Monday In House News

 Hailings....

IN HOUSE MEMO

Una well done oh......

I saw all the suggestions on how to make this place forward and i will check them out........

IR, i saw your comment but i cant let you help me do anything cos if yomething spark for your head, you will accuse me ofstealing your content again oh....Just be contributing in the comment section if you want to and if not no problem

I also see wetin your mama Nne IR post....

On Saturday and Sunday, this Europe felt like living inside oven.....JESUS..indoors is OK but once you step out na wahala oh.....See water dripping down my body as if i had a bath.......This season na to look all kinds of tattoo, shaking yansh and all what not.....

Those of you living inside Europe how far with the heat?Martins? Madam Doris day? Eka Joy?Anons in Europe?

Enjoy your day, I am off to reveal my cr airconditioner ooooooooh.

Hugs hugs hugs

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TEACHER LIFE

We were on mid-term break and I got a call from a parent.

"Miss C, why is a child in your class telling my daughter she will teach her how to make a baby?"

Ah. 

I smiled because, honestly, I had the same reaction when I first heard it in class.

The little girl in question had made a baby out of a sweater during free play and was proudly showing her seat mates how to make one too.

So I quickly explained to the mum:

"Ma, it's not what you think biko. They were talking about a sweater baby."

There was silence for a few seconds before she burst out laughing.

One thing about children, they can say one sentence and send adults into full panic mode.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahah, the confusion with their language,make a baby indeed...

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NOTORIOUS FOR JESUS

I was pregnant with my first child when I found myself stranded in Osogbo on a journey from Ilorin to Akure. Night had fallen, and the motor park was almost deserted. There were no buses left.

I realized it was time to search for a solution, then I remembered an ex-boyfriend who lived in the town. We had not spoken in two years, but desperation pushed me to call him. Surprisingly, he still had my number.

When he answered, I explained my situation and asked if I could stay the night but he politely declined. He told me his place was far from where I was.

His words sounded reasonable, yet something felt off. I sensed immediately that he did not want me there. I was disappointed but determined, so I continued looking for a way out.

Fortunately, I found a vehicle heading in the direction I needed to go. 

The crisis passed, and life moved on.

Four years later, his name appeared in my Facebook messages. I had nearly forgotten him. He wanted to apologize.

He explained that he and his wife had just reconciled after two difficult years. According to him, he feared my presence might create fresh problems in his marriage. That was why he refused to take me that night.

I told him I understood and assured him there were no hard feelings. 

The conversation ended politely, but my thoughts lingered afterward.

Part of me believed he should have helped regardless of the circumstances. We were together for three years. After all, I was also a pregnant woman stranded at night who only needed shelter for a night, and a simple explanation to his wife might have sufficed.

He should have helped so that his wife will say you are his sidechic and the baby you are carrying is his? Abeg oh, he did the right thing and was decent enough to come back and apologise.....

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WEIRD FACTS

---Current world population: 8,299,809,832 

---Earth receives enough sunlight every day to meet all of humanity’s energy needs 10,000 times over

----Smiling, even in a bad mood, can immediately improve your mood because these muscles are enough to trigger happy chemicals in the brain.

---Kindness is a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

-----Humans actually have 15 other senses which include things like balance, temperature, internal senses for suffocation, thirst and fullness.

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HOW TO GET RICH AND REMAIN RICH 

‎1.Never underestimate the value of small savings.

‎2. Always think twice before buying.

‎3. Make tracking your expenses a habit.

‎4. Avoid spending money on things to impress others.

‎5. Do not ignore budgeting.

‎6. Learn the art of negotiating.

‎7. Learn the basics of investing wisely.

‎8. Avoid falling for "get rich quick" schemes.

‎9. Make saving money a non-negotiable routine.

‎10. Avoid lifestyle inflation.

‎11. Learn to distinguish between needs and wants.

‎12. Always have an emergency fund.

‎13. Give every dollar a mission to grow and multiply.

‎14. Avoid putting all your saving in one basket.

‎15. Understand your money works.

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SOME NAUGHTY FACTS THAT WILL INTEREST YOU 

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‎1. Stand tall and look people in the eye when you talk to someone you like. It makes you look more confident and attractive.

‎2. Being funny is seen as smart. That’s why we often like people who can make us laugh.

‎3. If you start the chat, it can grab a woman's attention. Taking the lead and being funny is attractive.

