .He will get another woman.
ReplyDeleteIs Not A Problem Nahhh
ReplyDeleteIf He Doesn't Wanna Kneel Down To Propose ,Aunty Abeg Make You Self Kneel Down To Collect The Ring
It Obvious Is A Man That Sent This Chronicle ..
Hello iya Boys
Then tell him he can't do public proposal. He had better do it quietly in bed so nobody is standing or kneeling
ReplyDeleteA proposal is a few minutes. A marriage is hopefully for decades. If he's loving, respectful, responsible, and committed, those qualities will matter long after the proposal video stops trending on social media. You don't have to like his preference, but calling it 'lowering your standards' is where the problem starts. Your standard should be the quality of the man, not the angle of his knees.
ReplyDeleteYou can win the proposal argument and lose the relationship. Decide which one matters more.....olodo!
Everyone stoppppppp!!!😭😭😂😂😂.
ReplyDeleteOkay, I didn't know this would come one here.
We settled it and he didn't kneel down but he did something more special and we fixed the wedding date.
We good now and really, I'm not a wicked person y'all think I am. I'm sweet and I am NOT a man.
It was just a fantasy, really.
Thank you all.😭
Sweetie...my husband did not kneel down for me, cos he told me earlier and he also told me another thing earlier that he doesn't carry bag for any woman, except it is obviously necessary. I agreed, my marriage is almost 20 years now to the glory of God, he his very compassionate , so loving and a wonderful man that knows my worth. These things I knew already when we were dating, but i will still marry him all over again. If he his a good man, don't just make his life miserable because he crossed your path in life....wishing you all the best!
DeleteWhy do you want him to kneel though? Is it for public validation? If you have a good man, you shouldn't lose him over this. Since you guys know you want to get married, collect the ring like that and start planning your wedding. All these things don't mean anything.
ReplyDeleteSee how your mindset will make you loose a good man that you, yourself have confirmed to be good.
ReplyDeleteAbeg carry your Miss road Abi Mishap or Missing hand wrist go front 🙄
Person wey get head no get cap. You see better man you dey find who go kneel down so you can use it to chop fufu Abi mtchwwwww
I wish I knew who your partner was, I’d tell him to run for his life. If you openly identify as a misandrist, what exactly are you doing in a relationship with him? Does he even know about your views?
ReplyDeleteAnd if he develops ways to cope with or protect himself from your misandry, wouldn't you simply label him a misogynist for refusing to tolerate it? We all know that misogyny is widely condemned and punished socially,
Well, Your story shows a common trait of misandry: getting upset and throwing tantrums when men do not act the way you want them to. Instead of respecting their choices, you treat disagreement as a problem.
Another one of the foolish gender fooling herself as usual. You wey don use your body , spirit and soul do wife since yonder years, trying to garner some missed self respect and validation from SM
ReplyDeleteAbeg gerrat!
No be mumu you be so. The man should dump your shallow ass and move onto a woman with some depth. Unless he shallow like you then birds of a feather please, by all means, flock together.
ReplyDeleteWhether na man nor woman. Please standard has to be met. Please whoever you deserve a tall building for this proposal no lower the stardard. That English word got me twisted. With all the problems in the word na una issues be that. Una never start. Just dey play
ReplyDeleteI don't even like a man proposing to me while kneeling down. It's against my values.
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