A POSITIVE NARRATIVE ABOUT MARRIAGE
I'm afraid of marriage these days. It's supposed to be companionship but it's becoming, or it's become competition. A contest. A battle.
My 33 years of marriage has really been a constant training, never graduating, always adapting and adjusting experiences.
Every day I find new ways to respect my husband and honor him no matter his failings and he's so happy about it that he's willing to go extra miles for me.
My 33 years of marriage has really been a constant training, never graduating, always adapting and adjusting experiences.
Every day I find new ways to respect my husband and honor him no matter his failings and he's so happy about it that he's willing to go extra miles for me.
We're in our 60's and yet my husband still looks at me and talks to me like we are teenagers. These I'm days, I get really tiredly of these constant gender wars that no one will ever win.
Congratulations on your lovely marriage.......You find new ways to honor and respect him cos you married a good man......
I wish you had put more details and examples on how you do it every day and what you do....Some people might learn from the details....
Please people, send in more positive stories like this too.
Congratulations
ReplyDeleteWishing you and your husband more happiness.
I made some silly mistakes in my marriage (not cheating) this pushed my hubby out..he cheated and now in love with the other woman..I have knelt down and apologized but he has refused..I tried my best..I'm hoping for a second chance at marriage I have learnt and grown, I believe my 2nd time will be like yours up there, because I always hoped for a good marriage but maybe I was not mature enough!
ReplyDelete15.16. Tell us the mistake as you de 'anonymous'. Could it be your husband's eyes de outside. Why he no pray for u to change
DeleteStop blaming yourself for a grown man's cheating. That's his choice and it has nothing to do with what you said up there.
DeleteAnon 16.36....it has everything to do with she posted and I m happy she realizes her mistake and owned up to it. Yes,a woman's action or inaction can make a grown man cheat . Just the same way a man's actions or inactions can make a grown woman cheat. Life is not always black and white,anon. I wish her all the best in her next marriage.
DeleteUr right life is not white and can black, I was disrespectful to him when he had no money and I didn't get close to his family after the cheating when I found out, I took away our account..because he had been spending on the other lady, he developed HBP.i apologized to him but he refused and told me I can leave with the kids. You can push a good man to cheat..ladies be careful!
DeleteWhat ever you did is not an excuse for him to cheat.
DeleteOnly thing you did hers is being disrespectful. What did he expect? To cheat with your money?. The audacity. Better learn to love yourself otherwise, you may become not only respectful but timid and a people pleaser
DeletePoster are you joking
DeleteHe was cheating with your money?? Good riddance!!!
All the time you come here to type this, madam please move on!! When you finally do!! He will know
So your husband could not fight for the marriage? Na wa oh!
DeleteThis is encouraging. God bless and keep you both in love, peace, good health and wealth in Jesus' name.
ReplyDeleteThis is lovely, wishing you unending love and happiness
ReplyDeleteCongratulations ma.
ReplyDeleteWe will keep celebrating working marriages cos they exist.
Every parent should do their part with the children.
As you train them to be successful, train them to also be good husbands and wife, from their young ages.
So that when false models, the internet try to lead them astray, the training, fear of God and prayers you have Instilled and labour over them , over the years, will help them sail through
It's really hard to learn how to use the right hand in old age you know (for a lefty)
Don't also forget your own marriage and home form their ideology.
I'm so happy for you OP. 33 years in marriage is one hell of an achievement. I don't know what's wrong with my generation. Small thing we don divorce.
ReplyDeleteMarriage only works when both partners are willing to make it work. It is what you put in that you can take out.
From what OP posted above, we can see her secret. Everyday, she finds new ways to respect her husband and honour him. He in return, loves her and has kept that love burning anew each day. So beautiful! Love and respect is what keeps a marriage that stands the test of time.
Not just her secret, but her husband and her secret. It’s no secret that Nigerian me bring the barest mininmum to the table
DeleteAnon 21:12, it’s your male family members that bring the barest minimum to marriage. Some of us married the best Nigerian men. May be you’ve only met or married your type.
DeleteYou just want to argue. Your husband is great. Yes, I’m raising my boys to be great too. My father, uncles, cousins nko?. Rubbish. My clients hitting on coworkers nko, my patients doing despicable things, my friends nko?. Statistics are there. Enlighten yourself and stop being funny
DeleteThe fact that you are 60 years old and your marriage is going fine, according to you, does not mean you should invalidate the challenges other marriages face.
ReplyDeleteEach marriage is unique to the owners of the contract.
There are those doing far more than you are doing and still suffering.
Since you're doing I better pass competition,would you say you did more than Osinachi who brutally died trying to preserve the sanctity and outward perception of her marriage?
Nobody can even say what's going on, except the two inside the relationship.
Offer prayers if you must.
And keep it moving.
Let little children not start questioning grey hair on the head of elders-whether it is only for covering the scalp.
Hello, @Anonymous 15:50. It appears you didn't get her point at all.
DeleteHaaaa!!!
DeleteIt seems anon 15:50:is a bitter somebody.
DeleteHappy for you.
ReplyDeleteThere has always been gender war, just that the internet has amplified it by giving people voices.
Been married for nine years, and it has been smooth except for little misunderstanding here and there, which is very normal.
I wish that the society will normalise not getting married. Don't pressure people into it if they are not ready, else, as you rush in, you go rush out.
Let those who have been through it tell others coming behind, that marriage will not always be rosy. Our parents concealed that a lot, which is not fair.
There is some balance that also need to be maintained between both gender.
The truth is, one gender is benefitting from marriage than the other. It shouldn't be. Marriage should be a mutual partnership, not the union of a dominant and submissive.
Congratulations 🎉.
ReplyDeleteAwwww, This is lovely.33 years in marriage is indeed an achievement.
ReplyDeleteMay God continuously Bless you and your husband.
I celebrate you and yours .
I love this and I pray for your marriage to continue to stay blessed.......
ReplyDeleteA respectful wife deserves everything and special treats.......
Congrats. Wishing many more years of bliss and marital harmony.
ReplyDeleteI better passs my neighbor mentality . Mtchewww
ReplyDeleteYou Dey mind her?
DeleteThis is beautiful to read. One of the few good marriages. Well-done
ReplyDeleteMore Love ,
ReplyDeletePeace And Unity
Wishing You Ma Everything More ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️..
Hello iya Boys
Praying for more strength upon you, this is lovely to read.
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