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‎4. It's good to end the chat first sometimes. It shows you have other things to do, making the other person want to talk to you more.

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‎5. Men with deep voices usually leave a stronger impression on women than those with higher voices.

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‎6. You can create attraction by flirting without touching. It should be gentle and clever.

‎7. Always approach women from the front, not from behind or the side. It looks more open and confident.

‎8. Wearing red is thought to make women look more attractive. Studies show people tend to sit closer to women in red dresses.

‎9. Letting others talk about themselves feels good for them, just like having fun. It makes them feel important and impressed by you.

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CELEBRATING DIVORCE?

It will be a good idea to start "celebrating divorce" especially for all those that have been through a toxic relationship, and privileged or lucky to have survived! Most have been killed! Either male or female. As a result, we have many widows and widowers, broken and dysfunctional homes & families.

Over time, we have neglected several aspects of our culture, traditions, lifestyle that make room a good marriage, and have embraced so many aspects of the western lifestyle which are not suitable for our society. And so we're now getting what they get in their society - divorce!

Someone says in the comments "is a lie" that people are not celebrating divorce. But beg to disagree with that comment. People may not have been truly celebrating divorce. Many of us that have been victims and survivors of a toxic marriage are already celebrating in our hearts. It's only a matter of time.

Now, when we talk about abuse in a toxic marriage that often leads to divorce, people are quick to assume the male is always the abuser and the female the victim. This is not quite true in most cases. More often than not, the female - especially a "covert narcissist" which in my opinion and experience is the most dangerous abuser. 

She's like a "Witch" or the "sin of witchcraft" described in 1 Sam.15:22-23.

Character traits including: disobedience, stubborn, rebellious, idolatry and other vital character traits like disloyalty, cheating, lack of submission to any authority placed over her at home in the marriage or at work.

The female covert narcissist is actually a two-faced, masked personality - presenting a facade of religiously, moral, respectful face to the public to get their validation. But behind the scene at home, she's a "wolf in sheep's clothing!" Green snake under the green grass. Slowly, steadily and strategically, and intentionally executing her 3-fold mission - to steal-kill-destroy the man. They are like parasites that will clinging on the host until the host dies!

Most of the time the male victim doesn't even realise he's being abused. Because they are so subtle, manipulative and strategic in the way they go about it. You could even think you are the abuser until her mask slips.

The male abuser on the other hand is "overt" visible to everyone. In trying to exert his authority as a man, without clear boundaries, he often disrespected, manipulated to loose control and may eventually not only loose the marriage, he may loose his life too. Only a few men say, about 20 percent are covert in their narcissistic behaviour. 

They often keep side-chicks, in illicit love affairs outside their marriage, as a result of which they cannot fulfil the conjugal responsibility, financial responsibility to their wife and family. Hence, there are many divorce, broken homes, dysfunctional families, widows/widowers depending on the side where the abuse is coming from, in the society.

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THE MISTAKE MANY UNGRATEFUL PEOPLE MAKE IS THINKING THEY WILL NEVER NEED THE PEOPLE THAT ONCE HELPED THEM.

Life has a way of bringing people back across the same roads they once walked. The person you ignore today may be the person with the opportunity, connection, advice, or support you need tomorrow. 

Gratitude is not just about appreciating what someone has done for you; it's also a reflection of your character. 

Never allow pride, success, or temporary comfort to make you forget the hands that lifted you when you were struggling. 

Respect people on your way up, because life has a way of reminding us that no one succeeds alone.

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FIVE WAYS TO BE UNBOTHERED WITHOUT BEING BITTER

1. Forgive without reconnecting.

You don’t need closure. You don’t need revenge.

You don’t need to announce that you’ve moved on. Forgive for your peace, not for their comfort. (This is too difficult, especially with those who dont let wanna let go as annons in comments)

2. Respond with distance, not drama.

Not everything deserves a reaction. Sometimes the most powerful response is removing access. Silence is power, and peace is a choice.

3. Don’t internalize what isn’t yours.

People’s projections, jealousy, disrespect, and negativity belong to them not to you. Stop carrying emotional baggage that was never yours to hold.

4. Stay busy :

Pour into your growth, your routines, your healing, your goals, and your glow up. The less time you spend watching others, the more time you have to become the woman you’re proud of.

5. Practice soft boundaries, not war.

It’s okay to say no with grace. It’s okay to leave without explaining. Boundaries are not punishment, they are self respect.

Love yall

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